Guys, should girls hit on you first?

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  • slay0r
    slay0r Posts: 669 Member
    I love it, it means they've got confidence. The girl I saw most recently although I knew her hadn't spoken to me for ages, we'd passed each other loads and never stopped to talk to each other so when she saw me again at a function she made a point of making eye contact and coming straight across to chat. I love that she took the initiative and I'd actively persue a woman that did that now in preference of someone I'd had to chase.

    I am literally the blindest person when it comes to these things though, I've apparently not given the time of day to a few girls I've chatted to in bars even though I thought they weren't interested, my friends told me the complete opposite from their viewpoint. I've then hit on someone and thought it's gone well and they've been like..she wanted to get the hell out of there.

    Meh it's a rollercoaster!
  • michelleranee
    michelleranee Posts: 28 Member
    Love it!
  • michelleranee
    michelleranee Posts: 28 Member
    "Hitting on" isn't necessary... just open your mouth and say something.... anything. I'll take it from there. :flowerforyou:


    Love it!
  • jon40084
    jon40084 Posts: 175 Member
    Yes please!
  • phinphanbill26
    phinphanbill26 Posts: 574 Member
    When it comes to women, men, are kinda stupid. So hitting on us first would be greatly appreciated ;)
  • gpstrucker
    gpstrucker Posts: 930 Member
    When it comes to women, men, are kinda stupid. So hitting on us first would be greatly appreciated ;)

    That's what I was trying to say. Nicely done and right to the point :laugh:
  • 10acity
    10acity Posts: 798 Member
    Seriously right?

    I often wonder how many wonderful women I may have actually (and mistakenly) passed by...completely assuming they had no interest whatsoever.

    Well hi there, tiger.. :blushing:

    (<--- totally fantastic, btw)
  • hcoburn37
    hcoburn37 Posts: 442 Member
    I have never hit on a guy first. But I am thinking I may start now .... :wink:
  • lacroyx
    lacroyx Posts: 5,754 Member
    I am a pretty shy, quiet, and slightly awkward guy so a girl would probably need to take the initiative with me (and even then I may react awkwardly).

    yep me to a T. the 2 girlfriends I've had in the past came from them initating things.
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    Ok ladies, if you start hitting on guys, just realize that there is an element of rejection that happens. It's not always a yes.

    But, on a side note, I've always thought that it must be really tortuous sitting around waiting for some guy to make a move, when in your head your thinking, "damn it dude, get on it.". Lol. It just seems so lame. If you want it, at least drop a hint. But, when you drop the hint, make sure it's like pretty obvious. Some guys are really really clueless about this stuff and won't pick up on your subtle cues. Sometimes you just have to do something more obvious.
  • coachblt
    coachblt Posts: 1,090
    Doesn't matter if they do or don't...I won't recognize the sign(s) anyway.
  • 10acity
    10acity Posts: 798 Member
    Ok ladies, if you start hitting on guys, just realize that there is an element of rejection that happens. It's not always a yes.

    But, on a side note, I've always thought that it must be really tortuous sitting around waiting for some guy to make a move, when in your head your thinking, "damn it dude, get on it.". Lol. It just seems so lame. If you want it, at least drop a hint. But, when you drop the hint, make sure it's like pretty obvious. Some guys are really really clueless about this stuff and won't pick up on your subtle cues. Sometimes you just have to do something more obvious.

    Hi there.. :wink:

    I'm a hint-dropper. And if it seems like he's picking up on it, the hints will get more obvious. What do you consider "a hint" ?
  • whitetiger011680
    whitetiger011680 Posts: 218 Member
    I don't mind hitting on a guy first.. I mind when I'm turned down or brushed off. :P

    This ^^
  • ImKindOfABigDeal40
    ImKindOfABigDeal40 Posts: 807 Member
    I don't mind hitting on a guy first.. I mind when I'm turned down or brushed off. :P


    This is what we guys have to deal with all the time. There is always a fear of rejection. If you wonder why guys aren't hitting on you, this is it.
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    Ok ladies, if you start hitting on guys, just realize that there is an element of rejection that happens. It's not always a yes.

    But, on a side note, I've always thought that it must be really tortuous sitting around waiting for some guy to make a move, when in your head your thinking, "damn it dude, get on it.". Lol. It just seems so lame. If you want it, at least drop a hint. But, when you drop the hint, make sure it's like pretty obvious. Some guys are really really clueless about this stuff and won't pick up on your subtle cues. Sometimes you just have to do something more obvious.

    Hi there.. :wink:

    I'm a hint-dropper. And if it seems like he's picking up on it, the hints will get more obvious. What do you consider "a hint" ?

    With me, you have to be obvious. If we happen to both be single at someone's house for a super bowl party and you keep asking me if I want anything, and bringing me sandwiches and beers, and asking if theres anything else I need, I would get that.

    A subtle touch will always wake me up.

    Showing a lot of interest in something inane I'm talking about is a pretty good clue too. Lol.

    I don't knwomthough, unless it's blatant, I don't usually pick up on it. I'm just lame with that.
  • dreamshadows
    dreamshadows Posts: 734 Member
    Currently it's the only way she'll get to meet me.
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    I don't mind hitting on a guy first.. I mind when I'm turned down or brushed off. :P


    This is what we guys have to deal with all the time. There is always a fear of rejection. If you wonder why guys aren't hitting on you, this is it.

    This is a pretty big part of it. Be nice.
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    Of course women should hit on guys first.

    The real question is: will they? I'm guessing most of the time they won't.

    You know what that tells me? That despite some men whining that women have all the power in the dating world that is simply not true. The person who has power is the one who ultimately takes action.

    That by and large tends to be a small percentage of men. I think it really is true that a minority of men tend to hold the attention of the majority of women. Then you have to ask yourself which group you want to be part of....

    The fear of rejection is a lot worse than rejection itself. Once you have handle rejection well on an emotional and mental level then world is your oyster. Risk v reward.
  • Bronx_Montgomery
    Bronx_Montgomery Posts: 2,284 Member
    OMG YES YES YES YES YES YES. I hate when woman wait. If you want something then go get it. Plus a woman who hits on a guy first shows so much confidence.......or shows she has had a lot to drink. Either way I approve!!
  • sisierra
    sisierra Posts: 659 Member
    "Hitting on" isn't necessary... just open your mouth and say something.... anything. I'll take it from there. :flowerforyou:

    LOVE this!
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    Sometimes you just cant stop yourself because you wanna talk to him soooo bad
  • mae1020
    mae1020 Posts: 234 Member
    Yes, definitely! If you're interested in him, make the move and talk to him. I was fairly shy growing up but somehow I always found the confidence and asked every boyfriend I had out, including my husband!
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    OMG YES YES YES YES YES YES. I hate when woman wait. If you want something then go get it. Plus a woman who hits on a guy first shows so much confidence.......or shows she has had a lot to drink. Either way I approve!!

    Yeah buddy!
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
    It's nice to not always have to be the one that puts their neck on the line.
  • ZebraHead
    ZebraHead Posts: 15,207 Member
    I don't mind hitting on a guy first.. I mind when I'm turned down or brushed off. :P

    haha exactly how I feel!

    This is true of either sex. The pain of rejection affects everyone. That is why people don't like to put themselves out there. But sometime you just got to go for it.

    I didn't mind being hit on (back in the day) and would always give that person my attention for the evening, to see if we clicked or not.
  • whitetiger011680
    whitetiger011680 Posts: 218 Member
    I've made the first move several times. But every now and tehn I get a shy streak in me and wait for to be hit on first.
  • steplaj
    steplaj Posts: 586 Member
    Back in the old days I would say guys should do the asking... But now a days I would say its much harder to know what a woman is thinking or if she is interested so in my opinion, is perfectly fine for a woman to hit on a guy or at least let him know she is interested.
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    Absolutely ya should.....leaves us one less thing to worry about......a woman who knows what she wants and knows how to get it is a major turn on \m/
  • azarazar
    azarazar Posts: 72
    Nothing wrong with the girl going after what she likes. I had a very pretty girl hit on me once. I would have been to shy at the time to hit on her. Very glad she did. 34 years later, we are still married.
  • BlueInkDot
    BlueInkDot Posts: 702 Member
    I think a lot of guys are intimidated by pretty ladies. If you make it obvious that you're just a person like them, and there's nothing to be afraid of, then you can start talking. I like talking to people. :)

    And while we're at it, I'm intimidated by cute guys from time to time. If you start chatting with me, then I feel less shy.

    "Hitting on" doesn't necessarily have to be a "hey babyyyy" kinda thing. It can be just saying hello and trying to make each other laugh. Then see where things go from there. :)

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