Jealousy/Relationships (Can anyone relate?)

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  • Usbornegal
    Usbornegal Posts: 601 Member
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    Sounds like your reaction does not fit the situation (you said he is a good guy). Perhaps you have been burned in the past by someone else and are having trust issues that come from inside you and not from him. Working with a therapist might help you put this into perspective. Good luck.
  • atiena23
    atiena23 Posts: 17
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    I just want to say that if your man hasnt showed you any reasons not to trust him then stop trippin. Ur going to let your jelousy ruin a good thing... just cuz u think all men want skinny girl or certain typoe of girl ur man wants u how ever big u are. stop trippin and just be grateful that u have a good man
  • dlyeates
    dlyeates Posts: 875 Member
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    I think it's pretty normal to worry about what your fiance may think or do because of what you've experienced in the past. But, like others have said, he chose you!!! The is a level of trust that has to be present for the relationship to work.

    I have my jealousy issues and insecurities too but I know how to manage them and they are getting fewer and farther between. Losing weight may help your confidence but won't make the jealousy go away.

    Since it sounds like it is causing a lot of problems in your relationship I would HIGHLY encourage you to seek counseling for yourself so that you can figure out why you are obsessing over these feelings and maybe where they come from so that you can work on you!!! A relationship needs trust, both ways, and since it's affecting your relationship you should get help so that it doesn't affect your marriage!!
  • Vegan_Runner
    Vegan_Runner Posts: 133 Member
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    You need counseling. Until you address your self esteem issues you will never be comfortable and you will end up driving him away. Something in your life made you feel less than you are and until you address it you will always blame men. They are not pigs, they are people. Some cheat and treat women badly just like some women cheat and treat men badly.
  • poncho33
    poncho33 Posts: 1,511
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    This is an easy fix, buy him a golf membership or a muscle car or something that will become his new obsession... then you need only be jealous of his golfing or whatever.
  • Marper8521
    Marper8521 Posts: 160
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    You really need to seek some professional help, if you think you wnat to keep him and some day marry!
  • reach53
    reach53 Posts: 46 Member
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    Your value as a human being does not depend on weight, nor does your fiancee love you more or less with some pound up or down.

    The one thing that really helped me was realizing that if my husband would want to cheat on me, there is nothing I could do about it. So I trust him because I choose to trust him. I also realized that his fidelity is not in my power - and if I can't control it, there is no need to worry about it. Not sure this makes any sense to you. But it did help me.
  • Abrowe313
    Abrowe313 Posts: 189 Member
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    to be brutally honest it doensnt sound like you are mature enough to be in a relationship. how can he help it if you think the women at his job or on tv are too hot for him to see? JEALOUSY WILL MAKE HIM LEAVE YOU!!! until you fix what is going on with you , you will destroy any relationship you are in with your jealousy. if you really love your fiance get yourself some counselling and find out why your so jealous, or i guarantee you he will get sick of always being acused of stuff and leave you. good luck
  • braves20111
    braves20111 Posts: 48 Member
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    This is an easy fix, buy him a golf membership or a muscle car or something that will become his new obsession... then you need only be jealous of his golfing or whatever.

    This may be the dumbest post I have ever seen. obviously you dont know men. We have, do, and always will think about sex and women. give us a car we will think about them while driving it. get us a golf membership and we will think about it there. Just because we think about , well lets just say alot it doesnt mean we act on it. I would work on the jealousy thing but dont worry most women are jealous and will always be jealous and many of them are happily married.
  • xosmsox
    xosmsox Posts: 119
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    Men are men and they're going to look. After all, who doesn't appreciate a nice form? Any woman who thinks for a minute that her man isn't looking or noticing other females is delusional! How do you think he noticed you? Sheesh!

    I had jealousy issues in the past, but find that as I've gotten older, more comfortable in my own skin and become more confident, that is no longer an issue. I know who I am and what I have to offer. My husband notices other women and sometimes I even point them out to him. I know he loves me and he's damned lucky to have me, but that doesn't mean he's oblivious to other women.

    I agree with others who say you need to take control of this problem and deal with it before it ruins your relationship.
    beautifully said

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