Family is trying to sabotage my 'diet'

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  • fit_and_fab_after_kids
    fit_and_fab_after_kids Posts: 43 Member
    OMG, i hate that but mine is more negitive comments like "no she won't have that she's on a DIET" grrrr actually no i'm eating healthy to set a good example for my children, so in your face!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • Kalraii
    Kalraii Posts: 89
    Oh my gosh been through this thread and I can relate 100% :( Scept it's my nan - she is skinny herself but is one of those force feeders and does it to everyone around her. My mother, uncle and myself are all in the obese category. Every time I try to lose weight and tell her she fills the cupboards with cakes, chocolate and other crap all over the kitchen so there isn't one place I wouldn't be tempted! In the past she has even cooked THREE dinners in one night. Looking back I was an ignorant child but we can't even talk about food without arguing anymore.

    Good luck with everything I feel for you. In the long run any temptation or attempts to control us through food (no matter how well intended) will only make us stronger. But blimey its hard.... xxx
  • JadeRabbit08
    JadeRabbit08 Posts: 551 Member
    As a person who doesnt have a lot of self control. (Well hello that was a major contributer to why I need to lose weight in the first place) Having junk food around doesnt work for me as its never "just one cookie".

    It happens. Years ago when I still had a 24 inch waist, I was out with my cousin and she would not take no for an answer while insisting that I try this "amazing" cheesecake. I told her I don't even like cheesecake but she went ahead and ordered it anyway and placed it in front of me. She continued to make a fuss until I said ok and ate some. Many weeks later she confessed that she had only bought the cheesecake because she had noticed that with my running I had lost the small amount of kidney fat I had put on and she was afraid that when we walked down the street that men would look at me instead of her.

    If she hadn't straight out told me I wouldn't have ever suspected her as I didn't know people even thought that way.

    Its true you need coping strategies when you are at events or out with friends but a visitor coming to your house bringing obvious high calorie junk food when you have told them you are endevouring to lose weight, well thats rude and inconsiderate.
    Outside your home you cant have the world conform to your dietery needs but you do have the right to dictate what comes in your house. Be straight - just say "I know you equate bringing treats with affection but when you do this it doesnt make me feel loved it makes me feel like you don't care about my health or goals."

    In my family there is always oranges, bananas and apples and stone fruit in season in the house but a few of us buy each other expensive fruit as treats instead of junk food. Stuff that you may not buy everyday due to expense. So for us thats mangos, cherries, passionfruit, dragon fruit and berries. Also good quality gourmet yogurt tubs. If food is a way of showing love in your family maybe try letting them know about what you would welcome.

    My brother came home with an outrageously huge mango out of season for me and said "I got this for you."
    It felt like a hug : ) (it tasted noms too)

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