Ladies: Guys shorter then you?!

alegnafireproof

I think you should go for it. You never know unless you try.

crisanderson27

I'm 5' exactly and I have never met a guy shorter than me!!!

If I did it just wouldn't work out:/ Who would get the **** out of the cabinets that I can't reach??

*raises hand*

It was a question. I don't understand where the preference comes from, so I'm assuming it's got to do with a sexist idea of men being dominant or protective. Calm down.

I've been waiting for this one to pop up. No one is allowed to compare men and women in any way, shape, or form anymore, without it being sexist and in some way an indicator of some conspiracy in which men hold women down for their own benifit.


MOST women like the feeling of being protected and sheltered that a taller boyfriend gives (don't worry, the fact that you're setting women's rights back 50yrs is ok with us men). MOST men like the feeling of protecting and sheltering they get when their girlfriend is shorter (I guess this makes us sexist pigs...sadly).

Which is it... there's no such thing as the patriarchy, or you're okay with the women's movement being set back?

Confusing.

/sigh...that's all I have to say to this.

I'm not going to get into a feminist debate on this thread...but the fact of the matter is that if a woman wants me to put my big, strong...manly arms (notice how that phrase has never been said 'womanly arms'?? Something to think about there yeah?) around her, or for me to be taller than she is to make her feel protected, she's not setting women's rights back a day, much less 50yrs. Additionally, if I WANT to put my arms around her, or stand 5" taller than she is to make her feel protected, I'm not some kind of sexist *kitten*.

THAT was the purpose of my post. Oddly enough, very few people outside of feminists have a CLUE what 'patriarchy' is in the context you're using it. And nearly EVERYONE else understood my post, precisely how I intended.

Something to think about there...too.

shorter than me = not my preference & to whoever says 'i wouldn't date girls that are shallow like you' - that's just ridiculous. everyone has preferences ... everyone! even on a subconscious level. anyways, the reason i wouldn't is because i am 5'3 - it's hard to find guys shorter than that. i will admit my head placed in a mans chest with his arms wrapped around me does make me feel safe and protected - secure in the world - does it set women's rights back 50 years? yah a bit extreme with that comment buddy. feeling that comfort is important to a lot of women i know - so who cares if she finds it in a tall man? other people find it in how built a guy is or how attractive he is - guys find it in women that can cook or dress a certain way. but i do agree - if a man came into my life who made me feel that way and was my size or smaller i would give it a go for sure.

I think you misunderstood, I agree with you completely. A womans head on my chest in that context...is a pretty important thing for me. Does this mean she's less than I am? No. Does it mean she's not my equal? Umm...no. Does it mean that when I have a hell of a headache, that laying on the couch with my head in her lap while she strokes my temple makes me less than she is?

Umm...HELL no.

There was a pretty substantial amount of sarcasm in my post that may or may not have translated properly it seems...and it was directed at that initial, unwarranted feminist remark about height preferances being sexist.

waaaayyyy to go. Lol.

I'm surprised no one has reported it and got it deleted yet. Seems every time I piss off a feminazi...my posts get removed.

And I mean that in the kindest possible manner.

Luvmesumkenny

Just make him wear wedges on his shoes like Tom Cruise LOL!!!!

I'm physically attracted to tall guys. I ALWAYS end up with short guys. I'm 5'8 and my guy is 5'6.5
Only way you can really see a big difference is when I wear heels. If he makes you happy and makes you smile.. Height is just a number

SouthernSweetie74

hold on to a good man!! tha is all i can say about that best wishes!!

THIS

Easier for that guy to wear boots than to find true love

EXACTLY

Jaidee1979

I'm 5 feet 6 and I've dated shorter men before. Personally, I feel that if you like the guy then height shouldn't matter. I think what many people are worried about is how the public would perceive them...but who cares what others think.

vmclach

I'm 5'9". Tall guys are hot, but sometimes you gotta compromise it. Blahh. Depressing.

Sunscreenandsweat

He seems awesome it's not his fault he's short. I would be upset if the only thing a guy could come up with for a reason not to date me was my height even if they like me in every other way.

applebug20

My husband is 1.25 inches shorter than me (I'm 5'8.5, he's 5'7.25) When I meet him I wasn't attracted to him at all physically, but I thought he was the nicest guy I had ever met. We were great friends, until one day I woke up and realized he was the one for me - and the fact that he was 1.25 inches shorter than me - didn't matter - because that's not how he treats me! How he treats me is in his heart and mind. If you're not going to give a guy a chance over 1 inch (or any inches for that matter) than you don't deserve him. I call my husband my hobbit friend Samwise Gamgee - one of the nicest hobbits out there. Don't judge him by his height (is he healthy? Does he eat well, exercise, etc?) judge him by his heart first. If that's not right, then it won't be a matter of his height.

xxxMakeItCountxxx

As much as I WISH I could say I never let a man's height matter, that just wouldn't be true. It's not that it was anything I was consciously aware of, but I just always found myself attracted to a man taller then myself. Of course that might have something to do with the fact that I am 5' 9", which is considered tall for a female. But I do like what "rushtogether" posted about not punishing the guy for something he has no control over. Realistically there are so many other far more important things to consider, like what type of a person he is, how he treats you, how you feel about him, etc. Not to mention...how would we feel if he held something like our height, against us. If all the rest is there...I wouldn't let height become an issue...but that's just my thought.

crisanderson27

My husband is 1.25 inches shorter than me (I'm 5'8.5, he's 5'7.25) When I meet him I wasn't attracted to him at all physically, but I thought he was the nicest guy I had ever met. We were great friends, until one day I woke up and realized he was the one for me - and the fact that he was 1.25 inches shorter than me - didn't matter - because that's not how he treats me! How he treats me is in his heart and mind. If you're not going to give a guy a chance over 1 inch (or any inches for that matter) than you don't deserve him. I call my husband my hobbit friend Samwise Gamgee - one of the nicest hobbits out there. Don't judge him by his height (is he healthy? Does he eat well, exercise, etc?) judge him by his heart first. If that's not right, then it won't be a matter of his height.

You're probably very sweet, and I'm sure he loves you very much (and you him...).

But if I was married and my wife called me a hobit...we'd be having issues lol.

Crying_In_Color

Nope. I like them tall. Real tall. The guy I am with now is 5' 9 that is a decent height but I am usually more attracked to 6 feet and up.

Tet005

Not at all being short is an awful thing.. but being at least 6" is greatly appreciated!

AlbaAngel25

i've dated a few short guys back in the day.... Im 5'6. They weren't shorter than me but they weren't 6ft either. My hubby is 6'4 and I loveee it

douladanielle34

My boyfriend is a bit shorter than I am, but he loves it when I wear heels, the higher the better.... so he can snuggle with "the girls".

foxy2311

Nope....I once dated someone who was just barely taller than me at 5'5" and that was wierd!!! I prefer taller....a majority of the men I've dated were over 6 foot.

DalexD

Wouldn't bother me at all, if I'm attracted to his personality it's easy for me to see over (sorry for the pun!) the height difference.

ckmama

I am 5'11. My husband is 5'9. I almost didn't date him due to his height. I would have regretted it. I barely notice the difference anymore and neither does anyone close to us.

Ditto for me my husband is 5'5 and I am 5'6 ish maybe taller and I only dated tall men until I met him. I wouldn't notice our height difference as much if I also wasn't so much "larger" than him weight wise.

I would never rule out or pick a guy on height again. But like someone else said if the attraction isn't there it isn't there.

moseler

My husband is about an inch shorter than me... I am 5'9 and although he says he's 5'9 too... that is only true when he has his boots on. My cousin is 5'8 and his wife is 6'0... they, like me, are VERY happy. If this guy is everything you say he is, what's an inch or two got to do with it? If he's great, he's great. By the way, my husband is an Air Force guy too... I have never met more responsible, caring, respectable and trustworthy men in my life. GO FOR IT!

sma83

I prefer taller men, but would never allow height to stop me from forming a relationship with someone. Maybe the initial attraction wouldn't be there with someone who was shorter than me, but Im aaaallll about personality. If he is nice, sweet, funny, kind, has a decent career etc I would care way more about that than his height. I think you should give this a guy a shot. He may be the best thing to happen to you. :flowerforyou:

mistikal13

Honestly I would not be able to get over it if a guy was shorter than me.

mackdaddymisa

im 5'3 (almost always the shortest round haha) and my gf is 5'8 and half...all the girls iv dated have been atleast 4 inches taller (i dnt know guess its the way things r) personally i hv no issue being shorter (heck all sports i play r for taller ppl lol) but i know that my gf deep inside dsnt allow herself to to show that she'd like it if i was taller...its easy now since we live in separate countries...but she clearly says she refuses to wear heels and that makes me sad cz i want her to be herself and wear wat she likes regardless of wat ppl may say...maybe with time she'll realize that i rly dnt care that she's taller and even less bout wat ppl would say...im short and very proud of myself

give the little man a chance to prove how much he'll be worth in your heart ^^

2143661

I refuse!! I like them 6ft or taller. The taller the better! I like to climb trees!

mbajrami

I'm 5'8, my boyfriend is 5'6...no biggie to me.

Lize11e

I've never been able to date guys shorter than me. There are some that are cute but I'm just not sexually attracted to shorter men. You really need to be at least an inch or two taller than me, the more the merrier. It may sound shallow but there's really nothing I can do about it. Short is just a turn off. But that's me and my personal feelings.

Emancipated_Tai

Personally, I don't date guys shorter than 6ft.. I'm 5ft myself.

lniffa

No can do. I am 5'11 and wear 4 to 6 inch heels and proud of being a tall woman. I have gone on dates with shorter guys and the first thing that's mentioned is my height and why I still wear heels. Among my friends I am the tallest and when we go out, I stand out and I like it. My bf is 6'2 and I am still taller when I wear my heels, but he loves it!

lorihalsted

I am 5'2" and my husband is 5'0"....We can sleep on our king size bed either direction!!!!!

ashhhhole

I have friends in exactly the same boat as you. She accepted that she has given up her heals and he puts up with a little teasing, but for the most part no one will ever notice an inch's difference between you. If he were 6 inches shorter, or even 3 shorter I would understand the problem, but its only 1. Also, if an inch were really a deal breaker to you then you wouldn't be asking for advice here.. you would have said no already. I think you like him but you're worried about what other people will think. Don't. Live your life for you.

Fallen_Angel226

I'm personally more atrracted to tall guys......my ex was 6'5 (I'm 5'9) But I honestly don't think height should have anything to do with it. Unless it's extremely drastic....there's this guy I know that likes me and he's only 5'. I think that's pushing it haha

Elizabeth_C34

1" difference isn't that big of a deal if you really like him.

I've dated a few men who were my height (5'8") or an inch shorter with no issues.