girls ... do you mind if your men go to strip clubs?

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  • tubbs_nomore
    tubbs_nomore Posts: 58
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    the man I marry would not be in a place of temptation. I'm not prude, I understand that men have their needs, but my husband should come to me to have his needs met and same with/for me. If you lust in your heart, you have already committed adultery.

    So the man you marry wouldn't be allowed to go the beach because the girls running around in skimpy bikini's showing off their assets might be tempting.

    He wouldn't be able to walk down the street because there might be an extremely attractive girl in a short skirt that he might be tempted to look at.

    There are a lot of situations outside of a strip club that could be considered tempting.
  • tubbs_nomore
    tubbs_nomore Posts: 58
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    the man I marry would not be in a place of temptation. I'm not prude, I understand that men have their needs, but my husband should come to me to have his needs met and same with/for me. If you lust in your heart, you have already committed adultery.

    So the man you marry wouldn't be allowed to go the beach because the girls running around in skimpy bikini's showing off their assets might be tempting.

    He wouldn't be able to walk down the street because there might be an extremely attractive girl in a short skirt that he might be tempted to look at.

    There are a lot of situations outside of a strip club that could be considered tempting.

    There is a complete difference between being in a public place like a beach where anyone including children can be, and SPECIFICALLY going to a place thats MEANT for men to be turned on by women taking their clothes off for them. At a beach, or any public place, you have no control over what you see, but men who go to strip clubs are going there purposely to get turned on by these women. They have a CHOICE. In my opinion, any married man or one in a committed relationship who goes to these clubs is cheating on their partner.
  • liftingheavy
    liftingheavy Posts: 551 Member
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    and this thread has more than 500 posts.

    I just thought I'd point out that from the looks of it, about 25% of them are yours...

    Check your math.
  • liftingheavy
    liftingheavy Posts: 551 Member
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    and this thread has more than 500 posts.

    I just thought I'd point out that from the looks of it, about 25% of them are yours...

    And I suppose your man is watching a naked woman right now. Smile! For the camera!! Catch the goods that have NOTHING to do with YOU!
  • Nataliaho
    Nataliaho Posts: 878 Member
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    I don't mind at all. My husband and I have been to many stripclubs, together and apart. However I won't judge another person and their relationship. Do what is right for you. The idea of my husband going to a strip club and even getting his face rubbed in some booby really does not worry me. That's just me though, if it did worry me I would expect him to respect that and not go. I expect honesty from him and I've always gotten it. I trust him implicitly.

    My main cocern these days is that I wonder the indirect damage I do by fostering an industry which doesn't seem very women friendly. My understanding is the OH&S and working conditions generally are pretty poor. That concerns me.
  • Nataliaho
    Nataliaho Posts: 878 Member
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    I have a couple different points of view for this. I've been married for 3 years and with my husband for 8 years. If the guys were going out on a random night (totally not a typical thing) I don't think I would be furious about him going. I mean, I don't personally like strip clubs (I'm not judging the women there, more power to them for being able to be so exposed and confident). I think I would be upset, because for me, intentionally going to a strip club to receive some type of sexual gratification from another woman (mainly because it's so physical and the woman is literally right infront of you and the potential for any part of her touching my husband) I really do see that as a form of cheating. But if the guys randomly wanted to go, I would never want him to be the outsider of the guys so I would just suck it up for one night and say whatever to it. Now if it became a usual routine, I would ask, why is there a need to go, and then we might have issues.

    I'm not against porn though. For me with my husband, the actual subject where he is receiving the gratification from isn't "real", meaning that it's not possible to touch them or they touch you, the person was shot on a video and who knows where they are or what they look like now.

    Believe me, I am no prude when it comes to sex with my husband. We have plenty of it, at least 4-5 times a week, and I love experimenting with ideas, toys, and I love to dress up for him. I consider myself moderately adventerous with him and I go above and beyond to make him happy. Even with my views stated above, we have no issues what so ever in that department.

    My BF and I do lots of things together too, but not strip clubs, even with me there. Even if I had not lost these 15lbs and toned up, he had better love it or leave it. And when I was 90 lbs heaver, same thing, dangummit.

    I did not, and will not settle. I love to have sex with this man. But, the MOMENT he disrespects me in any way, shape or form, he is history. I know I AM history if I do the same. And this is called mutual respect and love.
    Mutual respect and love takes all forms though. It is about coming to a mutual agreement about what is and isn't acceptable and putting that agreement and the health of your relationship above everything else. That may or may not include strip clubs, infedelity, swinging or whatever...
  • smackem88
    smackem88 Posts: 7
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    you're such a classy guy!
  • smackem88
    smackem88 Posts: 7
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    Ive gone to two strip clubs and could honestly say I dont care for them. I just felt trashy going to them and it does nothing for me. Watching a girl cook in the kitchen is much sexier than throwing dirty rolled up dollar bills at her snatch. I like women with class.
    Edited by Fieldsy on Wed 04/11/12 02:55 PM

    I will also add this is how I felt whether I was single or involved with someone...

    you're such a classy guy!
  • childofArtemis24
    childofArtemis24 Posts: 334
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    that is true, there is a difference between going to the beach and girls getting money thrown at them. But most that go to the strip club go with the intention of having sex with some female. I SAID MOST MEN, NOT ALL MEN!
  • liftingheavy
    liftingheavy Posts: 551 Member
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    I guess no one cares about my "men do do you mind if your woman goes to strip clubs" thread. We had a few responses, but not 700, I'll tell you that!!!

    Why didn't the men say "YES!!! I want to go too!! ???" Just curious, it's just naked men swinging their junk in front of your women. Yes????
  • Fieldsy
    Fieldsy Posts: 1,105 Member
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    Ive gone to two strip clubs and could honestly say I dont care for them. I just felt trashy going to them and it does nothing for me. Watching a girl cook in the kitchen is much sexier than throwing dirty rolled up dollar bills at her snatch. I like women with class.
    Edited by Fieldsy on Wed 04/11/12 02:55 PM

    I will also add this is how I felt whether I was single or involved with someone...

    you're such a classy guy!

    thanks, just how I feel.
  • NSQuintana
    NSQuintana Posts: 207
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    I have my own pole & there's nothing like home service with a happy ending lol! He goes to the strip clubs with his friends sometimes. As long as he's not spending our money we need for bills, I don't care as much. We have yet to go together. Can't wait to watch him get that lap dance.
  • NSQuintana
    NSQuintana Posts: 207
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    I guess no one cares about my "men do do you mind if your woman goes to strip clubs" thread. We had a few responses, but not 700, I'll tell you that!!!

    Why didn't the men say "YES!!! I want to go too!! ???" Just curious, it's just naked men swinging their junk in front of your women. Yes????
    When I was in MA school, my instructor told us a story about a patient who went to a strip club. She had a front row seat, and the stripper's g-string landed right on her face. If that isn't gross enough, she contracted gonorrhea in her eye. I'll pass.
  • SlimSammy2012
    SlimSammy2012 Posts: 893
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    ^^"One in a million Shot Doc! One in a Million!"
  • iam_thatdude
    iam_thatdude Posts: 1,279 Member
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    personally I believe in a dont ask, dont tell.....i want to go, she deosnt want to know and I would never want to go with her.
  • Fieldsy
    Fieldsy Posts: 1,105 Member
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    Yeah the one time I went I seen someones face inside the strippers a-hole

    This was at a "classy" club too. If you have money, those girls do the do.
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,843 Member
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    Yeah the one time I went I seen someones face inside the strippers a-hole

    This was at a "classy" club too. If you have money, those girls do the do.

    Wow. She must have a very loose butt hole for someone to put their entire face in there.
  • TheBraveryLover
    TheBraveryLover Posts: 1,217 Member
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    Nope. But to be honest people exaggerate the amount of guys who go to them regularly. I date a lot and only a small percentage of those men have gone to them. Of that small amout, only 1 liked to go regularly.

    But yeah, doesn't bother me in the least. He can go with me or with his buddies; doesn't matter to me.
  • imhungry4565
    imhungry4565 Posts: 2
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    Yes, I would mind!!!
    Really. What is the purpose of going for these men? Duh, do you like him getting, ahem, aroused looking at other women? May I suggest "Learn to dance at home" ;-)
  • netsirk12
    netsirk12 Posts: 220 Member
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    He can only go if I can come too!!!

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