Do guys ever turn it down?

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  • guardian419
    guardian419 Posts: 391 Member
    Wow... that's a lot of stereotyping.

    With that said, I turn down sex quite a bit. It's my wife who is insatiable. We're both very busy, and a lot of the time I don't feel like doing that much work right before I try to go to sleep. I've had my "wild and crazy sex machine" days when I was stationed in Hawaii... now that I'm married I don't need to have sex every chance I get because it's always available.

    The biggest issue is what Irishrose22 said, the woman feels it's because of her. Some of the thing's I've seen were: "are you sleeping with someone else?" "why aren't you attracted to me anymore", and "did you sprain it or something?". None of which are true...
  • RAFValentina
    RAFValentina Posts: 1,231 Member
    Either if a) he's stressed (so I gues you can count that as sick although it may not be obvious and sometimes in the past i didn't know he was cos he couldn't share certain work related things with me). or if b) they know they're rushed or even c)it's too public or d) when I've been too drunk/theyv'e been too drunk.

    Also, I had a phase where it really hurt so even though I'd try it on, he'd be reluctant to for fear of hurting me. Many reasons, although in most cases he'd jump at the chance!
  • trophywife24
    trophywife24 Posts: 1,472 Member
    Wow... that's a lot of stereotyping.

    With that said, I turn down sex quite a bit. It's my wife who is insatiable. We're both very busy, and a lot of the time I don't feel like doing that much work right before I try to go to sleep. I've had my "wild and crazy sex machine" days when I was stationed in Hawaii... now that I'm married I don't need to have sex every chance I get because it's always available.

    Honestly though, how does your wife feel about that?
  • CountryBoy65
    CountryBoy65 Posts: 908 Member
    My wife has not wanted sex in years. Now that we are tallking about divorce.....she keeps trying to initiate....and frankly I just don't want it anymore. Too little...too late.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    Wow... that's a lot of stereotyping.

    With that said, I turn down sex quite a bit. It's my wife who is insatiable. We're both very busy, and a lot of the time I don't feel like doing that much work right before I try to go to sleep. I've had my "wild and crazy sex machine" days when I was stationed in Hawaii... now that I'm married I don't need to have sex every chance I get because it's always available.

    Honestly though, how does your wife feel about that?
    I have to agree that's a kind of strange attitude. If my fiance ever has that attitude, we're going to have issues.
  • Alexstrasza
    Alexstrasza Posts: 619 Member
    Can't see why not, the insatiable male appetite for sex is only a stereotype after all. A man is just as capable of turning down sex as a woman is capable of always being in the mood. It depends on the guy, and if he never seems to be in the mood, your libidos might be a bad match.

    This! Such an awesome response.
  • Lonewolf1507
    Lonewolf1507 Posts: 507 Member
    Come on Ladies we think about sex every 18 seconds that we are awake, that thought sex can pretty tiring :tongue:

    On a serious note, when I was with my ex I initiated it most times, but when she initiated it boy were they some interesting times :blushing:

    Andy
  • GemskiB
    GemskiB Posts: 95 Member
    My BF really struggles with stress affecting is sex drive. I did go through a phase of worrying that he didn't find me attractive, but after we talked it out I felt much better. And to be fair, it's not always about me! If you're worried, the best thing you can do is talk to him about it :-)
  • _LilPowerHouse
    _LilPowerHouse Posts: 365 Member
    Sick is the ONLY valid excuse!

    But depending on how sick one is... if she agrees to it, then its on.. LOL
    and Sleeping is NOT and excuse.. Just spoon me and see what happnes...
  • MarkAWhipple
    MarkAWhipple Posts: 77 Member
    No two guys are alike, just like no two ladies are. We turn down sex. We just don't, on average, do it as much as you do.
  • MarkAWhipple
    MarkAWhipple Posts: 77 Member
    Oh, and we are actually capable of being subtle and teasing. Turning sex down on Tuesday can lead to a rather fantastic Wednesday...
  • ivan1964
    ivan1964 Posts: 435
    God wired guys for sex and the only reason I can see a guy turning it down is if he's to sick, if hes cheated, or its his way of saying hes not into you anymore. Just be honest here sorry
  • mmedjjon
    mmedjjon Posts: 511
    nope
  • leomom72
    leomom72 Posts: 1,797 Member
    sounds VERY familiar, but mine is hubby, not boyfriend :frown: i doubt he is cheating tho so i dont have to worry about that at least..
  • dpwellman
    dpwellman Posts: 3,271 Member
    Do guys? Probably. A prevailing reason is he wants to focus on you, but can't because something else is broken and he can't figure out why, so it's distracting and frustrating. Your mission is to find an entry point to get his mind off work/project on to you. Cinnamon rolls are a good option.

    Myself? I wouldn't intentionally, neither sick nor tired
  • 7funnygirl7
    7funnygirl7 Posts: 1,176
    I'm married, and yes, they turn it down just like a woman. We're only human, and the human body goes through a lot in a day/night. "Timing". age, & mood are the key factors for fun, healthy sex/lovemaking! There is nothing more enjoyable than being physical with someone so long as they want to be physical back at the same time. :smile:
  • scs143
    scs143 Posts: 2,190 Member
    On occasion. Maybe he had a bad day at work, he's stressed about something or he's mad at me about something but hasn't gotten around to telling me yet.
  • mmedjjon
    mmedjjon Posts: 511
    I'm just curious if a man would ever turn down sex with his girlfriend after she initiated it, I don't mean if you're tired or you're sick. I seem to always be the one making the move on my boyfriend...we haven't done it in a couple of weeks :I
    Sorry, but there is now beleivable reason a healthy guy would not have sex. It is the BEST feeling in the world, and when it's over ya just want it to happen again. Since the first time we accidently stumble upon that feeling we are drawn to do it again and again. Changing things up or getting a little weird might get the fluids moving but all in all it still always finishes with the same result, THAT FEELING.
  • FuneralDiner
    FuneralDiner Posts: 438 Member
    God wired guys for sex and the only reason I can see a guy turning it down is if he's to sick, if hes cheated, or its his way of saying hes not into you anymore. Just be honest here sorry
    HA. HA. HA.

    Who let this joker in?
  • scs143
    scs143 Posts: 2,190 Member
    God wired guys for sex and the only reason I can see a guy turning it down is if he's to sick, if hes cheated, or its his way of saying hes not into you anymore. Just be honest here sorry
    HA. HA. HA.

    Who let this joker in?

    LOL
  • futuremalestripper
    futuremalestripper Posts: 467 Member
    Yes. If I'm really tired and have to wake up really early (by early I mean in 4 hours or less) or sometimes if I'm in the middle of homework or repairing something etc - I mean sorry, but I got s**t to do. It can wait. Sex isn't even the top 5 of priorities. I hate how some people are like "well duhh, drop everything for it." If I have a lot of stuff to do, it needs to get done first. Also, if a girl is being moody and obnoxious, then I lose all desire right there.

    Edit: Also, I turn it down if my girlfriend is drunk. I hate dealing with drunk people.
  • indisguise
    indisguise Posts: 235
    Just because he isn't sneezing doesn't mean he isn't sick. My sex life took a nose dive all of a sudden, and I thought it was my fault or that he'd lost interest in me. Then he was diagnosed with cancer.
    Sex isn't everything. I'd happily live the rest of my life in celibacy if I could just have my husband back.
  • mariposa224
    mariposa224 Posts: 1,241 Member
    Mine never does... But we both seem to always be in the mood. lol Even when we're mad at each other we sometimes still have sex... Because we like sex and love each other. Now the angry sex isn't OFTEN, but yeah, it happens.
  • mmedjjon
    mmedjjon Posts: 511
    Yes. If I'm really tired and have to wake up really early (by early I mean in 4 hours or less) or sometimes if I'm in the middle of homework or repairing something etc - I mean sorry, but I got s**t to do. It can wait. Sex isn't even the top 5 of priorities. I hate how some people are like "well duhh, drop everything for it." If I have a lot of stuff to do, it needs to get done first. Also, if a girl is being moody and obnoxious, then I lose all desire right there.
    Really! ya cant stop for a quicky to make you and her feel good. If I am in the middle of a chore, mowing lawn, yard work etc., and my wife comes up and says lets go. she knows it going to be fast and hard, cause at that moment for what ever reason she just wants that attention from me. Makes me feel wanted and gives her what she needs. Oh HORRIBLE ME!
  • LetsTryThisAgain54
    LetsTryThisAgain54 Posts: 381 Member
    I have to laugh at all these expert opinions and at most of the guys that say they're always ready and in the mood. Gotta love the internet! Lol.
  • _LilPowerHouse
    _LilPowerHouse Posts: 365 Member
    Just because he isn't sneezing doesn't mean he isn't sick. My sex life took a nose dive all of a sudden, and I thought it was my fault or that he'd lost interest in me. Then he was diagnosed with cancer.
    Sex isn't everything. I'd happily live the rest of my life in celibacy if I could just have my husband back.

    Oh my.. very touching.. sorry for your loss.. but I do agree with this 110%
  • futuremalestripper
    futuremalestripper Posts: 467 Member
    Yes. If I'm really tired and have to wake up really early (by early I mean in 4 hours or less) or sometimes if I'm in the middle of homework or repairing something etc - I mean sorry, but I got s**t to do. It can wait. Sex isn't even the top 5 of priorities. I hate how some people are like "well duhh, drop everything for it." If I have a lot of stuff to do, it needs to get done first. Also, if a girl is being moody and obnoxious, then I lose all desire right there.
    Really! ya cant stop for a quicky to make you and her feel good. If I am in the middle of a chore, mowing lawn, yard work etc., and my wife comes up and says lets go. she knows it going to be fast and hard, cause at that moment for what ever reason she just wants that attention from me. Makes me feel wanted and gives her what she needs. Oh HORRIBLE ME!

    Why can't you finish the lawn first, then do it? If it's just for a house, it'll take 5 more mintues. It seems so inefficient to stop halfway, put the lawn mower in the backyard so it isn't stolen, go inside, shower off cuz you're all stank and sweaty, sex her, then go back out, mow, and get sweaty again.... but regardless, I'm fine with a simple chore. But say I'm studying for a final, I've got homework out my *kitten*, I just got off work, and my test is in 12 hours. I rather have sex AFTER the test. Is that so crazy?

    Edit: I just honestly don't understand why sex must dictate how we function. Maybe I'm flawed, who knows? If you have lots of free time, then do your thing. But if you're busy, you should fit it in your schedule, not fit your schedule around it.
  • apedeb09
    apedeb09 Posts: 805 Member
    My husband has turned me down before.. but then again we've been together for 7 years and have 3 kids.. :) I've done the same!
  • mmedjjon
    mmedjjon Posts: 511
    Yes. If I'm really tired and have to wake up really early (by early I mean in 4 hours or less) or sometimes if I'm in the middle of homework or repairing something etc - I mean sorry, but I got s**t to do. It can wait. Sex isn't even the top 5 of priorities. I hate how some people are like "well duhh, drop everything for it." If I have a lot of stuff to do, it needs to get done first. Also, if a girl is being moody and obnoxious, then I lose all desire right there.
    Really! ya cant stop for a quicky to make you and her feel good. If I am in the middle of a chore, mowing lawn, yard work etc., and my wife comes up and says lets go. she knows it going to be fast and hard, cause at that moment for what ever reason she just wants that attention from me. Makes me feel wanted and gives her what she needs. Oh HORRIBLE ME!

    Why can't you finish the lawn first, then do it? If it's just for a house, it'll take 5 more mintues. It seems so inefficient to stop halfway, put the lawn mower in the backyard so it isn't stolen, go inside, shower off cuz you're all stank and sweaty, sex her, then go back out, mow, and get sweaty again.... but regardless, I'm fine with a simple chore. But say I'm studying for a final, I've got homework out my *kitten*, I just got off work, and my test is in 12 hours. I rather have sex AFTER the test. Is that so crazy?
    Married for 13 yrs and parents of 3 young active boys, when opportunities arrive you take them. To many things can happen in a minute to not take the opportunity.
  • _LilPowerHouse
    _LilPowerHouse Posts: 365 Member
    Yes. If I'm really tired and have to wake up really early (by early I mean in 4 hours or less) or sometimes if I'm in the middle of homework or repairing something etc - I mean sorry, but I got s**t to do. It can wait. Sex isn't even the top 5 of priorities. I hate how some people are like "well duhh, drop everything for it." If I have a lot of stuff to do, it needs to get done first. Also, if a girl is being moody and obnoxious, then I lose all desire right there.
    Really! ya cant stop for a quicky to make you and her feel good. If I am in the middle of a chore, mowing lawn, yard work etc., and my wife comes up and says lets go. she knows it going to be fast and hard, cause at that moment for what ever reason she just wants that attention from me. Makes me feel wanted and gives her what she needs. Oh HORRIBLE ME!

    Why can't you finish the lawn first, then do it? If it's just for a house, it'll take 5 more mintues. It seems so inefficient to stop halfway, put the lawn mower in the backyard so it isn't stolen, go inside, shower off cuz you're all stank and sweaty, sex her, then go back out, mow, and get sweaty again.... but regardless, I'm fine with a simple chore. But say I'm studying for a final, I've got homework out my *kitten*, I just got off work, and my test is in 12 hours. I rather have sex AFTER the test. Is that so crazy?

    Well the lawnmower can be put into the garage very easily, no showe need cause well maybe she likes him hot and sweaty and thats what turned her on in the first place.. just a thought... but i do agree.. why stop if your almost done mowing the lawn... oh wait there was another lawn that need immediate care and attention.. LOL jk..
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