All the questions no one wants to ask.

sds76

Bruising? I wonder if I'm missing something in my diet or is it possible that all this fat bouncing around causes bruises. I have bruises popping up that I have no idea where they came from. On my legs mainly. Am I missing a nutrient or is it the exercise. They don't bother me, I'm just afraid I am not getting enough of something in my diet

This has happened to a lot of people, and it's actually the exercise. (I forgot what specifically it is about the exercise though!) It usually stops after a few weeks.

ETA: Here's an article about it : http://www.livestrong.com/article/505433-bruised-legs-after-exercising/

thanks so much

Monicapierce

I have an embarrassing question.... Im a big girl (220) and just started walking and hopefully will be running soon. Anyways, my first walk has already caused me to have a rash in between my thighs from the rubbing (I was wearing shorts). This happen to others? And what helps this go away fast, and what prevents it?!

126siany

Why is it we are now told to 'love our curves' that is 'ok to be a BBW' or that skinny models are frowned upon yet a fat model is ok? Since when did it become acceptable to be overweight (nobody has bones THAT big) yet being underweight is a no no

I have to disagree a bit--a "plus size" model is typically around a size 10-12, aren't they? That is only "fat" by the standards of the fashion industry. In my experience, and I will say that I am quite sensitive to my weight and how I feel that I'm perceived, being fat (as in obese, not just overweight) is not really socially acceptable. There are increasing accommodations being made for it, since in a free market, that is the way it works. It speaks nothing to the value judgments and acceptability that we see being fat with. Cigarettes are another example. Cigarette smoking has become somewhat deviant, these days, but because there is money to be made by providing the goods, companies do it.

Even though I'm pretty healthy, I'm constantly given the "OMG you will die of the fatness!" spiel. I'm painfully aware of how much larger I am than I would like to be. I've had people scan my grocery cart for "bad groceries" and seen the look if I dare have an occasional pint of ice cream. I've heard people make fun of much larger people. I've been made fun of for being fat. I look at people much larger than me and wince, and pray that I'll never get that big. It isn't as socially acceptable as people seem to think it is on this site. Maybe, I can see, at the margin of overweight, but certainly not obesity, which tends to be the BBW's of which you speak. There is very little truly socially acceptable about being obese. Especially not morbidly obese, like I am.

Small women have it rough too, I completely agree. I have friends that are constantly told to eat, and "why don't you gain weight, you're too skinny" when they would love to gain weight. I have a friend who felt so much better when she gained a few pounds because it no longer hurt to do things like sit for a long period of time. It never ends, no matter what end of the spectrum you are at.

I think it is less about one being more okay than the other and it being more that as women, there seems to be a very narrow band of what is acceptable in terms of appearance. I think that "love our curves" is more about trying to undo some of the massive self-esteem damage done to women who don't fit in that narrow band of socially acceptable appearances but that may be acceptable from a health point of view (and those are two different things). I also think that some women do "mistake" fat and curves. There is a difference between a bit extra junk in the trunk and being obese.

That is my two cents.

Plus size here in Australia seems to mean a size 18+ so that would mean the size I used to be, which was obese. I'm now a size 12-14 & there is no way that this would be called plus size here.... this is average size. Seems to be a whole heap over here that think it's more than ok to be 'plus size' and you should 'love the skin you are in' rather than try to live a longer healthy life. You never hear a fat person being told to eat less, yet hear skinny ppl being told to eat more. Double standards.

I personally am waiting for the day when I walk up to someone who IS overweight & just ask then "what's your excuse" and then walk away.

It's similar here. Most stores only carry up to a 14, a few will carry 16 and then you're off to the plus size stores or departments.

However, most of the models for plus size clothes actually are more like a 12 and the clothes are pinned and stapled. I guess they figure that if the women modeling missy sizes are all a 0, the women modeling plus size clothes should be equally unrealistic sizes. :huh:

sds76

I have an embarrassing question.... Im a big girl (220) and just started walking and hopefully will be running soon. Anyways, my first walk has already caused me to have a rash in between my thighs from the rubbing (I was wearing shorts). This happen to others? And what helps this go away fast, and what prevents it?!

OMG...I wore shorts ONCE and once only. It was awful, I swear my thighs were going to catch on fire...lol. I wear capris now. However I know they sell some anti-chafe stuff. Not sure where it would be in the store but over by the lotions/vaselines/deo's I would think. Some people use vaseline.

AmyFett

Sex burns about 100-150 cal per 30 minutes (depending on the umf, lol) :-D

I log it as sex, if someone on my FL doesnt like it, oh well, remove me then ;-)

30 minutes? Who is that lucky? Certainly not me LOL

sds76

Bruising? I wonder if I'm missing something in my diet or is it possible that all this fat bouncing around causes bruises. I have bruises popping up that I have no idea where they came from. On my legs mainly. Am I missing a nutrient or is it the exercise. They don't bother me, I'm just afraid I am not getting enough of something in my diet

Bruising can happen for a few reasons,
1st question ; are you on any medication.. Any kind of blood pressure or blood thinning medication can make you bruise easier. And lots of medications have this affect with out us realizing it's not just specific blood pressure mEds, things like asprin, a lot of anti-depressants .. There's a big list
Certain foods can affect this too I'll look for a list.

Second of all are they real 'bruises' .. As in do they go through the bruise stages and color, blues blackish purple then get lighter or are they just darker skin discolorations, the latter may be so an internal issue like liver function. Although this is less common .

hmmm, the only medicine I am on is synthroid for my hypothyroism, I'll see if that is a side effect. They are regular bruises, they change colors and take a little while to go away all the way.

Rocking_Robin

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126siany

I have an embarrassing question.... Im a big girl (220) and just started walking and hopefully will be running soon. Anyways, my first walk has already caused me to have a rash in between my thighs from the rubbing (I was wearing shorts). This happen to others? And what helps this go away fast, and what prevents it?!

OMG...I wore shorts ONCE and once only. It was awful, I swear my thighs were going to catch on fire...lol. I wear capris now. However I know they sell some anti-chafe stuff. Not sure where it would be in the store but over by the lotions/vaselines/deo's I would think. Some people use vaseline.

There's a great product called BodyGlide. You can pick it up in any running store or big sporting goods store like Sports Authority or D*ck's Sporting Goods. It comes in a little grey stick--looks like a deodorant. Awesome stuff! I have to put it under the bottom edge of my sports bra to keep from getting chafed there.

maremare312

I have an embarrassing question.... Im a big girl (220) and just started walking and hopefully will be running soon. Anyways, my first walk has already caused me to have a rash in between my thighs from the rubbing (I was wearing shorts). This happen to others? And what helps this go away fast, and what prevents it?!

OMG...I wore shorts ONCE and once only. It was awful, I swear my thighs were going to catch on fire...lol. I wear capris now. However I know they sell some anti-chafe stuff. Not sure where it would be in the store but over by the lotions/vaselines/deo's I would think. Some people use vaseline.

There's a great product called BodyGlide. You can pick it up in any running store or big sporting goods store like Sports Authority or D*ck's Sporting Goods. It comes in a little grey stick--looks like a deodorant. Awesome stuff! I have to put it under the bottom edge of my sports bra to keep from getting chafed there.

There's also a chafing cream sold by Monistat brand. It's with the other Monistat stuff, yeast infection creams and whatnot. It works pretty well and also is soothing if you are already chafed.

maremare312

Plus size here in Australia seems to mean a size 18+ so that would mean the size I used to be, which was obese. I'm now a size 12-14 & there is no way that this would be called plus size here.... this is average size. Seems to be a whole heap over here that think it's more than ok to be 'plus size' and you should 'love the skin you are in' rather than try to live a longer healthy life. You never hear a fat person being told to eat less, yet hear skinny ppl being told to eat more. Double standards.

I personally am waiting for the day when I walk up to someone who IS overweight & just ask then "what's your excuse" and then walk away.

Kind of tangentially related, but I was curious as to how Australian sizes are different from US sizes and found this converter~

http://www.onlineconversion.com/clothing_womens.htm

So it seems like your size 12-14 would be US size 8-10. I just find this stuff interesting

HogSandwich

New question!

Will I always see myself as fat? When will I adjust? I've been in the normal range for over a year (had a break but remained normal, went up a bit in the range though) and I still see myself as a fat person.

I have the reverse issue where I remember myself as the slim young thing I was at 18, and every time I'm proven otherwise is a huge surprise! I think it's just time. Remember as well that the mind is a filter, so what you see in the mirror is NOT how you objectively appear, for better or worse.

HogSandwich

Plus size here in Australia seems to mean a size 18+ so that would mean the size I used to be, which was obese. I'm now a size 12-14 & there is no way that this would be called plus size here.... this is average size. Seems to be a whole heap over here that think it's more than ok to be 'plus size' and you should 'love the skin you are in' rather than try to live a longer healthy life. You never hear a fat person being told to eat less, yet hear skinny ppl being told to eat more. Double standards.

I personally am waiting for the day when I walk up to someone who IS overweight & just ask then "what's your excuse" and then walk away.

Kind of tangentially related, but I was curious as to how Australian sizes are different from US sizes and found this converter~

http://www.onlineconversion.com/clothing_womens.htm

So it seems like your size 12-14 would be US size 8-10. I just find this stuff interesting

Also being in Australia, I haven't found this at all. I'm a 16, usually, and I can only find clothing that size in specialist stores. A lot of retail brands that I like don't even go up to a 14.

Mummyadams

I have an embarrassing question.... Im a big girl (220) and just started walking and hopefully will be running soon. Anyways, my first walk has already caused me to have a rash in between my thighs from the rubbing (I was wearing shorts). This happen to others? And what helps this go away fast, and what prevents it?!

OMG...I wore shorts ONCE and once only. It was awful, I swear my thighs were going to catch on fire...lol. I wear capris now. However I know they sell some anti-chafe stuff. Not sure where it would be in the store but over by the lotions/vaselines/deo's I would think. Some people use vaseline.

There's a great product called BodyGlide. You can pick it up in any running store or big sporting goods store like Sports Authority or D*ck's Sporting Goods. It comes in a little grey stick--looks like a deodorant. Awesome stuff! I have to put it under the bottom edge of my sports bra to keep from getting chafed there.

I brought Body Glide and it is awesome! I got chafing on my *kitten* from sit ups - gross! Tried Vaseline but no good. Bodyglide works!

Monicapierce

I have an embarrassing question.... Im a big girl (220) and just started walking and hopefully will be running soon. Anyways, my first walk has already caused me to have a rash in between my thighs from the rubbing (I was wearing shorts). This happen to others? And what helps this go away fast, and what prevents it?!

OMG...I wore shorts ONCE and once only. It was awful, I swear my thighs were going to catch on fire...lol. I wear capris now. However I know they sell some anti-chafe stuff. Not sure where it would be in the store but over by the lotions/vaselines/deo's I would think. Some people use vaseline.

There's a great product called BodyGlide. You can pick it up in any running store or big sporting goods store like Sports Authority or D*ck's Sporting Goods. It comes in a little grey stick--looks like a deodorant. Awesome stuff! I have to put it under the bottom edge of my sports bra to keep from getting chafed there.

There's also a chafing cream sold by Monistat brand. It's with the other Monistat stuff, yeast infection creams and whatnot. It works pretty well and also is soothing if you are already chafed.

Thank you all!!! Going product shopping tomorrow....this is no fun and DEFINITELY isnt attractive lol

HogSandwich

I have an embarrassing question.... Im a big girl (220) and just started walking and hopefully will be running soon. Anyways, my first walk has already caused me to have a rash in between my thighs from the rubbing (I was wearing shorts). This happen to others? And what helps this go away fast, and what prevents it?!

Not embarrassing at all, and I'm surprised it hasn't cropped up earlier. I talked to my doctor about this very issue, and she told me to go fetch three products: pHisohex (or any antibacterial body wash - ask your chemist), tea tree oil cream, and a specialist anti-chafing powder. Wash the area every shower with the antibacterial stuff and put the cream on when you get out of the shower, and before exercise put on the powder. Works wonderfully.

I'd add that getting an area like that THAT warm and irritated is also a huge risk of ingrown hairs, blocked follicles, all that jazz. Additional reason to beeline for the antibacterial wash. It's good stuff.

I spend all my summers with 3/4 length tights under my dresses and skirts - even when I was thin (I'm knock-kneed, so my thighs always touch). Better than the very painful alternative

PinkPaintedLady

I've been too embarrassed to ask this question because I feel so out of the MFP "loop" lol...

what the heck is an NSV? and if there is any other sort of weight loss lingo that I should be aware of...PLEASE feel free to school me.


also, great idea for a topic!!!

HogSandwich

I THINK it's some variation of Non-Scales Victory? i.e. Managing to run for a mile, which you haven't been able to do before?

Thats my understanding, anyhow O_o

126siany

I've been too embarrassed to ask this question because I feel so out of the MFP "loop" lol...

what the heck is an NSV? and if there is any other sort of weight loss lingo that I should be aware of...PLEASE feel free to school me.


also, great idea for a topic!!!

NSV= Non-Scale Victory. So it means any measure of your success that doesn't involve weighing yourself.

ebony__

I have an embarrassing question.... Im a big girl (220) and just started walking and hopefully will be running soon. Anyways, my first walk has already caused me to have a rash in between my thighs from the rubbing (I was wearing shorts). This happen to others? And what helps this go away fast, and what prevents it?!

Not embarrassing at all, and I'm surprised it hasn't cropped up earlier. I talked to my doctor about this very issue, and she told me to go fetch three products: pHisohex (or any antibacterial body wash - ask your chemist), tea tree oil cream, and a specialist anti-chafing powder. Wash the area every shower with the antibacterial stuff and put the cream on when you get out of the shower, and before exercise put on the powder. Works wonderfully.

I'd add that getting an area like that THAT warm and irritated is also a huge risk of ingrown hairs, blocked follicles, all that jazz. Additional reason to beeline for the antibacterial wash. It's good stuff.

I spend all my summers with 3/4 length tights under my dresses and skirts - even when I was thin (I'm knock-kneed, so my thighs always touch). Better than the very painful alternative

Off topic but often knock knees can result from and anterior tilt on your pelvis and depending on circumstances can be lessened with musculoskeletal work ... (just incase anyone wanted to know that random fact haha, sort of my field)

ebony__

I've been too embarrassed to ask this question because I feel so out of the MFP "loop" lol...

what the heck is an NSV? and if there is any other sort of weight loss lingo that I should be aware of...PLEASE feel free to school me.


also, great idea for a topic!!!

NSV= Non-Scale Victory. So it means any measure of your success that doesn't involve weighing yourself.

I asked the same question yesterday.. I'm totally out of the loop with the lingo!!