Things you shouldn't say to someone "on a diet?"

jessig715

Everyone around me knows I've been eating healthy, losing weight, and exercising like a crazy person. So of course most people are super supportive. But have you ever noticed that if someone knows you are "on a diet," then what you are eating, how you are eating, or what you're doing to lose weight is suddenly everybody's business? Is there something in particular that people say that really irks you?

Here's mine...people judging you for what you're eating when they have NO IDEA how many calories you have left, or if you've run 10 miles that day...they have no idea if you've been saving up calories ALL DAY to allow yourself a cookie, but still people feel like they are the diet police!

For example...Two weeks ago I was at a wedding (I'm a wedding planner) and had eaten close to NOTHING that day, aside from a piece of salmon at dinner and green beans. I walk about 12 miles on a wedding day while being on my feet for 18 hours, carrying stuff back and forth, setting up, and just being busy in general and I have a light breakfast and never get around to lunch. So later in the evening when I was starving, I grabbed 2 mini burgers they were serving as a late night snack....of course, being that my calorie count was at MAYBE 600 at this point, with 1000's of calories worth of activity under my belt, I wasn't too concerned. A coworker, however had the nerve to say, "I THOUGHT YOU WERE ON A DIET?" Seriously?!? The guy next to me (also eating healthy, and also eating a burger at this point) thought he was going to have to restrain me.

What are some things that people have said to you while on a diet/eating healthy that really push your buttons? I want to know---it can't just be me that this happens to, lol! **end of rant** :-)

Lady_Bane

"why are you on a diet, you are so skinny, just enjoy yourself" (when i order healthy food on a menu like a salad or grilled chicken)

UM, I WORKED HARD TO GET HERE, IM NOT GOING TO FALL BACK INTO MY OLD WAYS BC YOU CANT HAVE SOME SELF RESTRAINT TO DO WHAT I DID!

Lol..these are the same people who text me: "whine, im so fat, i wanna get in shape..." oi

kfitzpa

"why are you on a diet, you are so skinny, just enjoy yourself" (when i order healthy food on a menu like a salad or grilled chicken)

UM, I WORKED HARD TO GET HERE, IM NOT GOING TO FALL BACK INTO MY OLD WAYS BC YOU CANT HAVE SOME SELF RESTRAINT TO DO WHAT I DID!

Lol..these are the same people who text me: "whine, im so fat, i wanna get in shape..." oi

Agreed. I get this ALL the time and I hate it.

splashangel

When I was losing weight it was that so many people, smokers, tokers, obese , drinkers etc felt the need to tell me that Coke with splenda was bad for me. I don't think one full on healthy person ever said a word to me. I no longer drink them and very rarely drink soda of any type. But they helped me in those early days. I remember telling one skinny fat chick that I used to use drugs and was clean from that so I felt fairly certain I could kick my new Coke habit.

msgunder

After being on a diet for only 2 weeks my co worker says "so is it working?" and then looked me up and down. Really?

jessig715

After being on a diet for only 2 weeks my co worker says "so is it working?" and then looked me up and down. Really?

That's the worst! Give a little credit where credit is due! Congrats on your 7 lbs lost!!!

Kincar

I hate the "So are you still on your diet?" I get from one co-worker in particular. I have explained to her I'm not on a diet, I am eating more healthfully.

I hate, hate, HATE "I thought you are on a diet?" or "You shouldn't be eating that - you're on a diet." when I eat something that's a treat. It's no one else's business what I eat.

Why do people feel it's ok to comment on what "dieters" eat when they don't say anything to anyone else?!

cbevan1229

"Do you want a bite of this?" - My generous but frustrating husband. (Also the only person who knows I'm working on losing weight.)

Nailrep

My peeve is the general "advice" that some people want to offer me...

For example, I had one woman tell me that if I don't cut carbs, I will gain everything back after I lose it.

I had one guy tell me that exercise only will get my weight off.

And I HATE it when people tell me I will gain weight if I eat after 6 pm.

Believe what you want to believe, and do what works for you. But if I want advice, I will ask for it!!

jessig715

My peeve is the general "advice" that some people want to offer me...

For example, I had one woman tell me that if I don't cut carbs, I will gain everything back after I lose it.

I had one guy tell me that exercise only will get my weight off.

And I HATE it when people tell me I will gain weight if I eat after 6 pm.

Believe what you want to believe, and do what works for you. But if I want advice, I will ask for it!!

I agree...someone can be totally overweight or completely out of shape, and if they know you're on a diet, they're automatically going to find something wrong about how you're eating or how you're exercising! Everyone is an expert! Keep up your great work:-)

Nailrep

My peeve is the general "advice" that some people want to offer me...

For example, I had one woman tell me that if I don't cut carbs, I will gain everything back after I lose it.

I had one guy tell me that exercise only will get my weight off.

And I HATE it when people tell me I will gain weight if I eat after 6 pm.

Believe what you want to believe, and do what works for you. But if I want advice, I will ask for it!!

I agree...someone can be totally overweight or completely out of shape, and if they know you're on a diet, they're automatically going to find something wrong about how you're eating or how you're exercising! Everyone is an expert! Keep up your great work:-)

Thanks so much!! You too!!

dentedearmuffs1

This is why I don't tell anyone I'm on a diet. I don't talk about it to either my friends or my family. I think the more you talk about being on a diet, the more it invites people to say things in return and "hold you accountable."

tlc12078

Funny you mention this, my bfs mother tries to tell me what I can and cannot eat. If I have a little snack cus I know I earned it, shes like Tera you know its bad for you? Really? Who does she think she is? Really she drinks pop all day and just because I am losing weight I dont need a babysitter or a pain in the *ss telling me what I am doing wrong when what I am doing IS WORKING! I want to slap her so bad. I cut back on the bad things yes, but I do eat them, but in moderation, I dont eat heaping loads of crap anymore. Plus I exercise to earn my food.

tlc12078

"why are you on a diet, you are so skinny, just enjoy yourself" (when i order healthy food on a menu like a salad or grilled chicken)

UM, I WORKED HARD TO GET HERE, IM NOT GOING TO FALL BACK INTO MY OLD WAYS BC YOU CANT HAVE SOME SELF RESTRAINT TO DO WHAT I DID!

Lol..these are the same people who text me: "whine, im so fat, i wanna get in shape..." oi

I so agree with you on this.

IAMDDAY

My peeve is the general "advice" that some people want to offer me...

For example, I had one woman tell me that if I don't cut carbs, I will gain everything back after I lose it.

I had one guy tell me that exercise only will get my weight off.

And I HATE it when people tell me I will gain weight if I eat after 6 pm.

Believe what you want to believe, and do what works for you. But if I want advice, I will ask for it!!

I agree...someone can be totally overweight or completely out of shape, and if they know you're on a diet, they're automatically going to find something wrong about how you're eating or how you're exercising! Everyone is an expert! Keep up your great work:-)

Thanks so much!! You too!!

Oh yes suddenly everyone knows more.. I don't care if you do or not i am doing it my way so SHHHHHHHHHH

tlc12078

"Do you want a bite of this?" - My generous but frustrating husband. (Also the only person who knows I'm working on losing weight.)

my bf does this to me "pizza sounds yummy, I could go for a taco pizza, you know what else I am craving? I could go for a sub from subway." Thats his way of trying to sabotage me.

cml411

" Don't you ever want to pig out at a buffet and just blow your diet up?"...Duh! I could just kill at that point! Pizza is my Kryptonite

tugers2

"are you doing it the right way" as if everyone that looses weight has an eating disorder... i haven't seen you in 8 months and im 40lbs lighter someone should get me help (ugh)

delilah47

If I hear "I thought you were dieting" one more time my head will explode.

4gr8kids

"That isn't a healthy way to eat; you can't continue eating that way."
Especially made by people who have not done any research into healthy eating.

ckerrcanchaser

Last week was my 21st birthday and I was celebrating it with my fiance and his family. His mother is the nicest person I know and she knows I've been eating less and been on a "diet", so she asked me what kinda of cake i wanted for my birthday. I told her a mini one lol. So she did! It was only 6 inches in diameter and it was a pretty healthy cake, as far at they could go. There wasn't any frosting, just some light whipped cream and fresh cut up strawberries. I planned on sharing it at my birthday part with my fiance, who would eat half of it anyway. After I got my cake though my future sister-in-law said "Wow, a whole cake to yourself!?" Then make some pig noises afterward. That made me feel pretty bad after so I had a very small piece, maybe a slice that was 12% of the cake, if that. My fiance still had half of it.

Needless to say, if it's someone's birthday or special occasion and they seem like they deserve a treat, don't make fun of them even if you're joking.It can really hurt someones feelings.