Dudes, y would you not have RELATIONS with your SO

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  • lumina0o0
    lumina0o0 Posts: 498 Member
    see dudes arent really answering because they would ALWAYS want to have sex with their SO...the only dudes not answering are the ones to embarrased because ther junk doesnt work or they dotn want to come out of the closet or they dont want to say they're married to an ugo.
    not really...my husband has a lower sex drive then I do...he gets stressed and doesn't want to have sex among other reasons...

    Yep. It doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with them or that they're "married to an ugo" to use this charming phrase, just wired differently.

    Also, i think this thread is being somewhat insensitive to the men out there with low sex drives. Way to make them feel abnormal. There's nothing wrong with a low sex drive in men or women. It doesn't mean you love your SO any less, nor does it mean that there's any less intimacy in the relationship.
    yup!
  • j4nash
    j4nash Posts: 1,719 Member
    few reasons: not attracted to her, she's boring in bed or she's lazy
  • honestlysweet
    honestlysweet Posts: 221 Member
    I think when a woman is a b.i.t.c.h. and is overbearing and controlling and naggy, it can be a real turnoff. I'm female, but I asked my husband and he said this. (we don't have any problems in this area, he was just sayin)
  • mellisaweldon
    mellisaweldon Posts: 96
    6. Something good on the tele.

    You must be English? That is one of the reason I sometimes don't wanna either... That and I am addicted to MFP - he he he


    Come on, be inventive.
    You can still get your freak on and do those things hahaha.

    crazy woman..

    not crazy ive even done it to both pornos ( yes we can be watchers too), and regular movies, and such, you just gotta know who to make it work, its fun
  • robot_potato
    robot_potato Posts: 1,535 Member
    Hockey night in Canada. Actually, that's my reason. He'd ask for a BJ while watching his team win but unfortunately he's a Leafs fan.
  • MelMoly
    MelMoly Posts: 1,303 Member
    I like sex... And I'm kinda sexy...
  • ThePhoenixRose
    ThePhoenixRose Posts: 1,978 Member
    I like sex... And I'm kinda sexy...

    yes, yes you are.
  • futuremalestripper
    futuremalestripper Posts: 467 Member
    I think a lot of guys are disinterested if their SO is being annoying, critical, stressful, or dull in the bedroom. Any of those things and many others will make a lot of men avoid it because they rather do something relaxing. Note: there are also a lot of guys who don't care,who are hard up,and will take whatever they can get.
  • secretgirl4611
    secretgirl4611 Posts: 474 Member
    Um, guilty..I will never be a prude! if ne thing my guy is very prudish.
    But we have been together for 6yrs and he did cheat on me with his friends mom who is 15yrs older than him eww..
    But, we are doin better now and he def. just had to grow up some..
    However, he has like 0sex drive ever!!
    No he cant cheat were always together now.
    And I'm they type of chic, down to do ne thing at least once and if I liiike it then lol def. more than once.. My kinkiness goes a loooong way so I dont think he could get bored with me. so idk wats his real issue.. o well.... BUT I LOVE SEX!
  • secretgirl4611
    secretgirl4611 Posts: 474 Member
    I think a lot of guys are disinterested if their SO is being annoying, critical, stressful, or dull in the bedroom. Any of those things and many others will make a lot of men avoid it because they rather do something relaxing. Note: there are also a lot of guys who don't care,who are hard up,and will take whatever they can get.

    VERY GOOOOD POINT MADE! Yeaup guilty of being a B-I-T-C-H sumtimes to my guy. Only, bcuz he finally confessed to having cheated in the past. which then turned into "months of me B-I-T-C-Hing" at him and always bringing it up. Were doin much better now tho :) we have both made bad choices and yea o well, a relationship wont always b perfect...trust is commin back.
  • babyworms
    babyworms Posts: 1,304 Member
    few reasons: not attracted to her, she's boring in bed or she's lazy

    Or... Just not feeling it? Wired differently? Because now you're making it sound like men who aren't constantly after sex are abnormal, and women whose SO isn't interested in sex are all to blame!
  • iam_thatdude
    iam_thatdude Posts: 1,266 Member
    My friends SO never wants sex... maybe once every other week she can talk him into it. He's had testosterone levels checked and they're fine.

    I don't get it. I think that's effed up, personally.

    ur freind is ugly or ur friend's bf is gay
  • iam_thatdude
    iam_thatdude Posts: 1,266 Member
    Hockey night in Canada. Actually, that's my reason. He'd ask for a BJ while watching his team win but unfortunately he's a Leafs fan.

    why cant u do him during intermission?
  • babyworms
    babyworms Posts: 1,304 Member
    My friends SO never wants sex... maybe once every other week she can talk him into it. He's had testosterone levels checked and they're fine.

    I don't get it. I think that's effed up, personally.

    ur freind is ugly or ur friend's bf is gay

    How can you be like this? So ignorant and insulting? You don't know peoples' situations.
  • JSnover
    JSnover Posts: 51
    3 b/c of 2
    4 b/c i do to much 3
    5 b/c is sunday and footballs on
  • iam_thatdude
    iam_thatdude Posts: 1,266 Member
    My friends SO never wants sex... maybe once every other week she can talk him into it. He's had testosterone levels checked and they're fine.

    I don't get it. I think that's effed up, personally.

    ur freind is ugly or ur friend's bf is gay

    How can you be like this? So ignorant and insulting? You don't know peoples' situations.

    How can I ve like this? I tell it like it is and if women faced the truth they would be much better off in their relationships
  • babyworms
    babyworms Posts: 1,304 Member
    My friends SO never wants sex... maybe once every other week she can talk him into it. He's had testosterone levels checked and they're fine.

    I don't get it. I think that's effed up, personally.

    ur freind is ugly or ur friend's bf is gay

    How can you be like this? So ignorant and insulting? You don't know peoples' situations.

    How can I ve like this? I tell it like it is and if women faced the truth they would be much better off in their relationships

    You tell it how YOU see it. You have NO idea what goes on in other peoples' lives. How dare you suggest that the only reasons a guy might not want sex are because he's either gay or it's somehow something wrong with his SO. I can't believe i'm the only one standing up for this... If my husband didn't want sex, am i to assume it's because i'm fat, or because somehow else it's my fault, or he's cheating, or gay?? Seriously. Stupidest thing i've ever heard.

    Sure there are men out there who WOULD go off sex for those reasons, but they're not the only reasons, and who are you to suggest that there's something wrong with people who don't share your views?
  • secretgirl4611
    secretgirl4611 Posts: 474 Member
    3 b/c of 2
    4 b/c i do to much 3
    5 b/c is sunday and footballs on

    AT LEAST UR BEING HONEST!!! YES!! HAHAHA NIIIIIICE!! :D
    However, if u find her un-attractive and do too much of 3 u should just break it off with her... Or you will end up with a big mess on ur hands.. its easier that way..
  • jordalyssa94
    jordalyssa94 Posts: 45
    I dated a guy for about a year and we made out 4 times, never anything further, and plenty of opportunities.. what's his excuse ?
  • frugalmomsrock
    frugalmomsrock Posts: 1,123
    I dated a guy for about a year and we made out 4 times, never anything further, and plenty of opportunities.. what's his excuse ?

    Maybe he's just a gentleman (a virgin)?


    Another woman weighing in... my husband will sometimes blow it by acting like a *kitten*. I suppose it could go both ways...


    However, with 5 kids and a small house, opportunities are slim (obviously we've found the time a few times....)
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    My friends SO never wants sex... maybe once every other week she can talk him into it. He's had testosterone levels checked and they're fine.

    I don't get it. I think that's effed up, personally.

    ur freind is ugly or ur friend's bf is gay

    How can you be like this? So ignorant and insulting? You don't know peoples' situations.

    How can I ve like this? I tell it like it is and if women faced the truth they would be much better off in their relationships

    You tell it how YOU see it. You have NO idea what goes on in other peoples' lives. How dare you suggest that the only reasons a guy might not want sex are because he's either gay or it's somehow something wrong with his SO. I can't believe i'm the only one standing up for this... If my husband didn't want sex, am i to assume it's because i'm fat, or because somehow else it's my fault, or he's cheating, or gay?? Seriously. Stupidest thing i've ever heard.

    Sure there are men out there who WOULD go off sex for those reasons, but they're not the only reasons, and who are you to suggest that there's something wrong with people who don't share your views?

    While I mostly agree with you, who are you to suggest he's in the wrong?

    These are all our opinions...yours is different than his...why are you so pissed off about it? I mean...you called him ignorant lol. And again (based on his 'text speak') while I may or may not agree with even that...in the end, its still just my opinion, and nothing to get pissed about.

    As for me, the ONLY reasons for not having sex either when presented with the opportunity, or for not going out of my way to make my own opportunity, are as follows:

    1. Flat. Assed. Exhaustion.

    And I don't mean I'm just tired...I recently was up for 24hrs due to various reasons, then rode my motorcycle 157 miles in an hour and a half to see her, on very short notice (I wasn't going to go because I was so exhausted...but ended up going at the last minute) in order to straighten out an issue, and STILL performed 2hrs after I got there when said issue was straightened out.

    2. I'm pissed.

    And again, I don't just mean annoyed, or angry at one small thing or even angry at a bigger thing. Often those things can make sex more interesting lol. I mean...pissed about a problem that has been brought up for whatever reason, enough times that it should have been dealt with already...and is instead being ignored.

    And even in the event of those two circumstances...she's still got a shot if she gives it a bit of effort.
  • AABru
    AABru Posts: 610 Member
    6. Something good on the tele.
    do it while watching the program...
  • skpstone
    skpstone Posts: 26 Member
    Hockey night in Canada. Actually, that's my reason. He'd ask for a BJ while watching his team win but unfortunately he's a Leafs fan.

    why cant u do him during intermission?

    Intermissionary position? ;)
  • AABru
    AABru Posts: 610 Member
    There could be 4 of reasons:
    1. World Series
    2. Super Bowl
    3. NBA finals
    4. Dominican Winter Baseball League finals

    PS: have in mind these events are like 2 - 3 hours each day for like a week.
    Any other time if we are home and she wants sex, we are having sex. Because me particulary, I always want sex :D
    Again...sex during??these?? Jsut hope the team you root for doesn't lose...can cause some issues.
  • iam_thatdude
    iam_thatdude Posts: 1,266 Member
    My friends SO never wants sex... maybe once every other week she can talk him into it. He's had testosterone levels checked and they're fine.

    I don't get it. I think that's effed up, personally.

    ur freind is ugly or ur friend's bf is gay

    How can you be like this? So ignorant and insulting? You don't know peoples' situations.

    How can I ve like this? I tell it like it is and if women faced the truth they would be much better off in their relationships

    You tell it how YOU see it. You have NO idea what goes on in other peoples' lives. How dare you suggest that the only reasons a guy might not want sex are because he's either gay or it's somehow something wrong with his SO. I can't believe i'm the only one standing up for this... If my husband didn't want sex, am i to assume it's because i'm fat, or because somehow else it's my fault, or he's cheating, or gay?? Seriously. Stupidest thing i've ever heard.

    Sure there are men out there who WOULD go off sex for those reasons, but they're not the only reasons, and who are you to suggest that there's something wrong with people who don't share your views?

    If u husb doesnt want to have sex, my reasons apply, you can get mad, deny it , whatever, but I AM RIGHT. Dela with it, get on the treadmill, check to see if he dl'ds gay porn, whatever....its probably YOUR fault.
  • AABru
    AABru Posts: 610 Member
    3 b/c of 2
    4 b/c i do to much 3
    5 b/c is sunday and footballs on
    one word....halftime!
  • AABru
    AABru Posts: 610 Member
    My friends SO never wants sex... maybe once every other week she can talk him into it. He's had testosterone levels checked and they're fine.

    I don't get it. I think that's effed up, personally.

    ur freind is ugly or ur friend's bf is gay

    How can you be like this? So ignorant and insulting? You don't know peoples' situations.

    How can I ve like this? I tell it like it is and if women faced the truth they would be much better off in their relationships

    You tell it how YOU see it. You have NO idea what goes on in other peoples' lives. How dare you suggest that the only reasons a guy might not want sex are because he's either gay or it's somehow something wrong with his SO. I can't believe i'm the only one standing up for this... If my husband didn't want sex, am i to assume it's because i'm fat, or because somehow else it's my fault, or he's cheating, or gay?? Seriously. Stupidest thing i've ever heard.

    Sure there are men out there who WOULD go off sex for those reasons, but they're not the only reasons, and who are you to suggest that there's something wrong with people who don't share your views?

    If u husb doesnt want to have sex, my reasons apply, you can get mad, deny it , whatever, but I AM RIGHT. Dela with it, get on the treadmill, check to see if he dl'ds gay porn, whatever....its probably YOUR fault.
    Someone sounds angry that he has an ugly wife...at least you know she won't leave!:wink:
  • dpwellman
    dpwellman Posts: 3,271 Member
    I have never, to my knowledge, refused relations.

    I respond equally well to carrots or sticks. . .
  • iam_thatdude
    iam_thatdude Posts: 1,266 Member
    My friends SO never wants sex... maybe once every other week she can talk him into it. He's had testosterone levels checked and they're fine.

    I don't get it. I think that's effed up, personally.

    ur freind is ugly or ur friend's bf is gay

    How can you be like this? So ignorant and insulting? You don't know peoples' situations.

    How can I ve like this? I tell it like it is and if women faced the truth they would be much better off in their relationships

    You tell it how YOU see it. You have NO idea what goes on in other peoples' lives. How dare you suggest that the only reasons a guy might not want sex are because he's either gay or it's somehow something wrong with his SO. I can't believe i'm the only one standing up for this... If my husband didn't want sex, am i to assume it's because i'm fat, or because somehow else it's my fault, or he's cheating, or gay?? Seriously. Stupidest thing i've ever heard.

    Sure there are men out there who WOULD go off sex for those reasons, but they're not the only reasons, and who are you to suggest that there's something wrong with people who don't share your views?

    If u husb doesnt want to have sex, my reasons apply, you can get mad, deny it , whatever, but I AM RIGHT. Dela with it, get on the treadmill, check to see if he dl'ds gay porn, whatever....its probably YOUR fault.
    Someone sounds angry that he has an ugly wife...at least you know she won't leave!:wink:

    um i dont see how you can make that connection, but my wife is actually beautiful, as hard as it may be for you to beleive. THe truth hurts, I understand, but I am telling you all this to help you.
  • SammyKatt
    SammyKatt Posts: 363 Member
    My friends SO never wants sex... maybe once every other week she can talk him into it. He's had testosterone levels checked and they're fine.

    I don't get it. I think that's effed up, personally.

    ur freind is ugly or ur friend's bf is gay

    How can you be like this? So ignorant and insulting? You don't know peoples' situations.

    How can I ve like this? I tell it like it is and if women faced the truth they would be much better off in their relationships

    You tell it how YOU see it. You have NO idea what goes on in other peoples' lives. How dare you suggest that the only reasons a guy might not want sex are because he's either gay or it's somehow something wrong with his SO. I can't believe i'm the only one standing up for this... If my husband didn't want sex, am i to assume it's because i'm fat, or because somehow else it's my fault, or he's cheating, or gay?? Seriously. Stupidest thing i've ever heard.

    Sure there are men out there who WOULD go off sex for those reasons, but they're not the only reasons, and who are you to suggest that there's something wrong with people who don't share your views?

    If u husb doesnt want to have sex, my reasons apply, you can get mad, deny it , whatever, but I AM RIGHT. Dela with it, get on the treadmill, check to see if he dl'ds gay porn, whatever....its probably YOUR fault.


    wow - iam_that dude - Sounds like you have a wife that's 500 pounds and you are pissed cause no one else wants you! Or it could be that you think you are hot *kitten* but I can tell by your pic you you really aren't. Or maybe you just have an EXTREMELY tiny d*ck! Clearly you don't know jack *kitten*.
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