Random Compliments... Love them or think they are creepy?

jr1985
jr1985 Posts: 1,033 Member
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I've been known to send random messages to people, both on MFP and online dating sites... even tell them in real life, just random things like "Your red hair is amazing! I love it!" Or " That is an awesome beard!" And that is it... I'm not trying to hit on them necessarily and don't even expect to get any kind of reply back... (What can I say, I have a thing for Gingers and lumberjacks :wink: )

Do you like it when you get a random compliment like that? or Do you think it's creepy? I always thought it was fine but then lately friends have been telling me I'm going to be labeled as the town creeper if I keep telling every ginger in town that I love their hair. The only time I think it's creepy to get a random compliment personally is if they go for something awkward... like my boobs or something.

So what's the verdict? Like getting them or think they are creepy?
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  • Jbjessi
    Jbjessi Posts: 288
    Depends is the person giving the compliment seem sincere, creepy, or nice. From you I would take it as a nice compliment from someone else.. lets say my father in law creepy creepy creepy
  • chris1816
    chris1816 Posts: 715 Member
    I don't find out of the blue compliments odd or creepy. I think society in many countries has moved to this unfortunate awkward point where people are hesitant to give and weird about recieving a casual compliment about their appearance. People immediately assume that person wants to to screw or something. I guess this gets me in trouble sometimes, I don't think it's odd to compliment someone as handsome or beautiful in a casual manner but I can see how it may be percieved at times.

    Me personally, I'm indifferent. If someone compliments me, cool. If someone takes that and starts heavily coming on to me I'll tell them to piss off if they don't respect the fact I'm with someone. There is a difference though.
  • BAMFMeredith
    BAMFMeredith Posts: 2,810 Member
    If it's a sincere compliment, and it's something kind then I love it! I had a random woman tell me I had great hair one day at Target. Just out of the blue, and it totally made my day! And another time I was standing in line at the bank and an older man, I'd say in his 60s or so, said to me "Pardon me, but you are just the prettiest thing I've seen all day." It was so sweet!

    Now if it's some random internet message from a dude saying "nice boobs" or something, well, creep away, creeper.
  • foodfight247
    foodfight247 Posts: 767 Member
    Bumping.....
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    it depends on
    a. the context
    b. how attractive person complimenting me is( not gonna lie)
    c. what I am wearing


    They are ALWAYS creepy at the gym, unless it's a woman impressed with me rocking my workout.
  • Jani2416
    Jani2416 Posts: 275 Member
    Yesterday I got a random message from someone on here, it was through a PM...it made my day and put a smile on my face...not creepy at all.

    So thanks new friend, you know who you are :smile:
  • heidiberr
    heidiberr Posts: 643 Member
    I love them! I worked really hard to get where I'm at--I'm happy with my physical appearance--absolutely give me some love if you are thinking it! I even appreciate wolf whistles when I'm running :P

    I will also freely give compliments to strangers too though.
  • musicgirl99
    musicgirl99 Posts: 252 Member
    I think random compliments are great. I might be taken aback at first because nowadays they are so rare, but after the initial shock wears off, they make my day. :happy:
  • iLoveMyPitbull1225
    iLoveMyPitbull1225 Posts: 1,690 Member
    I almost always enjoy a compliment. However, content and context are important. In my situation being a young female, there is a large difference between a female coworker saying, " you look really nice today " and a male coworker saying " you look so sexy in that top." Inappropriate. Creepy would be a random guy coming up to me in the mall or something and telling me he was watching me from afar and couldn't help but notice my...blah blah blah.

    lol kinda an extreme examples....but true nonetheless.
    My point is, an appropriate compliment is very nice. I will never be upset about one.
  • KStambulic
    KStambulic Posts: 131
    Last fall I had some guy who was walking behind me on the sidewalk tell me how beautiful he thought my red hair was. I was actually glad that I had reached the coffee shop I was walking to because I did think it was rather creepy. I said thank you but I was still uncomfortable about it. He was one of the homeless guys who walks the streets and had crossed the street a block earlier to walk behind me.
  • AShawneeF
    AShawneeF Posts: 123 Member
    It depends on who they are from. I used to work at a full serve gas station, and the regulars weren't used to a girl working there so I was always getiing compliments. But they were usually from gross old guys or just people over 30 in general. Since i ws 17-19 at the time, it was offputting and it just made me feel weird.
    Now, on the rare times it was from someone nearer to my age..HAPPINESS! it makes me feel really good about myself.

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  • jeffryjirraf
    jeffryjirraf Posts: 179 Member
    If i got a random compliment, I would instantly suspect a set up.
  • caraiselite
    caraiselite Posts: 2,631 Member
    love them.
  • 2muchsauce
    2muchsauce Posts: 1,078
    I think random compliments are great. I might be taken aback at first because nowadays they are so rare, but after the initial shock wears off, they make my day. :happy:

    This is exactly what I was thinking! I'll take what I can get anymore............creepy or not lol:)
  • ctooch99
    ctooch99 Posts: 459 Member
    From ladies - awesome

    From dudes - kinda creepy

    just sayin...
  • OhLibra
    OhLibra Posts: 221 Member
    Love'em!
  • smiley245
    smiley245 Posts: 420 Member
    Like others have said it would depend on the context and how its implied.
    Having worked in the service industry, you tend to get a lot. For me its was often the eyes that were complimented so im not weirded out by it.
    Once had an elderly lady tell me I had great skin tone (colour wise) It still makes me smile to think about it. :happy:
    had a few great teeth comments which I always find funny....thanks I have a great dentist??
    Weirdest one was from an older lady at work. She told me I had a great chest and asked me what kind of bra I wore.....???
  • pornstarzombie
    pornstarzombie Posts: 297
    Like others - it depends. If I can tell they aren't sincere..why even bother? I don't like being whistled at or called "sexy", but if you compliment me on my eyes, or my hair, or something I'm fine with it.

    I was at a buffet last month, and a little old man was next to me and he looked up at me [6' here] and said, "You are just such a beautiful young woman!"

    Made my day. :D
  • solarpower03
    solarpower03 Posts: 12,161 Member
    Depending on the connotation of the compliment!
  • jr1985
    jr1985 Posts: 1,033 Member
    Depends is the person giving the compliment seem sincere, creepy, or nice. From you I would take it as a nice compliment from someone else.. lets say my father in law creepy creepy creepy

    Thanks... Btw... LOVE the cowboy hat!... (but not trying to be creepy :smile: )
  • jr1985
    jr1985 Posts: 1,033 Member
    I don't find out of the blue compliments odd or creepy. I think society in many countries has moved to this unfortunate awkward point where people are hesitant to give and weird about recieving a casual compliment about their appearance. People immediately assume that person wants to to screw or something. I guess this gets me in trouble sometimes, I don't think it's odd to compliment someone as handsome or beautiful in a casual manner but I can see how it may be percieved at times.

    Me personally, I'm indifferent. If someone compliments me, cool. If someone takes that and starts heavily coming on to me I'll tell them to piss off if they don't respect the fact I'm with someone. There is a difference though.

    I know... It's sad that you really have to almost stop and think anymore before you give a simple compliment without having to worry about how people are going to take it... This is part of the reason I love hanging around my latin friends... they just seem to be so much more open as a culture, and don't mind telling you if they like your hair or your eyes or your smile... We both know they aren't meaning it as a come on... they are just saying it to be nice... they are also however more likely to tell you that your house is dirty or that your cooking hasn't been so fabulous lately... At least with my friends... Oh well... I'll take the honesty :)... and btw... LOVE the beard! Not hitting on you or trying to be creepy... just sayin :)
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  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    I make an effort to find something I might compliment someone with.
  • ComicBookGeekGirl
    ComicBookGeekGirl Posts: 202
    I dunno. Send me a compliment and I'll tell you if its creepy or sweet! :wink:

    If you are sincere, than it should come across as sweet. If you undress them with your eyes, while saying it, than it becomes creepy. I'm sure people apperciate it when you say something nice to them.:flowerforyou:
  • LiftBigtoGetFit
    LiftBigtoGetFit Posts: 3,399 Member
    the Creepiness of a compliment is directly relative to how Attractive You find the giver of the compliment.

    C = A+Y
  • morganhccstudent724
    morganhccstudent724 Posts: 1,261 Member
    Your red hair is ah-mazing....
  • Jersey_Devil
    Jersey_Devil Posts: 4,142 Member
    depends.
  • phillieschic
    phillieschic Posts: 615
    Having been sexually harassed at work, I'm going to say that it totally depends on the person, the intent and the circumstances.
  • Krizzo87
    Krizzo87 Posts: 14,186 Member
    the Creepiness of a compliment is directly relative to how Attractive You find the giver of the compliment.

    C = A+Y

    So..........all those compliments I give you on a daily basis? :huh: :bigsmile:
  • LiftBigtoGetFit
    LiftBigtoGetFit Posts: 3,399 Member
    the Creepiness of a compliment is directly relative to how Attractive You find the giver of the compliment.

    C = A+Y

    So..........all those compliments I give you on a daily basis? :huh: :bigsmile:

    I haven't blocked you yet have I :flowerforyou:

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