would you date someone plus size ?

JennaM222

yes becasue the likelihood of them cheating on you is vey slim

Pengi81

It'd be very hypocritical of me to say "no" and I'm not going to

My gf is a plus size and I love every inch of her

Tashry

I would never turn away someone based on their size, but having said that, I want a partner in life to experience many things with me. I am an outdoorsy girl, would love to spend more time hiking, running and being physically active.

I want a dude who can keep up.

I also know that I would get discouraged by someone who wasn't taking an active roll in their own fitness. I want someone to help push my towards my goals, not show me the easy way out.

BAMFMeredith

I don't overlook an overweight person right off the bat (I've always believed a good personality can make someone sexy), but they would definitely have to have the same fit and active lifestyle that I have chosen to adopt, which means more likely than not, any prospective partners would be of a normal or borderline normal weight.

I feel that way too. If I work hard to take care of my body and my health, I would like for my partner to have the same lifestyle. I'd like my man to be around for a while! Plus I have a 5 year old son who needs healthy role models in his life, I want my partner to be the same active and healthy role model I try to be. That's not to say nobody overweight is healthy, because I know a lot of my fellow MFPers are overweight and adopting a new healthy lifestyle, but generally speaking once you adopt that lifestyle, the physical changes begin to follow (albeit slowly).

christiefeatures

If they were plus size in the sense of really-fat-and-intending-on-doing-nothing-about-it kind of plus size, then I would probably not date them because they clearly don't look after themselves. But if they were naturally or medically plus size or even plus size but changing it, then yes I would.

Genozid

In short, No. But I too am a terrible person (and also on the bigger side of the spectrum, 6'6 230 down from 285)

orangecrayon

this is a sirius question (HARRY POTTER REFERENCE!!!)

Okay A: That right there meets one of my have-to-have criteria - a semi-nerd. Personality is what makes up a relationship, so I don't see why not.

But on the other hand, you need that attraction on the physical level, too. So I'm not saying no, just that I'd have to love their personality so much that it wouldn't matter to me. And they'd have to love me the same way. Plus, I'd want them to be healthy. So obviously we could do it together! Haha but as long as they could go to the amusement park with me, would go to the gym with me, you know - little things, I'd be fine with it. And if you love someone enough, sure.

PapaverSomniferum

i want this t-shirt


also, i am very disapointed in many of you who equate being larger to being "lazy". weight is calories in vs calories out. it's entirely possible to be VERY active and also be VERY large. All it takes is a taste for cheese cake and good wine

I like a man with an appetite for cheesecake and wine. It often equates to having other healthy appetites as well

Dinob661

I wouldn't mind. Not saying that looks wouldn't play a factor at all, but for me, at the risk of sounding overly cliche, looks are less important than personality. Initially when I meet a girl yeah, looks are important. But when I really get to know you. if we start to make connection on several things, I would rather be happy with a person I love that might not be a super model. then miserable with a person i love....to look at.

Ralstonk2

Bigger guys are the only ones I'm attracted too. Guys I've dated as rebounds have been super skinny jocks which is just for a rebound, then the next guy is always bigger. My ex boyfriend I dated for 3 1/2 years in high school was a bigger guy-300 lbs 6'4, my ex husband 5'11 270 lbs (not huge but bigger) and my guy now is almost like my ex in high school. My ex in high I was with for 3 1/2 years, my ex husband 9 years and now for over a year. The skinny guys maybe lasted a few months if that. So I love me some bigger guys!

MyTime1985

Looks don't mean much at the end of the day. I would not overlook someone based on size and I prefer bigger guys.

jcstanton

Like others have said, I don't mind a little extra weight. However, I'm trying to get healthy and athletic, myself. That means that I'm going to be doing alot of strenuous activity. If he's so overweight that all he wants to do is sit around and watch TV because he's in so much pain/discomfort, that's not for me. On the other hand, I'm not generally attracted to guys who are really thin, either.

This is my preference:
5'10"-6'4"
185-250lbs (depending on height), and solid...not necessarily ripped (although I do like ripped), but not sloppy looking either.

Jules2Be

Considering plus size is supposedly a 6 in womens YES I sure would! Hell even some of the Lane Bryant models are attractive.

Size 16 and I'll still throw her over my shoulder like she's a toy.

love this!

goofyrick24

Most definately I would... An old friend once told me "you can't park a limo in the hall closet".. and I found it to be true.. it hurts when you hit bone on some aneroxic chic...

zoeluiisa

I would never rule out an entire group of people based on size any more than I would based on skin colour. You fancy someone when you fancy them, and there's no way to know who that will happen with until it happens.

That said, seeing as I'm struggling to lose weight I'd find it harder if I was with someone who encouraged me to sit around eating all the time... Like when you give up smoking, it's hard to hang out with a smoker.

christina2113

Yes, I honestly don't think I would be happy with someone who weighed less than me. I am also a chubby chaser but in reality personality is what gets me every time.

Genozid

yes becasue the likelihood of them cheating on you is vey slim

That's why you just date a pretty girl, knock her down a few pegs and rebuild her the way you want... Emotionally damaged and ripe for the pickin...


oh, and let her know if she cheats on you, she gets to watch you abuse her man toy.


But, that is a good way to look at it:drinker:

hesn92

Depends what you mean by "plus size" .... plus sized models are really not that plus sized. They are more just average. I don't know what a "plus size" man would look like...

MelissaT81

....

*suddenly feels like the only chubby chaser in the world

Nope me too!

:flowerforyou:

that makes 3 of us. :bigsmile:

gumigal82

yes why not? they're not different to anyone else except bigger... i find most bigger people are actually nicer than the thinner ones..

Really?

Bigger people can be just as mean, snobby, (fill in the negative adjective here)...Negativity has nothing to do with the size of the person, just the heart/vaules of the person!

gumigal82

I would never turn away someone based on their size, but having said that, I want a partner in life to experience many things with me. I am an outdoorsy girl, would love to spend more time hiking, running and being physically active.

I want a dude who can keep up.

I also know that I would get discouraged by someone who wasn't taking an active roll in their own fitness. I want someone to help push my towards my goals, not show me the easy way out.

I agree with this--I want someone who takes an active roll in his fitness--and is excited about mine as well.

1shauna1

It's not my ideal type but my last boyfriend was (I think; we never told each other our weights) was over 300 lbs. He was really cute though....I got over it. I also wasn't his type physically, but he got over that too. I prefer a fit body though (but I guess I can't demand it since I'm not really fit yet either!).

PapaverSomniferum

....

*suddenly feels like the only chubby chaser in the world

Nope me too!

:flowerforyou:

that makes 3 of us. :bigsmile:

:drinker: :happy:

ConnieB1979

^ EXACLTY THIS

....

*suddenly feels like the only chubby chaser in the world

Nope me too!

:flowerforyou:

that makes 3 of us. :bigsmile:

:drinker: :happy:

CShepherd91

I've been with my fiance for 5 years.

When we first started dating he was around 280lbs. He's now 305lbs. I loved him then and I love him now. He is losing weight, and dieting and getting fit as our wedding comes closer and we start planning for kiddies.

But I've never looked down on him for being over-weight. He's always been able to keep up with me when we hike or go for walks. It's only this past year that health issues have arisen (and most of them were because of a car accident).

I love my fiance and find him attractive, whether he's 305 lbs, or 205. I only want him to lose weight (and support him by going along for the ride like I am) because I want him forever. And he needs to be as fit and healthy as he possibly can.

ETA: More people shouldn't just look at someone, and account their whole being as their weight. People are more than numbers on a scale. I felt an instantaneous connection with him, and if I'd been more shallow and completely discounted him because of his size, I would have missed out on the most amazing person I know.

CShepherd91

....

*suddenly feels like the only chubby chaser in the world

Nope me too!

:flowerforyou:

that makes 3 of us. :bigsmile:

:drinker: :happy:

Another chubby chaser here!

micls

I see a lot of people saying that "looks aren't that important" and at the risk of sounding super shallow, yeah, they are, and if you say they're not, you're lying.

The first time you see somebody you're not thinking "damn I bet that guy has a GREAT personality!" No, the first thing you notice is what they look like. If you find what they look like to be attractive, then you're probably more likely to strike up a conversation. It's just human nature. Also, you want to be sexually attracted to the person you're in a relationship with. If you don't find thin men/women sexually attractive, you're probably not gonna be dating thin women. If you don't find larger or overweight men/women sexually attractive, you're probably not going to date them. It doesn't make a person shallow, just means they have a preference.

I met my fiance when I was 12, so looks really didn't come into it. He was my best friend for years before we got together. He wasn't what I would have considered my 'type' in terms of looks at the time (as a 17year old) but I was initially attracted to him based on mostly other things, he was an amazing person.

Now, I find him totally hot and sexy, but it wasn't the basis of our initial relationship. It was his great personality I noticed first.

watboy

That is fantastic

That when a girl walks in with an itty bitty waist
And a round thing in your face

I like big butts and I cannot lie

You other brothers can't deny...

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EmCarroll1990

No, I wouldn't. I'm not attracted to plus size people.

mznisaelaine

I am too attracted to healthy bigger men.