Is it ok for a woman..........

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  • SSGirlLV
    SSGirlLV Posts: 38 Member
    I'm going to give my opinion as a woman. I have been married for 25 years and am very happy. I have lots of male friends that I do occasionally talk to on the phone and exchange texts with. I never run and hide when the phone rings and I my phone is always available for my husband to go through if he wants. My husband also has female friends that he talks with too. Its about trust, being open and honest with your communication with others. If you don't have those things then you don't have a good foundation in the first place. I find communication with others to be a part of life but, I find you need to keep that communication appropriate too. I think you two need to start with improving yours and being more open and honest with your feelings about each other as well as others. It makes a huge difference in your relationship when you are both on the same page. Good luck!
  • FuneralDiner
    FuneralDiner Posts: 438 Member
    While you're RPing with your D&D friends, she's RPing doctors & nurses.
  • IamSheaMc
    IamSheaMc Posts: 1,273 Member
    If she is talking to them infront of your face and nothing is being done behind your back then sure. My mom talks on the phone infront of my dad with her male friends. She doesn't hide or answer the phone in another room, or hang up when he enters the room. The conversations are innocent.

    If here are no secret rendezvous, then sure. She trust that you are with the guys when she leaves, trust that she is being respectful.
    Maybe she needs friends to pass the time.

    Just make sure you give her lots of love, attention and affection and remind her who is "Hsband".
  • IamSheaMc
    IamSheaMc Posts: 1,273 Member
    While you're RPing with your D&D friends, she's RPing doctors & nurses.

    OMG haha you are so mean, that made me bust out laughing lol
  • MissFit0101
    MissFit0101 Posts: 2,382
    This sounds very wrong to me, and I can say this from experience. If you don't do something about it now, your relationship is likely going to take a turn for the worst, very soon!
  • mattsgrl98
    mattsgrl98 Posts: 46 Member
    9 times outta 10 if you think something is wrong....usually something is wrong!! Go with your gut!!
  • RedHeadDevotchka
    RedHeadDevotchka Posts: 1,394 Member
    You obviously have a problem with it I think most people would. While I am a talkative person and wouldn't mean anything doing that myself, I don't out of respect for my husband. Marriage isn't the same for everyone, and while that might be okay for one couple she needs to know it's not ok with you and that's part of marriage, comprising for the other person sometimes.
  • Matt_Wild
    Matt_Wild Posts: 2,673 Member
    Ladies and Gentlemen, if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then what is it?
  • MissFit0101
    MissFit0101 Posts: 2,382
    where is this part 2 you speak of? I hope it answers some of the questions that people have been asking you and you've ignored..
  • Cassaaaaandra
    Cassaaaaandra Posts: 184 Member
    Ladies and Gentlemen, if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then what is it?

    A bunny?
  • thelovelyLIZ
    thelovelyLIZ Posts: 1,227 Member
    I don't see why it wouldn't be okay. I mean, if she was fooling around with this guy, don't you think she'd try to be more secretive about it?
  • dodihere
    dodihere Posts: 490
    Not only is she disrespecting you, but the man on the other end of the line, who is talking to a married woman for hours, is disrepecting you. If you do nothing about it, then you have allowed it to happen.
  • n25philly
    n25philly Posts: 75 Member
    You let her use the phone?
  • clairerose11
    clairerose11 Posts: 95 Member
    I'm very sorry to say that this is sort of what happened to my Mum and Dad, and it turned out she was having an affair.

    I am sorry ... :(
  • mrsnathanandrew
    mrsnathanandrew Posts: 631 Member
    Ladies and Gentlemen, if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then what is it?

    A bunny?

    No! It's a chicken! :)
  • Jipples
    Jipples Posts: 650 Member
    Seems legit.

    this
  • gerirojas
    gerirojas Posts: 101 Member
    Drop Dungeons and Dragons and take her out on a date
  • lydia_the_tattooed_lady
    lydia_the_tattooed_lady Posts: 324 Member
    Is it ok for a woman to talk on the phone to a guy for three hours if she is married? and talk to him for an hour here and an hour there and txt him at 1030 at night? Is it being unsupportive to be uncomfortable with that and saying how you feel about it? I am curious. WHat everyones opinion is on it. Even if she says you can go do whatever and then brings up the fact that she is supportive of me cause she lets me hang with the guys every other weekend at his house playing Dungeons and Dragons, yes I said I am a role player. Please Id like the opinions of everyone. Thanks

    I play D & D too!! :D Glad I'm not the only one on here lol
  • MichelleB1427
    MichelleB1427 Posts: 73
    Thats not ok.... A little while after my now fiance and I were dating his ex would call ALL the time and he would talk to her for a while.... not in front of me though. I told him that it really bothered me and he quit talking to her on the phone all the time. Once and a great while she will FB him but the phone calls have long been stopped! Regardless if it is an ex or not she really shouldnt be doing that... thats not cool, especially if she's married!
  • guardian419
    guardian419 Posts: 391 Member
    If she doesn't already have another horse to ride, she's getting the saddle ready.
  • samblanken
    samblanken Posts: 369 Member
    If you suspect something.... it is probably far worse then you could ever imagine. I know from my own experience. If it hadn't actually happened to me, I would have thought it was a staged thing on Jerry Springer.
  • Espressocycle
    Espressocycle Posts: 2,245 Member
    Nobody should talk that long on the phone, ever. Especially not a man. What's wrong with that guy? That said, there is nothing WRONG with it - if it's just a friend, it's fine. If she's gonna leave you, she's gonna leave you anyway (and dude, I'm pretty sure she's gonna leave you - it happened to me too). However, women like us to be a little jealous. So carry on. Be jealous without being a jerk and maybe she'll stay. Except she won't.
  • channa007
    channa007 Posts: 419 Member
    Something on the side no doubt. Confront her.
  • BrieLP
    BrieLP Posts: 300 Member
    My exhusband did this and I don't believe it's right. I have a guy friend that i've known since I was 16 (i am now 25) and i don't even talk to him anymore he talks to my fiance and i talk to his fiance :) but that's just me.... My fiance and i also share a single male friend we both talk to him but I don't even talk on the phone for two hrs with my momma I definitely wouldn't be talking to another man that long
  • jackie2866
    jackie2866 Posts: 62 Member
    I dont know what she means when she says whatever, She states I let you go to the VFW club because you like it, I let you leave every other weekend to play D and D with the guys and she says since she is being supportive of those things I should nt have a problem with who she talks to on the phone because she is a home body and that it should be ok whomever she talks to on the phone.
    Maybe because you leave every other weekend, she is looking for attention elsewhere. Just a thought...
  • OfficiallySexyVal
    OfficiallySexyVal Posts: 492 Member
    When I was in a relationship I still had guy friends that I would talk to on the regular, they are my bestfriends and sometimes I would talk to them for hours. However, I didn't talk to them every minute of the day nor everyday!

    Something about this feels wrong, you should know your wife better than anyone and if you think there is something up, then most likely there is something going on!

    Best of luck with everything, I hope something works out in your favor!
  • tinytinam
    tinytinam Posts: 57 Member
    Maybe you need to find out what she is she is getting from talking with this other guy? Everyone needs their friends, but if there is an emotional need that is not being fulfilled within the marriage, then you need to find out what it is and be the one who listens and is there for her. It could be completely harmless but make a good friend of him but also pay more attention to your wife.
  • biglew909
    biglew909 Posts: 57 Member
    Trololol!

    But...if this is actually real, then HELL no. Cut her loose, bro.
  • kbeach08
    kbeach08 Posts: 184 Member
    You already got a ton of replies and I don't have time to read them all so I will just tell you my experience.....
    I was (yes WAS) married and found an old friend on facebook we had been good friends for 14 years talked on the phone and texted each other ended up falling head over heals with him AGAIN and now I am in the middle of a messy divorce..... Be careful!!!
    Although the divorce was long overdue and (we had been having major problems for about 3 years prior) he knew it was coming before I started talking to this other guy it was this other guy who made me realize I didn't deserve what he was putting me through.

    At the same time I had and have Several male friends I would talk to about anything and everything but they are just that... Friends. So it's a gut thing do you really think there is something more going on?
  • mommamisty823
    mommamisty823 Posts: 99
    I wouldn't be okay with it.

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