When You Cry... They Win. Stop.

CajunNino

I agree with the original post. If everyone could have self-confidence that would be great. But some do not and I think it runs deeper than weight issues. I never cared what "society" thought about me, even at my heaviest. I think you have to have a bit of self-righteousness in you to truly not care about what is said. I do, and I'm fine with that.

It's very easy to not care about what "people" think if you don't love them. That is the key. If you don't care what ANYBODY thinks then you can't possibly love and respect someone. You CARE about what the people you love and respect think of you - it's human nature and y'all are not all narcissistic. But of course, we are all making blanket statements about people and society in general. Yeah, who cares what THEY think?

Not true. I love my wife more than anything in the world, literally. However, she thinks I should put the toilet seat down. I'm yet to really care.

Haha.. apple and oranges. Putting the toilet seat down is not a personal thought towards you.

gchutson

I agree with the original post. If everyone could have self-confidence that would be great. But some do not and I think it runs deeper than weight issues. I never cared what "society" thought about me, even at my heaviest. I think you have to have a bit of self-righteousness in you to truly not care about what is said. I do, and I'm fine with that.

It's very easy to not care about what "people" think if you don't love them. That is the key. If you don't care what ANYBODY thinks then you can't possibly love and respect someone. You CARE about what the people you love and respect think of you - it's human nature and y'all are not all narcissistic. But of course, we are all making blanket statements about people and society in general. Yeah, who cares what THEY think?

Not true. I love my wife more than anything in the world, literally. However, she thinks I should put the toilet seat down. I'm yet to really care.

Haha.. apple and oranges. Putting the toilet seat down is not a personal thought towards you.

Ask her. She takes it VERY personally. Trust me.

lizzybethclaire

It's a waste of energy. When people are nasty to you it does hurt. I used to walk away. Now I make myself, even if I am hurting inside, take those people to task. It is not better to walk away because that five minutes of talking to them usually ends up with them apologizing or being a coward and saying that I misunderstood them. Sometimes I have been mistaken and have ended up apologizing. Plus, I am always super nice to them and it usually ends up making them feel like *kitten*. Does it change the world or change the people? Absolutely not. But knowing that I stood up for myself makes me feel better and that is what counts.

onedayillbeamilf

They don't know.....do they still win if they don't know? Does winning even matter if you don't know you won?

gchutson

They don't know.....do they still win if they don't know? Does winning even matter if you don't know you won?

Yes. Always.

garnetsms

I agree with the original post. If everyone could have self-confidence that would be great. But some do not and I think it runs deeper than weight issues. I never cared what "society" thought about me, even at my heaviest. I think you have to have a bit of self-righteousness in you to truly not care about what is said. I do, and I'm fine with that.

It's very easy to not care about what "people" think if you don't love them. That is the key. If you don't care what ANYBODY thinks then you can't possibly love and respect someone. You CARE about what the people you love and respect think of you - it's human nature and y'all are not all narcissistic. But of course, we are all making blanket statements about people and society in general. Yeah, who cares what THEY think?

Not true. I love my wife more than anything in the world, literally. However, she thinks I should put the toilet seat down. I'm yet to really care.

Haha.. apple and oranges. Putting the toilet seat down is not a personal thought towards you.

Ask her. She takes it VERY personally. Trust me.

Every woman in the world needs to realize...It takes less energy to do it yourself than it does to locate said man, and fuss about it. I am surrounded by the male species (2 boys, 1 man) in my house, so its just easier to do it myself. NOW, if one of you can tell me what is up with the aim, I would gladly like to hear some suggestions on that...

ValerieMartini2Olives

I have been made fun of more times than I can count. But you know what...

FLUCK THEM!

I'm putting in the effort now and when it finally pays off I will get to say...

FLUCK YOU!

And it will be glorious.

boldtsmith

"Every woman in the world needs to realize...It takes less energy to do it yourself than it does to locate said man, and fuss about it. I am surrounded by the male species (2 boys, 1 man) in my house, so its just easier to do it myself. NOW, if one of you can tell me what is up with the aim, I would gladly like to hear some suggestions on that..."
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We're supposed to aim...crap :blushing:

gchutson

I have been made fun of more times than I can count. But you know what...

FLUCK THEM!

I'm putting in the effort now and when it finally pays off I will get to say...

FLUCK YOU!

And it will be glorious.

That was flucking awesome.

boldtsmith

I have been made fun of more times than I can count. But you know what...

FLUCK THEM!

I'm putting in the effort now and when it finally pays off I will get to say...

FLUCK YOU!

And it will be glorious.

Yes! We should all be like bonobos...all they do is fluck.

garnetsms

"Every woman in the world needs to realize...It takes less energy to do it yourself than it does to locate said man, and fuss about it. I am surrounded by the male species (2 boys, 1 man) in my house, so its just easier to do it myself. NOW, if one of you can tell me what is up with the aim, I would gladly like to hear some suggestions on that..."

We're supposed to aim...crap :blushing:
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LOL!!

gchutson

"Every woman in the world needs to realize...It takes less energy to do it yourself than it does to locate said man, and fuss about it. I am surrounded by the male species (2 boys, 1 man) in my house, so its just easier to do it myself. NOW, if one of you can tell me what is up with the aim, I would gladly like to hear some suggestions on that..."

We're supposed to aim...crap :blushing:

LOL!!
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Aiming is so fascist. We're free-pee'ers.

ValerieMartini2Olives

I have been made fun of more times than I can count. But you know what...

FLUCK THEM!

I'm putting in the effort now and when it finally pays off I will get to say...

FLUCK YOU!

And it will be glorious.

That was flucking awesome.

Thanks. I appreciate that.

CajunNino

"Every woman in the world needs to realize...It takes less energy to do it yourself than it does to locate said man, and fuss about it. I am surrounded by the male species (2 boys, 1 man) in my house, so its just easier to do it myself. NOW, if one of you can tell me what is up with the aim, I would gladly like to hear some suggestions on that..."

We're supposed to aim...crap :blushing:

LOL!!

Aiming is so fascist. We're free-pee'ers.
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^This made me laugh. -- I try to pee off the porch at every opportunity. My wife just shakes her head. Hey, it's a life quality issue....and we live out in the country.

garnetsms

You guys crack me up!!! I laugh even louder because it has nothing to do with the original topic...or does it :huh:

sho3girl

What WERE they thinking?

Clearly, they hate awesomeness. That's the only possible explanation.

thread seems alive again!

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gchutson

"Every woman in the world needs to realize...It takes less energy to do it yourself than it does to locate said man, and fuss about it. I am surrounded by the male species (2 boys, 1 man) in my house, so its just easier to do it myself. NOW, if one of you can tell me what is up with the aim, I would gladly like to hear some suggestions on that..."

We're supposed to aim...crap :blushing:

LOL!!

I promise not to ***** about the toilet seat if you promise to not ***** when I ask you pick up tampons when you go to the store.

Real men don't mind buying tampons. Just sayin'.

Giantess

As an elementary school teacher, I find myself repeating this A LOT to my students. "Honey. She's trying to cut you down. You gonna let her? Or are you gonna laugh in her face and say, 'Whatever.' Your choice."

Studies have shown that people who are bullied often (but not always! This might not be your experience!) sort of let themselves be hurt by the razzing. Showing weakness can lead to deeper, more sustained attacks by the bullies, and then it becomes a vicious cycle.

Not blaming the victims here--but learning to let stuff roll off you--"Water off a duck's back," as my father used to say--is an important life skill.

In middle and high school people tried to bully me for being tall. They'd holler "Big Bird!" and "Ostritch!" or just "STREEEEEEEETCH!" at me in the halls. I'd just smile, wave, and blow kisses. They didn't know what to make of it, so they either stopped, or the nicknames became friendly.

Not that words can't be hurtful. A tiny, b*tichy sorority girl behind me in line said on the phone the other day, "I'm stuck in line behind this huge land whale." I blushed bright red, turned around, and just stared her down with a look on my face like, "Are you kidding me with this ****?" and she totally fled the store, haha! Took my hurt feelings with her. Cruel little git.

Giantess

Someone made the point, though, that it's harder to ignore people close to you when they say hurtful things, because you care what they think.

That's a very valid point.

It took me a long time to not care what my parents thought about my weight. Hopefully, whoever they are is gonna love you anyhow.

garnetsms

Giantess, as a parent and aunt of teenagers, I am constantly telling them this too. My niece who is going to be 14 has lots of trouble at school involving other girls and sometimes the boys. Most of the fights are over something someone said to her. She has been told she will never win with her hands, even if she kicked some butt.
Don't get me wrong, I've taught my sons (14 and 6) and my neice and nephews to not take crap from anyone, and not to fight if it can be avoided. There is never a need to fight over something someone said (insert Patrick Swayze line from Road House here).
I also use "water off a duck's back" a lot too.

I absolutely love how you handled the girl in the store....that is awesome!!

OH! I'm still working on not caring what my loved ones think...