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  • patty43ck
    patty43ck Posts: 248 Member
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    Your lack of intelligence and humor makes me sick, so we are even.
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    Oh I have a great sense of humor...just not when it comes to things like abortion. That subject is never funny! Maybe if your mother had had one...now that would make me laugh!
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    Rude, now you are getting personal.
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    Oh and you weren't getting personal?? Just saying it isn't that funny in a personal context is it? it shouldn't be funny period!!
  • nas24
    nas24 Posts: 880 Member
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    && if B don't work there is always plan C.

    Plan C- Coat hanger im guessing:happy:

    FRIEND REQUEST SENT!

    LMAO... anyone that thinks abortions are funny is a friend of mine :wink:
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    You people are sick
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    Your lack of intelligence and humor makes me sick, so we are even.
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    Oh I have a great sense of humor...just not when it comes to things like abortion. That subject is never funny! Maybe if your mother had had one...now that would make me laugh!
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    S**T! I wish she did, so I wouldn't have to listen to your dumb *kitten* "talk"
  • Hawksbillus
    Hawksbillus Posts: 128 Member
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    Part of the problem, I think, is that our culture lies to us and tells us that we should be with someone "perfect" and that anything less than perfect is "settling". We sometimes build up an ideal, fantasy, romance in our minds, but no partner in reality can live up to that ideal. So, people bounce around from partner to partner looking for that perfect, fantasy romance. It's hard to set aside those fantasies and get used to the idea that everyone is flawed. IMO, if you find someone who fits 80% of your ideal, fantasy partner you're doing really damn good. :)

    I was just reading an article about this:

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sheryl-paul/letters-to-a-runaway-brid_b_1656764.html
  • CountryBoy65
    CountryBoy65 Posts: 908 Member
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    A spouse who will not or does not want to have sex is NO excuse for cheating. Marriage is an eternal commitment and not one to be entered into lightly. That is the problem. If your spouse is not interested in sex than spend time trying to figure out why. Most likely there is something emotionally going on that needs to be addressed. My wife could completely cut me off tomorrow and I would not cheat (unless you include porn, which some do) lol.

    Happiness = having sex

    If your spouse is refusing to have sex for reasons other than chronic pain/disability than what is the purpose of staying together?

    Right. You didn't sign up for a roommate. You walked down that aisle to make your self husband and wife. A HUGE part of that is sex. If you want to keep your mate monogamous, have sex with them. It helps!!!

    I have been monogamous for my entire marriage and, yet I have not had sex for 4 years. I think that might change this weekend, cause I am tired of the ****.

    I need a partner....anyone?
  • nas24
    nas24 Posts: 880 Member
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    Part of the problem, I think, is that our culture lies to us and tells us that we should be with someone "perfect" and that anything less than perfect is "settling". We sometimes build up an ideal, fantasy, romance in our minds, but no partner in reality can live up to that ideal. So, people bounce around from partner to partner looking for that perfect, fantasy romance. It's hard to set aside those fantasies and get used to the idea that everyone is flawed. IMO, if you find someone who fits 80% of your ideal, fantasy partner you're doing really damn good. :)

    I was just reading an article about this:

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sheryl-paul/letters-to-a-runaway-brid_b_1656764.html

    Very smart and true
  • threnners
    threnners Posts: 175 Member
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    If you think it's okay to cheat, you need to head over to the surviving infidelity boards and see the amount of gut wrenching pain in the Just Found Out section. It doesn't affect just you, it affects your spouse, your kids, and a whole other range of things you don't even consider at the time you're getting your illicit jollies.

    And most of the time, especially in my ex husband's case, it's a downgrade.
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
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    I need a partner....anyone?

    Not me.
  • patty43ck
    patty43ck Posts: 248 Member
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    Part of the problem, I think, is that our culture lies to us and tells us that we should be with someone "perfect" and that anything less than perfect is "settling". We sometimes build up an ideal, fantasy, romance in our minds, but no partner in reality can live up to that ideal. So, people bounce around from partner to partner looking for that perfect, fantasy romance. It's hard to set aside those fantasies and get used to the idea that everyone is flawed. IMO, if you find someone who fits 80% of your ideal, fantasy partner you're doing really damn good. :)

    I was just reading an article about this:

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sheryl-paul/letters-to-a-runaway-brid_b_1656764.html

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    This!!
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,022 Member
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    For the record, I do believe refusing to have sex with your spouse is a form of betrayal. I absolutely believe it is part of the agreement you make when you marry someone, and I don't really believe it is any different than cheating.
  • scs143
    scs143 Posts: 2,190 Member
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    A spouse who will not or does not want to have sex is NO excuse for cheating. Marriage is an eternal commitment and not one to be entered into lightly. That is the problem. If your spouse is not interested in sex than spend time trying to figure out why. Most likely there is something emotionally going on that needs to be addressed. My wife could completely cut me off tomorrow and I would not cheat (unless you include porn, which some do) lol.

    Happiness = having sex

    If your spouse is refusing to have sex for reasons other than chronic pain/disability than what is the purpose of staying together?

    Right. You didn't sign up for a roommate. You walked down that aisle to make your self husband and wife. A HUGE part of that is sex. If you want to keep your mate monogamous, have sex with them. It helps!!!

    I have been monogamous for my entire marriage and, yet I have not had sex for 4 years. I think that might change this weekend, cause I am tired of the ****.

    I need a partner....anyone?


    Awww CB, I <3 you!
  • nikkiprickett
    nikkiprickett Posts: 412 Member
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    I'm about to get corny BUT, if you're already in a relationship you are agreeing to be with that person and only that person (unless you have negotiated other terms, like open relationships) Come on, we all know how relationships work...especially marriage!

    it's in you're vows to be faithful, honest etc....so if you know you'll give into the temptations, or don't believe in monogamy, simply don't get into a relationship. There actually are a lot of people who feel the same now days, find them! Not someone who will be devastated when they find out. and believe me it's pretty obvious which is which.

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    Also if you're in a relationship and not having sex THAT'S A BIG PROBLEM! TMI- but if I don't get it enough, i just get *****y plain and simple. I know the whole "sex isn't the only thing that matters" quote is thrown around a lot, and no it's not the only thing that matters but it does come in a close SECOND to whatever is put first :) You NEED this in a relationship and anyone who says otherwise is just ignorant. Those women who cut off sex is like the men cutting off saying I love you or whatever it is that most females need to stay in a relationship.

    That being said, how are your opinions on threesomes? just curious :drinker:
  • LilMissSunshine_
    LilMissSunshine_ Posts: 520
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    Your lack of intelligence and humor makes me sick, so we are even.

    Oh I have a great sense of humor...just not when it comes to things like abortion. That subject is never funny! Maybe if your mother had had one...now that would make me laugh!
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    Rude, now you are getting personal.
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    Oh and you weren't getting personal?? Just saying it isn't that funny in a personal context is it? it shouldn't be funny period!!
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    You are just Bitter Betsy today.
  • nopudgepoot
    nopudgepoot Posts: 63 Member
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    Very interesting conversation. I'll be reading this later.
  • marie_cressman
    marie_cressman Posts: 980 Member
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    Part of the problem, I think, is that our culture lies to us and tells us that we should be with someone "perfect" and that anything less than perfect is "settling". We sometimes build up an ideal, fantasy, romance in our minds, but no partner in reality can live up to that ideal. So, people bounce around from partner to partner looking for that perfect, fantasy romance. It's hard to set aside those fantasies and get used to the idea that everyone is flawed. IMO, if you find someone who fits 80% of your ideal, fantasy partner you're doing really damn good. :)

    I was just reading an article about this:

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sheryl-paul/letters-to-a-runaway-brid_b_1656764.html

    ^^ very smart man!

    i fully agree here! my marriage is not "perfect". being totally and brutally honest? my husband gets on my damn nerves half the time. LOL i still love him just the same.
  • Sharyn913
    Sharyn913 Posts: 777 Member
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    I wonder how long until this thread gets locked by a mod.
  • felice03
    felice03 Posts: 2,732 Member
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    I don't know about cheating...but I am _______ disappointed I am so late coming into this thread. I keep missing the fun today.
  • jcmartin0313
    jcmartin0313 Posts: 574 Member
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    Part of the problem, I think, is that our culture lies to us and tells us that we should be with someone "perfect" and that anything less than perfect is "settling". We sometimes build up an ideal, fantasy, romance in our minds, but no partner in reality can live up to that ideal. So, people bounce around from partner to partner looking for that perfect, fantasy romance. It's hard to set aside those fantasies and get used to the idea that everyone is flawed. IMO, if you find someone who fits 80% of your ideal, fantasy partner you're doing really damn good. :)

    I was just reading an article about this:

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sheryl-paul/letters-to-a-runaway-brid_b_1656764.html

    ^^ very smart man!

    i fully agree here! my marriage is not "perfect". being totally and brutally honest? my husband gets on my damn nerves half the time. LOL i still love him just the same.

    Marriage is the hardest damn thing you can engage in. My wife and I want to kill each other sometimes, but it also the most rewarding thing. She and I are truly one being and I cannot imagine life without her.
  • LilMissSunshine_
    LilMissSunshine_ Posts: 520
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    I don't know about cheating...but I am _______ disappointed I am so late coming into this thread. I keep missing the fun today.

    More fun in my bedroom later... room 215. Be there or be square!
  • felice03
    felice03 Posts: 2,732 Member
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    I don't know about cheating...but I am _______ disappointed I am so late coming into this thread. I keep missing the fun today.

    More fun in my bedroom later... room 215. Be there or be square!

    DONE!!!!
  • inkydnk3
    inkydnk3 Posts: 62 Member
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    You can't a fault a person for cheating if they're upgrading. lol

    Yes I can. Upgrade all you want - after you break up with your current partner.
    Agree..the key word being AFTER!

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