relationships and F***ing up

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  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,229 Member
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    I honestly couldn't tell you. I've been the cheater and the cheated on. I've also managed to avoid temptation entirely. It may just depend on where that person is in life, or how they were raised. It might be because they aren't committed or it may just be because of poor choices. I heard somewhere that because women are more emotionally connected to the act of sex than men that men can cheat and it doesn't have any impact on how they view the relationship. However, if women cheat, it is because they no longer feel the same way about their partner. I don't know if any of that is true. I do know that men and women view sex completely differently from each other.

    The one who has been cheated on really has to decide for themselves if they are able to forgive. But I can speak from experience that sometimes even forgiveness and remorse are not enough to save a relationship once one or both partners have cheated.
  • KatieMae75
    KatieMae75 Posts: 391 Member
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    In the 15 years I've been with my husband, I've never strayed. That said, people can make bad decisions in the heat of the moment. People can make bad decisions if they have low self esteem and someone makes them feel good about themselves. People can make bad decisions for all sorts of reasons. Is it OK? No, it's not. But, the true character of a person lies in whether or not they learn from their mistakes.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
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    It's about boundaries....some people cross them and some don't.
  • mrsnathanandrew
    mrsnathanandrew Posts: 631 Member
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    The only thing I've lied to my fiance about is my weight, and I don't lie about that anymore, we actually weigh in together now.

    I believe that sometimes when people like about something small it's because they're ashamed of the truth, or they don't want to get in trouble.

    I think that if you love someone, truly love someone, that you won't cheat on them, but who really knows what goes through someones head to make that decision.
  • nas24
    nas24 Posts: 880 Member
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    CUZ IT'Z A F*CKIN RUSH BABY!!! DON'T GET CAUGHT!! YAH!!!

    LMAO!

    IMO I dont think humans are a "mate for life" species. But if you find the right person and stick it out, its worth it. I'm personally done being a hoe, so no cheating here ;)
  • Steve_Runs
    Steve_Runs Posts: 443 Member
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    Not gonna touch this tread!
  • patty43ck
    patty43ck Posts: 248 Member
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    There are many reasons why people cheat but usually it is because they have low self esteem and need to be constantly validated by other people. It happens a lot in marriages around the 30-40 age range because people start looking at their lives thinking "is this it? Is this what my life is going to be like?". They think the grass is greener is on the other side for some reason but what they usually find out is that it is not greener and they are just trading one set of problems for another.
  • PittShkr
    PittShkr Posts: 1,000 Member
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    CUZ IT'Z A F*CKIN RUSH BABY!!! DON'T GET CAUGHT!! YAH!!!

    LMAO!

    IMO I dont think humans are a "mate for life" species. But if you find the right person and stick it out, its worth it. I'm personally done being a hoe, so no cheating here ;)
    *kicks rocks* Dang!
  • weeblex
    weeblex Posts: 411 Member
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    Not gonna touch this tread!
    I think you just did :smile:
  • ashreynolds09
    ashreynolds09 Posts: 257 Member
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    My personal thought is that if someone is cheating on someone they are in a relationship with, they aren't really committed to being in that relationship.

    this.
  • nikkiprickett
    nikkiprickett Posts: 412 Member
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    REVENGE!!

    I've cheated on every by who has cheated on me! Then told them as I broke up with them so they would know how it would feel!
    Weather it was just a kiss or whatever, all i would say is you thought you were pretty sneaky, but I was sneakier, so it would drive them crazy what I actually did :)
  • pornstarzombie
    pornstarzombie Posts: 297
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    People often use the excuse "We are animals and aren't designed to be monogamous..."

    No. We have self-awareness, self-knowledge, and the ability to use that. Do not use the age-old "we aren't designed/made..."

    There are plenty of animals that mate for life.

    There is always going to be someone who you are attracted to, physically. It is okay to look and admire, it isn't okay to touch [unless you and your partner are into that and can agree].
  • kayleesays
    kayleesays Posts: 564 Member
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    Meh. I've ****ed up in my relationship. I was a sad, depressed and anxiety-ridden person and my relationship was in the toilet. We fixed it. Forgiven. Better now than ever.
  • pinthin87
    pinthin87 Posts: 296 Member
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    You can't a fault a person for cheating if they're upgrading. lol

    Dispicable...that's all I have to say to this.

    As a person who has been cheated on numerous times I can say that I still don't know why people do it. But I can say even though it has happend to me over and over I myself have never done it because anyone with true integrity does not. A relationship isn't a test so why cheat? Either you want to be with the person or you do not...simple as that. If you want more than one partner DO NOT committ! Personally if the thought of cheating even crosses my mind I break up with the person because it is apparent to me that my feelings have changed.
  • Randyamc
    Randyamc Posts: 365 Member
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    People who do it either
    a. lack maturity
    b. do not feel as strongly as the partner

    A mature adult who is 100% in love with their partner will not cheat, or lie.

    ^^ This... and also:
    c. emotional maturity
    d. personal insecurities which cause them to seek out validation/attention
  • MeliJean78
    MeliJean78 Posts: 249
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    Diversity in sexual partners is intensely gratifying.
  • LilMissSunshine_
    LilMissSunshine_ Posts: 520
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    I think the question is what did YOU do to make them cheat? I mean nobody cheats unless you do something to MAKE them cheat. Duuurrr....
  • nas24
    nas24 Posts: 880 Member
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    CUZ IT'Z A F*CKIN RUSH BABY!!! DON'T GET CAUGHT!! YAH!!!

    LMAO!

    IMO I dont think humans are a "mate for life" species. But if you find the right person and stick it out, its worth it. I'm personally done being a hoe, so no cheating here ;)
    *kicks rocks* Dang!

    LMAO at my own comment "I'm done being a ho" <---- Titties hangin out LOL
  • BVannillie
    BVannillie Posts: 140
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    I don't understand cheating. If the guy I am with is more interested sexually in another woman then fine. Yea that sucks, but I'll get over it. Just have the decency to finish with me before you jump into bed with another woman. And if you don't want to break up then don't put your penis in someone else. Pretty simple.

    Personally I feel like it's a control thing for both sexes.
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
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    Usually, it's being a p*ssy. ...too much of a p*ssy to own up to your true feelings, so instead you mess it up. A friend of mine does it on purpose because he's too much of a p*ssy to break up. So, he just fu*ks it up on purpose so they have a fight and it ends that way. Crazy.

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