I want honest opinions?

clbowman11

i think you should feel comfortable in your own skin. i agree you looked much too thin in the middle picture. if your boyfriend was telling you to drop some weight my opinion is you should drop HIM. I'd bet you'd feel much lighter after that! you looked young and beautiful in the first picture.

I love this. And I agree you should drop him if that's how he feels. How do you feel without any opinions from others. I think you look just fine in the top and the bottom pictures. But, I do believe the middle is a tad thin.

sandyyy712

A lot of you are suggesting that I start strength training...the thing is that I already do incorporate that into my workouts. Maybe I'm not doing enough or doing it right though. So what exercises should I start doing to work on body composition?

UZBGIRL

You are young and so beautiful! I like your first picture. Your picture ( the middle one) you look soooooo skinny and not healthy. Hair, eyes, curves make a girl attractive. Like Russians say " A man is not a dog does not like bones".

IngaRobertsdottir

Maybe you should take up weightlifting and boxing so you can kick his a** next time he is rude to you!

Sarah_Wins

Here's my two word rant:

HEAVY LIFTING!

realme56

Gaunt! Dump the boyfriend...there are better guys out there!

And yes...weight lifting to get some definition and strength!

runzalot81

You need a new boyfriend. 140-145 is a healthy weight for you.

MemphisKitten

Honestly? I think you look emaciated in the second pic. As women, we tend to think we look good when we're underweight, but in all actuality we do not! Men, for the most part, do not like women who look like Holocaust victims. The last pic you posted is simply gorgeous! You have curves in all the right places and you look beautiful and healthy! To me, that looks the best out of all the pics. But, like you I stay around 130 lbs and I am never satisfied. So, I think you should weigh whatever you want to and whatever weight makes you feel good about yourself!

skinnierjeans

If you want to change, you should do it. It's your body and the decision is up to you. Personally, I think you'd be fine with just trying to tone up.

BeckaT79

The only time a man should tell you to lose weight is when he is truly concerned about your well being... Not because he does't like the way you look.. I agree with the others on here drop him and embrace yourself. This is not about how we think you look. This should be about how you think you look and how you feel. Other peoples opinions don't count! Yours does! What picture of you is your favorite? In which one did you feel the happiest or the healthiest? Take care of yourself. Good luck :happy:

BelleHeart

Stop listening to people or you will be doing this your whole life!! Pick HEALTHY weight for your height ( which looked like the first picture) and stay there. Never let people influence you into doing things. Especially some dumb boy.

Miribg

I like how you looked in your first picture. I don't think that you should lose weight for anyone. If he is the one telling you that you should lose weight then you should kick him to the curb.

daking639

thanks for all the feedback. it's just been so long that i've felt comfortable in my own skin that it's hard for me to see myself clearly so it helps to know what others think.

If you were my daughter I would get a hold of your boyfriend and smack him upside his head. 5'8" and 145 seems perfect to me.

KLovesTy

since you started your journey because of someone else I would say you need to find what YOU like dear. please don't listen to anyone else again. those are poisonous people.

toaster6

Honestly, I think there isn't that big of a difference; you're only fluctuating 5-10 pounds. I think that 120 might be too small for you, but if your doctor says that's an acceptable weight for you and that's the weight that makes you happy, then by all means aim for it. Personally, I think you look fine.

Tickateeboo

Hi Sandy,

You look lovely in ALL the pics. In the middle one I can see you have the potential to build some muscle and get some cool abs.

Your BF is VERY cheeky to suggest to a women that she lose weight. It's a very sensitive subject for most people, and I suspect he knows this, which is a little cruel, especially as you clearly have a great figure both 'before' and 'after'. Maybe he's responding to your own worries about it.

If it were me, I would focus on being healthy rather than always chasing that 'ideal weight' that people seem to think you should be.

Hope your BF stoops being an pain - if he is, then think of something about him that really annoys you and then respond with an equal 'suggestion' on that if he ever broaches the subject again. :laugh:

skinnyskittles

Nothing against you but your boyfriend probably has a LITTLE PECKER

Edit:

Afterthought ... Can you wear high heels around him
....or Is he already shorter than you

OhKelsey1

You were the weight at the first picture and your boyfriend told you to lose weight? In all honesty, I'm worried about how healthy that kind of relationship can be. The second one is much too thin! If I were your friends and family and I had watched you shrink to that weight, I would have been worried! I think you look great with the extra 7 pounds, and I think you need to tell your boyfriend to shove off.

Kit_Kat1213

Your first pic, hands down, you look the healthiest and prettiest.

Don't play around with dieting if you don't have to. It can really do a number on your system.

You will look back on these photos one day and think... Wow, I had such a glow, and youth (in the first photo especially).

Take care of YOU first (physically and mentally) and don't worry about your health for anyone but yourself

lilpoindexter

I don't like the middle pic, sorry. It looks too slender for my taste. The first pic is fine.

Edit...your boyfriend seems like an *kitten*. Are you sure you want to be around him? People in your inner circle are supposed to be supportive and helpful, not critical of you.

SoDamnHungry

You look good in all of these pictures. The second one does look you could be a little too thin, though.

Seriously, dump your boyfriend. No joke. You're adorable, and he's a jerk.

Irish_eyes75

Dump the loser and stay where you are. You don't look very good in the middle picture if you want my honest opinion.

missh1967

Kick your loser boyfriend to the curb! You looked very good in the first pic, too skinny/unhealthy in the second pic, and pretty damn good in the third pic.

I know it's hard to ignore opinions of other people. What matters is how you feel, not what everyone thinks. Even if you go back to how you look in the second picture, you will never be able to maintain that weight for very long. It is far too restrictive.

And I'll say it again -- get rid of that piece of crap boyfriend. He's no good for your self-esteem.

sensored44

Honest opinion might not be something you want to hear. My honest opinion is that you were close to perfect when you decided that you need to lose weight.

Where YOU were... is where I want to BE.

Any more beyond that, and people will regard you as being too underweight (though this doesn't seem to carry as much anethma as being too overweight though can be just as unhealthy)

You may to do what all of us should learn to do. Be happy with who you ARE, not who someone else tells you that you should be.

Good Luck

a1schwei

3rd pic is amazing, 2nd looks too thin. good luck and if you need to lose anything, it's the judgemental boyfriend

i 100% agree

cyndymar

You looked great before and your journey was due to a boyfriend all the wrong reasons . Its just not about losing weight its about a healthier lifestyle , finding balance and in your words being happy . Be happy for your accomplishments and if u fall off the bandwagon get right back on and push forward . Find where u are at your healthiest ask the doc if you are at the correct weight and depending on what the doc says stick with it FIND balance be happy for you and do it for yourself . : )

brilaa

thanks for all the feedback. it's just been so long that i've felt comfortable in my own skin that it's hard for me to see myself clearly so it helps to know what others think.

IN MY HONEST OPIONION I THINK YOU NEED TO GET BACK TO YOU.. LOVING YOU AND APPRECIATING HOW BEAUTIFUL YOU ARE.. hONEY YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND MY FAVORITE PIC OF YOU WAS THE FIRST ONE AND THE THIRD ONE DIDNT LOOK BAD EITHER DO WHATS COMFORTABLE FOR YOU AND WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY ALL HELLS WITH ANYTHING ELSE AND LEAVE BEHIND ANYONE THATS MAKING YOU FEEL LESS THAN WHAT YOU ARE! AMAZING!!! YOUR BOYFRIEND HAS AN ISSUE. YOU PROBALY DONT WANT TO HEAR THIS EITHER BUT A PERSON NOT JUST A WOMAN SHOULD NOT BE ASKING WHAT WE THINK ITS YOUR LIFE HONEY AS LONG AS YOU HAVE CONFIDENCE BUCK ANYTHING AND EVERYONE ELSE.... MY MOTTO... YOU DONT HOLD ME AT NIGHT AND YOU DONT PAY MY BILLS SOOO YOUR OPINION DOESNT MATTER IT MAY SOUND HARSH BUT THIS WORLD IS HARSH AND SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO HAVE SOME BARK!!! GOOD LUCK TO YOU YOUR IN MY PRAYERS

Magnamus

I think you look hot in all three!

Shange_Gully

First looks good.

Middle pic too skinny

Last would be good with better composition (same size/weight but more muscle less fat)

Don't look bad at all though.

gramacanada

the more you try to make everyone else happy. the more unhappy you'll make yourself. Do what you Know is right for You. Everyone else can take a flying leap through a rolling doughnut hole.