I want honest opinions?

sandyyy712

When I started my weight loss I was 5'8" and 140-145 lbs. Here's a picture, sorry its not very good, but I didn't think about taking before and after pics.



After around 3 months of working out, dieting, etc I weighed 120 lbs, here's a picture.


And now after 2 months of struggling and lacking motivation I've put on weight. About 7-10 lbs. My weight fluctuates between 125-130 now. Heres a pic



I really want to get back to the middle pic, but I want to know what other people honestly think? Because when I started it was because I felt big and my boyfriend told me I needed to lose weight. Then by the time I got to my low weight everybody told me I was too thin now and needed to gain weight. Because of that I started getting stressed and eating too much and it put me right back to unhappiness. What are your opinions?

MaryMacAttack

i think you should feel comfortable in your own skin. i agree you looked much too thin in the middle picture. if your boyfriend was telling you to drop some weight my opinion is you should drop HIM. I'd bet you'd feel much lighter after that! you looked young and beautiful in the first picture.

pooh431bear

Honestly....the middle pic is the LEAST FLATTERING photo of you. Waay to skinny! You look much prettier in the other photos.

shannonlee28

I honestly think the last picture of you is the best, you have a little bit of meat on you and no bones sticking out. Don't listen to your boyfriend, you do not need to lose anymore weight.

alltacht

In my honest opinion, the first pic of you is my favourite. You look healthy and its a fine weight for your height. I think you look a bit too thin in the middle pic. If youre happy with yourself now like in the last pic then its also a healthier looking weight. You said it was your boyfriend and others who put the idea of losing weight in your head. Were you happy the way you were before? Has this been a healthy weight loss/lifestyle change for you?
Ultimately its what youre happiest with, once youre getting the right nutriition and feeling good and energetic etc

supplemama

In the middle pic you look gaunt. You need to build up some muscle.

denmark979

okay, to be totally honest with you don't listen to your boyfriend. he needs to appreciate you no matter how your body is. on the first photo, you didn't look big, but it look like you could have use some toning. the second pic you looked sickly. the one where you put on a little weight was better than the the other. you need to just find a weight and size that you like, not your boyfriend, but you. i think that men tend to like women with a little something and not too much. so good luck girl. (build some muscles)

cherbapp

Honestly....find a boyfriend who never says you need to lose weight.

145 is very healthy for a 5'8 woman...and you looked so much cuter in the first pic.

AmyB69

Honestly, I think you look fine. The middle pic I personally find to be too thin. You have to feel good about you. You look great! Its hard when someone is telling you that you need to lose weight. But, seriously I don't know what he was talking about.

runninginfire

My favorite would definately be the first picture...you look really healthy there!!!

Sabine_Stroehm

5'8" and 140-145 lbs is fine. The first photo looks great! The middle photo is not great.

I'll say two more things: tell your boyfriend he's nuts. Talk to your parents before you develop an eating disorder.

Sorry to be so blunt. But this thread worries me.

sandyyy712

thanks for all the feedback. it's just been so long that i've felt comfortable in my own skin that it's hard for me to see myself clearly so it helps to know what others think.

Troll

You were a little bitty teenie weenie thing in that middle pic! you have a great shape as is, but if YOU, not your boyfriend, feel uncomfortable, try lifting heavy weights. you look like you dont hang onto fat easily (i think my thigh may be bigger around thsn your waist....) so adding in serious strength trainibg would give you some gorgeous definition!

hs1956

You are young and beautiful. The middle picture scares me. My 22 year old daughter is 5'10, fine boned and about 135 and looks more like your first and last picture-she can't keep the guys away! Her boyfriend and male pals consider her "hot". If she looked like your middle picture, I would be having trouble sleeping at night.

Your boyfriend has a problem, not you. You are gorgeous and it saddens me to see that this boyfriend is so harmful.

Sorry if I am being so presumptive. You look a lot like my daughter!

haleydself

Yes, the first and last pic are my favorites. You looked way too thin in the 2nd pic. In my opinion, when I see bones sticking out, it's too thin. I would drop the boyfriend and find someone who loved you the way you are now. The healthy way!

creech6317

In the middle pic you look gaunt. You need to build up some muscle.

This is what I was going to say. Yes you are thin, but if you put some muscle on I think you would look really amazing.

At least that is my opinion.

rexland

I agree with most of what has been said. Best advice to forget the scales, hit the weights and develop some strength and power. You won't miss the boyfriend very long!

TheRealParisLove

In the middle pic you look gaunt. You need to build up some muscle.

I agree. The middle photo looks like you have been ill. Have you tried some strength training? Muscle is beautiful!

AmyFett

I think you look best in the first. You're tall, 120 is way low for you imo.

xxpipsxx

In all honestly I think that you look the prettiest and most comfortable in your weight in the first picture. I am the same height as you and according to the chart I am going by under 164lb you are healthy but under 125lb is considered to be underweight, so your first picture you are smack bang in the middle of healthy I certainly wouldn't want you to lose any more weight and you shouldnt do it for your boyfriend. If you are comfortable at your original weight then thats up to u. He is probably saying those things to you because he feels bad about himself. Anyways good luck what ever you decide x

Cara2628

I think you look best in the last pic. If you don't like the way you look try toning up a little you are beautiful so don't let your boyfriend make you feel like you aren't

ToughTulip

Which one do you feel like you look like the best? That is important!

I honestly do not think you looks nearly as bad as most are saying the the middle pic.
Need a little more muscle and you would look great! Looks like you have a strong core

I personally like the last picture. Time for some lifting!

Feisty_Red

I actually think ya look pretty cute in the first pic too Waaaay too thin in second pic..

23SVM88

I also agree that you looked too skinny in the middle picture...I think you look GREAT in the third one!!

lacewitch

i don't think you look bad in any pic, IMO: i think you look better in the 3rd pic but that's just me!
what maters is where you are happy and comfortable and healthy!

ToughTulip

Also - You are BEAUTIFUL in all three! Don't let a guy tell you any different

Kaimana94

You cannot lose weight for other people. This is your life and your body. You look great in all of the pictures. No one else’s option matters. Well maybe a doctor's.

thelovelyLIZ

Well, first of all, if your boyfriend told you you needed to lose weight base don the first picture, I'd dump his *kitten*. You weren't overweight to begin with, and even if you had been, he should love you for you, and your body at every size.

Second, you should be where you are comfortable. If YOU want to be at the middle picture, then go for it. But also understand it will likely be very difficult to maintain, if you body wants to sit- 5-10lbs higher. Weigh what is most important to you. For me, indulging in some cake and wine from time to time is important to me. More so than looking like a fitness model, anyway. Weigh what YOU want and what makes YOU happiest. Not what anyone else says.

spicyginger2006

the first picture of you is the best. you look healthy and beautiful. the last two pictures scare me. in my personal opinion, that type of thin is not pretty to me at that point. i think you need to find a good inbetween of the weight in the first and the last picture. you are a beautiful girl. you need to do whats right for you and not let others opinions affect your weight. especially your boyfriend.

munkyfusic

I think you should do whichever feels most comfortable for you. I'm 5'7 but if I drop below 145 I feel like I'm drying up and it's really uncomfortable for me-- but being at 160 makes me feel bloated and self-conscious. Your boyfriend sounds abusive - you looked great. But it's also abusive for people to say that you're "too skinny" if that's what you're comfortable with and you're not being unhealthy about maintaining that weight. Your body is your own and it shouldn't matter what other people think, especially since everyone appears to think they know what's best for you without regard for how YOU feel. However, I know that's easier said than done, and I hope you'll be able to find a way to be comfortable with your body.

Yes2HealthyAriel

The middle picture is the worst. You look way to boney. First and last pic look better. You look more healthy