Why do men not see clutter?

foxy2311
foxy2311 Posts: 179
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I wake up this morning to my living room having basically been treated as if it is my fiance's closet! a pair of shorts in the middle of the floor, two pairs of shoes my the couch, a belt on the floor and a hats, etc. Drive me nuts. Why can't guys pick up after themselves! It doesn't take that much energy to put things away!

I hate picking up after a grown man.
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  • ket_the_jet
    ket_the_jet Posts: 1,257 Member
    Anecdotal evidence countered with anecdotal evidence: I am meticulously organized.
    -wtk
  • MrsR0SE
    MrsR0SE Posts: 313 Member
    Wish my husband didn't notice clutter!
  • Lauren8239
    Lauren8239 Posts: 1,039 Member
    Very very very short attention span. All males seem to drop those clothes and seconds later they are blind to it and have their attention on something else. Keep a garbage bag in the room....and every time he drops his stuff put it in the bag.....eventually he will wonder where his stuff went......and you can point at the bag, lol.
  • the_journeyman
    the_journeyman Posts: 1,877 Member
    It's not confined to guys. Women are equally as likely to create clutter. Maybe ask him to put stuff away if it bothers you/

    JM
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    Your fiancé is a man. There are different ones.
  • doorki
    doorki Posts: 2,576 Member
    guys see the clutter but do not think it is a big deal. Cleaning is done when you reach a critical mass OR people are coming over. Never at any other time.
  • MotorCityFemmeFatale
    MotorCityFemmeFatale Posts: 222 Member
    The one's I have known don't see it unless it's not their things (the children's for instance). However, that's one area in a relationship I give some slack on.
  • creature275
    creature275 Posts: 348 Member
    cant condemn all men to that, ive known women who were just complete animals and lived like pigs and I myself cant even sleep if I know I have dirty dishes in my sink not sure why I just love everything to be very organized and clean
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    my wife and I are similar in that we are both kind of messy. It makes it easier that we both don't care so much, but admittedly, our house is a little more cluttered.
  • myfitnessnmhoy
    myfitnessnmhoy Posts: 2,105 Member
    It's our optic nerve. It doesn't differentiate shapes as well, so clutter becomes part of the floor. It also explains why we don't notice hair changes, new clothes, or other things. Our brains adapt quickly to the status quo, so quickly that we sometimes miss the transition.

    This is also why we find you beautiful first thing in the morning when your hair is mussed up and you describe yourself as "a wreck". It's just the status quo.

    :laugh:
  • foxy2311
    foxy2311 Posts: 179
    Very very very short attention span. All males seem to drop those clothes and seconds later they are blind to it and have their attention on something else. Keep a garbage bag in the room....and every time he drops his stuff put it in the bag.....eventually he will wonder where his stuff went......and you can point at the bag, lol.

    lol! I should try this!
  • foxy2311
    foxy2311 Posts: 179
    It's not confined to guys. Women are equally as likely to create clutter. Maybe ask him to put stuff away if it bothers you/

    JM
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    I have, believe me.
  • livinginwoods
    livinginwoods Posts: 562 Member
    I like clutter. MY husband hates it.
  • foxy2311
    foxy2311 Posts: 179
    The one's I have known don't see it unless it's not their things (the children's for instance). However, that's one area in a relationship I give some slack on.

    I usually don't say anything for a couple times, but then I'll ask for a couple times....To be fair he mowed the lawn last evening and was watching the Nuggets game when I went to bed and I guess jus stripped on his way to the shower before coming to bed. lol. I just picked stuff up and put it in our spare room (his closet, lol)
  • TundraTed
    TundraTed Posts: 254 Member
    Not always Men..... I am the clean freak, my wife is the clutter queen at our house.
  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    Patiently waiting for the retaliatory "Why do women not...." thread.

    Because one bad generalization based on gender deserves another.
  • dls06
    dls06 Posts: 6,774 Member
    Oh they see it but if they admit it they would have to clean it up.
  • Aperture_Science
    Aperture_Science Posts: 840 Member
    I've got a wife and two young girls. I love them to bits but I see clutter everywhere and hardly any of it is mine. I get home from work and basically pick crap up and put it away until it's time for the girls to go to bed.
  • foxy2311
    foxy2311 Posts: 179
    Patiently waiting for the retaliatory "Why do women not...." thread.

    Because one bad generalization based on gender deserves another.

    I understand not all men....my ex brother in law was the most anal clean freak I'd ever known.

    I just can't stand clutter
  • foxy2311
    foxy2311 Posts: 179
    Oh they see it but if the admit it they would have to clean it up.

    lol
  • Reedern
    Reedern Posts: 525 Member
    Very very very short attention span. All males seem to drop those clothes and seconds later they are blind to it and have their attention on something else. Keep a garbage bag in the room....and every time he drops his stuff put it in the bag.....eventually he will wonder where his stuff went......and you can point at the bag, lol.

    This... just be sure you are never guilty of the same thing or he may do it back to you!
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    Because we're busy killing dinosaurs and hunting and gathering.
  • foxy2311
    foxy2311 Posts: 179
    Another thing that he does....his clothes on the floor RIGHT next to the laundry basket! Up against the darn thing even, But not inside? I should probably be happy that it's not the living room floor :)

    Dont' get me wrong. I love my guy to pieces, guess I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this am :)
  • Allie_71
    Allie_71 Posts: 1,063 Member
    Based on the nature of this thread, I have to conclude that I have a penis.

    I suck at housekeeping :/
  • felice03
    felice03 Posts: 2,644 Member
    Based on the nature of this thread, I have to conclude that I have a penis.

    I suck at housekeeping :/

    me too!
  • doorki
    doorki Posts: 2,576 Member
    Another thing that he does....his clothes on the floor RIGHT next to the laundry basket! Up against the darn thing even, But not inside? I should probably be happy that it's not the living room floor :)

    Dont' get me wrong. I love my guy to pieces, guess I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this am :)

    That just means he sucks at Laundry Basketball.
  • CountryBoy65
    CountryBoy65 Posts: 908 Member
    Based on the nature of this thread, I have to conclude that I have a penis.

    I suck at housekeeping :/

    me too!

    Jodi, I am quite sure that the only penis that you may have is probably in a jar of formaldehyde on your dresser....:tongue:
  • foxy2311
    foxy2311 Posts: 179
    Another thing that he does....his clothes on the floor RIGHT next to the laundry basket! Up against the darn thing even, But not inside? I should probably be happy that it's not the living room floor :)

    Dont' get me wrong. I love my guy to pieces, guess I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this am :)

    That just means he sucks at Laundry Basketball.

    So true :laugh:
  • jaxbeck
    jaxbeck Posts: 537 Member
    I have asked my husband this, he can walk through the house and not notice one thing, I will walk thru and notice at least 10. He says he really just doesn't think about it. I'm thinking because his mom didn't really keep a clean house so clutter is normal to him :grumble:
  • foxy2311
    foxy2311 Posts: 179
    I have asked my husband this, he can walk through the house and not notice one thing, I will walk thru and notice at least 10. He says he really just doesn't think about it. I'm thinking because his mom didn't really keep a clean house so clutter is normal to him :grumble:

    This could be true of my guy. He grew up in a house with 3 siblings and many foster children coming through over the years. Although his mom was a most fabulous mom and a stay at home parent, I'm sure it must've been difficult to keep a clutter free home. I know his sister's house is the same way

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