Things you shouldn't say to someone "on a diet?"
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exactly. i can't eat a bake potato without butter either.......i made a comment one day on my facebook cuz i started eating alot of oatmeal using splenda instead of sugar....well i made a comment about how it was nasty like that unless i could put my 1tbs of butter in it........my cousin told me if i was on a diet i shouldn't be eating butter at all......... i was so mad.......like really it was an extra 50 calories...........blah
Exactly I normally eat a potato (white or sweet) a day it helps with muscle cramps (FOR ME) but if i put anything one them i hear things if others are at my house (Im sorry but Im the one watching not only my cals but my carbs Fat protien & sugar and Im still well within ALL my numbers.0 -
I agree! I don't tell anyone...well maybe except my close friend who I know will not judge. Because I do not like to receive ANY comment in regards to what I am eating or should be eating or not eating. And if I'm having one of "those" days you might not want to say anything to me at all! lol0
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I hate it when my co-workers make fun of me because of what I eat, example being "oh, Sarah, whats for lunch today? just cucumbers? mmm that must be really filling. How's that weight loss thing going? you done yet?" Because I choose to eat healthy, and exercise during lunch, I get rediculed. Most days I can just shrug it off, but some other days it really kind of hurts.
I also hate when people think they need to tell me what I should be eating " that's not enough food, you need some more" or "there's a cupcake left, Sarah, you could eat it seeing as you work out, it won't effect you" even better is when I do eat a piece of cake or a sweet at work then I get " Well I wish I could eat cake all the time and look like you" Well, there is a reason I look the way I do- because I care about my health.
I also hate those well meaning people who tell me all the time that I am "too skinny" because they are insecure about how they look, and don't want me to look better than them. I get things like "you really need to stop losing weight you are looking too thin, or why don't you put on a few more lbs so you look better"
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The other day I was at my family's house. I had spent the whole day traveling and had only eaten a protein bar 6 hours earlier. I ate a Hershey kiss and my dad turns to me and was like "Are you sure you want to eat that?" I snapped back "I have lost 50 pounds without you telling me what to eat, so yeah I do."0
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I told my (now ex) boyfriend that I was going to start working to lose weight again. His response was something along the lines of "I'm going to break up with you if you lose your *kitten*".
Why wait? :P0 -
The first thing you shouldn't say is that they're on a diet. I just want to punch my son in the mouth when he says I'm on a diet. A diet is temporary, eating healthier is forever. I can eat anything I want, I just eat smarter. That's not a diet.0
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I recently overheard a couple of ladies at CHURCH, of all places, say "I heard she wasn't eating at all". As I walked by them :huh:
Really?
I wanted to go up to them and say "It is only 10 a.m. and I have had 6 egg whites, a mini bagel with cinnamon cream cheese, a string cheese, a banana, and a glass of chocolate milk. What have YOU had?"
But I didn't. :grumble:
I hate that people assume you are starving yourself.0 -
"You don't need to go to the gym". Uh, ***** I don't look like this by sitting on my *kitten*.0
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I hate when people tell me my goal weight is 'too skinny' or that I will be 'too small'. Really? 130 pounds at 5'6 is too small? I always ask them why they didn't feel the need to tell me when I was at my highest weight that I was 'too fat' or 'too big'. You weren't concerned for me when I was eating myself into an early grave, don't even pretend to be concerned now that I'm digging my way out of it.0
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People who say "Why are you trying to lose weight? You look fine". Well, I still have about 10 pounds of baby weight I want to get rid of from 6 years ago! And what I really want to say is "Have you seen me naked? Not pretty right now but I'll show you if you think it's your business" :laugh:
Luckily my husband and I are doing this together with MFP and training with C25K......however, his huge calorie allowance per day really annoys me~ lol!
Glad we can all encourage each other- keep up the good work, everyone!
My husband and I are doing this together too and he has a huge number of calories a day also! And he keeps dropping big numbers each week and while I am happy for him I keep teasing him that I am going to inject bacon fat into his celery. LOL and he says "Note to self, Don't eat the celery. GOt it !"0 -
After being on a diet for only 2 weeks my co worker says "so is it working?" and then looked me up and down. Really?
Oh my!!! How did you not slap that person!??!0 -
One of my pet peeves is people thinking that when you are creating a healthier lifestyle they think automatically it's because you want to lose weight. Sure thats one of the reasons but the biggest reason is so I can keep up with my kids, not be out sick, less risk for diseases, basically a more fullfiliing and longer life.0
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Most people mock what they don't understand. I wouldn't get too worked up over it.
A lot of people find eating at certain calorie levels enjoyable once they begin to understand how. Planning ahead, eating back exercise calories, etc. becomes fun when you don't always have to limit yourself to lettuce.0 -
My bf always brings home my favorite donuts,everytime I start to lose weight.This time I was able to ignore them thanks to using the food dairy.0
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Last week was my 21st birthday and I was celebrating it with my fiance and his family. His mother is the nicest person I know and she knows I've been eating less and been on a "diet", so she asked me what kinda of cake i wanted for my birthday. I told her a mini one lol. So she did! It was only 6 inches in diameter and it was a pretty healthy cake, as far at they could go. There wasn't any frosting, just some light whipped cream and fresh cut up strawberries. I planned on sharing it at my birthday part with my fiance, who would eat half of it anyway. After I got my cake though my future sister-in-law said "Wow, a whole cake to yourself!?" Then make some pig noises afterward. That made me feel pretty bad after so I had a very small piece, maybe a slice that was 12% of the cake, if that. My fiance still had half of it.
Needless to say, if it's someone's birthday or special occasion and they seem like they deserve a treat, don't make fun of them even if you're joking.It can really hurt someones feelings.
Your sister-in-law sounds like a bi*** don't listen to her and don't let her make you feel bad. You are doing awesome! There are always people who will try to get us down.0 -
^^this! OMG how annoying...seriously, HOW DO YOU THINK I GOT SO SKINNY/FIT/IN SHAPE? Definitely NOT by eating crap and having no self control everyday of my life! I actually WORK for it! UGH"why are you on a diet, you are so skinny, just enjoy yourself" (when i order healthy food on a menu like a salad or grilled chicken)0 -
I have a small department (11 people). Over half of us are dieting or eating healthier. My boss buys cakes for people's birthdays. Even if someone says they don't want any because they are dieting/eating healthy, we hear, "God hates a coward! Have a piece!" She's even said this after people have had their first piece. I think I will tell her to buy a fruit basket for my birthday.0
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I hate it when people are trying to lose weight and act like it's an end all be all.
You want a cupcake? Fine eat it. You want pizza? Fine eat that too.
As long as your calories in are less then your calories out, you will lose weight. As long as you stick to a serving size and don't have a free for all, then you will be fine.
Losing weight shouldn't mean that you stop living like a normal person.
I can definitely understand this, because it can seem (and often is the case) that a person is doing something they cannot maintain. I can't speak for everyone but I do have goals for each stage of my weight loss. I am going to handle the obesity aspect first, then when just over weight, and when I am a normal weight I am not going to be as agressive with it but still work on it. At that point I will try to eat exactly how I will for life pretty much.
I usually don't get upset with someone for offering something once, or if they don't know I'm trying to be healthy. But people, such as my mom, will offer something three times, argue with me about why its okay for me, and then do it 2 other times that day.
Its like she HAS to modify what I'm doing or won't talk to me about it. I'm doing atkins/south beach and she is the one who got me interested anyway. Its just really annoying that I have to be so persistent in saying no to something I might like because she is making the temptation harder by repeatedly asking.
I am gettting way better at it now though, and the more times I say no, the less she asks. However if I dare have something off my plan in front of her, I'm suddenly a hypocrite.
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Honestly, people shouldn't be commenting on other people's diets at all unless they are asked for advice.
Some of my pet peeves:
1) Friends who also are on a diet who is not as motivated. They'll get upset if you eat healthier than them, are not happy for you when you lose weight, and will try to sabotage your diet to make themselves feel better about failing theirs.
2) Friends who will berate you and try to advise you about your diet. Yes, I am happy with my eggs every morning - they contain the good cholesterol, are filling and no, I will not change it. No, I don't care about your readings that you should have protein after a workout or that you should only drink cold water. Some people have been following their own advice for years, and I'm sorry, this is mean, but they haven't lost any weight.
3) Wonderful, wonderful, wonderful boyfriends who are on vacation and are not on a diet and want to go do fun things and eat bad food. I'm still learning how to eat out properly, so I've been avoiding it for now to places I can control. The past two weeks have been horrible and I had to do a restart of my diet and exercise this week, which was my issue, obviously, but it just makes it harder when people who need to diet aren't and are having a grand old time with pizza and chinese food, and steak...
I refuse to follow fad diets, really not into macros - this is a lifestyle change for me paired with calorie cutting. I'm learning to eat healthier on less. My grocery bill has gone way down because I eat more simply, with way less processed food. I cook more. I know myself, and I know what works for me. Everyone is different, and I know I can maintain better (eventually, when I get there) when I'm not on an ultra restrictive low carb/paleo/raw diet.0 -
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WHOA! Dude on my last birthday I had eggs benedict and homefries for breakfast, olive garden for supper and a very large slice of ice cream cake.
If anyone said boo to me you can bet they're face would have had a pretty solid introduction to the back of my hand.
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I can't stand when people are like oh you're losing weight, you need to eat something! Hello, this is intentional. Then they're like so what you just want to get so skinny you disappear? We can't even see when you turn sideways! You were fine before!
I was technically/medically over weight before and stop worrying about my body! Especially since I eat more than those people anyways.0 -
"You don't need to go to the gym". Uh, ***** I don't look like this by sitting on my *kitten*.
I totally agree. My bf is VERY supportive bc he lost over 50 lbs last year, but he always says you look amazing! You'r body is great.
Well...yea that's because I have been watching what I eat and exercising. You've never seen me otherwise!0 -
What do you ant to eat?
I know what I WANT to eat Brits not what I SHOULD eat.0 -
My fiance's family really gets to me. On Memorial Day is aunt brought brownies, took a huge one and tried to give it to me saying, "Here! You want this? Oh that's right you can't have it! HAHAHA! OMG this is SO good!"
Seriously, what the hell? I know she was just trying to poke fun, but that was seriously mean.
His grandma (she is a small woman who gained a little weight with age, but lost 20 pounds this last year) makes comments about losing weight all the time. She says things like "Losing weight is SO easy. It's maintaining that's hard."
Yes, I know maintenance is hard work, but that doesn't make losing weight "SO easy". That felt like a slap in the face for all my hard work.0 -
My fiance's family really gets to me. On Memorial Day is aunt brought brownies, took a huge one and tried to give it to me saying, "Here! You want this? Oh that's right you can't have it! HAHAHA! OMG this is SO good!"
Seriously, what the hell? I know she was just trying to poke fun, but that was seriously mean.
His grandma (she is a small woman who gained a little weight with age, but lost 20 pounds this last year) makes comments about losing weight all the time. She says things like "Losing weight is SO easy. It's maintaining that's hard."
Yes, I know maintenance is hard work, but that doesn't make losing weight "SO easy". That felt like a slap in the face for all my hard work.
That's where the ability to be a **** comes in handy for me. A family member's date who knew I was losing weight did the brownie thing to me, so I grabbed it, took a little nibble, then threw the rest of the brownie in the trash right in front of them, and to rub salt in the wound, I commented on how it's all about self control, which they could learn from.
I love the people who act like maintenance is harder than losing the weight in the first place. In the breakroom of my second job, some of us were talking about my weight loss (I had just run my first race - a 10K two days earlier) & a lady who's an attention *kitten* was saying that & I started laughing. She glared at me & I said that if maintaining your weight is harder than losing weight, than you're not doing it right.
Some people will do that just to get under your skin. I could turn the other cheek, but that wouldn't be any fun.0 -
The worst thing that was said/done to me came from my husband a little over a month ago.....
We were at GNC, he is a super buff guy who eats like five horses and the only weight issue he ever had was being under weight. I got protein and multivitamins and he loudly proclaimed in the store, "just buying them doesn't make it work you know. You have to work out and eat right." WTF..... I was so embarrassed I almost cried in the store. One of the guys that works there just stared at me.
Then I asked him to work out with me.....that's not happening. When and if we go to the gym together he does his own thing and I do my own thing. Then he always wants to go out to Osaka's (same as Bennihana's) $@&#% he knows that is my favorite restaurant and I'd never say no to that place!!!
I don't even think he realizes that I am 20 lbs lighter than I was in December when he started making comments which I won't dare repeat because they hurt so bad.
Who knew that the one person who is supposed to have your back is the one that will kick you when you're down.0 -
I'm quite clearly overweight and my neighbour saw me going out for a run (just started C25K) and asked why I wanted to go for a run? Then gave me loads of advice - like using ankle weights.
I get the same question now I have started at the gym especially as I did the school run in my kit one day. I've come to realise that my choices make them feel bad about their choices and their excuses and they then want to make me feel bad.0 -
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It took 30lbs for anyone to notice and I thought that was obscene. It bothered me every day. Now at 60 down, I get called names like "bones" and "crackhead" multiple times a day. It's really starting to bug me. People look at me funny and always have snide remarks when I pull up to the table with what looks like enough food for two. Yes it's a lot of food but ya know it's still less calories and fat than your double fatburger and fries topped with a 44oz side of DP. What's worse is that on the BMI scale I'm just inside normal healthy weight with 11.9 bf%. I chalk it all up to jealousy and laziness from those people. After all, they haven't seen me naked but it doesn't take a rocket scientist to see the McDonald's nastiness that resides just underneath their cheap t-shirt and the ugliness of their personality every time they open their mouth. You all are great; it really is them and not you.
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Its funny you mention this, one of my bf family members ask ed someone if I was taking crack. Really? Talk about making an assumption. Shes lucky I didnt smack her for that. Only people with low self esteems will make bad comments like that cus they are not happy themselves n need to find peoples fault to make them look good.0 -
The worst one I got recently went something like this- I love Skinny Cow Ice cream, and at 100 calories, I fit it in any days I work real hard. It's a great, guilt free treat.
Last week, as I was enjoying my treat, an old co-worker of my husbands stopped by. My husband is very proud of me for exercising and losing weight, so of course, he knew I was "dieting"
Him: I thought you were dieting, whats up with the Ice Cream?
Me: (nicely) It's a treat, and its Skinny Cow, it's..
Him: (interrupting me) It's ice cream, thats like the worst thing for you when you're dieting.
Me: (I decided to just keep my mouth shut at this point, I wanted to say some things I really shouldn't)
Him: (he launches into a story about how he "used to be" a weight lifter, so he knows a LOT about weight control)
Me: (I didn't say anything, just looked at his 100+ pounds of overweight self in disbelief)
Him: (the beautiful ending to his diatribe) He looked at me, very seriously, and said "My ex-wife used to try to lose weight by eating Ice Cream too, thats why I divorced her fat a****"
Me: "I may have some weight to lose, but your kind of ugly is permanent. Now, get the ____ out of my house"
My husband has been informed that this man better never walk in my door again.. if he does, my newest exercise will be batting practice!
You shoulda kicked his *ss out the door....(literally!).....hey then you would have burned off the 100 cals and you could sit back and have another Skinny Cow......its a win-win...:drinker:
lol this is too cute. I agree with her, that would of been brownie point for another ice cream n skinny cow is awesome.0 -
"why are you on a diet, you are so skinny, just enjoy yourself" (when i order healthy food on a menu like a salad or grilled chicken)
UM, I WORKED HARD TO GET HERE, IM NOT GOING TO FALL BACK INTO MY OLD WAYS BC YOU CANT HAVE SOME SELF RESTRAINT TO DO WHAT I DID!
Lol..these are the same people who text me: "whine, im so fat, i wanna get in shape..." oi
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