Dating Websites....Your thoughts please.
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I met my husband on OKCupid. I also met 3 guys that I dated who are now very good friends on there as well. Sure, there's some nutjobs out there, but if you exercise reasonable caution, it's great. It's like window shopping for men.
My advice is just to be fun, yourself, and don't bother presenting pics and other things that aren't you. You're there to find someone who will appreciate you for you not someone you pretend to be.0 -
If you arent looking for anything serious go with a free site, like Plenty of Fish0
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I am a single mom as well......
I have been in a relationship for 4 years with a man I met through match.com so it worked for me. I also tried POF for found that the guys there were mostly looking to hook up. Whatever site you may go with you need to remember to be SAFE. For instance, I never let anyone pick me up at my house or drop me off....I always met them somewhere. I fiqured that I didn't want them knowing where my kids were until I had gone out with them for awhile. Also, no one was allowed to meet my kids until we were sort of "steady".....I did n't want a parade of guys for my kids to deal with.0 -
There are good eggs and bad eggs in life, and on dating websites...
*Have the sites been used to troll for nothing other than a one night stand? Of course.
*Have people found themselves victims of identity theft, fraud, or worse - physical danger because of someone they met online? Sure have.
*Have people met their soul mate and fallen in love? Absolutely.
*Have people made some good friends? Sure, I know I have
*Do people misrepresent themselves and lie? All the time /shrug happens.
Be aware, Don't be naive, Be safe, Don't get your expectations up too much before you meet someone in person, blah blah blah.... And go get your groove thang shakin.0 -
LOL....guys do it too though. The balding hair, the beer belly, the haircut and /or facial hair.....I remember this one guy who in all his pics was "normal" clean cut, shaven...a regular guy, right? Then he shows up and it's a cross between mountain man and homeless guy! LOL
It's all about truth in advertising....for both sexes!0 -
Haha! I believe it!LOL....guys do it too though. The balding hair, the beer belly, the haircut and /or facial hair.....I remember this one guy who in all his pics was "normal" clean cut, shaven...a regular guy, right? Then he shows up and it's a cross between mountain man and homeless guy! LOL
It's all about truth in advertising....for both sexes!0 -
I don't mean to come off shallow or anything of that nature by my "angle" post earlier. But angle pics are essentially using camera angles to get the "perfect" shot, and only using them on your profile. I get that everyone is trying to 'sell themselves' but it's just a shocker when the person you meet is NOT what they have been advertising to you over the last few weeks.
Right with you brother. I'm not shallow at all, and was 40 pounds heavier when I was online-dating so I had no right to be, but I definitely would show up to a restuaurant or lounge and be like WTF that isn't youuuuu.
Kneeki's point is that you shouldn't try to bait and switch a guy - post pictures of what you REALLY look like and what you wear normally. Most girls post pictures of themselves in bridesmaid gear - full makeup, up-do, tons of jewelry, fake tan, etc. If you don't dress like that all the time - you're misleading people for the sake of getting free drinks or a meal.
Sure personality is great, but it's deceiving to mislead people into thinking you look a certain way when you don't.0 -
I met my husband on a friend/dating site in 2006 and after we got married it disappeared. My friend uses OKCupid but why don't you try match.com or plentyoffish?0
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I met my wife on Lavalife. I hear plenty of fish is pretty good too.0
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I have met some nice guys and I have met some jerks on POF. I am actually currently seeing a guy I met on POF since Jan. So I can say I have had some good luck. I was on match.com - eh wasnt feeling that, and just too broke to pay for eharmony.
You just have to take the good with the bad. If there are things you are interested in and not just dating, try meetup.com. I have heard some good things about that.
Good luck to you! :flowerforyou:
POF was a collosal fail for me. Actually, all dating sites are. I like the one on one IRL much better.0 -
If it's free (like plenty of fish)... well, you get what you pay for, in my experience.
I have had good luck with Chemistry.com. They do personality matching similar to e-Harmony, but it seems to attract people who are a little less hyper about getting married right away (comparing to some of my friends' experiences).
I met my boyfriend there, have been dating him for 2+ years, and he's the first person I've ever had a long relationship with that I didn't fight or argue with. So for me, it seems like the personality matching thing worked. Or maybe it was just luck. Whatever.
Good luck to you!
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OkCupid, Are you interested? on Facebook. Best of all, figure out what your passions are and go where the men who share them are. Love Smart by Dr. Phil is good in spite of the author.
As a single mom and a lesbian, I use these sites to keep in practice dating and talking to adults. As a Life Coach, I teach people how to remove obstacles from their success, how to slip into the rhythm of their highest potential. If you message me, I can give you some pointers and share some mistakes I've made from which I am learning. I practice what I preach. LOL0 -
I don't mean to come off shallow or anything of that nature by my "angle" post earlier. But angle pics are essentially using camera angles to get the "perfect" shot, and only using them on your profile. I get that everyone is trying to 'sell themselves' but it's just a shocker when the person you meet is NOT what they have been advertising to you over the last few weeks.
Right with you brother. I'm not shallow at all, and was 40 pounds heavier when I was online-dating so I had no right to be, but I definitely would show up to a restuaurant or lounge and be like WTF that isn't youuuuu.
Kneeki's point is that you shouldn't try to bait and switch a guy - post pictures of what you REALLY look like and what you wear normally. Most girls post pictures of themselves in bridesmaid gear - full makeup, up-do, tons of jewelry, fake tan, etc. If you don't dress like that all the time - you're misleading people for the sake of getting free drinks or a meal.
Sure personality is great, but it's deceiving to mislead people into thinking you look a certain way when you don't.
This might be some of the best advice I got, so thanks guys. I was prepped for the safety warnings and the fact that I will have to "sort" thru a lot of people, but that's kinda my point. I'm not looking for Mr. Right and Forever however I'm also not looking for a string of one nighters. Just a new way to meet new and interesting people and see where it goes from there. Please no gender bashing, I'm not interested in that. *BTW the guys I quoted...I don't think they were being shallow or bashing anybody, they were just being honest about their experiences.0 -
When I was a Single Dad I decided to try the online thing.
I met my wife on "I need a new girlfriend dot com" we've been together over ten years now and I have never been happier in a relationship. I say go for it but be carefull who you meet in real life.
Gonna second the warning. The only person I knew personally that did dating sites was a family friend. She would meet these men and marry them, moving her and her child to another state, and months later would be back because they got divorced and he took all of her money. Some people are genuine but others are not and even in person it's hard to tell. And when you have a kid you have to be that much more careful who you interact with.0 -
Why use a dating site when MFP has some great talent here-Ty:flowerforyou:0
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And... is anyone on this thread old enough to remember "Love Connection"?
I LOVED that show when I was in middle school. I was married when online dating started to become a "norm" but when I got divorced I knew I'd have to try it b/c it seemed like a real life version of the show to me ;-p0 -
One of my professors wrote an article about how dating sites rip you off! At first they make you take personality tests or whatever, then they claim they found "a few matches for you" when really there are like 40 people that you could be matched with. Each month they slowly add a few more people to your list. I heard Okcupid is good though, so I would try that!!0
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I met my husband on match.com. Before him, I met another great guy on there that I dated for a while too, but we ended up being too different.
It is what you make of it - be honest and up front in your profile (with both the text and pictures) and chat for a while before meeting. Always drive your own car to the first few meetings and meet in a public place, and let a friend know that you are going (I also asked a friend to call mid way through the date in case I didn't feel safe or needed to get out). I would also probably follow those same exact rules for some guy I only met briefly in person who then asked for my number.
I really enjoyed online dating - it was nice because you knew all the people you were talking to (in theory) were single - as opposed to chatting up someone for a while at a bar only to find out they have a gf when you ask for their number. I also think it's a good way to mention that you have kids right up front vs. trying to find a way to work it in.0 -
I signed up with match and haven't had any luck yet ... in fact the first guy I gave my number to sent me a picture text of him ... holding himself ..... Time will tell if anything positive comes out of this website.0
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So I'm a single mom (2 kids) and I think I'm ready to finally hit the dating scene outside my favorite bar :laugh: . Not looking for anything serious at this time but I want to get out and meet new people. Any thoughts and recommendations are appreciated on what websites you've used, heard about, will never use again, etc....
Thanks :drinker:
Join some sort of activity group. Volunteer work, sports team, park restoration, book club...whatever perks your interest. You'll meet people there, and you'll already have something in common. With dating sites people can tend to describe themselves based on what they think will attract the most replies.0 -
I know this is old school but i meant my Ex-Husband on myspace (that was a like 5-6 years ago when myspace was off the hook) now i am currently on POF i guess its ok..and i am in the process of signing up for okcupid......but same as you i am looking for male friends 2...i have 1 daughter and i am kinda lonely in my life right now...so maybe down the line if i meet some1 nice and friendly then me and that person will take it from there..good luck 2 you :flowerforyou:0
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I said Sorry please forgive me, i thought you were listed on Intimate encounter section:flowerforyou:I signed up with match and haven't had any luck yet ... in fact the first guy I gave my number to sent me a picture text of him ... holding himself ..... Time will tell if anything positive comes out of this website.0 -
Try "meet ups"-- such as hikes, groups, etc...a much more casual environment that allows you to mingle and get to know others without the pressure of a date. www.meetup.com0
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And... is anyone on this thread old enough to remember "Love Connection"?
I LOVED that show when I was in middle school. I was married when online dating started to become a "norm" but when I got divorced I knew I'd have to try it b/c it seemed like a real life version of the show to me ;-p
My dad & I used to watch the Dating Game back in the day...hilarious!0 -
I read what all have written so far. I had alot of pansie's as well, and met some real butt's. In the same token I've met some guys that we didn't work out as dating material but we have become good friends and we talk regularly. Just checking on each other. Then I finally met the man I've been with for sometime now. He is awesome, he's a gentleman, he treats me like a queen. There are some good guys still out there, just got to kiss alot of toads before finding your Prince. Just be careful in what you put on your profile and always but always meet in a public place that is busy. And never let them go get you a drink and bring to you. Never drink from a drink that you left on the table to go to the bathroom.
Sorry former cop...0 -
If you just want to hook up go on POF put your status to LOOKING FOR "LONG TERM" you'll get lots of hits no problem, tell them WOLFNSHEEPSCLOTHING sent you-Ty0
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I said Sorry please forgive me, i thought you were listed on Intimate encounter section:flowerforyou:I signed up with match and haven't had any luck yet ... in fact the first guy I gave my number to sent me a picture text of him ... holding himself ..... Time will tell if anything positive comes out of this website.
HAHAHAHA!!!!!:laugh:0 -
I said Sorry please forgive me, i thought you were listed on Intimate encounter section:flowerforyou:I signed up with match and haven't had any luck yet ... in fact the first guy I gave my number to sent me a picture text of him ... holding himself ..... Time will tell if anything positive comes out of this website.
I forgive you Ty ..... I just like to see in person first :ohwell:0 -
If you just want to hook up go on POF put your status to LOOKING FOR "LONG TERM" you'll get lots of hits no problem, tell them WOLFNSHEEPSCLOTHING sent you-Ty
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If you just want to hook up go on POF put your status to LOOKING FOR "LONG TERM" you'll get lots of hits no problem, tell them WOLFNSHEEPSCLOTHING sent you-Ty
Love it!!! ROTFL
Im joining just to put that in the profile!! Thanks Ty
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