girls ... do you mind if your men go to strip clubs?

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  • hollyeverhart
    hollyeverhart Posts: 397 Member
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    I am as far from a normal person as you can get,I have been in many diffrent forms of adult entertainmen.Ive done phone sex,pictures,and managed an adult bookstore that was in a strip club. Ive known strippers and porn stars and have not met any that were they way you described.Nor was I. Me an my husband go to strip clubs,watch porn, and our relationship gets better and more amazing every year. Anything in life can cause devestaion to someone that is already devestated. Porn/stripping do not take a normal happy girl an ruin her. Many of the stripers that worked at my club have moved on in their lives to become all sorts of things,ones even a DR now. Funny i met very few woman that were the way you described. Most felt impowered

    AS someone who used to go to strip clubs a lot, I agree. Most of the women there ARE empowered. They are getting hundreds to thousands of dollars a night from guys who (usually) can't even touch them. Who's exploiting who?

    ^LOVE THIS.
  • hollyeverhart
    hollyeverhart Posts: 397 Member
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    Yeah the one time I went I seen someones face inside the strippers a-hole

    This was at a "classy" club too. If you have money, those girls do the do.

    Wow. She must have a very loose butt hole for someone to put their entire face in there.

    This is directed at the first comment, I work at a 'classy' strip club & I don't do ANY extras & I make plenty of money, so maybe you shouldn't make judgements about total strangers.. Most of the time the only women that ***** about strippers are ones with no self esteem or they are jealous..
  • hollyeverhart
    hollyeverhart Posts: 397 Member
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    I wouldn't mind because I'm a dancer for one & that would be hypocritical. I'm married to a man who has never been to a strip club & has no interest, but why would he? He's married to a stripper lol.. Plus you all need to STOP acting like all strippers are strippers because of drug problems/ daddy issues/ depression/ etc... SOME OF US do it because its AMAZING money & its easy & it lets me work 2-3 days a week & make what most have to work 2 weeks of more for in one or two nights. I also work at a hospital before you assume I'm a "dumb" stripper with no goals. Most women bash stripping because of jealous issues & lack of self esteem. Its pointless to feel that way. If your mans comes to a strip club to cheat, it won't happen unless he goes to some disgusting club & searches out the sluts. But my point being, if a man wants to cheat, you need to worry more while he's at work or a normal bar because no stripper is throwing themselves at him for his charm & good looks its all about the money. Duh. I lead guys on all the time at work but they cant touch me, cant see me outside of work hell they don't even know my real name, yet they spend tons of money on me? That is a life skill if you ask me... lol Sorry for the rant, just SICK of hearing **** from others (overweight women mostly!) on mfp if my job is brought up.. ugh
  • Erindipitous
    Erindipitous Posts: 1,234 Member
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    Yes, because I'm insecure.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,688 Member
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    Again: Why stay with someone if you are lusting/temped/not content with the person your with?
    Lol, for the sex of course. Oh and because she can make a mean sammich.:laugh:


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  • Erindipitous
    Erindipitous Posts: 1,234 Member
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    I wouldn't mind because I'm a dancer for one & that would be hypocritical. I'm married to a man who has never been to a strip club & has no interest, but why would he? He's married to a stripper lol.. Plus you all need to STOP acting like all strippers are strippers because of drug problems/ daddy issues/ depression/ etc... SOME OF US do it because its AMAZING money & its easy & it lets me work 2-3 days a week & make what most have to work 2 weeks of more for in one or two nights. I also work at a hospital before you assume I'm a "dumb" stripper with no goals. Most women bash stripping because of jealous issues & lack of self esteem. Its pointless to feel that way. If your mans comes to a strip club to cheat, it won't happen unless he goes to some disgusting club & searches out the sluts. But my point being, if a man wants to cheat, you need to worry more while he's at work or a normal bar because no stripper is throwing themselves at him for his charm & good looks its all about the money. Duh. I lead guys on all the time at work but they cant touch me, cant see me outside of work hell they don't even know my real name, yet they spend tons of money on me? That is a life skill if you ask me... lol Sorry for the rant, just SICK of hearing **** from others (overweight women mostly!) on mfp if my job is brought up.. ugh

    Oh, hey.. We're practically neighbors. :)
  • DeckerDoll
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    Ive gone to two strip clubs and could honestly say I dont care for them. I just felt trashy going to them and it does nothing for me. Watching a girl cook in the kitchen is much sexier than throwing dirty rolled up dollar bills at her snatch. I like women with class.
    Edited by Fieldsy on Wed 04/11/12 02:55 PM

    I will also add this is how I felt whether I was single or involved with someone...

    I would much rather watch a girl cook for me in the kitchen too instead of having to throw money at a snatch. Girls who cook are just so classy.
  • ExplorinLauren
    ExplorinLauren Posts: 991 Member
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    This is a sensitive question. lol...
    Yes I mind. But my husband minds if I go to male review or whatever. I think its a personal decision that every couple has to make. When you go to strip clubs... it should be because you are single. Off doing your thing. AND THAT I DO NOT MIND.
    When you are with someone, you shouldn't put yourself in that place, doing those things, because it isn't just YOU in a relationship anymore. Anything you do with some "other" woman, will hurt who you are with. Just like its one thing to stare at a chick (even discreetly) at the mall or something, its another to get her number.
    Now, With that said... if a strip club is involved, we have to be together. Thats the way it should be. We both get off on it, we are still together, and no cheating is involved. He gets off on the fact that I love it, and he gets to see tits. Its a win win. I don't agree with the people saying its like the beach with bikinis. I am from Florida. Most clubs are full nudity, or slightly less. And to be honest, it isn't about strip clubs, its about lap dances. Now if you ask if I am ok with a lap dance??? You will get a TOTALLY diff answer lol
  • hollyeverhart
    hollyeverhart Posts: 397 Member
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    I wouldn't mind because I'm a dancer for one & that would be hypocritical. I'm married to a man who has never been to a strip club & has no interest, but why would he? He's married to a stripper lol.. Plus you all need to STOP acting like all strippers are strippers because of drug problems/ daddy issues/ depression/ etc... SOME OF US do it because its AMAZING money & its easy & it lets me work 2-3 days a week & make what most have to work 2 weeks of more for in one or two nights. I also work at a hospital before you assume I'm a "dumb" stripper with no goals. Most women bash stripping because of jealous issues & lack of self esteem. Its pointless to feel that way. If your mans comes to a strip club to cheat, it won't happen unless he goes to some disgusting club & searches out the sluts. But my point being, if a man wants to cheat, you need to worry more while he's at work or a normal bar because no stripper is throwing themselves at him for his charm & good looks its all about the money. Duh. I lead guys on all the time at work but they cant touch me, cant see me outside of work hell they don't even know my real name, yet they spend tons of money on me? That is a life skill if you ask me... lol Sorry for the rant, just SICK of hearing **** from others (overweight women mostly!) on mfp if my job is brought up.. ugh

    Oh, hey.. We're practically neighbors. :)

    Very cool, rarely do I see people on here from baltimore, MD, I live in Bel Air now, but I have lived all over this boring area lol, I still work in "b"more city though lol
  • Rosa1213
    Rosa1213 Posts: 456 Member
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    I think that if I knew my boyfriend went to strip clubs regularly, I'd like to talk about why he feels the need to do so. I would't judge him for it or be mad at him, I would just want to know the reason why.
    I'd feel ugly and unattractive, since he feels the need to go out and get aroused by other women because I'm disgusting.

    I KNOW that this might not be the case, but it would be how I'd FEEL.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,688 Member
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    I wouldn't mind because I'm a dancer for one & that would be hypocritical. I'm married to a man who has never been to a strip club & has no interest, but why would he? He's married to a stripper lol.. Plus you all need to STOP acting like all strippers are strippers because of drug problems/ daddy issues/ depression/ etc... SOME OF US do it because its AMAZING money & its easy & it lets me work 2-3 days a week & make what most have to work 2 weeks of more for in one or two nights. I also work at a hospital before you assume I'm a "dumb" stripper with no goals. Most women bash stripping because of jealous issues & lack of self esteem. Its pointless to feel that way. If your mans comes to a strip club to cheat, it won't happen unless he goes to some disgusting club & searches out the sluts. But my point being, if a man wants to cheat, you need to worry more while he's at work or a normal bar because no stripper is throwing themselves at him for his charm & good looks its all about the money. Duh. I lead guys on all the time at work but they cant touch me, cant see me outside of work hell they don't even know my real name, yet they spend tons of money on me? That is a life skill if you ask me... lol Sorry for the rant, just SICK of hearing **** from others (overweight women mostly!) on mfp if my job is brought up.. ugh
    I love this. We need more strippers representing here!

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  • hollyeverhart
    hollyeverhart Posts: 397 Member
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    This is a sensitive question. lol...
    Yes I mind. But my husband minds if I go to male review or whatever. I think its a personal decision that every couple has to make. When you go to strip clubs... it should be because you are single. Off doing your thing. AND THAT I DO NOT MIND.
    When you are with someone, you shouldn't put yourself in that place, doing those things, because it isn't just YOU in a relationship anymore. Anything you do with some "other" woman, will hurt who you are with. Just like its one thing to stare at a chick (even discreetly) at the mall or something, its another to get her number.
    Now, With that said... if a strip club is involved, we have to be together. Thats the way it should be. We both get off on it, we are still together, and no cheating is involved. He gets off on the fact that I love it, and he gets to see tits. Its a win win. I don't agree with the people saying its like the beach with bikinis. I am from Florida. Most clubs are full nudity, or slightly less. And to be honest, it isn't about strip clubs, its about lap dances. Now if you ask if I am ok with a lap dance??? You will get a TOTALLY diff answer lol

    I would kinda agree with the lap dance thing, whenever married/taken guys get lap dances or private rooms with me I'm confused bc I know my husband would NEVER do that. I think its okay for guys to have a guys night out at a strip club even while they are married/dating but to spend 100's of dollars on a stripper or say some of the things married guys have said to me, that is just wrong & it makes me happy I'm already married to a great man. Honestly as a stripper you see the REAL side of most men & its repulsive... but hey, it pays the bills & makes me appreciate my husband even more.
  • ExplorinLauren
    ExplorinLauren Posts: 991 Member
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    I think that if I knew my boyfriend went to strip clubs regularly, I'd like to talk about why he feels the need to do so. I would't judge him for it or be mad at him, I would just want to know the reason why.
    I'd feel ugly and unattractive, since he feels the need to go out and get aroused by other women because I'm disgusting.

    I KNOW that this might not be the case, but it would be how I'd FEEL.


    I fully agree. Its all about how you feel. If it were a reg thing, I would start to feel inadequate. Thats where the real problem comes from.
  • hollyeverhart
    hollyeverhart Posts: 397 Member
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    I wouldn't mind because I'm a dancer for one & that would be hypocritical. I'm married to a man who has never been to a strip club & has no interest, but why would he? He's married to a stripper lol.. Plus you all need to STOP acting like all strippers are strippers because of drug problems/ daddy issues/ depression/ etc... SOME OF US do it because its AMAZING money & its easy & it lets me work 2-3 days a week & make what most have to work 2 weeks of more for in one or two nights. I also work at a hospital before you assume I'm a "dumb" stripper with no goals. Most women bash stripping because of jealous issues & lack of self esteem. Its pointless to feel that way. If your mans comes to a strip club to cheat, it won't happen unless he goes to some disgusting club & searches out the sluts. But my point being, if a man wants to cheat, you need to worry more while he's at work or a normal bar because no stripper is throwing themselves at him for his charm & good looks its all about the money. Duh. I lead guys on all the time at work but they cant touch me, cant see me outside of work hell they don't even know my real name, yet they spend tons of money on me? That is a life skill if you ask me... lol Sorry for the rant, just SICK of hearing **** from others (overweight women mostly!) on mfp if my job is brought up.. ugh
    I love this. We need more strippers representing here!

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    Haha lol good luck, I got bashed sooo badly on my own thread under chitchat because I had a shaving related question & brought up the fact that I shave so often bc I am a dancer at I was insulted by a overweight women whos display picture was her giant boobs hanging out (yet she's so holy holy she can call me a slut? lol) calling me a slut/ugly/stupid etc all bc I said I danced. So yeah I think most dancers are to scared to even mention their jobs on here... even though its a 18+ website, oh well, I am super NOT ashamed of mine, its fun, great money & great exercise c:
  • ExplorinLauren
    ExplorinLauren Posts: 991 Member
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    personally I believe in a dont ask, dont tell.....i want to go, she deosnt want to know and I would never want to go with her.

    Do you not understand the hotness of going as a couple?! Or are you trying to hide something when you go?
  • AmandaPandah
    AmandaPandah Posts: 222 Member
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    Oh boys, go to as many strip clubs you want, I don't care! (as long as you give me nice things later to make up for your guilt ;) )
  • hollyeverhart
    hollyeverhart Posts: 397 Member
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    personally I believe in a dont ask, dont tell.....i want to go, she deosnt want to know and I would never want to go with her.

    Do you not understand the hotness of going as a couple?! Or are you trying to hide something when you go?

    It's not right to hide things from your SO, but if men didn't I probably would be broke soooo..... lol But really the wife side of me thinks thats awful & deceitful & I hope your wife busts your *kitten*. The stripper side says cha ching hahaha. But in all seriousness lots of couples come in my club & have a blast! Don't knock it till you try it, how about a hot stripper giving your wife a lap dance while you watch, or giving you both one? How could that not be fun? I would totally drag my husband to a strip club if he would go, but he refuses because he said he doesn't see the point in paying for someone to pretend to like you (I got one of the smart ones lol) & I work at one so the drives not really there.. I think when your married to a stripper, strippers & the clubs lose all interest & mystery because you hear how dancers really feel & act & all our tricks...
  • striveforhealthy
    striveforhealthy Posts: 137 Member
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    My husband has gone on a couple occasions. I think all have been bachelor parties. I don't have any issues with it. I feel pretty secure with my relationship. Hell, I would go if the occasion arose where I was asked by friends or whatever.
  • ExplorinLauren
    ExplorinLauren Posts: 991 Member
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    Yeah the one time I went I seen someones face inside the strippers a-hole

    This was at a "classy" club too. If you have money, those girls do the do.

    Wow. She must have a very loose butt hole for someone to put their entire face in there.

    This is directed at the first comment, I work at a 'classy' strip club & I don't do ANY extras & I make plenty of money, so maybe you shouldn't make judgements about total strangers.. Most of the time the only women that ***** about strippers are ones with no self esteem or they are jealous..


    I have agreed with all of your posts on this subject except this one. So I have to say something.
    I know you said most, and not all... but it sucks that if you are against it you become some person without self esteem and jealous. I hear "your the fat housewife that cant deal with your man on me"
    I love my relationship. I have been friends with several strippers... they don't bother me. To each his own, and if I could make a million dollars doing it I would. I never have, not because I am jealous or against the idea, but bc I would have to snort coke and drink drinks just to be ok with shaking my *kitten* in someones face for kicks, that I didn't even know. lol
    I respect my relationship. Thats what it comes down to. I expect when a guy gives up his blackbook, his whorish ways, and really focuses on our life, love and happiness... That is what I expect him to do. I do it for him, therefor, he should do it back.
    Now, with that said, I appreciate a naked woman like the rest. lol What I ask ... is that we go together. If we "cant go together" then that would be the point that I feel like he is trying to do something behind my back.
    Everyone...even strippers, has felt betrayed. And no ONE wants that... I am not trying to discredit what you or anyone else does. But, if your man cant be in front of you... while being around strippers, he is hiding something. plain and simple.
  • Rosa1213
    Rosa1213 Posts: 456 Member
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    I don't agree with people bashing strippers, but I also hate it when girls who dance and people who see nothing wrong with it are all "Oh, I'm better than you because you're dumb and you live in a bubble and you don't think people are sexual! I'm better than you because I'm out there and I think stripping is ok! Did I mention that I'm better than you because I make easy money? Haha!! Oh, and also, I'm better than you because I think stripping is awesome and that makes me "different"!!"


    Now, I'm not saying I disapprove of stripping. It's just a job, like any other job, where you have to pretend to like people, like any other job. It's great money, and if I had the body for it, I'd do it too, so all the more power to you dancers :)

    But both sides of the argument get on their high horse sometimes and it's just annoying.

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