Thigh Gaps

marvelscale · September 2012

I don't even have a tumblr account but searched for the tag to check. Lots of young girls obsessing over it:

http://www.tumblr.com/tagged/thighgap

Omg, what did I just read? Investigating that link made me so sad.

Followed the link. Wow... that's sick.

obsidianwings · September 2012

But I'm not sure if that really counts as a thigh gap, because I think it means there's a gap even when you're feet are together.

Yeah, it's only a thigh gap if the feet are together at the time. (According to the powers that be at tumblr - i.e. bored 13 year old girls.)

Really? I thought it was your legs were shoulder width apart. Either way, I'm not terribly concerned.

Yus! I just achieved thigh gap!
Really though I'm a healthy weight, but thighs touch, but don't chafe, so hopefully for those with that problem it will go away with weight loss.

KharismaticKayteh · September 2012

Admittedly, due to my former ED, the Thigh Gap was always my goal. Even as a professional ballerina -- weighing in at 100-105 lbs at the time -- I was never able to obtain the Thigh Gap.

I'm also blessed because my husband tells me how unattractive that is and that most men really don't find that attractive at all. Apparently, and this is new to me... men like a bit of meat! ;-)

Wow, body shaming? I'm not surprised from someone who gender-biases friend requests on their profile... sheesh.

Just needed to say that this is a bizarre comment. :huh: There is no body-shaming in the first quote. And why is it any of your business if she only wants female friends? Sheesh back at ya. :huh: :huh:

Thank you, thistimeismytime I think she was just trolling me anyway.

lol--I just call 'em like I see 'em! :bigsmile:

Nope, not trolling. Not bizarre, either. Sorry you can't take a moment to comprehend what I said. She genders her friend requests (which itself is bizarre) and then comments, "Men don't like thigh gaps, they like meat on them " That is body shaming. Women that ARE naturally thin, that lack curves, that do have thigh gaps, etc. are effected by those comments. That is body shaming, and she specifically linked it to attractiveness levels to men (heteronormative) and then on TOP of the weird friend limiting (which is specifically "no guys!"). This strikes me as someone that views a world in a highly cisgendered way, which is not necessarily a good thing.

If that's too much for you to understand, please look up what "body shaming" is, and stop being a negative in the MFP community.

It's bizarre to me how people are told things they don't want to hear, or are met with someone calling them out on ignorant comments, and they instantly think, "Oh, it's just a troll. I won't try to think about what I'm saying!"

Mother of everything, I thought I would never encounter the term "cis" if I wasn't on Tumblr. Fawk. Please, no, just stop. No "cis", no "heteronormative", none of that. The person was referring to a discussion with her husband. She worded it a bit poorly, I do think, in generalizing that "men" like this or that. And in terms of her policy regarding the gender of her friends, she's perfectly fine to do that. It doesn't mean she's sexist or hates men or any other such immature thing you could maybe gather from that, it means that there's some reason she prefers only female friends, and until you know that reason, you are in no position to judge.

Stop.

stagegoddess · September 2012

i just want to be able to wear skirts without getting a huge sweat rash on my thighs. i've tried deodorant, powder, stockings. the only thing that stops it is spanx.

lilacsun · September 2012

Well I am one with a thigh gap when I am in proper weight range but cursed with a little roll of fat around my knees that make me look like the proverbial knock kneed hen. Remember, the perfect body is a social creation. :happy:

I apparently have fat behind my knees even when at a healthy bmi. My sister once told me I needed to lose weight to get rid of it:-/

Barbellerella · September 2012

The girl with the bloody cuts in the link.... Ugh I almost got sick seeing that's. So sad that these girls hate themselves

RiverDancer68 · September 2012

I have a thigh gap...always have. Even at my heaviest I have had one...it's all in the hips for me! I'm also bow legged, so that makes it look more pronounced. I got teased for it when I was a young teen...like others have posted, people thought you were "loose." Honestly it wasn't very fun when I was 14! It's just how I am built. I don't like hearing from other women that it is "nasty" because it is a part of who I am, and was never achieved through starvation or poor diet. I agree though, that a lot of younger girls and women strive for it (at all costs sometimes) in order to feel pretty or "perfect." which saddens me...love yourself, love your body...but please don't make rude comments, you never know who you will offend!

fairestthings · September 2012

Mother of everything, I thought I would never encounter the term "cis" if I wasn't on Tumblr. Fawk. Please, no, just stop. No "cis", no "heteronormative", none of that. The person was referring to a discussion with her husband. She worded it a bit poorly, I do think, in generalizing that "men" like this or that. And in terms of her policy regarding the gender of her friends, she's perfectly fine to do that. It doesn't mean she's sexist or hates men or any other such immature thing you could maybe gather from that, it means that there's some reason she prefers only female friends, and until you know that reason, you are in no position to judge.

Stop.

*hugs* Thanks for understanding my POV, poorly worded and all. Next time, I understand, I must word things as if walking on eggshells in case another person as such is nearby.

jenneal89 · September 2012

But does no thigh gap mean I'll always have to wear shorts under dresses to stop them from rubbing?

No, when I was bigger my thighs rubbed like crazy and it hurt. When I started losing weight and my thighs got smaller, but were still touching, it didn't hurt at all anymore. Im a bit pear shaped so my thighs were massive and really pushing into each other which is what hurt

GaryRussell123456 · September 2012

Here's a comic joking about the thigh gap.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wDsdNjhE0Y8

HappyStack · September 2012

Squats > "thigh gaps"

PhiliciousCurves · September 2012

I don't know why it's such a big thing to have a gap between your thighs anyway! My sister has one and I've always thought it look kinda nasty! I know I will never have it because I have big thighs! So what's the big hoopla??

wow thats rude

Believe me I wasn't trying to be rude, but in my opinion it didn't look very appealing! When she walked you could see the gap between her legsnd even when she got older and a tad heavier in the thigh area, the gap was still there!

thistimeismytime · September 2012

Gurlzz having da thigh gap don't make u any less pretty. You betta work da thigh gap. Same for da girlz wit no thigh gap. Work dos no gapped thigh like yo life depended on it

ROFL!! TRUE STORY!!

Kikilicious84 · September 2012

Man this is a hot topic..

mimigyal · September 2012

Man this is a hot topic..

It really is! A lot of people didn't recognize how serious it is

bullisnn82 · September 2012

this is really more of an issue of body type - like, pear shape, apple, etc. For a pear shaped chic the thighs are going to be larger, so unless there's some serious diet and exercise going on there will prob not be any space between them (FYI there is anti chafing gel for that). I've seen apple shaped women who were overweight but carried it all up top, so their legs were quite skinny and there was a huge "gap". In the end weather or not your thighs spark is not a determiner of health (for the most part)

mimigyal · December 2012

this is really more of an issue of body type - like, pear shape, apple, etc. For a pear shaped chic the thighs are going to be larger, so unless there's some serious diet and exercise going on there will prob not be any space between them (FYI there is anti chafing gel for that). I've seen apple shaped women who were overweight but carried it all up top, so their legs were quite skinny and there was a huge "gap". In the end weather or not your thighs spark is not a determiner of health (for the most part)

exactly!

onyxgirl17 · December 2012

Does having a thigh gap mean I have bigger hips cuz I have 23 inch thighs but I have a thigh gap.

RoadsterGirlie · December 2012

This is so dependent on genetics and body type. There are girls out there who are skinnier than I am that will never have one, just because of how their body is shaped. It's not wrong or right.

Mine showed up at about 140 lbs, and I have narrow hips. I'm now 125, and it's pretty evident, even when wearing jeans. I'm not going to lie - I like having it. I HATED the feeling of my thighs rubbing together when I was heavy - that was the worst.

At 64 years old, my mom has one as well and she likes hers just as much.

RobynLB · December 2012

I can't remember ever having one... even at 86 lbs... or ever wanting one. I

my thick thighs

xPeaceLuvVeggiesx · December 2012

I don't know why so many people want that. I love my thick thighs ^_^

Aviva92 · December 2012

Does having a thigh gap mean I have bigger hips cuz I have 23 inch thighs but I have a thigh gap.

I have 23.5 inch thighs and also have thigh gap. I just have huge hips.

I hate having thigh gap. I had no idea that it was considered something that girls want until I read about it on this forum. I was made fun of as a kid for it. I think it makes me look heavier than other people my height and weight in pictures because I'm wider than them. Also makes me look heavier in pictures than women who are a lot heavier than me, but more narrow. Hate it.

Aviva92 · December 2012

I don't know why so many people want that. I love my thick thighs ^_^

I have both thick thighs and thigh gap. It's about the hips being wide, not the thighs being small in my case.

Nicole1022 · December 2012

Thanks for posting!!

RoadsterGirlie · December 2012

Hating on yourself because you have one is just as bad as hating on yourself because you don't have one. You probably have a beautiful hourglass figure, which is something I will never have, due to my narrow hips and wider ribcage.

Work with improving on what you do have, and feel good about yourself.

pudadough · December 2012

My thighs have always touched. Even when I was little. They don't chafe or get rashes because of it. Therefore, I shall not GAF. Not even a small one.