I want honest opinions?

jennajocummings

i think you should feel comfortable in your own skin. i agree you looked much too thin in the middle picture. if your boyfriend was telling you to drop some weight my opinion is you should drop HIM. I'd bet you'd feel much lighter after that! you looked young and beautiful in the first picture.

What she says... The ONLY thing you need to drop is your boyfriend!

findingme07

Honestly....find a boyfriend who never says you need to lose weight.

145 is very healthy for a 5'8 woman...and you looked so much cuter in the first pic.

I agree, lose the dude not the weight!

lorihalsted

You look GREAT in your third pic and way too skinny in the middle. You were fine before you lost any weight but I can see where you would want to tone up. Don't listen to the boyfriend.

ShaJ1

OK Let me start by saying this, a boyfriend should never ever tell you to lose weight. To me, he with you because of looks. He should love you the way you are. OK. I agree with others. You look great in the 1st and 3rd photo. The middle photo makes you look very unhealthy and ill. Bottom line, do what makes you comfortable and not to please others.

rebeccasedwards

Drop the boyfriend. :-/ I think you look great in the last picture. In the middle picture you are too thin for your height. Remember the scale is a number. You need to feel good about yourself too.

Shrinking_Stacey

You are beautiful in all 3! The middle one is awfully thin. I graviate toward thicker/curvy body types but everyone is different. For me personally, the older I get the better I feel about myself in general and the less I care what other people think. Good luck on your journey

halcyonist

I'd do you.

opuntia

It's a bit hard to compare the pictures properly, because you're lying on your back, fully clothed, in the first pic, and I know for myself that my thighs always look bigger when lying in that position than when standing up.

You seem to have quite a small frame, from the size of your wrists and shoulders, and the way your hips don't go out very far, even in the first pic. I have a small frame too, although I'm shorter than you. If you have a small frame, you're likely to be uncomfortable with a lot more weight. You don't look uncomfortable in the first pic, from what I can see. It looks like quite a natural weight for you. I also don't think the middle picture looks shockingly thin - your arms and legs look a healthy size, but your trunk looks a bit bony - your ribs and hips are sticking out a bit. I know that can easily happen from having a small frame, and you can still be healthy with it, but it's the kind of thing people will always comment on and tell you how you're too scrawny. Also, it's uncomfortable if you're lying on your tummy, so the third picture looks more comfortable for you. But you also look very comfortable in your skin in the first picture.

Your boyfriend had no right to tell you to lose weight. It's your body, not his. Any changes you make to your body should be for you, not to suit someone else's aesthetic preferences. It's about which weight you feel most comfortable and most healthy - not about how people think you look. There will be people who think you are too big and people who think you are too skinny, but only you know what's right for your body. So I'd be looking at it in terms of - what was your lifestyle like in the first picture? Were you eating relatively healthily and being fairly active? If you were bingeing on Doritos every day, for instance, and feeling bloated all the time, then maybe that wasn't your healthy weight, but if you were eating a healthy balanced diet and feeling fine, then that weight was probably fine. It's really more about health than weight. But if your priority is about aesthetics, and looking your best, then I'd say don't go back to being like the second picture, because people are generally not very complimentary about people whose ribs show, and it's often portrayed in the media as an ugly, unhealthy thing to be avoided and scorned.

katrinkap

tell that piece of **** boyfriend to get lost. anyone who tells anybody to lose weight when they are at a healthy weight to begin with is a mother F*&^%$.

honest opinion.

be comfortable in your own skin, you are the only person in this world that can make you happy. good luck and add me if you want another friend!

FlaxMilk

I had more time to calculate now. !20 is underweight for your height. If you were naturally that way, that would be one thing. Honestly, with those 5-10 lbs, you still distinguish yourself from the "average" person but aren't as likely to be uncomfortable or unhealthy. Your last picture is probably my own goal weight. I don't think you need to "add muscle," I'd keep doing what you are doing with your muscle routine. On the days you overeat, just consider that a bonus for your muscles. If you are fluctuating between 125-130, you aren't in any danger from your "overeating." You are still on the very light side of the BMI scale in that range. I would talk to someone, though, for some help with your body image and need to be special by being underweight. You are already beautiful. Really beautiful. I'm hoping you learn to realize that you are good enough without needing to have an extra edge.

FlaxMilk

Added bonus--you can start eating maintenance and get your balance that way. Unless you do want to gain some, which you very much have room to do. You could eat a bit more than maintenance and gain it slowly, which would help you develop a good proportion of muscle and healthy fat. You'd also get to see yourself change gradually and pick where YOU feel best, not your boyfriend or those of us on the internet.

ladytinkerbell99

i think you should feel comfortable in your own skin. i agree you looked much too thin in the middle picture. if your boyfriend was telling you to drop some weight my opinion is you should drop HIM. I'd bet you'd feel much lighter after that! you looked young and beautiful in the first picture.

^ I think this is wise advice. However, I know from experience that this is MUCH harder to do. When someone we love (or care about deeply) tells us that we need to lose some weight, even if they meant it to be kind. There is such a thing as "killing us with kindness".
You are young, so you are not that thin. I think if you got back to near the weight you were at in the middle picture but maybe add 3-7 lbs. You know what would look best on you.

Note: In all three (3) pictures, I saw a beautiful, strong, young woman. :flowerforyou:

CupcakeHarpy

I'm so sorry that people make you feel uncomfortable. Your boyfriend should never tell you to lose weight. you looked great in your before picture. If a man ever told me to lose weight, he'd end up losing something else that's for sure. Your family shouldn't tell you to gain weight either. If you love yourself at any weight that's all that matters. Marilyn Monroe was a knockout in a size 12 dress. Our idea of skinny and fat are so skewed in society that you are considered skinny (especially in my family). So... just my opinion. Don't worry about it. Be healthy and strong (at whatever that weight might be) and live a long, good life.

FlaxMilk

I think if you got back to near the weight you were at in the middle picture but maybe add 3-7 lbs. You know what would look best on you.

Note: In all three (3) pictures, I saw a beautiful, strong, young woman. :flowerforyou:

That's her last picture. She is 5-10 lbs heavier than the middle one. 3 lbs on top of the middle one would probably not be quite enough. Her being young doesn't negate her being underweight.

veganbaum

It sure would be helpful if people would read all the OP's posts in this thread. She has said she knows that at her low weight in that second picture she was unhealthy and too thin (her words). She says she has an eating disorder (whether that's self-diagnosed or not, she clearly sees she has issues with body image and food). So maybe people should stop telling her to get to a weight that she "feels good" at and tell her that her HEALTH is of utmost importance. With her skewed perspective it seems that a professional opinion is in order. Maybe a professional would tell her she's healthy at that low weight, but telling her to go off of her feelings when she herself has stated that she has a hard time seeing herself clearly and either has an eating disorder or may be on her way there is irresponsible.

UNTOLDSMILE

I don't want to be rude, but your boyfriend is an *kitten* for saying that to you. I see a lot of girls on here saying they need to lose weight and they look perfectly fine. I don't think you need to lose any weight.

stagegoddess

too skinny in the middle pic (unless ur a professional model), u should be the weight where you can maintain it in a healthy way and iff a guy doesn't like 7 extra pounds you should drop him. be healthy and happy for you--not anyone else

PatriceMG

lose the boy...

kluvfreddy

First of all DUMP the boyfriend! He is the reason why so many young people have eating disorders. In the middle pic you look way to skinny almost sickly. That last pic you looked good.

AdGalicia

When I started my weight loss I was 5'8" and 140-145 lbs. Here's a picture, sorry its not very good, but I didn't think about taking before and after pics.



After around 3 months of working out, dieting, etc I weighed 120 lbs, here's a picture.


And now after 2 months of struggling and lacking motivation I've put on weight. About 7-10 lbs. My weight fluctuates between 125-130 now. Heres a pic



WTH!!! First pic for sure...with a little toning though!! I'm 5'8" and my goal is to weigh 145...no less! Don't listen to boys regarding your body, snap out of it and do what makes you happy!!!

CalPolyBronco

You look beautiful in ALL pics....but first of all, like everyone said don't ever listen to anyone that tells you, you need to lose weight when clearly you didn't....even from the first pic you looked perfectly fine and healthy....especially from a boyfriend, that's just not right. If it was ever a PERSONAL

CalPolyBronco

(sorry got cut off)....if it was ever a PERSONAL goal for you to get "healthier" by eating better then so be it....but honestly no one should ever tell you how you're supposed to look. Plain and simple. You need to be comfortable in your own skin and honestly I would refer to a BMI index as well to find an appropriate weight for your height. For 5'8" 125 lbs has a BMI of 19, by some scales 19 would be considered underweight...by other scales 18.5 and below is underweight which would put you at borderline normal. Typically a normal or healthy BMI is anywhere between 20-25.....being 5'8" and weighing 145 lbs would put you at a BMI of 22....just right...and remember it's not about how much you weigh, its about how you feel....because you can be tone and weigh more just because you're so tone.

littlebuddy84

In my honest opinion you look too skinny in the second picture. You look perfect the way you are now :-)

woladok

The first and third pics are the best, but like many others I think you should make peace with loving yourself at whatever size and ditch the boyfriend who told you otherwise. Good luck.

p0kers0ph

I think you look healthiest in the first pic imo.

dunkah

You look great in all 3 pictures, the 2nd maybe bordering on too skinny because of how tall you are.

If you are still not happy with how you look maybe look into some strength training, muscle definition would make a big difference for you. I don't think that worrying about losing weight will!

Just my 2 cents.

tammys_changing

I actually think ya look pretty cute in the first pic too Waaaay too thin in second pic..
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abrewer563

I think whatever makes YOU happy is what you should do. Do not listen to other people or your boyfriend. Everyone is beautiful in their own way, some people may say you're too skinny but if you're healthy and comfortable in your skin that is all the matters. You should never lose weight for anyone but yourself.

daffodilsoup

Do whatever makes you feel comfortable and confident.

virginia65us

You have to be comfortable withyourself, but honestly, you were at a very healthy -- even slim -- weight in the first place. You look better in the third and first pictures than in the second one. You're young and pretty. Focus on enjoying your life and being healthy (that includes food!) rather than trying to achieve a possibly unhealthy goal just to please someone else,