would you date someone plus size ?

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  • Chrystibel
    Chrystibel Posts: 116 Member
    ....

    *suddenly feels like the only chubby chaser in the world

    I always find chubby, unshaved, long haired, geeky looking guys so much more attractive than a skinny or muscular guy, so you're not alone. Your BF is cute, he looks like Jon's brother a bit in the pics i've seen.

    yeah, he's the sexiest thing i've ever laid eyes on. He's also over a foot taller than i am: makes me look like a midget

    you know what i hate?

    when people see someone my size-- average
    with someone his size-- Plus size

    they almost always assume I have low self esteem, or that i'm "settling"

    psh. my man may be brilliant, handsome, witty, educated, and a creative genious

    but he's also joyfully plush.

    and though i'd love him if he suddenly lost 250lb

    i find him incredibly sexy just how he is

    I know exactly what you mean, and I LOVE the way my head fits snugly under Jon's armpit when I'm standing straight up, I like feeling small, you saw the picture mom put on FB, Jon's a head taller than everyone in the picture lol.
  • M1chelles5
    M1chelles5 Posts: 107
    Yeah, there IS a difference between overweight and out of shape. Just because someone is bigger, does not mean they just lay on the couch eating twinkies all the time.
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    I dated a skinny man once.
    I got hip bone bruises on my inner thighs.
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    Never again. :noway:

    :laugh: I choked on my water Lol! tooo funny!!!
  • PapaverSomniferum
    PapaverSomniferum Posts: 2,670 Member
    http://www.xojane.com/sex/my-life-chubby-chaser
  • MiniMichelle
    MiniMichelle Posts: 801 Member
    Totally would. Just depends on what I find attractive about them (if anything). I have seen some plus size women who put waif thin women to shame in the attraction department. For instance... Mia Tyler... oh hell yes!

    And for those who say no, hopefully people don't get all bent out of shape over it. We all have our own tastes. And that's ok. To each their own, and all that jazz.

    Agreed. I think about people like basking ribbons...31 flavors. Everyone has their own flavor preference :wink:
  • bellygoaway
    bellygoaway Posts: 441 Member
    ....

    *suddenly feels like the only chubby chaser in the world

    There must be something wrong with you, we are not that fast and can be caught quite easily :)
  • Laura_Suzie
    Laura_Suzie Posts: 1,288 Member
    I usually prefer average sized guys, not too skinny and not too chubby. But if we had chemistry and hit it off, why not?
  • PapaverSomniferum
    PapaverSomniferum Posts: 2,670 Member
    ....

    *suddenly feels like the only chubby chaser in the world

    There must be something wrong with you, we are not that fast and can be caught quite easily :)


    :happy:
  • avalonmaiara
    avalonmaiara Posts: 60
    YES. :)
  • ComicBookGeekGirl
    ComicBookGeekGirl Posts: 202
    Glad my husband fell in love with me despite my size.
  • k0nfyo0zed
    k0nfyo0zed Posts: 313 Member
    no, i wouldn't. not because i'm against plus size dudes. i like my dudes cuddly and all... but let's be real here. i'm fat. if he's fat too... the logistics of sex just would not work well. been there, done that. it was not pretty.
  • cior
    cior Posts: 133 Member
    Of course I would. I only date people I'm attracted to, but there's a hell of a lot more to attraction than body size.

    THANK YOU! Well said.
  • DataBased
    DataBased Posts: 513 Member
    It isn't' the size of the dog in the fight.... it's the size of fight in the dog!

    I've dated slim, athletic, chubby, and obese. I married obese - he's the finest man I have ever known, and we are working together to become and stay healthy.

    :flowerforyou:
  • lissymae11
    lissymae11 Posts: 71
    I personally don't mind a chubby guy. I mean, there's health risks and stuff, so I'm not saying to be unhealthy, but like, Dan Heffernan from King of Queens? CUTEST MAN EVER.

    http://static.tvguide.com/MediaBin/Galleries/Shows/G_L/Ki_Kp/KingOfQueens/season9/king-queens-williams34.jpg
  • xonikitashafferxo
    xonikitashafferxo Posts: 150 Member
    If plus size means they cannot enjoy doing things outdoors, then no I am sorry I would not date them.
    If it's just some chunk.. Im cool with that.. i have some myself lol (FOR NOW ANYWAY)
  • StrawberrySt
    StrawberrySt Posts: 235
    Nope

    I simply would not find that attractive. My current boyfriend lost about 100lbs before we met. I've seen his 'fat photos' and to me he is a different man. One I don't find attractive at all.
    But now, he is the sexiest man to me and I'm super attracted to him! I would not have given him a first look, let alone a second look when he was overweight. He knows I don't want him to put on weight again and he worked so hard to lose the weight he's determined to keep it off.

    Harsh, but honest.
  • Kaddyshack21
    Kaddyshack21 Posts: 225 Member
    I have been "bigger" all my adult life and I have never once dated someone who was "bigger". I don't know why......I mean talk about double standard but I just don't find excess weight attractive. I feel like such a crap for saying something like that......

    All of my boyfriends have worn a size L tops. I actually remember one night as I lay beside my significant other if this is how Jabba the Hut would of felt if he had someone to cuddle with.....despite this I never went for heavier guys. Sad but true.
  • littlelily613
    littlelily613 Posts: 769 Member
    I wouldn't want to base my relationships on looks, but since I am trying to get healthy, I would only want to date a person that is also healthy (or trying to get healthy as I am). It is not the look itself that I dislike, it is the unhealthy lifestyle.
  • annams76
    annams76 Posts: 161 Member
    My husband is plus size. He wasn't when we first met but he has grown expoentially since we have been together. I want him to lose weight but it is for his health, nothing else.
  • runnercheryl
    runnercheryl Posts: 1,314 Member
    Would, did, and I'm marrying him next year.
  • Clarecbear82
    Clarecbear82 Posts: 369 Member
    Yes and we are engaged with 3kids. He's my best friend and I couldn't care if he was the 300lb he is now or 100lb I love who he is bot what he is!
  • dumb_blondes_rock
    dumb_blondes_rock Posts: 1,568 Member
    I personally don't mind a chubby guy. I mean, there's health risks and stuff, so I'm not saying to be unhealthy, but like, Dan Heffernan from King of Queens? CUTEST MAN EVER.

    http://static.tvguide.com/MediaBin/Galleries/Shows/G_L/Ki_Kp/KingOfQueens/season9/king-queens-williams34.jpg

    I would even take Kevin James when he was slimmed down.....He's a hotttttt chubster. I also like the guy who plays his tall black friend on that show, hes equally hot
  • torygirl79
    torygirl79 Posts: 307 Member
    I avoid dating skinny people. I always feel they will judge my weight too much.
  • Princess_Sameen
    Princess_Sameen Posts: 284 Member
    I would have to say no!! I date a fitness instructor at the moment and have lost wweight since being with him! as a true plus size gal I think being with a big guy would only hinder my weight loss! harsh but true
  • twiztid_princess
    twiztid_princess Posts: 89
    I have and would again... but the personality has to be there, too.. i find all types of men and women attractive.. it just depends on if they catch my eye..
  • fragilegift
    fragilegift Posts: 347 Member
    I wouldn't START dating someone. Not only is the ahem bedroom aspect a consideration, but I don't want to try and have to explain myself to 'The Man' why I don't want to be with him as he is sitting on the couch, gorging and watching movies all day. Sorry, but I am not reducing myself to that level.

    Now, if I was to start dating Mr Athletic and he gained weight...that might be different.
  • Lotte34
    Lotte34 Posts: 429 Member
    My Other half has a 20" neck a 48" chest and god knows what his waist is: he is the best thing to ever happen to me
  • castadiva
    castadiva Posts: 2,016 Member
    I wonder what is 'plus size' to you? There are 'plus size models' (female) that wear size 10. That's not that big.

    In fact, that's really quite small. 'Plus size' is subjective - fashion-industry 'plus size' is a very strange thing(and varies depending on which country you're in) and can, as this poster says, be as small as a womens' size 10 or 12 plus! Like many others here, I wouldn't be thinking about actual clothing sizes, but about the shape someone was in - it's entirely possible to be 'plus size' and in good shape, healthy and active. If someone's weight is impeding activity, I'm probably not going to choose that lifestyle. If they carry a bit of extra weight and/or are built on larger lines, not a problem.
  • estitom
    estitom Posts: 205 Member
    Yeah. I have my limits, but I think I would.
  • sarahp86
    sarahp86 Posts: 692 Member
    I wouldn't have before but my bf now is a big guy! He's 6'3" with 23inch bicep, shoulders that fill a doorway and giant farmer hands!!!
    When we first met I was attracted to him but I was slightly put off by his size. He wasn't fit or healthy but neither was I. We've lost weight together and are determined to get healthy as a couple. We push and support each other and I'm really proud of him!!
  • Laura8603
    Laura8603 Posts: 590 Member
    I met my boyfriend 20+ years ago in college. He was on the basketball team and skinny as a rail. I was chubby. He was my best friend, but nothing more back then. After 15 years apart, we are now dating. I am thin now and he probably needs to lose 40-50 pounds. I still see him through my 20 year old eyes and think he is sexy as ever. I do admit I get on to him about exercising because he has high blood pressure.
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