MFP Debate....Do you accept friend requests with no msg?

MissyMissy18

I never understood what the big deal is, but then I'm not an MFP celebrity or someone who gets 10 requests a day.

If they don't leave a message I'll usually accept the request, and if they aren't very active or if their posts are obnoxious, offensive, or consistently negative I will remove them.

sharleengc

I accept them all. However, I prefer the message just to see either where they saw something posted from me or even just a "hi" is fine with me.

But, I check my friends list about every week and tend to delete people who haven't logged in in 2+ weeks. It's been my experience that once someone hits 2 weeks, they usually aren't back at all or consistently. Those who are on vacation usually let everyone know they will be gone and that is a different situation. It may seem harsh, but I don't need to have friends that aren't even committed to logging in. I don't care if you log or post consistently but for me, I need the motivation to see you logging in frequently.

wham55

No one thats ever added me sent a message, so i always accept

ahjenny

It depends on how much of their profile I can see. If it's open, then I'll check it out and decide from there. If it's closed and there's no message, then I don't accept the request. I've had a lot of people try to sell me junk, and that's not why I'm here. I also prefer to add like-minded people, so when I talk about my eating habits, it's with people who get it.

JenniBaby85

I do, but I definitely prefer messages with the requests. I give the ones without a shot for a little while, but if they don't log in, and/or are not active on MFP I delete them,

Rachlmale

I accept everyone message or no message... I don't usually keep them though - they have a week to prove themselves to be a 'friend' and not just someone who wants lots of praise with no return. If I don't see praise at least once a week (usually on weigh day) I remove them. It's unreal the amount of people that just add you and then never say anything... what's the point?

AquaFitQueen

Usually not as I specify on my profile Im not here to be popular so include a message but sometimes if someones profile is totally filled out and they are someone I can identify with I will give them a chance. But usually I am not so kind. And even if someone sends a message and they have no friends and no profile and no picture, they could send me the biggest message in the world and I would decline. Life is too short not to be real!

tourettte

I accept them because I know how it is. Sometimes you just don't know what to write or how to start

ShreddedTweet

I have done when I started first but I wouldn't now. It's just common courtesy to send a message! I also won't add someone who can't even be bothered to upload a picture...

ShaneOSX

Yes, because I don't care enough not to. MFP is basically a social network, networking is the point.

If someone is annoying me I'll unfriend them, but that's only happened one time.

TinaBaily

I will accept them, but only if they reply when I write to them asking for a little bit of info about them. I'm one of those "anal" MFPers who is on here daily and logs daily. I try to gather up MFP friends with like minds, to help us all stay on track better. I find that it's better to cultivate friends with similar drives than to find them pooping out on me a few weeks into the game, no longer showing up on here for weeks at a time, never a comment, note, or anything, and then ending up just removing them because they obviously aren't interested in sticking around.

Cathcandoo

Wow! There is really alot of differing opinions here - after reading them...I have to agree with what many have said on both sides of the argument....having said that - I still prefer a msg but it isn't a deal breaker - it's not like we are employing someone - lol!

I think it comes down to the fact that I appreciate someone who takes the time to make a comment but then I am a talker and have never made a request without sending a msg - it's the old adage...treat others as you would like to be treated..huh, thanks for all the feedback, MFP's!!!

oregonzoo

NO I do not.

wbgolden

I give just about everyone a chance, message or not. But I've found that the non message people don't last long on my list.

HarleyQuinn_12

I give just about everyone a chance, message or not. But I've found that the non message people don't last long on my list.

^^^ This. However, if there is no pic with the no message request...I always decline.

Silverkittycat

I give just about everyone a chance, message or not. But I've found that the non message people don't last long on my list.

hmmm....I said that burrito was wbgoldentown? That's all you get. got.

taylor5877

My info is all public anyway. I accept all friend requests. I'm pretty immune to nasty people on forums so no worries.

Brakalack

Yah, usually its nice to have a message so you aren't wondering if it is for a weird reason or not..

1nr15

not anymore

WifeNMama

I either pm them and ask if they read one of my posts or if we have a mutual friend. Lately, I've just been accepting willy nilly. Haven't needed to delete anyone, except people who haven't logged in for months.