What is up with my husband???

laurenwarwick

It's just part of having other priorities. When my husband and I both started working, sex slowed down a lot. We were both exhausted and had a lot on our minds. When it's initiated, we always say "Man, we need to do that more often!" and then talk about why we don't, but it doesn't change. Also, before MFP, my husband told me that he never wanted to initiate it because he was embarrassed about his body. So, there could be a number of reasons, just talk to him!!

SunshineKisses_2012

Wife’s Journal

Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it. Conversation wasn’t flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn’t say much. I asked him what was wrong; He said, ‘Nothing.’ I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn’t upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it.

On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly, and kept driving. I can’t explain his behavior I don’t know why he didn’t say, ‘I love you, too.’ When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly, and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent. Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep – I cried. I don’t know what to do. I’m almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.

Husband's journal

Jeep won’t start…can’t figure out why.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! Thank you for this. This made me giggle.

devilwhiterose

My husband is a Marine Vet, just got out.

Does he have any training or a deployment coming up? Did he just get back? That plays a HUGE role in behavior.

Sarahbara76

I have lived with my guy for 9 years, I work longer hours then him and cook and clean and I work out more then he does. So he (even tho he is younger then me) doesn't have the energy I do so when I want it I ask for it. I also tell him "Make me want you"
and then all the sweet stuff comes ;-) good lucky pretty lady :drinker:

mmuzzatti

Thanks guys! How do I delete this now? I have plenty of good answers(:

Post something about an HCG diet and the forum will delete it for you....LOL!

Lauren8239

Why not give your husband a great massage? If he's stressed he will appreciate it even more. He will relax, you will know you are doing something kind for him, and who knows what it will lead to?

AlayshaJ

My husband does this too! Not all the time. Its an on and off thing. I think its as simple as they forget that girls like to be seduced too. They like to know that YOU want them and want to have sex with them. It feels nice to know that you are wanted. They just simply forget that it goes the other way around too.

_HeathBar_

Thanks guys! How do I delete this now? I have plenty of good answers(:

Post something about an HCG diet and the forum will delete it for you....LOL!

You could also mention Dr. Oz, ask if you should workout during your period or accuse us all of being meanies.

boggsmeister

Wife’s Journal

Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it. Conversation wasn’t flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn’t say much. I asked him what was wrong; He said, ‘Nothing.’ I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn’t upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it.

On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly, and kept driving. I can’t explain his behavior I don’t know why he didn’t say, ‘I love you, too.’ When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly, and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent. Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep – I cried. I don’t know what to do. I’m almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.

Husband's journal

Jeep won’t start…can’t figure out why.

I love that "story"

wolfehound22

I've never had a problem being up front with my wife when it comes to sex, so I am usually the one that tries to initate, problem with this is I also get shot down a lot. Now most of the tiems this doesn't bother me, but if its happening a lot, I'll stop doing it. Maybe I want her to persue me, maybe I just want to be an *kitten*, but I do it.OTher times I like being the one that is getting the attention, and getting asked, its a huge turn on for me. HAve you turned him down a lot before all this happened, it could be that he is paying you back.

Perhaps it is stress, has he been deployed recently, I'm sure he is under a lot of stress. IS he out of shape, I know when I was packing on the pounds I wasn't as interested.

Like many said though, sit him down and have a talk, more than just a few words, but a good talk.

antoniosmooth

Yes it is VERY EXTREMELY IMPORTANT to get dolled up once in awhile for your husband. Who better to get dolled up for than the person you intend to spend the rest of your life with. All of the things you did to catch his physical attention when you were dating you have to continue in your marriage... for the DURATION of your marriage. Obviously he must also keep up his wooing, romance, and charm while you were dating.

Considering the fact your husband is a Marine I'm sure he's dealing with a fair amount of stress, I know this first hand, I'm a former U.S. Army soldier. Try talking to him about it.

Have you turned him down for sex often in your relationship and possibly spoke with him wondering if all he cares about is sex? If there have been more than a few conversations about that in the past he could be "leaving you alone" on purpose. He may be doing this not out of spite, it could be because he loves you and wants you to be happy in your relationship by concentrating on the things HE believes matter to you most.

I'm sure he wants you and desires to be with you sexually. Next time he arrives home attempt to serve him dinner in revealing sexy lingerie, give him a powerful passionate kiss, the kind of kiss that sends a message, I bet his dinner will get ice cold before he gets a chance to take a bite. I guarantee if you meet him at home in various states of underwear, lingerie, naked, apron with nothing on underneath, and anything else you can be creative with, you'll have crazy passionate hot sex AT LEAST twice a week.

InnerFatGirl

Sadly, I can empathise.

goofyrick24

It's been about a month since he's said anything like, "Hey, you're looking good." or anything remotely relating to.. you know... ummmm.... sexual things. I'm ALWAYS the one who has to start it. Then after the ...sexual stuff.. he says to me, "I've been wanting to for days now." But he DOESN'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT!
So this week I haven't started anything just to see what he'd do, he doesn't even seem remotely interested..
Sure, I don't have a job so I don't feel the need to put make up on and get dolled up when no one is gonna see me. Does that really matter to guys?

I need input..

Given your age and location I'm willing to bet I know what your Husband does for a living... I lived in that nice lil town for a while during my 4 years in the corps... My advice would be to remember that Marines are trained to take orders... Tell him to do what you want.. I am willing to bet that if you throw him down on the bed one time and tell him what you want him to do to you...that you will probably need mace to get him off of you in the future...