relationships and F***ing up
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this may be the first time ever that I have sensored myself . . .
I actually totally agreed with all you said!!!!!0 -
That's what condoms were invented for!I think the question is what did YOU do to make them cheat? I mean nobody cheats unless you do something to MAKE them cheat. Duuurrr....
Really???? Judging from responses here...some people think it is completely ok to do this just because they want to, It doesn't have anything to do with what the other person in the relationship.
Oh no, I think you are completly mistaken... it takes two to tango.
Disagree. If there is a problem in the relationship that is 'driving' the person to cheat, say they are unsatisfied sexually, then it should be worked out and discussed. If you can't work it out, you break up, and THEN you go get it elsewhere.
Why would you break up with someone you love just because you want to have sex with someone else? I don't get it?
Because it is disgusting and completely unfair to the spouse you are cheating on. What if you contract a disease or get the other person pregnant! that is just F*** up!!
Condoms don't always work honey!!! i had my first child because one ripped!0 -
I think if people were more relaxed and not so insecure it wouldn't be just another pleasure to enjoy in this life. But we have so many damn rules in society to make us feel safe. People have been "cheating' since the dawn on mankind. There's your sign ... yes, its only I one opinion :blushing:
Edit to WOULD BE A PLEASURE!
^^^ Very true. My relationship is sort of like this. It is the best one I have ever had.0 -
My personal thought is that if someone is cheating on someone they are in a relationship with, they aren't really committed to being in that relationship.
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You can't a fault a person for cheating if they're upgrading. lol
True... but ive been cheated on with some clear downgrades. I'm guessing they took it in the *kitten* or something special like that. Gave them something i couldn't, fair enough0 -
I have two different answers I would like to bring up, and most people will agree with one or the other ;-)
First, from a Biblical perspective, we live in a fallen world where sin is running rampant. We are selfish and care more about ourselves and what makes us happy versus the other person. We don't think about our actions and how they are displeasing to our Creator (God) We have numbed our conscious to feel that what we are doing is okay.
The second option is we are selfish and care more about ourselves and what makes us happy versus the other person!
All human being are selfish, not all human being cheat.0 -
That's what condoms were invented for!
Why would you break up with someone you love just because you want to have sex with someone else? I don't get it?
Because it is disgusting and completely unfair to the spouse you are cheating on. What if you contract a disease or get the other person pregnant! that is just F*** up!!
Condoms don't always work honey!!! i had my first child because one ripped!
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Well if you wouldn't of been so rough, that never would have happened. See, YOUR fault.0 -
That's what condoms were invented for!I think the question is what did YOU do to make them cheat? I mean nobody cheats unless you do something to MAKE them cheat. Duuurrr....
Really???? Judging from responses here...some people think it is completely ok to do this just because they want to, It doesn't have anything to do with what the other person in the relationship.
Oh no, I think you are completly mistaken... it takes two to tango.
Disagree. If there is a problem in the relationship that is 'driving' the person to cheat, say they are unsatisfied sexually, then it should be worked out and discussed. If you can't work it out, you break up, and THEN you go get it elsewhere.
Why would you break up with someone you love just because you want to have sex with someone else? I don't get it?
Because it is disgusting and completely unfair to the spouse you are cheating on. What if you contract a disease or get the other person pregnant! that is just F*** up!!
Condoms don't always work honey!!! i had my first child because one ripped!
Plan B- DUH!0 -
That's what condoms were invented for
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Also, pregnancy isn't the only thing you have to worry about. STDs yo. They can kill you. Not cool. If you are so dissatisfied sexually that you want to cheat, your partner probably feels unhappy too. It would be unfair to fix your problem but not theirs.0
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A spouse who will not or does not want to have sex is NO excuse for cheating. Marriage is an eternal commitment and not one to be entered into lightly. That is the problem. If your spouse is not interested in sex than spend time trying to figure out why. Most likely there is something emotionally going on that needs to be addressed. My wife could completely cut me off tomorrow and I would not cheat (unless you include porn, which some do) lol.0
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I think if people were more relaxed and not so insecure it wouldn't be just another pleasure to enjoy in this life. But we have so many damn rules in society to make us feel safe. People have been "cheating' since the dawn on mankind. There's your sign ... yes, its only I one opinion :blushing:
Edit to WOULD BE A PLEASURE!
^^^ Very true. My relationship is sort of like this. It is the best one I have ever had.
There's a difference between cheating and having an open relationship. If you like being with one person but sleeping with lots of others and your partner feels the same then there is no problem. Doing it behind your partners back because you know it will hurt them is a different story.0 -
Everyone is different when it comes to sex I guess, there is no right answer, you have to go with what works for you and what you are comfortable with. There is no arguing that men and women are different when it comes to the purely physical. I have a lot of guy friends that tell me they love the lady they are with but will definitely have sex with other women just for the physical. I think it is better to go into things with your eyes open to how it really is rather than a fantasy idea of romance. You can't argue with biological facts!0
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I think one reason people cheat is because they do not accept that temptation is a normal part of being human. I have been very tempted sexually at various times and even more so now that I have lost weight. However, I admit and accept temptation is just a momentary desire for physical gratification which is far less valuable to me than the eternal love I have with my wife. I think if we are honest about temptation and even allow ourselves to flirt safely then we are far more productive in our actual relationships. Attraction to someone is normal, cheating is not.
I like this answer lol It pretty much sums things up!
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True... but ive been cheated on with some clear downgrades. I'm guessing they took it in the *kitten* or something special like that. Gave them something i couldn't, fair enough
LOL.. This is classic funny stuff!!0 -
That's what condoms were invented for![
Why would you break up with someone you love just because you want to have sex with someone else? I don't get it?
Because it is disgusting and completely unfair to the spouse you are cheating on. What if you contract a disease or get the other person pregnant! that is just F*** up!!
Condoms don't always work honey!!! i had my first child because one ripped!
Plan B- DUH!
&& if B don't work there is always plan C.
Plan C- Coat hanger im guessing:happy:0 -
That's what condoms were invented for![
Why would you break up with someone you love just because you want to have sex with someone else? I don't get it?
Because it is disgusting and completely unfair to the spouse you are cheating on. What if you contract a disease or get the other person pregnant! that is just F*** up!!
Condoms don't always work honey!!! i had my first child because one ripped!
Plan B- DUH!
&& if B don't work there is always plan C.
Plan C- Coat hanger im guessing:happy:
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I'm just not one of those people that believes we were meant to mate for life either. I, myself, am mongamish. We are designed to be attracted to one another, not just one. It's society and religion (quick, go grab your popcorn, I just said the 'R' word) that have put these expectations on us. Believe it or not, the whole world does not believe as the US typically does.
I can be with my bf, in a long term, committed relationship. 'Committed relationship' means I'm committed to sharing my life with him, NOT committed to him being the last man on earth I ever sleep with - or woman, for that matter! I also don't expect him to be with only me. He has every right to be with any woman he so chooses. If people would just loosen up, quit putting their insecurities before their partner's basic needs, there wouldn't be a 52% divorce rate in the US!
...and let the bashing begin...
No bashing. Being poly isn't cheating, because you're not lying.0 -
That's what condoms were invented for![
Why would you break up with someone you love just because you want to have sex with someone else? I don't get it?
Because it is disgusting and completely unfair to the spouse you are cheating on. What if you contract a disease or get the other person pregnant! that is just F*** up!!
Condoms don't always work honey!!! i had my first child because one ripped!
Plan B- DUH!
&& if B don't work there is always plan C.
Plan C- Coat hanger im guessing:happy:
FRIEND REQUEST SENT!
LMAO... anyone that thinks abortions are funny is a friend of mine 0 -
Amen to plan C.0
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Because... variety is the spice of life... in many different areas.
It certainly does not make it right by any means, but it can help explain a lot. This is BOTH sexes by the way... not just one or the other!
Although a lot of good points have been made... it generally comes down to being selfish, immature, or simply seeking to have various wants/needs met that aren't being fulfilled.
There are hundreds of reasons why people cheat... and they are all situation dependent.0 -
Everyone is different when it comes to sex I guess, there is no right answer, you have to go with what works for you and what you are comfortable with. There is no arguing that men and women are different when it comes to the purely physical. I have a lot of guy friends that tell me they love the lady they are with but will definitely have sex with other women just for the physical. I think it is better to go into things with your eyes open to how it really is rather than a fantasy idea of romance. You can't argue with biological facts!
Well maybe your guy friends are like this but not all men/women are like this! There is a clear pattern on this thread of people who think this is ok and people who don't. Just hopefully the same types of people find each other. Unfortunately, this is not always the case.0 -
Totally missed the point. The point wasn't about condoms, the point was take precautions. NOTHING works 100% of the time, but take precautions. There are a hundred arguements to this, and no, I'm not condoning cheating. I'm condoning lightening up and letting people do what they're going to do and be who they're going to be.
That's what condoms were invented for!I think the question is what did YOU do to make them cheat? I mean nobody cheats unless you do something to MAKE them cheat. Duuurrr....
Really???? Judging from responses here...some people think it is completely ok to do this just because they want to, It doesn't have anything to do with what the other person in the relationship.
Oh no, I think you are completly mistaken... it takes two to tango.
Disagree. If there is a problem in the relationship that is 'driving' the person to cheat, say they are unsatisfied sexually, then it should be worked out and discussed. If you can't work it out, you break up, and THEN you go get it elsewhere.
Why would you break up with someone you love just because you want to have sex with someone else? I don't get it?
Because it is disgusting and completely unfair to the spouse you are cheating on. What if you contract a disease or get the other person pregnant! that is just F*** up!!
Condoms don't always work honey!!! i had my first child because one ripped!0 -
A spouse who will not or does not want to have sex is NO excuse for cheating. Marriage is an eternal commitment and not one to be entered into lightly. That is the problem. If your spouse is not interested in sex than spend time trying to figure out why. Most likely there is something emotionally going on that needs to be addressed. My wife could completely cut me off tomorrow and I would not cheat (unless you include porn, which some do) lol.
Wonder if you would still feel the same way 4 years later.0 -
&& if B don't work there is always plan C.
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Plan C- Coat hanger im guessing:happy:
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FRIEND REQUEST SENT!
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LMAO... anyone that thinks abortions are funny is a friend of mine
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You people are sick0 -
Which is why we gather in masses.&& if B don't work there is always plan C.
Plan C- Coat hanger im guessing:happy:
FRIEND REQUEST SENT!
LMAO... anyone that thinks abortions are funny is a friend of mine
You people are sick0 -
true point. I guess what I meant was so Few people feel like this... so... more end up cheating.I think if people were more relaxed and not so insecure it wouldn't be just another pleasure to enjoy in this life. But we have so many damn rules in society to make us feel safe. People have been "cheating' since the dawn on mankind. There's your sign ... yes, its only I one opinion :blushing:
Edit to WOULD BE A PLEASURE!
^^^ Very true. My relationship is sort of like this. It is the best one I have ever had.
There's a difference between cheating and having an open relationship. If you like being with one person but sleeping with lots of others and your partner feels the same then there is no problem. Doing it behind your partners back because you know it will hurt them is a different story.0 -
Because it is unatural for us to be in long term committed relationships there comes a time in every relationship when you just get tired of the other person you still love them want to be with them but you're just tired of them how many other animals on the planet have long term relationships with another and when i say long term i'm tlaking years IN MY OPINION ONLY it's just unatural0
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Everyone is different when it comes to sex I guess, there is no right answer, you have to go with what works for you and what you are comfortable with. There is no arguing that men and women are different when it comes to the purely physical. I have a lot of guy friends that tell me they love the lady they are with but will definitely have sex with other women just for the physical. I think it is better to go into things with your eyes open to how it really is rather than a fantasy idea of romance. You can't argue with biological facts!
Well maybe your guy friends are like this but not all men/women are like this! There is a clear pattern on this thread of people who think this is ok and people who don't. Just hopefully the same types of people find each other. Unfortunately, this is not always the case.
Yeah I hear ya, I definitely don't think all men/women are like this. There is a lot that are though which I never realized before. I've been burned so maybe that is where my view point is coming from. I have had to take the rose colored glasses off and am still waiting on the man who is able to be committed monogomously. To each his own though. I don't condone cheating at all. I guess to sum it up I think that honesty is the best policy with anything and these situations happen when one or both partners can't handle that.0
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