Need to Vent!!! I THINK I LOVE MY HUSBAND

caseyjade88

My husband is the same exact way... I have to beg for it, and still get rejected. I just gave up, and now he seems to beg me for it. :laugh:

whierd

I will honestly never understand what is so magical about sex to the point people just feel like they're about to DIE without it. maybe it's because I'm a virgin, I don't know. I get it's important to a relationship and it apparently feels good but jesus...

also look the people complaining about their SO not putting out for sex..thats so disgusting I can't stand it. I would NEVER complain about my boyfriend or parents to random people. especially not on a public forum. it's unbelieveably disrespectful. Unless they're actually abusing you and it's a cry for help then stop.

I have a feeling you report a lot of posts.

misslegz

Ok seriously what guy in the world turns down sex when there wife is basically begging for it! WTF I understand "sex" is not what makes a marriage, BUT since I dropped the 10 lbs Still have a ways to go (45) and been working out 5x a week its all that is on my mind. All my husband wants to do is sit on the damn couch be boring and eat chips. I do not get it in any way, been married to the man since I was 17 WTF. He has just gotten so damn lazy since he got out of the ARMY i mean god I think he has gained atleast 40lbs I have pointed it out to him! Like everyone already knows until he wants to change it, its not gonna change!


Anyways sorry just had to get it out GRRR. Please no negativity its not like that at all.
Anyone feel free to add me!

You are not alone....I Just posted something similar to this about always wanting it now that I have lost weight and the hubby is pretty good but....could still get it more. I am with ya sista!!

Bobbie_89

wow....My boyfriend is the one thats begging for sex and I'm the one saying no. Somethings wrong there lol. Every since I've started to lose my weight in May we've had sex maybe three times. I'm just not feeling it right now. I'm also to tired and I do mean that. My boyfriend works 4days a week 12-14hr shifts. He's off for 3days and does nothing but plays his War of Worldcaft game. I'm stuck cleaning the house, doing landry, taking care of my daughter from the time she wakes up till she goes to bed, cooking, and exercising ALL while he sits on his but. I've told him many of times that if he wants it then he needs to help me out and do some things so I can have engery and enjoy it later. Seems like he don't want it that bad cause he hasn't helped me at all.

Mr_Bad_Example

I will honestly never understand what is so magical about sex to the point people just feel like they're about to DIE without it. maybe it's because I'm a virgin, I don't know.

Well look at that, you've asked and answered your own question. But you know... just because you can live without it doesn't mean that others should.

leomom72

Sounds like my husband! If you figure out a way to fix it please let me know!

likewise..stupid boys !!:grumble: :laugh: i feel like an old damn woman tho..i have gotten used to it, but damnit all !! soon i will be too old for it..he's lucky im not a cheating type..

kiely13

Have you tried just being honest with him and straight up ask him what's going on???

CJisinShape

LOL! This is so funny. Let my wife say lets have sex. I would be on her before she finish the sentence. LOL! Have you tried acting like you don't give a dane about sex. Act like other things are more important and ignore him. That makes me mad when my wife does that to me. I wish you luck.

Seriously - Why don't I have this kind of advice in my life? Married 12 years, still clueless about men.

Stephanie_Autry

You didn't know that as soon as you get married, sex becomes non-existent?

Have fun, stay single.

Wait- I will never be that way. Nope never!

LOL nope. thankfully not every marriage is that way. my husband and i are multiple times a day... just about every day.

My husband & I are the same way. Every day all day bring it ONNNNNN!

dinosnopro

Give him a surprise oral presentation

Rhea30

Ok seriously what guy in the world turns down sex when there wife is basically begging for it! WTF I understand "sex" is not what makes a marriage, BUT since I dropped the 10 lbs Still have a ways to go (45) and been working out 5x a week its all that is on my mind. All my husband wants to do is sit on the damn couch be boring and eat chips. I do not get it in any way, been married to the man since I was 17 WTF. He has just gotten so damn lazy since he got out of the ARMY i mean god I think he has gained atleast 40lbs I have pointed it out to him! Like everyone already knows until he wants to change it, its not gonna change!


Anyways sorry just had to get it out GRRR. Please no negativity its not like that at all.
Anyone feel free to add me!

If you guys ever have the time try to take a small mini vacation if you can. Sometimes being new in a place can also make the relationship feel like new again.

nangel4u

There are lots of guys on MFP willing to lend a helping hand.

I agree!!!!

Jellyphant

Story of my lifeee. I feel insatiable when I eat right and work out, and the man doesn't do ANYTHING to help with that. I know what men mean when it's on the brain 24/7. :grumble:

butterfli7o

I will honestly never understand what is so magical about sex to the point people just feel like they're about to DIE without it. maybe it's because I'm a virgin, I don't know. I get it's important to a relationship and it apparently feels good but jesus..

Exactly, you don't understand it because you're not married and a virgin. Sex is important and essential in a marriage, and so is being wanted physically by your spouse. Maybe because you haven't yet been in that situation, you shouldn't judge.:huh:

ElyseL1

I always tell my hubby I want to go cuddle. He's starting to figure out what the means on the weekends and says no. He openly admits that he thinks that there is nothing hotter than me getting impatient and basically going..."Um yea...drop what your doing cause i'm getting laid now." Do you know what sets your husband off..always a good thing to know, sometimes you have to switch things up.

Brunner26_2

Do you talk to him the way you talk to us? That could be part of the problem. Maybe he has some personal issues he needs to work through. Have you asked him how he feels?

Nerdy_Rose

I will honestly never understand what is so magical about sex to the point people just feel like they're about to DIE without it. maybe it's because I'm a virgin, I don't know. I get it's important to a relationship and it apparently feels good but jesus...

also look the people complaining about their SO not putting out for sex..thats so disgusting I can't stand it. I would NEVER complain about my boyfriend or parents to random people. especially not on a public forum. it's unbelieveably disrespectful. Unless they're actually abusing you and it's a cry for help then stop.

Yes, it's because you're a virgin.

kytte

bump

Drussander

For Pete's sake, give the guy a break! Here you are demanding attention when your husband has a really nice bag of chips sitting there that need eating. I mean, they could be vinegar and salt flavored and then you'd stand no chance at all....

Sometimes Men just need their chip time.....sheesh!

But seriously, maybe he feels intimidated by your new found healthier ways? Also, if you are telling him he is overweight and eating junk, that's probably not very helpful....for your sex life.

GypsysBloodRose26

Ok seriously what guy in the world turns down sex when there wife is basically begging for it! WTF I understand "sex" is not what makes a marriage, BUT since I dropped the 10 lbs Still have a ways to go (45) and been working out 5x a week its all that is on my mind. All my husband wants to do is sit on the damn couch be boring and eat chips. I do not get it in any way, been married to the man since I was 17 WTF. He has just gotten so damn lazy since he got out of the ARMY i mean god I think he has gained atleast 40lbs I have pointed it out to him! Like everyone already knows until he wants to change it, its not gonna change!


Anyways sorry just had to get it out GRRR. Please no negativity its not like that at all.
Anyone feel free to add me!

Go to an adult store, buy yourself some sexy lingerie and "toys". And then do to yourself what he won't do to you. He'll either get the hint (not a subtle one) or he won't. Either way, you will have a happy moment.

lxsfox

I don't think that telling him he's fat and lazy is going to help your cause....

This.
I'll be honest, when I was married before and my ex said to me I was fat...we never had sex again after that.
No one is going to want to have sex with someone who makes them feel bad about themselves. It's good that you're working on your weight/health.
Making him feel bad about himself is NOT going to help you.

StarvingDiva

My husband used to turn me down for sex at the end of our marriage because he was having sex with someone else.

I think maybe you need to have a talk with your husband and tell him that you want to be intimate with him and also do things and you've noticed a change since he's gotten out of the army, that he doesn't seem interested in doing anything anymore, including YOU! maybe he's depressed and doesn't know how to tell you something is wrong. Who knows but I would sit him down and talk to him about it.

shadowkitty22

Just jump him.

If you're that horny and he's not doing anything then jump him. Strip off his pants, suck him hard and hop on and ride until you're happy. Yeah sure you're missing out on whatever foreplay y'all might do but when you need a ****, you need a **** and his is probably the most readily available. And if he doesn't get off then it's too damn bad for him for not being more willing to help you out. Haha

I've done this with my husband except for he always gets off. And it's not so much that he doesn't want it, but it's just more I want it that BAD that I pretty much attack him. I've yet to hear any complaints.

55AngelH55

What you have to do is say that it's cuddle time.
It's not actually cuddle time.
Then you shush him and tell him that it will all be over soon.

BAHAHAHAHAHAHA

wjewell

Unzip his pants and go to town. I'm sure he's not going to push your mouth away from his...*mhmm..."you know"*. Sorry if it seems vulgar...But it's true. Just DO IT! Haha.

RuthSweetTooth

Put a sexy video on the TV.

kimberly130

hmmm. maybe hes feeling self conscious, and since you look amazing and hes feeling like a couch potato... Or hes just a man. When My husband gets like that I start going out with my girlfriends. I find time for myself and go shopping, dinners as a girls night... eventually he starts to notice and he does a 180 and is like " I miss you I never see you" than you've got him!!
Its all in the game my dear! Good luck!

icanhaztp

He may be depressed or otherwise have serious self-esteem issues that need to be resolved. It would be a good idea for him to bring up his low sex drive + motivation to his doctor.

laddyboy

Ok seriously what guy in the world turns down sex when there wife is basically begging for it! WTF I understand "sex" is not what makes a marriage, BUT since I dropped the 10 lbs Still have a ways to go (45) and been working out 5x a week its all that is on my mind. All my husband wants to do is sit on the damn couch be boring and eat chips. I do not get it in any way, been married to the man since I was 17 WTF. He has just gotten so damn lazy since he got out of the ARMY i mean god I think he has gained atleast 40lbs I have pointed it out to him! Like everyone already knows until he wants to change it, its not gonna change!


Anyways sorry just had to get it out GRRR. Please no negativity its not like that at all.
Anyone feel free to add me!

Something is wrong with that man. Very rarely am I too tired for sex.

laddyboy

Unzip his pants and go to town. I'm sure he's not going to push your mouth away from his...*mhmm..."you know"*. Sorry if it seems vulgar...But it's true. Just DO IT! Haha.

THIS,