I am annoyed with the anti-lady-muscle posts.

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  • manic4titans
    manic4titans Posts: 1,214 Member
    Rae, I want to look like you! :love: In fact , I solicited you for ad vice! :bigsmile:
  • Beezil
    Beezil Posts: 1,677 Member
    Yay for being strong AND beautiful! :)
  • Awkward30
    Awkward30 Posts: 1,927 Member
    So stop it. Thanks.
    So because you have a preference for your body to be one way, no one is allowed to express their preference for something else?
    There's a difference between expressing a preference for something else like an adult, and saying "Eww, that's gross/ugly/ you looka lika man."

    Well, I can say, I have not seen posts that say that, but agree that is obnoxious if it's happening. The posts I've seen have been more to the, "Not the look I'm going for," type replies.

    In this thread, a woman was called masculine. How is that even close to okay? If someone called me masculine, they damn well had better have a banging body or I'm calling them soft. Since the only difference between what people call "masculine" and "feminine" is body fat %. Hell, soft would probably be the nicest thing I would say.

    You can say whatever you want about me, since I used the word masculine. I never said it was unattractive or manly. And I also made it very clear that my body by comparison is subpar. I have a preference about the look I'm going for...it's no the same as some people on here, and that's quite OK.

    Having a different goal is completely fine. Posting disparaging remarks on someone's physique is not. That's like if someone posted that they were at their goal and I said "while I respect the work it took to get there, my goal is to get leaner than you because your body fat percent looks bulky." it's a back handed compliment and just not okay.

    Also, there is no difference between saying someones muscles look masculine and they look masculine. Her muscles are her body, and I wish I were at a point where that were true of me... But alas, I've still got some body fat to get rid of :)
  • wildcata77
    wildcata77 Posts: 660
    Dude...I AM fat. That's why I am here on this site every day trying to regain my health. I don't post pictures of myself b/c I honestly have nothing to be proud of, and also because I'm at work and I can't.

    I apologize for the way that comment made some of you feel, but I know how I meant it, which was not malicious, and I can't take it back. I've also been instructed that it's pointless to defend it. So I won't.

    Everyone here is hotttt....
  • Krissy366
    Krissy366 Posts: 458 Member
    "Women are meant to be soft!"

    This one annoys me the most. Why can't we redefine what women are "meant" to look like? Why do we have to appear weak? We can go to college now, have jobs, pay bills, but we can't be strong? We can't open our own jars of pickles, or pick up 50lb 6 year olds, swing 20lb sledge hammers as a seismic source, load full coolers into trucks, or fill out the *kitten* in a pair of work trousers?

    Mmmmm pickles.

    I agree that women aren't meant to be anything. Women are meant to be whatever the hell they want to be. But I think it's ok for people to want different things. I think everyone needs to define it for themselves. And fine to say, "not what I'm going for" but I think both sides are guilty of telling others their way is better/right.
  • missashley884
    missashley884 Posts: 188 Member
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    uhm can i look like this please?!
  • hanna6774
    hanna6774 Posts: 225
    My boyfriend commented on my back muscles while we were busy in bed. While I'm proud in other situations, that one was a bit of a mood killer.

    LMAO!!!!!!!bahahahahahahahahahaha:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • Awkward30
    Awkward30 Posts: 1,927 Member
    "Women are meant to be soft!"

    This one annoys me the most. Why can't we redefine what women are "meant" to look like? Why do we have to appear weak? We can go to college now, have jobs, pay bills, but we can't be strong? We can't open our own jars of pickles, or pick up 50lb 6 year olds, swing 20lb sledge hammers as a seismic source, load full coolers into trucks, or fill out the *kitten* in a pair of work trousers?

    I have no clue why, but even after months of lifting I can not open a jar... What lifts can I do to be able to independently open a damn jar? Lol I feel ridiculous because half the time I closed it and I still can't open it!
  • Rae6503
    Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
    "Women are meant to be soft!"

    This one annoys me the most. Why can't we redefine what women are "meant" to look like? Why do we have to appear weak? We can go to college now, have jobs, pay bills, but we can't be strong? We can't open our own jars of pickles, or pick up 50lb 6 year olds, swing 20lb sledge hammers as a seismic source, load full coolers into trucks, or fill out the *kitten* in a pair of work trousers?

    Mmmmm pickles.

    I agree that women aren't meant to be anything. Women are meant to be whatever the hell they want to be. But I think it's ok for people to want different things. I think everyone needs to define it for themselves. And fine to say, "not what I'm going for" but I think both sides are guilty of telling others their way is better/right.

    Confession: I can dead lift my body weight. Bench press 100 pounds. It's still pretty hard to open the damn pickles.
  • wildcata77
    wildcata77 Posts: 660
    You can say whatever you want about me, since I used the word masculine. I never said it was unattractive or manly. And I also made it very clear that my body by comparison is subpar. I have a preference about the look I'm going for...it's no the same as some people on here, and that's quite OK.

    FYI: Masculine means 'manly', so yes, you called her manly.

    FYI: if you want to argue symantics, masculine actually means describing attributes that are typically attributed to males. Since muscles historically are attributed to being more prevalent in males, they are generally thought of as masculine. It doesn't mean they are ugly or ill-fitting on women. It simply means they are seen more regularly on males.
  • Bentley2718
    Bentley2718 Posts: 1,689 Member
    If you want "lady muscles" go ahead and work on them, that's your business. Personally I want bad-@$$, kick some manly-man's butt muscles, but that's just me.
  • EbbySoo
    EbbySoo Posts: 267 Member
    I go from a hard to soft look within days even at 16%-17% bf. People need to understand just how friggen hard it is for women to build muscle, get that cut and show it while manipulating water weight and even then it takes certain posing/flexing in the pictures shown in mags and figure competitions.

    All the people who are "anti muscle" will never understand how exhilarating it is to challenge yourself as a woman to push yourself out of your genetic set point, get stronger and be leaner but that truly is their choice and preference. This is NOT an easy task for most people who don't have the genes for it. It's a passion and a hobby of mine to do so, whether people think it's hot or not. I do it for me, because it's friggen fun. :) Reps for my heavy lifting determined ladies who don't get drowned in the haterade, you can't please them all. :D
  • almc170
    almc170 Posts: 1,093 Member
    "Women are meant to be soft!"

    This one annoys me the most. Why can't we redefine what women are "meant" to look like? Why do we have to appear weak? We can go to college now, have jobs, pay bills, but we can't be strong? We can't open our own jars of pickles, or pick up 50lb 6 year olds, swing 20lb sledge hammers as a seismic source, load full coolers into trucks, or fill out the *kitten* in a pair of work trousers?

    I know!! Are we supposed to uselessly sit around while our muscles atrophy as a natural consequence of age and inactivity, health be damned? Just to avoid appearing "too masculine." Eff that.
  • tkcasta
    tkcasta Posts: 405 Member
    "Women are meant to be soft!"

    This one annoys me the most. Why can't we redefine what women are "meant" to look like? Why do we have to appear weak? We can go to college now, have jobs, pay bills, but we can't be strong? We can't open our own jars of pickles, or pick up 50lb 6 year olds, swing 20lb sledge hammers as a seismic source, load full coolers into trucks, or fill out the *kitten* in a pair of work trousers?

    I have no clue why, but even after months of lifting I can not open a jar... What lifts can I do to be able to independently open a damn jar? Lol I feel ridiculous because half the time I closed it and I still can't open it!

    You'll have to get those rock climber finger/hand trainer things... :P
  • wildcata77
    wildcata77 Posts: 660
    "Women are meant to be soft!"

    This one annoys me the most. Why can't we redefine what women are "meant" to look like? Why do we have to appear weak? We can go to college now, have jobs, pay bills, but we can't be strong? We can't open our own jars of pickles, or pick up 50lb 6 year olds, swing 20lb sledge hammers as a seismic source, load full coolers into trucks, or fill out the *kitten* in a pair of work trousers?

    Mmmmm pickles.

    I agree that women aren't meant to be anything. Women are meant to be whatever the hell they want to be. But I think it's ok for people to want different things. I think everyone needs to define it for themselves. And fine to say, "not what I'm going for" but I think both sides are guilty of telling others their way is better/right.

    Confession: I can dead lift my body weight. Bench press 100 pounds. It's still pretty hard to open the damn pickles.

    Confession: I can't dead lift anything and have a hard time swimming a mile, but my husband still hands me jars to open when he can't get them, LOL.
  • mummma
    mummma Posts: 402 Member
    i did my homework and i had my first introduction to strength training today at the gym !!! i will get lady muscles !!!! and lose weight lol x

    you all look amazing !! x
  • Jade17694
    Jade17694 Posts: 584 Member
    Agreed.
  • sophjakesmom
    sophjakesmom Posts: 904 Member
    "Women are meant to be soft!"

    This one annoys me the most. Why can't we redefine what women are "meant" to look like? Why do we have to appear weak? We can go to college now, have jobs, pay bills, but we can't be strong? We can't open our own jars of pickles, or pick up 50lb 6 year olds, swing 20lb sledge hammers as a seismic source, load full coolers into trucks, or fill out the *kitten* in a pair of work trousers?

    I have no clue why, but even after months of lifting I can not open a jar... What lifts can I do to be able to independently open a damn jar? Lol I feel ridiculous because half the time I closed it and I still can't open it!

    You'll have to get those rock climber finger/hand trainer things... :P

    Or knock a dent into the cap with the dull side of a knife to break the air tight seal. Then you can open it right up. Did that when I had no muscles and no strength all the time. Things are much better now, but I can still open a jar of pickles. One of my strongest assets. :happy:
  • SwimKitty
    SwimKitty Posts: 122 Member
    some inspiration here - bump
  • hanna6774
    hanna6774 Posts: 225
    So I really, really, reaaallly like the pictures of these fit women.......but now I am confused.......do you think I'm bi? Oops, sorry, that was a different thread.......teeheehee
  • IronmanPanda
    IronmanPanda Posts: 2,083 Member
    I deadlift twice my body weight and I definitely don't have "boy muscles."

    Woman - picking up and putting down weights will not turn you into a SHE-MAN!

    To each her own...you are in much better health than me, and that's to be commended. But your muscles are pretty masculine. The high jumper pic, which fit and muscular, is more what I ascribe to be one day...still soft and womanly, but strong and fit.

    Wow this is one of the rudest thing I ever saw here.

    How about you post a pic of yourself so we can critic you?

    What is so rude? I commended her for the dedication she gives to her health and admitted that she is in far better health than I am.

    Dude, you said she looks masculine. That's pretty effing rude.

    Ok normally I don't give 2 sh!ts but the girls first comment was that muscles won't turn you into a she-man, so then the other poster comes back and gives her COMPLIMENTS but also states that her MUSCLES not HER look masculine. she is answering to the first quote and it's her opinion, whether you like it or not she is allowed to have it. AGAIN she said her MUSCLES were masculine not her face or anything else and again she was answering to the SHE-MAN comment. Sheesh and she even compliments her, how else would you have her say it? Probably not at all I am guessing............it's obvious she was dead in the water the second she touched the enter button.

    So by your rational if I said your fat makes you look like an elephant that would be ok? Its not your face that makes you look like one, but your fat that does it. So it must be ok right?
  • saintspoon
    saintspoon Posts: 242 Member
    So stop it. Thanks.

    Though I am not against lady-muscles ---

    WELCOME TO A PUBLIC FORUM!!
    People here on da internets have different opinions & not everybody finds it attractive. What a beautiful world we live in to have & share different ideas. Different strokes right?

    Can you really be upset at a man that doesn't find your ripped up back sexy? Sure.. you're here too :) Like it or not he's still entitled to his opinion!
  • jolarocknrolla
    jolarocknrolla Posts: 236 Member
    My boyfriend commented on my back muscles while we were busy in bed. While I'm proud in other situations, that one was a bit of a mood killer.

    see, that's your problem right there - you should have been on top. that way he'd have something different to comment about. No need to thank me for the advice :)
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    I said it once, so I'll say it again. This is my call to arms "I want YOU to up your game"

    challenge.jpg

    but if that's not enough, here are my manly muscles (the guys tremble at the site of me, I'm so bulky):

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  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    that's why I eats me spinach! :wink:
  • DixiedoesMFP
    DixiedoesMFP Posts: 935 Member
    I love my hot muscular friends!
  • Rae6503
    Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
    My boyfriend commented on my back muscles while we were busy in bed. While I'm proud in other situations, that one was a bit of a mood killer.

    see, that's your problem right there - you should have been on top. that way he'd have something different to comment about. No need to thank me for the advice :)

    What if you are on top and backwards?
  • BigRich822
    BigRich822 Posts: 681
    fitness1.jpg



    uhm can i look like this please?!


    Looking at that pic I thought it was you. You guys have the same hair. Oh yeah and she looks great. I love fit woman.
  • ZoeLifts
    ZoeLifts Posts: 10,347 Member
    "Women are meant to be soft!"

    This one annoys me the most. Why can't we redefine what women are "meant" to look like? Why do we have to appear weak? We can go to college now, have jobs, pay bills, but we can't be strong? We can't open our own jars of pickles, or pick up 50lb 6 year olds, swing 20lb sledge hammers as a seismic source, load full coolers into trucks, or fill out the *kitten* in a pair of work trousers?

    I have no clue why, but even after months of lifting I can not open a jar... What lifts can I do to be able to independently open a damn jar? Lol I feel ridiculous because half the time I closed it and I still can't open it!

    You'll have to get those rock climber finger/hand trainer things... :P

    Or knock a dent into the cap with the dull side of a knife to break the air tight seal. Then you can open it right up. Did that when I had no muscles and no strength all the time. Things are much better now, but I can still open a jar of pickles. One of my strongest assets. :happy:

    I also find that if I take that thing that pops a hole in the top of the can (I don't know what it's called, LOL, but it usually also has a bottle opener on the other end) and nudge it under the rim of the lid in a couple of places where it pulls away from the jar a tiny bit, that gives some air inside to allow you to open it.
  • CanuckTracy
    CanuckTracy Posts: 245 Member
    soccer moms with muscles are so much hotter to me these days then skinny college girls. all thanks to this site.
    . Love this! ;)

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