MFP Meanies :(

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  • They are the know it alls. Or at least they think they are. Ignore them. :)
  • Mceastes
    Mceastes Posts: 303 Member
    Don't be afraid to keep asking questions just because someone made a big deal of it. Didn't our teachers always tell us there is no such thing as a stupid question? How will you learn if you don't ask? No one person can know everything, we have to be more encouraging and patient, especially for people new to weight loss and fitness. Ignore rude remarks, there are too many nice people on this site to leave over a few rude people.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    You know, there were three pages of replies on your "Menstrual cycle and exercise" thread so far. Out of those 60 replies, two of them were vaguely sarcastic.

    If you choose to focus on two or three posts out of 60 because they were joking or sarcastic, then maybe the problem is that you are having trouble seeing the good in people. 58 of them were helpful and positive.

    This. The majority of people who are responding to this thread did not read the thread in question, and are projecting.

    The "negative meanies" were joking. I understand that you didn't find them funny, but I don't think they meant any harm. Read their responses again, only this time, pretend they are friends of yours, rather that strangers. I bet you won't read any hostility into what they said.

    In future, if you assume that people are attempting to be funny, rather than hurtful, I think you will find these forums supportive. Try it. Do it for me. :flowerforyou:
  • DataBased
    DataBased Posts: 513 Member
    I had horrible cycles like that, too, when I was younger. Literally curled up in a ball for 2-3 days. There's no earthly way I could have been coaxed to work out, eat, or even move unless it was a matter of survival. The dr. finally ended up giving me testosterone (!!!) to "reset everything. It worked for a few years! Ended up, though, that I had been sicker than I realized. So please - do yourself a favor and make sure you don't have anything serious going on in there, okay?

    And hang tough here. What the others have said is true. This is like a cross-section of any society. There are nice people and there are those who don't know (or care?) that their words are hurtful. You're here for YOU - so those others... they just don't matter .
    :flowerforyou:
  • k0nfyo0zed
    k0nfyo0zed Posts: 313 Member
    Sorry to hear about your experience :( I have seen quite a few meanies on here but the ones that are nice make up the majority. Hang in there. Glean what you can from those who have knowledge and ignore the haters.

    Oh, as a side note, if you are in any way religious (not that there is anything wrong with that) don't ever mention it! They will come with pitchforks. Some poor girl asked a question about looking for christians or something and the people went all moonbatty on her. I felt terrible for her! Live and let live I say :)

    i 'spose i should change my profile picture then, eh?
  • DaisyHamilton
    DaisyHamilton Posts: 575 Member
    Most people on here have attitude problems, I've noticed...
  • dad106
    dad106 Posts: 4,868 Member
    I saw your other thread.. and while I haven't read the comments, the first thing that went thorough my mind was seriously..

    The reason why I say that is, most females on here have had their menstrual cycle since they were in their teens. and we all exercised during that time I'm sure. So why is that we start weight loss and everything we did before suddenly goes out the window? If you did it before, why can't you do it now? Is there something stopping you?

    I say that not trying to be rude, but use common sense people.. it's not that hard.
  • djsupreme6
    djsupreme6 Posts: 1,210 Member
    well..it's just like me to go sticking my nose where it doesn't belong lol..really though..same as anywhere..some just create accounts to badger and attempt to bring people down cause thats what brings them up...some are just simply experts of course..aren't we all..lol...if you let them get to you...then they win and thats surely not what you want to happen..you're better then that and I don't know you at all..rise beyond the games and foolishness...accomplish your goals and sit back while you watch those negative ones feeds say things like "haven't logged in a long damn time, I think he/she needs some encouragement" lol
  • LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo
    LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo Posts: 3,634 Member
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    Dont be so sensitive, this is the Internet after all. Shrug them off, take what little you did learn, and move forward. (:
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    Internet or real, there will always be bad people & there's nothing we can do about it other than ignoring them. They are losers anyway.
  • giselle9938
    giselle9938 Posts: 194 Member
    I agree we (MFP) people should be encouraging each other, not making fun of new people...and I would advise you to continue asking questions...and ignore the rude immature people who laugh and make fun. Blessings sweetie.


    Amen!
  • tig_ol_bitties
    tig_ol_bitties Posts: 561 Member
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  • _SusieQ_
    _SusieQ_ Posts: 2,964 Member
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    And again, I laugh every time I see it.
  • kennethmgreen
    kennethmgreen Posts: 1,759 Member
    Most people on here have attitude problems, I've noticed...
    If by "most people" you mean "some on MFP" and by "attitude problems" you mean "calorie deficits" then I agree with you 100%. And I support and motivate them. Go MFPers!
  • Mean people are just bullies and they are very insecure and to make themselves feel better they make fun of other people! I can not stand Bullies! Most people are nice and encouraging, don't let the mean people get you down.
  • lottier0311
    lottier0311 Posts: 125
    If I know one thing it is that NO question is a silly question if you don't know the answer.
  • determined2lose89
    determined2lose89 Posts: 342 Member
    Some people are just straight up mean or ignorant on MFP. However, I've found that for every 1 mean person, there's 3 nice one's. Keep your head high and ignore the meanies! We're all here for the same healthy reasons, so don't let anyone judge you!

    Feel free to add me as a friend if you're looking for more motivational, nice people! :smile:
  • I wanted to start a group once for a weight loss challenge and one person wrote the rudest thing on my post and I was sooooo disguseted and discouraged. ended up doing the challenge and it motivated me to lose a good amount of weight. ignore the rude ones and just keep on trugging! there are more nice ones than rude ones on here, hope you continue to meet nice ones.
  • BAMFMeredith
    BAMFMeredith Posts: 2,810 Member
    Oh this was about your exercising and period question. I don't agree with how people responded, I just think they were a little taken back by your question because...it's just your period. I think they couldn't understand what you think would possibly happen if you exercised on your period...because it's not like it will make you bleed more or rip your vagina wall or die or something. We've all had our periods for years now and are very knowledgable about our periods being women, so they replied in harsh ways. But to a lot of people, it was a really common sense question so I think that's why they replied the way they did.

    This. That is why I responded the way I did because I felt like it was a common sense thing....like if it hurts, don't do it, if you feel fine, do it. I suppose I'm a "MFP Meanie." I don't think I'm mean, just blunt and sarcastic. It's my personality. I'm not miserable with my life, I'm not a bully, I'm not trying to tear others down, or any of the other things many posters have said so far. Just like in regular life, there are people on here whose personalities don't mesh, no biggee.
  • Lize11e
    Lize11e Posts: 419
    My mother always told me there is no such thing as a stupid question. ASK. Always ask. To heck with the haters.
  • BlueInkDot
    BlueInkDot Posts: 702 Member
    I saw that post. It was about working out while on your period, right? I thought that was pretty rude of them too.

    Some of them were males which I thought was pretty inappropriate, and the ones who were females, I assume they don't experience the negative aspects of having a period. One of my friends has to miss work at least one day a month because she cramps so bad she can't get up and painkillers don't help. I know other people with ridiculously heavy flows and have to change their pad/tampon every 2-3 hours. Luckily my period isn't that cruel, but obviously there are ladies who have to deal with this kind of stuff, and it is wise to take that into account when deciding how you're going to make these choices.

    I'm sorry that you got that reaction. Those people were quite inconsiderate and didn't think things all the way through before responding.

    I didn't respond on that thread because I didn't like what people were saying so I'll respond here instead: If you're not feeling up to it, don't do it. If you feel okay, go ahead. But anything that puts pressure on your abdomen or your flow, I would avoid. So walking, jogging or swimming should be okay. Some light lifting should be fine, but riding a bike or intense yoga might not be a great idea. Do what you feel. *shrug* That's all I got. :P
  • Krizzle4Rizzle
    Krizzle4Rizzle Posts: 2,704 Member
    I read your original post OP and although I did not respond, I must confess I DID think you were joking.

    BUT to answer your original question:

    Yes it is okay to exercise on your period. If you are too tired to do so get some extra sleep and make it up the next day. For me, exercise does help with the cramps.
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    I agree with the above posters who have pointed out that only a few of the responses could be construed as anything but supportive and or helpful. In a public internet forum such as this to receive such overwhelmingly positive and supportive and helpful feedback is something to be celebrated.

    As for those posters who have a problem with the Chit-Chat, fun, and games forum, is there some issue with your browser that you are automatically taken to that forum against your will? If so, I would use the Technical Support/Need Help forum to register that issue and hopefully someone there would give you the help you need to avoid having those threads forcibly foisted upon you. I would hate to have be forced against my will to look at a section of a forum that I did not want to see. I hope that all those who are experienceing this problem can get the help they need to correct it.

    Personally, I spend more time there than anywhere else but then I am not forced to look at anything that's there. I am free to look or not look. Maybe it's bcause I use an older browser. Hey that might be the solution!
  • slynn28
    slynn28 Posts: 93
    Im normally not mean but when ppl write stupid stuff about weight loss and eating junk food as in mcdz..Thats kinda asking for it.. Also the ones who eat so less and then complain about their weight... I know its all in their head that they think they're really huge but thats the risk you take when you write a status.. ppl are too blunt.. I know i am.. but if they're making fun of you..delete their *kitten*..and keep it moving and continue reaching for your goals =)
  • Once you make the decision to do it for you, it's irrelevant what anyone else says
  • christenwypy
    christenwypy Posts: 335 Member
    Your question was valid. Some people have never had major issues in that arena and so they probably do not understand the possible complications.

    Don't let the negativity ruin what you are doing for yourself. It's all up to you. Stick with it!
  • surgesilk
    surgesilk Posts: 92
    There are no stupid questions...only stupid people.
  • jplord
    jplord Posts: 510 Member
    illigitimati non carborundum

    (bad latin for "Don't let the *kitten* wear you down.")
  • WingMan380
    WingMan380 Posts: 2,139 Member
    It is just life. I have had people be smart *kitten* to me and I have been a smart *kitten* myself.
  • kennethmgreen
    kennethmgreen Posts: 1,759 Member
    I agree with the above posters who have pointed out that only a few of the responses could be construed as anything but supportive and or helpful. In a public internet forum such as this to receive such overwhelmingly positive and supportive and helpful feedback is something to be celebrated.

    As for those posters who have a problem with the Chit-Chat, fun, and games forum, is there some issue with your browser that you are automatically taken to that forum against your will? If so, I would use the Technical Support/Need Help forum to register that issue and hopefully someone there would give you the help you need to avoid having those threads forcibly foisted upon you. I would hate to have be forced against my will to look at a section of a forum that I did not want to see. I hope that all those who are experienceing this problem can get the help they need to correct it.

    Personally, I spend more time there than anywhere else but then I am not forced to look at anything that's there. I am free to look or not look. Maybe it's bcause I use an older browser. Hey that might be the solution!
    I can confirm that Firefox versions 8,9, and 10 do not force me into any forum sections. This is on Windows XP. I'll check other browsers and Windows 7 later.
  • str8bowbabe
    str8bowbabe Posts: 712 Member
    Hey everyone. So I started a topic today by asking a simple question regarding exercise and people laughed at me. They were a few nicer ones who helped out alot but others kept quoting and laughing. I don't think any question is dumb when you are now starting out with healthy living....i think you should be asking questions everyday,

    Not everyone is encouraging. They would actually make you wanna leave MFP......

    There is no such thing as a dumb question unless it is unasked...
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