So much for people NOT watching.
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I am very sorry this happened to you. I feel absolutely disgusted that people (most of whom are lazy and do nothing to better themselves) make the decision to treat other people this way. I had this happen to me once. I was on a run and went past some kids and one of them said something about my moobs. It absolutely killed my runners high and it was like the 10 miles before that didn't even matter. I finished my run walking home the last few miles. It was the worst anyone has ever made me feel.
The funny thing is, I run 20 to 30 miles a week, swim 2 days a week, and bike 2 days a week. I always feel good about my hard work and it pays off when I race and beat my goals. When I run, I still think about this happening again and still have no idea how I would react.
The really sad thing is that when I see bigger people out walking or running I always want to tell them good job and keep it up. I am always scared that they will think I am joking and being an a-hole so I never do.
Just remember that your goals are YOUR goals. No one else is more critical to you success than you. There are always obstacles to achieve what you want and it will be hard. Mentally, physically, but more likely both. Most people take the easy path. You have chosen the path less traveled and you will be rewarded, mostly in the form of tears when you reach your goal.0 -
As my mom used to say, "Consider the source."
Why do you give a flying f-bomb what mean people think? They're mean. Of course they're going to say mean things. Don't give them any power.0 -
people n general are total idiots! Except my firends on here and in life. LOL0
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I went through a similar thing at the park running. I also had forgotten my headphones that day and was running with a friend. Heard a group of girls behind us laughing and carrying on about how our thighs shook and everything...Funny thing was...when I turned around to look at them...they were all way bigger than us! What gives?0
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I'm so sorry that happened to you. People can be so inconsiderate and hurtful. There are a few people who will always be jerks, no matter what, but not everyone feels that way. Someone posted this a while ago and i thought it was beautiful.
(This is a blog entry from flintland.blogspot.com)
Hey, Fat Girl.
Yes, you. The one feigning to not see me when we cross paths on the
running track. The one not even wearing sports gear, breathing heavy.
You’re slow, you breathe hard and your efforts at moving forward make
you cringe.
You cling shyly to the furthest corridor, sometimes making larger loops
on the gravel ring by the track just so you’re not on it. You sweat so
much that your hair is all wet. You rarely stay for more than 20 minutes
at a time, and you look exhausted when you leave to go back home. You
never talk to anyone. I’ve got something I’d like to say to you.
You are awesome.
If you’d look me in the eye only for an instant, you would notice the
reverence and respect I have for you. The adventure you have started is
tremendous; it leads to a better health, to renewed confidence and to a
brand new kind of freedom. The gifts you will receive from running will
far exceed the gigantic effort it takes you to show up here, to face
your fears and to bravely set yourself in motion, in front of others.
You have already begun your transformation. You no longer accept this
physical state of numbness and passivity. You have taken a difficult
decision, but one that holds so much promise. Every hard breath you take
is actually a tad easier than the one before, and every step is ever so
slightly lighter. Each push forward leaves the former person you were
in your wake, creating room for an improved version, one that is
stronger, healthier and forward-looking, one who knows that anything is
possible.
You’re a hero to me. And, if you’d take off the blaring headphones and
put your head up for more than a second or two, you would notice that
the other runners you cross, the ones that probably make you feel so
inadequate, stare in awe at your determination. They, of all people,
know best where you are coming from. They heard the resolutions of so
many others, who vowed to pick up running and improve their health,
“starting next week”. Yet, it is YOU who runs alongside, who digs from
deep inside to find the strength to come here, and to come back again.
You are a runner, and no one can take that away from you. You are
relentlessly moving forward. You are stronger than even you think, and
you are about to be amazed by what you can do. One day, very soon, maybe
tomorrow, you’ll step outside and marvel at your capabilities. You will
not believe your own body, you will realize that you can do this. And a
new horizon will open up for you. You are a true inspiration.
I bow to you.0 -
I know exactly how you feel!! I was walking into work one day and when I crossed the road this car came swerving past me and a guy shouted at me saying 'move out the way you fat b***h' I was soooooo upset I was literally about to cry there and then. But I carried on and kept walking into work, but the whole day all I could think about was what that guy had said to me. It kills you inside I have been picked on for years but to have a TOTAL stranger say something to you it makes you want to scream.
I think what made it worse for me was that my boyfriend was also walking with me to work and he was in such a shock that he didn't know what to say so didn't stick up for me we just carried on walking. The guy that shouted at me was shouting soooooo angry! I am a spiritualist and I do not believe in people hurting each other through words or physical aspect. It hurts me to the core that someone can be so hurtful.
I believe that people say things hurtful because of the following -
1.They maybe jealous
2. They are hurting themselves
3. They have nothing better to do
4. They have no one that loves them
We are all loved, people on MFP are here to support each other. With all of us coming together we can move forward and loose/gain this weight!!0 -
Beauty is only skin deep, but ugly goes straight to the bone.
Obviously, you should ignore them, but I know it's easier said than done. If this happens again I urge you to confront them. Don't hurl an insult back, that's not productive. Say something like, "I hope you poop in your pants." Then walk away. I doubt someone like that has ever been confronted, and would likely have no response.0 -
I expect whoever shouted it wasn't even thinking, they were just making some dumb comment and didn't consider how that would affect you. It's really hard but try to rise above it. I was on a train once and a guy started talking to me, adn then his friend shouted 'why are you talking to that fat ugly girl'! To put this in context, I wasn't overweight at all, I was a size 12 - people will say things for all sorts of reasons, ignore them!0
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Keep doing what you are doing and run. some people are just jerks!!! Stay strong and you will succeed.0
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I'd bet a dollar to a dime it was a bunch of miscreant teenagers with less than nothing to do. They lurk around town and around the parks in my neck of the woods, too. I get snide remarks or snickers from some at times. I usually do my best "mom" impression and say something sweet and nice with just a touch of snarkiness in my voice.
Funny thing is, when these kids get older, they'll get their behavior handed back to them in spades!
Keep at running! As long as your body tolerates it. . .keep moving towards longer/harder/faster goals. One day, the only thing people will say as you sail by is "wow"!
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People can be nasty. This is life. This is not a newsflash. The world is not filled with rainbows and butterflies and unicorns.
Sometimes people flat out suck. But why would you let that "derail" you? Seriously, how could being made fun of for being "fat" derail anyone? Isn't that why you're here? Because you're tired of being called fat?
Use it as motivation. There are rude, inconsiderate, nasty people on the planet. Crying about them is not going to change that fact.
Case in point.0 -
People are jerks! Hate 'em! I wish I'd been there - I'd have yelled back that you were certainly lapping THEM!!! OOoooohhh this makes me so mad! Sorry you had the experience - but I know you'll use it to fuel your journey.0
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Seconded. Good on you for keeping going!, "OH MY GOD! Would you look at that girl running!!"
There, I fixed that for you. I know it sucks, but forget about them. Anyone who gets their kicks off of something like that is extremely immature. When life catches up to them and suddenly they are the fat ones huffing up the stairs and you are smoking hot, justice will be served. Karma is a bi***.
Happy friday to you too!0 -
They're obviously complete *kitten* (sorry!). Do keep walking and running. Then let's see who laughing when you eventually run circles around them.
Jerks - the lot of them, jerks!0 -
People are a-holes, plain and simple. I'm sorry that they hurt your feelings, but please don't let their stupidity derail all of your hard work. You are making your life better while they're spending their days sitting in a park making fun of people. They are sad, sad people. You are amazing! Don't let them bring you down to their level.0
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I'd go back to that park and keep running. They win if you don't go back.
Some people are just so insecure with themselves that they tend to pick on others to build up their self-esteem. By shining a bright light on your short comings, they're just trying to hid theirs in the shadows.
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I totally understand. I had a similar experience when I was just walking. I was pushing 310 at the time. Three teenage boys walked by me and for some reason felt the need to call me a beached whale... I went home and cried and cried... I have to say it affected me so much that I stayed in and did not get out walking again for another year. Don't let stupid people get you down. Those people make themselves feel better by taking down others.0
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People can be so disgusting and pointlessly cruel. You are doing amazing! Please don't let them get you down!
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Making comments like that to cover their own insecurities and "impress" others. People who need to belittle others to do this are not worth allowing them to get to you. By everything you are doing, you will achieve your goals, they will always be the idiot they are. Focus on that.
DITTO......Would you please ADD ME AS A FRIEND!!!!! I do notl ike sarcastic remarks like that..period! I cannot change an adult , neither can you. FOCUS on you! Its your journey and HAPPY FRIDAY TO YOU....Bless your heart my dear:)0 -
Go back to the park. Go running again. Next time (hopefully never) it happens, give them the finger and keep going.
Shout back "Wait til I lose enough to catch you - it's ON b!tch!"
I know it's hard. *strokes your hair* but one day they'll get theirs... and if you're lucky you'll get to watch
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I'm so sorry. I can't believe people can be so stupid and cruel. I think you are tremendously brave, and I hope you keep it up. Hugs.0
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The correct reply to this individual is "Yes, aren't I inspirational?"0
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I'm sorry this happened to you. But it is their problem, not yours. They feel bad about themselves and turn that against others who are taking charge of their life and working to improve it.
You are doing a great job taking charge - keep going and show them all.0 -
I was just reading about this women named Lizzie Velasquez. She was dubbed "The World's Ugliest Woman" in an 8-second-long YouTube video. People called her "it" and "monster" and encouraged her to kill herself. She was born with a ultra rare medical condition where she cannot create muscle, store energy, or gain weight. She took those horrible things and used them to come out on top. Here is the article that I read
http://shine.yahoo.com/beauty/lessons-worlds-ugliest-woman-stop-staring-start-learning-184400606.html
Many people are cruel because their lack of self esteem or just simply lack of intelligence and maturity. Unfortunately we live in a world that this happens and people are quick to judge.
I know how hard it is to hear those words too, I've heard them. In 2008 I weighed in at 311.5 and me and another guy decided to start jogging during our break at work. I was out jogging which at the time took a lot for me and the VP of the company I work for made a comment to me about "hasn't China had enough earthquakes". Well that and many other things have motivated me to get where I am today. I've lost a 110.5lbs. As cliche as it sounds, DON"T EVER GIVE UP, YOU CAN DO THIS!0 -
i was walking with my sister, and i had some young teenage kids yell out 'walking isnt gonna fix that fat!!'. as much as it hurt to hear, i also realised that they were stereotyping me. i was put in a category of 'your large, you shouldnt be doing that in public'. if you ever hear something hurtful like that again, think 'im doing the right thing by me, so you can sod off and be vulgar somewhere else'.
use it as motivation knowing one day you will be able to run there without issue, fit and healthy, knowing where you have come from, and your hard work has paid off.0 -
Judgemental jerks are hard to deal with. You know that you are doing something good for yourself, and yet their words still sting. I have been there. I wrote a blog post about an experience that totally changed my outlook. I started walking in my neighborhood. I live two blocks from the local high school, and a couple of times I had teenagers make snide comments about me when they passed. When I decided to start adding in some jogging I just kept imagining the (even more hurtful) comments I would get from them. Because of this, when I started adding little bursts of jogging I no longer walked/jogged around my neighborhood, I moved my workout to the graveyard. There are nice paths, there are usually very few people there, and none of them are teenagers. So I would go every other day and I felt so good because I could just enjoy moving and increasing my endurance without wondering what others were thinking about me. There was this one lady who I saw there quite often but we never spoke. In my mind I called her 7 o'clock lady. She visited the same headstone every time. She would sometimes nod or smile, but that was it. One day there was a small group of people in the graveyard who made it known that they were less than enthused that I was jogging there. They stared at me and grumbled to each other for a long time, but eventually they left. After they left 7 o'clock lady walked over to me and said, "Don't...Stop...Running". She told me she came to the graveyard everyday and looked forward to seeing me on the days I came there. Seeing me work at running reminded her that she was alive. She was not the one who died, and she needed to get moving too. It was a very emotional moment for me, and it really made me decide that I don't care what those other people think. I am doing this for me, and the people that are rooting me on are wonderful but the naysayers can kiss it. I now have the confidence to run on the sidewalks in my neighborhood, and when some random idiot makes a rude comment I just look at him/her and smile. I will run my first 5k on October 13th. Those people who made rude comments to you - their words hurt. No one can tell you they don't. But what you choose to do from here is your call; you can let those words bring you down, or you can use them as fuel for the fire.0
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I notice people walking by point and laughing at me in Zumba class all the time. Granted I suck, but I have fun and burn tons of calories so I don't care.0
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After I had gained some weight and was feeling self-conscious and not in a good place, I had a relative whom I hadn't seen in a while look me up and down and say , well, - nothing - then turn to my boyfriend (who always looks the same, btw) and say, wow, YOU look good! That was just what I needed to get me going! I've lost 25 lbs in 2 months since then. I have about 15 more to lose before I see her again - then just maybe, I'll look her up and down and say, wow - YOU look EXACTLY the same, I'm sorry about that. (oh, sweet, sweet revenge!)0
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They were probably young and dumb. Don't worry about it. Remember, your trying to better yourself nd it doesn't matter what others say. When someone makes fun of you or says you can't do something, you just gotta work to prove them wrong. Yea, it hurts to be ridiculed, but turn it around and use it as motivation...Do it for yourself, no one else.0
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I'd like to punch those ppl right in their obnoxious faces!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keep at it girl, Im sorry they did that! Ppl often make fun of others to make themselves feel better..You're the better person! Stay Strong!!! PS- Im so out of shape and smoke I WISH I could RUN!!! WTG!0
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