girls ... do you mind if your men go to strip clubs?

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  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
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    Perhaps tomorrow I will ask if men mind if their woman goes to strip clubs, having naked men swing their junk in their woman's face, her sticking dollars in his sack.

    I would have no problem with that. If she is enjoying herself, go ahead.
  • whtlatina1214
    whtlatina1214 Posts: 765 Member
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    i dont mind at all . as long as not blowing money and as long as he comes home to me. Personally i went with and all the ladies were talking about my boobies lol :blushing: but i dont care to go sometimes i feel myself getting jealous when im actually there... i have no reason to be but i do sometimes but i am gradually getting over it . like we both always say it is no different than porn or entertainment or the beach. i would care if he went to a naked one with out me but other than that i dont care.
  • corajane7
    corajane7 Posts: 5 Member
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    There is also a difference between making an innocent trip to the beach and going to a strip club to seek sexual arousal. I think a husband and wife should only seek sexual fulfillment with eachother, and not look outside of the marraige for that satisfaction; ie porn, swinging and strip clubs. Why make vows to eachother if you don't want to be monogomous? I am a jelous wife (but not a totally insane one) and I don't want to share my husbands body; I am thrilled that he wants me all to himself as well. If that's the case, why would I make him feel inadequate by having a need to "whet my appitite" elsewhere before sealing the deal with him?
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
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    Why make vows to eachother if you don't want to be monogomous?

    Not all vows have to do with monogamy.
  • whtlatina1214
    whtlatina1214 Posts: 765 Member
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    also i live in Florida and when i say girls at the beach are way more worse than the women at the strip club , girls have came up to me with my child and man and tried to talk to him needless to say when we go to a strip club it is just more or less the environment . my bf tells me all the time it isnt the most attractive thing ... women who take their clothes off and all that. he likes women who are dressed nicely or hippyish it is hard to explain. but you shouldnt feel jealous .i always say dont not come home and no lapdances that is my thing. from there all the rest is trust.
  • grassette
    grassette Posts: 976 Member
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    I'm just curious about all the people saying that they wouldn't go because their run by organized crime or human sex trafficking and the such. Does this mean you wouldn't go to church cause of all the preachers that have got caught molesting young boys, stealing from the church they represent, being caught spending church funds on hookers?

    ...My point is there is evil everywhere so you can't judge the whole of anything by the bad apples that are mixed up in with the good.

    Those men are victims of lust, not promoters of it. They are the victims of organized crime. Which is why keeping men away from those places is a good thing. And yes, you had better be a damned good judge.

    This "not judging" stuff is something only a fool would go for.
    So your saying organized crime is what made these priest have sex with young boys? From what I read not many of the priests spent a large amount of time at the local strip club before hand either...
    That being said my cousin worked as a stripper for a couple years while finishing up college and not once was she part of organized crime. Now she has her degree a good job and is able to support herself and her daughter working a regular job.

    Thank goodness she was able to break away from that life!
    Well that life as you say was what was responsible for her being able to take her life and career to the next level. While there's people that work in the factory I work at that are probably on drugs, beat their wife, spend most their life drunk. But I guess since they keep their clothes on their good people...

    They might be sinners, but at least they are not exploiting/stimulating the lust of others to make money. There are better, more ethical ways of taking your career to the next level. Using your beauty is such a way leaves traces on the soul that you can never get rid of. Plus it drags down other souls with it, marking them in ways that aren't pretty too. Purity is worth the struggle. Money is not everything. So, yes, those drunks and drug addicts are better people.
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,843 Member
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    I'm just curious about all the people saying that they wouldn't go because their run by organized crime or human sex trafficking and the such. Does this mean you wouldn't go to church cause of all the preachers that have got caught molesting young boys, stealing from the church they represent, being caught spending church funds on hookers?

    ...My point is there is evil everywhere so you can't judge the whole of anything by the bad apples that are mixed up in with the good.

    Those men are victims of lust, not promoters of it. They are the victims of organized crime. Which is why keeping men away from those places is a good thing. And yes, you had better be a damned good judge.

    This "not judging" stuff is something only a fool would go for.
    So your saying organized crime is what made these priest have sex with young boys? From what I read not many of the priests spent a large amount of time at the local strip club before hand either...
    That being said my cousin worked as a stripper for a couple years while finishing up college and not once was she part of organized crime. Now she has her degree a good job and is able to support herself and her daughter working a regular job.

    Thank goodness she was able to break away from that life!
    Well that life as you say was what was responsible for her being able to take her life and career to the next level. While there's people that work in the factory I work at that are probably on drugs, beat their wife, spend most their life drunk. But I guess since they keep their clothes on their good people...

    They might be sinners, but at least they are not exploiting/stimulating the lust of others to make money. There are better, more ethical ways of taking your career to the next level. Using your beauty is such a way leaves traces on the soul that you can never get rid of. Plus it drags down other souls with it, marking them in ways that aren't pretty too. Purity is worth the struggle. Money is not everything. So, yes, those drunks and drug addicts are better people.

    *sigh*

    Well I know I'm not pure! I guess I'm slated for the fast track to hell.

    Who wants to join me?:devil:
  • pghfan
    pghfan Posts: 119
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    I'm just curious about all the people saying that they wouldn't go because their run by organized crime or human sex trafficking and the such. Does this mean you wouldn't go to church cause of all the preachers that have got caught molesting young boys, stealing from the church they represent, being caught spending church funds on hookers?

    ...My point is there is evil everywhere so you can't judge the whole of anything by the bad apples that are mixed up in with the good.

    Those men are victims of lust, not promoters of it. They are the victims of organized crime. Which is why keeping men away from those places is a good thing. And yes, you had better be a damned good judge.

    This "not judging" stuff is something only a fool would go for.
    So your saying organized crime is what made these priest have sex with young boys? From what I read not many of the priests spent a large amount of time at the local strip club before hand either...
    That being said my cousin worked as a stripper for a couple years while finishing up college and not once was she part of organized crime. Now she has her degree a good job and is able to support herself and her daughter working a regular job.

    Thank goodness she was able to break away from that life!
    Well that life as you say was what was responsible for her being able to take her life and career to the next level. While there's people that work in the factory I work at that are probably on drugs, beat their wife, spend most their life drunk. But I guess since they keep their clothes on their good people...

    They might be sinners, but at least they are not exploiting/stimulating the lust of others to make money. There are better, more ethical ways of taking your career to the next level. Using your beauty is such a way leaves traces on the soul that you can never get rid of. Plus it drags down other souls with it, marking them in ways that aren't pretty too. Purity is worth the struggle. Money is not everything. So, yes, those drunks and drug addicts are better people.

    *sigh*

    Well I know I'm not pure! I guess I'm slated for the fast track to hell.

    Who wants to join me?:devil:

    Me! God, people, get over yourselves!
  • sawyermark
    sawyermark Posts: 74 Member
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    I'm just curious about all the people saying that they wouldn't go because their run by organized crime or human sex trafficking and the such. Does this mean you wouldn't go to church cause of all the preachers that have got caught molesting young boys, stealing from the church they represent, being caught spending church funds on hookers?

    ...My point is there is evil everywhere so you can't judge the whole of anything by the bad apples that are mixed up in with the good.

    Those men are victims of lust, not promoters of it. They are the victims of organized crime. Which is why keeping men away from those places is a good thing. And yes, you had better be a damned good judge.

    This "not judging" stuff is something only a fool would go for.
    So your saying organized crime is what made these priest have sex with young boys? From what I read not many of the priests spent a large amount of time at the local strip club before hand either...
    That being said my cousin worked as a stripper for a couple years while finishing up college and not once was she part of organized crime. Now she has her degree a good job and is able to support herself and her daughter working a regular job.

    Thank goodness she was able to break away from that life!
    Well that life as you say was what was responsible for her being able to take her life and career to the next level. While there's people that work in the factory I work at that are probably on drugs, beat their wife, spend most their life drunk. But I guess since they keep their clothes on their good people...

    They might be sinners, but at least they are not exploiting/stimulating the lust of others to make money. There are better, more ethical ways of taking your career to the next level. Using your beauty is such a way leaves traces on the soul that you can never get rid of. Plus it drags down other souls with it, marking them in ways that aren't pretty too. Purity is worth the struggle. Money is not everything. So, yes, those drunks and drug addicts are better people.

    *sigh*

    Well I know I'm not pure! I guess I'm slated for the fast track to hell.

    Who wants to join me?:devil:
    As AC/DC said I'm on a Highway to Hell 8-)
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,843 Member
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    I'm just curious about all the people saying that they wouldn't go because their run by organized crime or human sex trafficking and the such. Does this mean you wouldn't go to church cause of all the preachers that have got caught molesting young boys, stealing from the church they represent, being caught spending church funds on hookers?

    ...My point is there is evil everywhere so you can't judge the whole of anything by the bad apples that are mixed up in with the good.

    Those men are victims of lust, not promoters of it. They are the victims of organized crime. Which is why keeping men away from those places is a good thing. And yes, you had better be a damned good judge.

    This "not judging" stuff is something only a fool would go for.
    So your saying organized crime is what made these priest have sex with young boys? From what I read not many of the priests spent a large amount of time at the local strip club before hand either...
    That being said my cousin worked as a stripper for a couple years while finishing up college and not once was she part of organized crime. Now she has her degree a good job and is able to support herself and her daughter working a regular job.

    Thank goodness she was able to break away from that life!
    Well that life as you say was what was responsible for her being able to take her life and career to the next level. While there's people that work in the factory I work at that are probably on drugs, beat their wife, spend most their life drunk. But I guess since they keep their clothes on their good people...

    They might be sinners, but at least they are not exploiting/stimulating the lust of others to make money. There are better, more ethical ways of taking your career to the next level. Using your beauty is such a way leaves traces on the soul that you can never get rid of. Plus it drags down other souls with it, marking them in ways that aren't pretty too. Purity is worth the struggle. Money is not everything. So, yes, those drunks and drug addicts are better people.

    *sigh*

    Well I know I'm not pure! I guess I'm slated for the fast track to hell.

    Who wants to join me?:devil:
    As AC/DC said I'm on a Highway to Hell 8-)

    Awesome! We need a designated driver for the bus though. I plan on participating in drinking and watching strippers on the way down.
  • CourtneyB610
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    I'm going to jump in on this topic, since it seems like it's pretty popular right now. Just answering the simple question, as to if girls mind if their men go to strip clubs, and my answer is no, I do not mind. If my husband went to a strip club, I really do not see the huge deal in it. I do understand that there's many different ways you can look at it. I just look at it as, it is a way of life, woman strip.. men enjoy to go watch every now and then.. women enjoy to go watch, I don't see the huge deal. I just think he can look as much as he wants, as long he doesn't touch. I mean I understand if they would touch from a lap dance or something, just wouldn't want him to personally grope her. My husband has gone once with a bunch of friends to a bachelor party, and I said you can look as much as you want.. but I found it a turn on to him coming home to me all hott and bothered. :wink:
  • Tis27
    Tis27 Posts: 16
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    I sorta do but that's because of my own insecurities mostly. If I wasn't so fat he wouldn't want to look at other women etc.
    my husband used to go to them quite a bit, didn't help that while he was in college he lived right beside one! He likes to tell me the food was good and they mostly just played pool, but I am no dummy.....any guy with a healthy sexual appetite is not going to ignore a dancing naked woman!!
    Would I forbid him to go....no, I am his wife not his mother. What used to be a frequent even when he was younger has now become a very rare occurance and is always when he is out with a bunch of other guys, not saying they drag him there or anything, but I think it would bother me more if he was going there on his own then as part of a group who when out of town for a hockey tournament think it would be funny to go to a strip club since they are all living the single dream with their wives and kids at home.
    Bottom line, I know my husband will never cheat on me.....but don't I like the idea of him watching naked women flop around for money....not really, but it's not the end of the world either.
    As for the porn comments.....sometimes watching a little porn is the only thing that can get ME in the mood considering my very low libido!
    Relax girls....if he isn't hiding it from you or going there alone and often....I don't think it's a big deal. Hell, if I had the body for it I would have been a stripper during my younger college years! Would have made it a lot easier to pay the bills and not have school debts hanging over my head!
    This all in mind.....I have never seen male strippers and would really like to! I know there's only one I can touch til death do us part....but is looking really so bad? ;)
  • beckylawrence70
    beckylawrence70 Posts: 752 Member
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    I would mind and so glad he's not even remotely interested in going........
  • MiniMichelle
    MiniMichelle Posts: 807 Member
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    I found that most men don’t really enjoy strip clubs… but if he wanted to go I would rather go with him; I think it can be a hot evening :wink: However, if my man wants to go to a strip club I am ok with it… There is one condition though, the amount he spends on them he spends double on me. Keeps the spending to a minimum. :laugh:
  • deadbeatsummer
    deadbeatsummer Posts: 537 Member
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    it's 'women' not 'girls' (in the subject line)
    and yes i would mind - not because he is looking at other women, but I don't respect anyone who buys into that sh** and supports something like that in society.

    my boyfriend doesnt want to go and shares some of the same beliefs as me on the subject which makes me happy to feel that we're on the same wavelength. and NO i havent browbeated him into it.
  • candykay0605
    candykay0605 Posts: 1,019 Member
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    my hubbie wants to go and im going with him and he wants me to :)
  • sevsmom
    sevsmom Posts: 1,172 Member
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    We made a little vow that included the words "forsaking all others" and "love, HONOR, and respect". . .walking into that sort of establishment would certainly NOT be upholding his end of the deal.

    So, yah. . .I'd have a big problem with it. '

    My 2 cents.
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,843 Member
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    We made a little vow that included the words "forsaking all others" and "love, HONOR, and respect". . .walking into that sort of establishment would certainly NOT be upholding his end of the deal.

    So, yah. . .I'd have a big problem with it. '

    My 2 cents.

    "forsaking all others" - so that means you no longer speak to your family, you have no friends? If you want to get literal it means your spouse is the ONLY one in your life, that you don't just give up "lusting" after someone else but you give up every person in your life with the exception of him.
  • deadbeatsummer
    deadbeatsummer Posts: 537 Member
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    We made a little vow that included the words "forsaking all others" and "love, HONOR, and respect". . .walking into that sort of establishment would certainly NOT be upholding his end of the deal.

    So, yah. . .I'd have a big problem with it. '

    My 2 cents.

    "forsaking all others" - so that means you no longer speak to your family, you have no friends? If you want to get literal it means your spouse is the ONLY one in your life, that you don't just give up "lusting" after someone else but you give up every person in your life with the exception of him.

    why bother going to extremes? that's not the context which she is speaking in. - obviously she has friends and family to see - its slightly different to seeing strippers.
  • Justapartyofone
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    I'm curious as to why all the religious "crazies" feel the need to come into this thread and preach?

    No need to harsh my mellow...