Dating Websites....Your thoughts please.

Ephena
Ephena Posts: 610 Member
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So I'm a single mom (2 kids) and I think I'm ready to finally hit the dating scene outside my favorite bar :laugh: . Not looking for anything serious at this time but I want to get out and meet new people. Any thoughts and recommendations are appreciated on what websites you've used, heard about, will never use again, etc....


Thanks :drinker:
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  • onedayillbeamilf
    onedayillbeamilf Posts: 966 Member
    I have never met more hypersensitive, pansy *kitten* guys in my life. I would rather stay single for the rest of my life than to meet another guy online.
  • katemme
    katemme Posts: 191
    I think they are funny and kinda sad. Especially the one that just came out that is exclusively for farmers.
  • AmberJslimsAWAY
    AmberJslimsAWAY Posts: 2,339 Member
    when I used one, my main rule was if they mentioned sex before the second date, they were nixed. Also if they didn't have kids ans said "I love kids!" uhhh no.

    edit: you have to sift through to losers to find your diamond...
  • kneeki
    kneeki Posts: 347 Member
    I've used OkCupid and POF in the recent past. And if I could make one simple request: Do not upload angle pics! I've fallen victim to it three times now, and it's incredibly frustrating. Be honest and open and really specify exactly what you're looking for to get the best results.
  • Tropical_Turtle
    Tropical_Turtle Posts: 2,236 Member
    I have met some nice guys and I have met some jerks on POF. I am actually currently seeing a guy I met on POF since Jan. So I can say I have had some good luck. I was on match.com - eh wasnt feeling that, and just too broke to pay for eharmony.

    You just have to take the good with the bad. If there are things you are interested in and not just dating, try meetup.com. I have heard some good things about that.

    Good luck to you! :flowerforyou:
  • terra32903
    terra32903 Posts: 185 Member
    I had great success after many failures on POF. Going away to celebrate our two year anniversary next month :-) Good luck to you!
  • MandaJean83
    MandaJean83 Posts: 675 Member
    I found my current bf on OkCupid, and he turned out to be the love of my life :heart:

    I've had tons of mixed experiences on Match, OkCupid, and PoF....my rules were always to speak with them for a week or more before meeting in person (through text AND phone), always meet in daylight in a public place, and to let a friend or family member know where I would be (as well as some info about the guy I was meeting...phone number etc) just in case...

    Although most people I met didn't lead to long term relationships, a few of them did, and plenty of others resulted in good friendships! :) I say give it a try...
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    I tried OKC and POF.

    Never met anybody off of OKC.. went on tons of dates via POF and met my boyfriend of 2 weeks on there.
    :blushing:
  • AndiJoy812
    AndiJoy812 Posts: 236
    My husband and I are an eHarmony couple. We will be married 8 years this summer, so I am all for it! Worked for us, and my sister met her husband on a Christian single's site. Good luck!
  • Jessintherain
    Jessintherain Posts: 67 Member
    I say try it. From what I understand they can be kind of expensive, but it might be worth it to be able to fit it into your schedule. Also, you can learn a little about the other person before you meet them, and you don't have to waste a bunch of time finding out all those little details that might not come out right at the start in a normal dating situation.

    Good Luck!
  • Connie_Cupcake
    Connie_Cupcake Posts: 62
    I met my husband on Okcupid.com. I really liked online dating, especially with kids. Good luck!!
  • melbaby925
    melbaby925 Posts: 613
    I tried POF, and had a great time with it. One of my good (male) friends met his fiancee there as well. Another friend did OK Cupid and she liked that as well.

    It's going to depend on what you're looking for...and I agree with what one of the other posters said - you gotta weed through the guys who are just looking for a quick hook up, or a couch to crash on.
  • Corryn78
    Corryn78 Posts: 215
    I used eHarmony when I had a discount code, and found it to be a huge amount of time invested just to get to a stage where you could talk to a person. I don't believe their system is all that accurate in determining chemistry and potential dating success.

    On the other hand, I have used Plenty of Fish, which is a free website. Not only is it entertaining, but you get to talk with a lot more people and decide who you feel compatible with. Yes...lots of guys were duds and not a match, but I met a guy I love a year ago and we're going strong. Just don't be too nervous or make a big deal about first dates...they aren't the end of the world (although my nerves would have said otherwise) lol.
  • HURLEYX3RO
    HURLEYX3RO Posts: 269
    Personally I think dating sites are a sham.

    I met my husband online, but not on those.

    I was playing a game online and it has the chat box for your opponents.

    He was cool after playing several games we added eachother on AIM (yeah old school-ish)

    then myspace, then started talking on the phone, then video chats, and then met up in person after 2 years

    and it just took off from there. Although we were complete opposites it just meshed well. :)

    Everytime we see the eharmony commercials we laugh and say ya know if we had been on there we probably wouldnt have found eachother. lol.

    So online dating yes... using a dating site no.
  • Connie_Cupcake
    Connie_Cupcake Posts: 62
    I say try it. From what I understand they can be kind of expensive

    There are plenty of free websites, I DO NOT recommend eharmony. Try it out for free at plenty of fish or okcupid
  • jmatney79
    jmatney79 Posts: 80
    I have been married for 12 years, so meeting online was rare when I was dating. I heard a lot about POF, and my sister met her husband on hotornot.com.
  • MsMuniz
    MsMuniz Posts: 399 Member
    Haven't used any personally but definitely would if I was still single. My girlfriend has had a lot of luck with PoF.
  • meerkat70
    meerkat70 Posts: 4,605 Member
    I've used OkCupid and POF in the recent past. And if I could make one simple request: Do not upload angle pics! I've fallen victim to it three times now, and it's incredibly frustrating. Be honest and open and really specify exactly what you're looking for to get the best results.

    How does one 'fall victim' to photos?
  • igora_soma
    igora_soma Posts: 486
    I met my boyfriend on OKcupid and we've been together for a year and a half. I of course had some bad experiences, but sometimes it goes well! :) Just be honest and know what you're looking for!

    Most of all - have fun!!
  • LaurenAOK
    LaurenAOK Posts: 2,475 Member
    I met my boyfriend on OkCupid. Actually a lot of my friends are on there, and a couple of them have had success as well. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and I couldn't be happier.

    I think the key is to be picky who you respond to... I would get at least 5 messages from guys every single day and didn't respond to most. This way I only ended up ever talking to/meeting people who were actually good for me. One of my friends, on the other hand, talks to a ton of different people and goes out with a lot of them and it never works out. I think it's just like dating in real life; if you're not picky and just settle for anyone who contacts you won't have much luck.

    I had an overall good experience in my time on OkCupid (talked to a few different guys and briefly dated one other before my current boyfriend). It is definitely a good way to meet new people. Good luck!
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    WTF is an angle pic?


    And I would steer clear of eHarmony if you don't want serious. If you want to browse the mall of available men that just want a good time, Match is for you.

    I don't advocate any sites you don't pay for, personally...
  • Maude_Lewbowski
    Maude_Lewbowski Posts: 395 Member
    So I'm a single mom (2 kids) and I think I'm ready to finally hit the dating scene outside my favorite bar :laugh: . Not looking for anything serious at this time but I want to get out and meet new people. Any thoughts and recommendations are appreciated on what websites you've used, heard about, will never use again, etc....


    Thanks :drinker:

    Be very careful and make sure your mental space is in check, it's worse than hitting the bars IMHO. I'd never do it again. Maybe a matchmaker or trying to get back out there the old fashioned way, it still works! Or, pick up a hobby or sport, volunteer...plenty of stuff to do.
  • pineapple1989
    pineapple1989 Posts: 195 Member
    I met my current boyfriend on a site called Mingleville, it is not a dating website as such, more social networking, however it does seem to be orientated towards dating, you can give somebody a "positive" or a "negative" rating based on their profile. I would recommend it over dating websites as its a bit more relaxed. Me and my boyfriend live together now and are very happy together :smile: Though there is a certain stigma attached to meeting people online, but dont listen to anybody else, I think its a brilliant way to meet somebody, if you dont like the look of somebody you can just block them, a lot harder to fend them off in a bar!
  • carberrie
    carberrie Posts: 12 Member
    I met my soon-to-be husband on eHarmony. I lucked out because he's one in a million. I think you get out of it what you put into it but I think it can be a great conduit for meeting people when the bar scene has dried up. I also think different sites have different clientele so choose the type of person you're looking for by the "reputation" of the site. I was very happy with my eHarmony experience. :)
  • jamie1888
    jamie1888 Posts: 1,704 Member
    My hubby & I met online! Can't remember if it was Match.com or Americansingles. It's no different than meeting them anywhere else. Lots of frogs to find your Prince! :tongue: Do some good screening and communicating before meeting. And always meet in a public place; don't let them pick you up from your house! Keep an open mind.. and although there are things in a partner that are important to you, don't get bogged down with a checklist and insisting someone meet ALL this unimportant criteria. Go in open minded, you may fall for someone you don't expect to! I did! My hubby is 6.5 yrs younger than me. My search criteria had him ruled out because of his age. But, he ended up finding me and we hit it off!
  • BamaMomma
    BamaMomma Posts: 53
    I believe on-line dating just increases your chances of a date...it's not fair to assume that ALL people you meet on-line are *kitten*. I used plentyoffish.com and had many, many dates...then I met my now future ex-husband. We were married 4 years. It didn't matter how or where we met, however. What matters is the effort that was put into the relationship and obviously it wasn't enough. I do suggest you be careful, don't let your guard down too fast, but HAVE SOME FUN! :)
  • runningfromzombies
    runningfromzombies Posts: 386 Member
    The boyfriend and I are an OkCupid couple of almost four months now. (: We talked exclusively via e-mail for two or three weeks because I was out of the city, then another week or so via text/phone before we finally went on our first date.

    I'd say give it a shot. I used both PlentyOfFish and OkCupid and I met some nice guys and some douche bags--it's just a matter of patience.
  • CMmrsfloyd
    CMmrsfloyd Posts: 2,380 Member
    I met my husband on matchmaker.com - I think it's now match.com. Had to weed through some real weirdos before I found him, but it took less than a month to find my keeper (I had a 1-month free trial and I cancelled my membership after I found him LOL). We dated for almost 4 years and have now been married for over 5 years and have 2 kids and are planning a third. :-)

    Make sure the first time you meet it's in a public place, for safety.

    If you are religious/spiritual, there are some sites out there aimed at coupling like-believing people.
  • loseweightjames
    loseweightjames Posts: 360 Member
    I'm on POF and I've had a lot of luck with it

    POF is nice because it's free for everyone so more people use it than any of the other sites because really, how horrible of a date do you have to be to have to pay a dating website? :noway:
  • katyejean
    katyejean Posts: 233 Member
    I met my almost-3-years boyfriend on a local dating site. I don't know about the paid ones, but a couple of my friends found their significant-others on plentyoffish.com I suppose it's worth checking out since it's a free site! Good luck!

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