torturing your children...
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We have a donation box. If I've asked my son (6 1/2) to pick up his toys and he decides to play with them instead, I'll start picking things up and putting them into the donation box to be given to Goodwill at the end of the month.
He can earn them back if he keeps his room picked up but if by the end of the month he's still refusing to clean up, away goes the toys. I've only had to donate once.0 -
If they fight together, call each other names etc....they are made to give each other a hug as well as sit and hold hands until I feel they have been loving enough (lol I love this one)
My mom loved this one, too. As many times as she had to use it, you'd think me and my brothers would be more affectionate with one another as adults. Nope. We get along most of the time, but hugging each other is very awkward. LOL0 -
I have 3 teens. I have texting and calling blocked (except for certain numbers) the hours while they are at school and beginning at their bedtime. We eat dinner as a family almost every night and no one is allowed on their phone (including my husband) while we eat. Also, TV is off while we eat. 11 o'clock bedtime during the summer because my kids were becoming vampires, up all night and sleeping all day.
edit: My two sons refused to keep their room clean so I took their door. Now they have to get changed in the bathroom. They can earn it back, but only cleaning when I yell at them is not the way it is going to happen.0 -
My daughter loves to slam her bedroom door. She has had it taken away. lol
LOL love it! I always tell my kids that bedroom doors are optional! They can get dressed in the bathroom.
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In reading through this thread, I just realized: we are our parents.... GASP! When did this happen!??? :noway:0
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Tried a few of these with the triplets today. They are really looking forward to Daddy getting home tonight!!0
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For my teenager - I have, for years, threatened to chaperone a dance. She knows that I WILL dance in public and I would most likely be wearing something that declares exactly who my child is.
For my younger ones, there is counting, as well as restrictions from beloved activities. They will also be subjected to the threat of public embarrassment through my own silly actions - making the boys give me a kiss - you know, the usual "oh my God MOM, you are SO embarrassing!"0 -
Okay my kids are older 12 and 14. My punishment is "harsh" in kid language. I make them listen to my kind of music. You know the music from the 70-80-90's. Mawuahh ha ha ha ha *evil laugh* The power old cd's have and the amount of joy...*ahem *I mean parental guidance I am giving them, makes the groaning, moaning and eye-rolling all worth it. O_o
The funny thing about this is .. (at least with me ) when i got to be in my late teens - early 20s.. whenever I heard music my dad listened to .. I was like "oooh this is a classic turn it up !!!"0 -
I never needed to have my electronics restricted because I preferred being outside as a kid, and I loved reading (actual books) before bed.
My sleep habits were my own business as a teenager because I maintained a 4.0 throughout high school/community college and got myself up if I needed to get up. I started community college at age 15 and the only reason I was ever late for classes is because I had to rely on my dad to drive me and he's always late for everything.
I'm not saying I was a perfect kid, but jeeeezzz I was never that much of a lazy brat. I've done my own laundry since the age of 14, I learned how to cook and bake when I was 8, and I mowed my family's 2-acre lawn once a week as a teen. Before I was 17, I did volunteer work. At 17, I got a job and worked 1-2 jobs while in school after that.
My internet time was restricted when I was 11-12 years old (and I didn't care -- I think I played NeoPets on dialup), but after that I was free to do what I wanted.
I never did anything "grounding worthy" until I was 18. My mom "grounded" me for 3 days, but it lasted one -- because we sat down and talked it through.
I don't remember a lot of the punishments and things from when I was really little --- I guess my parents did a decent job though 0 -
I have a 13, 15 and 2 year old. During the summer the older two are always on the go. Take me here, take me there, I need money for this and I need money for that. I work from home so they would just come into my office and say "don't you remember, you are supposed to take me _________" . Now I make them fill out request forms with all the details before I agree to it lol! I also implemented a mandatory family night. No electronic devices are allowed. Games will be played by ALL. No amount of bad teenager attitude will get you sent to your room. Suck it up and play the game because I have to deal with "your" attitude about EVERYTHING 24/7. Also, name calling gets their cell phone taken away for 2 hours. Oh and there has been dog poop picking up as punishment too
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My boys are still little (one is almost 3 and the other is 11 months) so definately some good ideas here for later in life!
I also do the counting thing. Boy does he move fast once the count begins!
He's going through some trying times (terrible two's and all...) and I've finally found that threatening to take away outside time is what gets him to listen. He doesn't care if I turn off the TV or take his toys, but tell him he can't go out and suddenly he is the best listener in the world.
Time outs get to him too. And since he is still so young, it's only a couple minutes. But you'd think I stole his entire Saturday...0 -
My 3 year old is obsessed with her flip flops, as soon as we get home she wants to wear them and even sleeps in them. I don't understand it, but she's 3 so it makes sense to her. If she is misbehaving/won't go to bed, etc I tell her I will take her flip flops away and throw them in the trash. Eh, it works.0
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*rubs hands together* so many great ideas, not enough children....0
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I haven't read all this, but its REALLY making me realize I need more rules in my house!!!
I torture my poor son by making him brush his teeth and take his allergy medicine. Really, that's all! The kid gets to do whatever he wants, whenever he wants and he's a total monster, so maybe I need a few more rules... Off to think!
(Oh and he hates it when I combine the words to the theme songs of his favorite shows, it makes him angry, that's why I do it, lol!)0 -
Bwahaha I love this thread. My dad would torture us when we misbehaved by making us write sentences. If I hit my sisters, I had to write "I will not hit my sister" 200 times.
And if I spit at my sisters, I had to spit in a 1/2 measuring cup until it was full...GROSS! and I HATED that. I never spit again after that!
These are great! I am going to start both of these!0 -
my parents and i have a really great relationship. they never once punished me. never grounded me or spanked me. and were always open to talking things out. if i wanted to stay up till 3am and text, that was my choice. if i went to a party, i would call my mom to come pick me up and give me a ride home. if i said i really didnt want to go to school that day, she would call me in 'sick'. they trusted me, and i never broke that trust because i respected them. i always got my crap together. when i slid off the rode last winter i cried because i thought they would be mad (wrecked the whole side of the car hitting a pole). they said "we can only be mad at you, because of the fact that you are okay." she let me drive her car for 5 months untill i could pay to fix mine. i got a job at 15 and helped them pay for bills and stuff and still managed to pass highschool with all a's. my oldest brother dropped out of highschool and recently moved back in with my parents. he has NEVER kept a job and is in his late 30's. my other brother had a baby, dropped out of college, and now works at walmart. they both had punishments growing up along with nagging to do homework and curfues etc. i on the other hand, am the first one in my family to go to college and kept a 4.0 my entire first year. my mom and dad are my best friends
im so happy i tured out to be the person i am. i hope when i have children i can be the same way. but on that note, i am in school studying child psychology and guiding behavior. there are ways to 'control' a child without being crule. 0 -
I like to hide and jump out and scare them.0
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i wish I could bump this a few years into the future to use some of these on my future kids. Love it!
As a nanny, I definitely counted-- one toddler really responded, and the other took it as a dare. My parents never had rules for me or even chores... I turned out okay. haha0 -
I sing. Sadly, my son has declared that, while my singing voice is indeed terrible, it does not rise to the level of a sonic weapon that should be banned by the Geneva Conventions.
...was that a DW reference? lol.0 -
Haven't done this yet but a great idea from a FB post the other day
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My kids are canines. And yes, dogs can pout. I won't let my Bullmastiff get in my Dane's kennel (and vice versa). Same with food bowls. No getting on the bed unless the puppy blanket is on there (new comforter does NOT need puppy destruction). Hugs are requested, not given (my Dane likes to jump up and give hugs...this is now by invitation only)
And the one they hate the most? Being on a tie-out cable inside a fenced yard (it's not tall enough for me to trust letting them loose). My big boy will go all the way to the end, tug twice, look back to make sure I'm watching and then tug again. Then he whines and does a little yip, which makes him sound like a Pomeranian despite his Bullmastiff pedigree.
You shouldn't chain your dogs up outside. They can get hurt very easily. If you can't afford a higher fence, you probably should have considered getting a smaller dog that you were equipped to handle. He is probably yipping because it hurts when he tries to pull away.0 -
The one thing I never understood with my dad was bedtimes. My parents were divorced so when I spent the weekend with him, I was always forced to go to bed at 9 with no TV, no computer, and even no reading. I was also expected to get up at 6 am, 5 am on Sundays for church. I also did most of the chores except cooking or cleaning because my dad didn't trust me.
When I was younger and faked being sick my mom would pull the cord that connected the computer to the dial-up (this was the days of AOL) and keep it in her purse so I couldn't spend all day online. I used to hate her for it, but I know why she did it. I didn't have a cell phone and I didn't watch much TV so she took away the one thing I did like.
Personally I wish I could do half of what my parents did to me, to my 8 year old cousin. She's never been spanked, swatted, grounded, or had things taken away that weren't given back five minutes later. When my mother threatened to spank her with a belt for not listening to her a couple days ago, she got mad and stormed out the room. She wasn't scared or intimidated, she was mad someone had actually said she was being bad.
http://health.yahoo.net/news/s/nm/hitting-slapping-tied-to-later-mental-disorders
If you want your kids to grow up to have depression, anxiety, drug, and/or alcohol problems, by all means, go ahead and hit them.
Seriously, no child should be hit. Ever. For any reason. If you use violence on them, you are teaching them that violence is ok. You are also ruining their self esteem and doing a ton of harm.0 -
I may buy a dog just to have punishment-poop! :laugh:0
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My kids are canines. And yes, dogs can pout. I won't let my Bullmastiff get in my Dane's kennel (and vice versa). Same with food bowls. No getting on the bed unless the puppy blanket is on there (new comforter does NOT need puppy destruction). Hugs are requested, not given (my Dane likes to jump up and give hugs...this is now by invitation only)
And the one they hate the most? Being on a tie-out cable inside a fenced yard (it's not tall enough for me to trust letting them loose). My big boy will go all the way to the end, tug twice, look back to make sure I'm watching and then tug again. Then he whines and does a little yip, which makes him sound like a Pomeranian despite his Bullmastiff pedigree.
You shouldn't chain your dogs up outside. They can get hurt very easily. If you can't afford a higher fence, you probably should have considered getting a smaller dog that you were equipped to handle. He is probably yipping because it hurts when he tries to pull away.
Really? She TRAINS her dogs, so I am going to go out on a limb and say that she is being reasonably responsible and not putting her dogs in danger. There is no telling what her situation is!
When I had a newborn I used to put my dog on a run to potty and then let her back in the house when she came back to the door, it was not dangerous and VERY necessary.0 -
Haven't done this yet but a great idea from a FB post the other day
i LOVE this! But I would need to rent a storage locker. Might be worth it!0 -
My 2.5 year old hates when i sing....so now I do it really loud!
Mine too! And so do I!0 -
My son, 5, is the most stubborn kid I have ever seen. We have tried everything with him. First it was time-outs, then spankings. When those things didn't work we tried taking away his TV and video priviledges. When that stopped working we got the idea to take his toys away. Not just a few, but Every.Single.Toy. They got taking out to our storage building and stayed there until he earned them back, a few toys at a time. It took him about 2 - 2.5 months to get them all back. Now that it's summer time all we have to do is make him come inside.0
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my parents and i have a really great relationship. they never once punished me. never grounded me or spanked me. and were always open to talking things out. if i wanted to stay up till 3am and text, that was my choice. if i went to a party, i would call my mom to come pick me up and give me a ride home. if i said i really didnt want to go to school that day, she would call me in 'sick'. they trusted me, and i never broke that trust because i respected them. i always got my crap together. when i slid off the rode last winter i cried because i thought they would be mad (wrecked the whole side of the car hitting a pole). they said "we can only be mad at you, because of the fact that you are okay." she let me drive her car for 5 months untill i could pay to fix mine. i got a job at 15 and helped them pay for bills and stuff and still managed to pass highschool with all a's. my oldest brother dropped out of highschool and recently moved back in with my parents. he has NEVER kept a job and is in his late 30's. my other brother had a baby, dropped out of college, and now works at walmart. they both had punishments growing up along with nagging to do homework and curfues etc. i on the other hand, am the first one in my family to go to college and kept a 4.0 my entire first year. my mom and dad are my best friends im so happy i tured out to be the person i am. i hope when i have children i can be the same way. but on that note, i am in school studying child psychology and guiding behavior. there are ways to 'control' a child without being crule.
You sound like a great girl. I hope you continue to be successful in life.
I hope you don't take this the wrong way, but learning in school about kids is NOT the same as parenting.
I'm a teacher and all of my education classes were great in theory, but much of the information is just not feasible or relatable in a real classroom setting.0 -
Haven't done this yet but a great idea from a FB post the other day
I've seen this and the "bored jar". It has chores but fun stuff in it too...so in the summer, if the kids complain of being bored they can take their chances with the drawing an activity from the jar 0 -
Let's see...with my 7 year old.
Food. If I prepare something, he needs to try it. He doesn't have to like it, he doesn't have to eat it, but he doesn't get anything else either. I make one meal. Don't like, don't eat it, but you wait until the next meal. No snacking.
Chores. His daily chores are to make his bed, scoop the litter boxes and fill the water dishes in the morning and after noon. If he does it with out being told, he earns his allowance. If I have to remind him, no allowance. If I have to remind him after he has gone to bed, I wake him up to finish.
Discipline. Push ups/sits up. While he is doing his push ups/sit ups, he explains why he is doing them 'I was doing this, I should have/should not have done xxx'. Proper form is key. A bad push up doesn't count. If he really cheeses me off, I make him hold a wet dish towel.
Yard work. When his mother and I are outside, he is outside.
No television. Period. None.
I have him write book reports on books. These reports earn time on his computer/tablet. (Side note, he hates that daddy makes him change his password every 90 days. Daddy is an IT guy. Wife hates it too.)
He once told me he wasn't going to do these things any more. I simply turned to him and calmly mentioned that his grandpa thinks I am too easy, and that I should discipline him the way I was. Then I asked if he wanted to find out what Grandpa thought I should be doing. Problem solved.0
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