ignorance about obesity on MFP

Babygirl928

Over the last week there have been several posts about how disgusting, lazy, undetermined, undedicated and basically good for nothing obese people are. First let me say that not all of us have gotten this way due to eating unhealthy. Second of all you are posting on MFP and all of us reading your posts about how horrible we are, are on MFP because we have decided to make a difference in our health and weight. So I ask you, if you are so upset and disgusted by obese people not taking care of themselves, why don’t you post it on your facebook where your friends can see how worried you are about their obesity. MFP is a place of encouragement and support, whether its toning and maintain, losing 5 pounds or 100 pounds. Don’t you think self esteem issues had a lot to do with some of us getting this unhealthy? I am 108 pounds overweight and have been on track since the middle of January, down 16 pounds and over 5 inches and get enough dirty looks and am hard enough on myself without coming into the forums reading how YOU feel about ME or any other people struggling with weight when you havent walked a DAY in MY FAT SHOES!!!

Go by the old saying…if you have nothing nice to say….don’t say anything at all

LOLTrish

Over the last week there have been several posts about how disgusting, lazy, undetermined, undedicated and basically good for nothing obese people are. First let me say that not all of us have gotten this way due to eating unhealthy. Second of all you are posting on MFP and all of us reading your posts about how horrible we are, are on MFP because we have decided to make a difference in our health and weight. So I ask you, if you are so upset and disgusted by obese people not taking care of themselves, why don’t you post it on your facebook where your friends can see how worried you are about their obesity. MFP is a place of encouragement and support, whether its toning and maintain, losing 5 pounds or 100 pounds. Don’t you think self esteem issues had a lot to do with some of us getting this unhealthy? I am 108 pounds overweight and have been on track since the middle of January, down 16 pounds and over 5 inches and get enough dirty looks and am hard enough on myself without coming into the forums reading how YOU feel about ME or any other people struggling with weight when you havent walked a DAY in MY FAT SHOES!!!

Go by the old saying…if you have nothing nice to say….don’t say anything at all

Very nicely put! I TOTALLY agree with you. Thank you for posting!

Mgregory723

OMG!! I am so in agreement with you on this. The sad thing about people saying stuff about obese people is more than likely they have a relative or know someone close to them who is obese or overweight. Would they say that to their face, probably not. If you don't know their story, then why say anything? It is rude, disrespectful, and just mean.

CarriLu123

Very well put Babygirl. The fact is everyone has their own struggles. Although I will say MFP seems to be equal opportunity when it comes to bashing people. Fat, skinny, muscular it doesn't matter someone will say something negative about each. This should be a place of support not criticism and rudeness.

Babygirl928

Thank you guys. There have just been one too many and I felt it was time for a rebuttle lol

kymillion

I actually got told that my 41 pound weight loss wasn't Kosher to post in success because I had been pregnant. ... I gained 67 pounds, and I needed to lose it.. the same way.. I understand that some people are here that have serious issues, health and whathave you but the only thing I saw was discrimination on me from people who said it didn't count.. or that I needed to recalculate how much I really lost ...it pissed me off.

Babygirl928

Tell it loud.... Agree. This is such a great resource with so many like minded pople- peole wanting to improve thier lives through eating healthy and excercising. I applaud anyone on here who commits-- be they underweight, the right weight, overwieght ot just want to change thier body composition.

thank you and thats the point I am trying to make. they say their friends do the same thing and its disgusting....well go tell your friend what you wrote and let me know how that works out for you

Babygirl928

I actually got told that my 41 pound weight loss wasn't Kosher to post in success because I had been pregnant. ... I gained 67 pounds, and I needed to lose it.. the same way.. I understand that some people are here that have serious issues, health and whathave you but the only thing I saw was discrimination on me from people who said it didn't count.. or that I needed to recalculate how much I really lost ...it pissed me off.

that is ridiculous. CONGRATUALTIONS!!! 41 pounds is FANTABULOUS!! haters gonna hate...you keep on keepin on girl!

kymillion

thanks

runfatmanrun

While I agree for the most part we as humans are flawed to the point we will judge a book by its cover. An obese person is judged to be lazy, slovenly, or whatever you want to call it. Because no one really knows the issue until you talk to that person. A skinny person is not stereotyped, because you judge the outside, until you find out that they have an eating disorder then you feel sorry for them. I can understand getting defensive against people voicing their stereotype of obese people, especially those who may have recently been obese themselves, but they are human and are free to think how they want. Just my opinion.

Lauren8239

Me thinks perhaps many on here have low self esteem and that is why they bash others.....for whatever reason presents itself.
Good post. :flowerforyou:

SlimSammy2012

<~~~No Argument here! The majority of us here are here for the help and support. Ignorance is just.... IGNORANT!

SlimSammy2012

Some people are just MEAN! Plain and simple. It's a form of bullying. They lack so much self esteem that they strike out and easy victims....they are nothing but "Internet Thugs!"

fatgirlslove

THAT'S RIGHT!

Oliviamarie05

I do believe it can become really negative on here. If you would like some support, friend me! I'm in my own fat shoes and understand the struggle. I started this journey with over 100 pounds to lose, down to 70. I've just stalled.

Thanks for saying something about this issue!

SofaKingRad

There are some pretty arrogant people here who treat people who aren't as fit as them as inferior to them. There are also people who are out of shape who rip on the ones who are in shape. It's a big clusterf*ck of name calling. Welcome to MFP!

FrostyFour

I think a huge reason I got so big is living with my emotionally and sexually abusive mother for 21 years. Now I am happily married, have 2 kids, that ***** is in the dust and I'm taking pride in myself and I'm losing the weight!

cior

Well said!

OceanAvenue85

Over the last week there have been several posts about how disgusting, lazy, undetermined, undedicated and basically good for nothing obese people are. First let me say that not all of us have gotten this way due to eating unhealthy. Second of all you are posting on MFP and all of us reading your posts about how horrible we are, are on MFP because we have decided to make a difference in our health and weight. So I ask you, if you are so upset and disgusted by obese people not taking care of themselves, why don’t you post it on your facebook where your friends can see how worried you are about their obesity. MFP is a place of encouragement and support, whether its toning and maintain, losing 5 pounds or 100 pounds. Don’t you think self esteem issues had a lot to do with some of us getting this unhealthy? I am 108 pounds overweight and have been on track since the middle of January, down 16 pounds and over 5 inches and get enough dirty looks and am hard enough on myself without coming into the forums reading how YOU feel about ME or any other people struggling with weight when you havent walked a DAY in MY FAT SHOES!!!

Go by the old saying…if you have nothing nice to say….don’t say anything at all

I've been fortunate enough to not encounter anything negative like this on here but if I did I'd be upset as well and infact it does upset me hearing that this kinda junk is posted on here... I am 89lbs. overweight so we're not that far off from each other. If anyone had the odacity to tell me that I'm lazy or make any comments along those lines I'd be fuming. My weight gain has been due to two fairly severe medical issues I've been dealing with for the past 11 years so not everyone who is obese is lazy by any stretch. Well said.

SlimSammy2012

Just remember....There are more of us then them!!! :bigsmile:

DaBossLady24

You are awesome and this was JUST what needed to be said. :flowerforyou:

dancecentral

I used to be one of them haters until I became obese myself. aint karma a B.... and i wasn't posting it on here

auticus

Obesity today is the equivalent of leprosy in the middle ages. It is a huge social stigma.

The difference being that most people can change being obese. In the middle ages, they couldn't choose being a non-leper if they had it.

imnotyourpal

It's a social microcosm. As lame as it may be.

I agree, though....just because people ARE shallow, doesn't mean they should project it on a site like this. They can be as shallow and catty as they'd like in their own heads, but I don't think anyone really wants to hear the ugliness they're spewing. Unless someone is here for drama....in which case I'm sure they love it.

Nopedotjpeg

I am morbidly obese. I have yet to see any threads attacking me because of this. I'm not sure where this thread is coming from really.

mrmanmeat

Over the last week there have been several posts about how disgusting, lazy, undetermined, undedicated and basically good for nothing obese people are. First let me say that not all of us have gotten this way due to eating unhealthy. Second of all you are posting on MFP and all of us reading your posts about how horrible we are, are on MFP because we have decided to make a difference in our health and weight. So I ask you, if you are so upset and disgusted by obese people not taking care of themselves, why don’t you post it on your facebook where your friends can see how worried you are about their obesity. MFP is a place of encouragement and support, whether its toning and maintain, losing 5 pounds or 100 pounds. Don’t you think self esteem issues had a lot to do with some of us getting this unhealthy? I am 108 pounds overweight and have been on track since the middle of January, down 16 pounds and over 5 inches and get enough dirty looks and am hard enough on myself without coming into the forums reading how YOU feel about ME or any other people struggling with weight when you havent walked a DAY in MY FAT SHOES!!!

Go by the old saying…if you have nothing nice to say….don’t say anything at all

Ignorance?

People get obese bc of themselves, that's all. Anything is fixable. Including being overweight.

Oliviamarie05

Over the last week there have been several posts about how disgusting, lazy, undetermined, undedicated and basically good for nothing obese people are. First let me say that not all of us have gotten this way due to eating unhealthy. Second of all you are posting on MFP and all of us reading your posts about how horrible we are, are on MFP because we have decided to make a difference in our health and weight. So I ask you, if you are so upset and disgusted by obese people not taking care of themselves, why don’t you post it on your facebook where your friends can see how worried you are about their obesity. MFP is a place of encouragement and support, whether its toning and maintain, losing 5 pounds or 100 pounds. Don’t you think self esteem issues had a lot to do with some of us getting this unhealthy? I am 108 pounds overweight and have been on track since the middle of January, down 16 pounds and over 5 inches and get enough dirty looks and am hard enough on myself without coming into the forums reading how YOU feel about ME or any other people struggling with weight when you havent walked a DAY in MY FAT SHOES!!!

Go by the old saying…if you have nothing nice to say….don’t say anything at all

Ignorance?

People get obese bc of themselves, that's all. Anything is fixable. Including being overweight.

That's the point. People are here to fix it. We don't need to be s*it on while we do it.

EmCarroll1990

Honestly, this made me laugh. I have yet to see ANY posts bashing any fat people, and I'm on here at least 8 hours a day.

stunningalmond

Aw, it makes me sad when people act rude like that. I've seen some posts where people make fun of others for asking questions about eating back your calories, eating every couple of hours... etc.. there's so many different opinions and I feel bad for these people who get flack for asking something. And people picking on others for spelling mistakes and saying that they're not allowed to post this here... etc... comeon! We all have to start somewhere, right? Everyone's a newbie once!! People come here for support and I completely agree with you that if someone can't find something nice to say, just keep your opinion to yourself. I'm sorry for those of you that have experienced the negativity.

shel1103

Well said! My self esteem is low enough, and I don't need someone saying negative things on a place that is supposed to be supportive of getting and staying healthy. Haters SUCK!!!!

Friend me!! I'm looking for positive support from friends. : )

BradyMommy

Just remember....There are more of us then them!!! :bigsmile:

And we have the weight advantage! :laugh: