Respecting men

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  • majikmiker
    majikmiker Posts: 291 Member
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    respect isnt something that is deserved or righted. It's something that is given as a gift and should be appreciated.
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    Don't think I can agree with this. I think to a certain extent respect is earned and deserved. I think if I am hard working, loyal, caring and appreciative of my wife and family that I am deserving of some respect. If instead my wife is uncaring, nagging and disrespectful, then most men would eventually go look for that elsewhere. I'm not talking about the wife being submissive or any of that crap, but genuine respect. If I've just worked 4 twelve hour days, then cut and raked the lawn, then cooked dinner on the bbq, and now I want a couple of hours to sit in starbucks and read my book, it shouldn't be that big a deal.

    Now if I was unemployed and laying around playing call of duty all day, that would be adifferent story.
  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
    Can you love someone you don't respect?

    Yes.

    This was my problem for a long time. Can you make it last with someone you don't respect? Probably not. It's awfully hard to end things with someone you still love though.
  • Iceman1800
    Iceman1800 Posts: 476
    To clarify my comment about one word answers being accepted by all men. When my wife makes a mistake that I need to fix, I have questions. When I ask a yes or no question, that's all I want as an answer. I don't need nor did I ask for justification for her answer. Simply yes or no. I have more questions so she needs to shut up so I can ask them. I've noticed this being fairly universal for women, the need to explain or justify their answers. Issues can't be resolved when one party can't shut up long enough for the other party to speak.
  • _VoV
    _VoV Posts: 1,494 Member
    To clarify my comment about one word answers being accepted by all men. When my wife makes a mistake that I need to fix, I have questions. When I ask a yes or no question, that's all I want as an answer. I don't need nor did I ask for justification for her answer. Simply yes or no. I have more questions so she needs to shut up so I can ask them. I've noticed this being fairly universal for women, the need to explain or justify their answers. Issues can't be resolved when one party can't shut up long enough for the other party to speak.

    As a woman, the blunt, sometimes angry-sounding questions requiring yes-or-no responses can create anxiety. That's especially true if I anticipate my husband's frustration and anger after I've made a mistake. I understand exactly what you are saying, and it makes sense to me, but anxiety can make people want to explain themselves to hopefully smooth things over. I'm just trying to describe what is happening psychologically when situations like this happen. A calm man asking calm questions can actually help the situation, but I know that emotions can take over in men needing to fix a problem of someone else's making. It's irritatng, and I get that.
  • trophywife24
    trophywife24 Posts: 1,472 Member
    Here's my opinion on respecting your man.

    Shut up!

    We run our mouths too much. Being heard is wonderful and I'm not advocating being a doormat. Sometimes giving them the space they need to BE the man...with no lip and loving support...is the best way to show you honor, respect and trust them.

    I haven't read the entire thread yet but YES, this. Shut.... up. Stop whining, stop nagging, stop trying to b*** whip your man and just let him be.... a.... man.

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