Why can't I enjoy men looking at me??

WhittRak

Ask for a refund and then tell the jerk to stick it.

Jaxper

The only reason I can think of that your trainer would say that is that he doesn't want you to get complacent and feel like you can stop training since you're getting the stares/compliments/etc. As long as you stick to your regime, you can ignore it. On the flip side, you can most certainly enjoy it, as long as you and your husband (more importantly since you are married and not looking for a man) aren't upset about it.

Betsnikel

You Rock! Your trainer is an idiot!

JPod279

Maybe he was trying a little reverse psychology on you to get you to work harder? When I was coaching I would sometimes mess with my kids' heads and do things I knew would piss them off as I would see better results from them. I could literally tell how a day was going to go a few minutes into practice depending how they responded to my first few comments. And when time came for them to perform I could play them like a fiddle, which is awesome as I have never had one lesson on the fiddle (or violin for that matter) in my life. :bigsmile: I only coached for 4 years and two of my kids still stay in touch with me to this day, and it has been 5 years since I quit.

Now, on the other hand......the guy could just be a douche.

weaglette

What occurred to me was that s/he's afraid that if you feel content in your new body, you'll stop the training sessions, resulting in less income.
Sounds like turf protection to me.

yoovie

most definitely.

I lost 100 pounds and apparently, my integrity, my compassion, my humanity, my decency, my modesty, my sense of self-respect, my manners, all semblances of being a lady and my morals as well.

Because I wear little black dresses and red lipstick and flirt and get paid compliments by strangers.

I am now going to hell.

skullshank

did you hire your trainer for an opinion or an *kitten*-kicking?

if you answered *kitten*-kicking, they should stick to that, focus on the regimen, and shut the **** up.

Bigpelly8

Tell your trainer to blow it out there *kitten*!!! YOU are there for a reason, to look and feel good. You are accomplishing all you want, and it is paying off. Enjoy the feeling!!!

Jacwhite22

I know everyone in here has said f the trainer....but I gotta throw this out there. Many times people get close to their goal......get content with where they are and then slack off. While I think he lacked tact, I believe the overall message the trainer was trying to give was sound. #1 - You are doing this for you....not anyone else. #2 - Don't get content. Don't take the attention as you are already there and stop putting the work in.......... Both of which I think are good messages.

lickmybaconcakes

No reason at all .

emilynicole02

Pffft who cares what your trainer thinks, he is your TRAINER not your counsellor, if your hubby is happy and your happy thats what matters. Talk to your girlfriends and you hubby and let your trainer train you lol

perfectly said.

TheRoadDog

Man, I hear you. Good looks can be a curse. Can't I just be acknowledged for my wit, intelligence and humor? Quit giving me special treatment because I'm cute. Hey! My eyes are up here!!

Jezebel9

It is nice to be the object of someone's positive attention about anything: the way you look, your personality, your kindness, your hard work. I only get annoyed when being 'hot' is the only thing that is seen or acknowledged in myself.
You are sexy, you are beautiful. We were made this way. Enjoy yourself. Don't get lost in it, don't lose focus on your health goals, but allow yourself joy for the hard work you have done.

Jezebel9

Man, I hear you. Good looks can be a curse. Can't I just be acknowledged for my wit, intelligence and humor? Quit giving me special treatment because I'm cute. Hey! My eyes are up here!!

Man, you made me laugh!
:flowerforyou:

MissTattoo

From a guys perspective he may be jealous.

From a former fatty perspective he may have came across wrong but he may have been trying to say "dont let comments like those stop you from continueing". After I lost a hundred pounds alot of people told me I looked great and for about a week I considered stopping, but I havent reached my goal so I put my head down and got back in it. Ive learned to appreciate those comments but be humble, once I reach my goal then I will brag and strut

just sayin

This. I think this is what he meant to say. Don't start doing it for the attention. Some women don't do it for themselves.

rileamoyer

Sounds like he is trying to put his morals on you. Screw it, as a woman, I always like to be appreciated, for my looks as well as my brains. LoL.

RichOC

most definitely.

I lost 100 pounds and apparently, my integrity, my compassion, my humanity, my decency, my modesty, my sense of self-respect, my manners, all semblances of being a lady and my morals as well.

Because I wear little black dresses and red lipstick and flirt and get paid compliments by strangers.

I am now going to hell.

Well I certainly don't want to be responsible for ushering anyone through the gates of Hell, so I won't tell you how really good you look, lol.

Naytahlee

sounds like you hit a sore spot with him. He probably had a girlfriend who was hot and she left him for someone else.

Exactly what I was thinking.

ironanimal

sounds like you hit a sore spot with him. He probably had a girlfriend who was hot and she left him for someone else.

Exactly what I was thinking.

LMAO

Capt_Apollo

i've always felt that 90% of what a trainer says is false. now i know it's 100%.