MAYBE I AM THE PROBLEM
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Either 1) the person was never great at all and you just thought he was, 2) the person was pretending to be someone great to get you and then got comfortable or 3) the person is great and the problem is you.
I'm inclined to think the problem is you because it's happened three times in a row. If you continue to do the same thing you can expect the same result.
hard to say. I don't know. first one we were young just 17 and 20 but we made it until I was 26 and he 29. He cheated a lot and stayed out not coming home a lot.. the second was wonderful but got sick and went through a transplant and became a whole other person from all the meds he was on and was just so depressing to be around. Constantly wanting to kill himself and always so angry. This one # 3 work and money is the only thing that matters to him. He would rather not live life and just make money. I can't ever get him to do anything or go anywhere. he constantly goes to the bar and leaves me behind etc.... I don't know. I do know that when they have changed I do ***** because something is not normal with them or our relationship...0 -
You should take up shake weights and underwater basket weaving... stat.
tug toner > shake weights. Check out my forearms in my pics.0 -
one guy, okay it's probably him
two guys, okay it's probably him
three guys+, it's you, you're a button pusher.
Ever see As Good as it Gets? Jack Nicholson is a writer, a woman asks him how he writes women so well, he says, "I Think of a man, and then I subtract reasoning and accountability" No truer statement has ever been put to film :devil:
::swoon::
:laugh: Yeah, that's a charming sentiment, isn't it?
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Your the girl that is left at his parents. While he is at the bar?
Girl call me. We can fix this for you.:smokin:
your sweet :-)0 -
It's not you at all. Men don't change. If he is mean and nasty in a few years it means he has always been that way and you just seem to realize it now. I know it is hard to move on without someone but isn't your boyfriend the one that looked at dating sites to hook up with other women before the move and the one who leaves you with his parents to get drunk? I think you are better off without him and you deserve better.0
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It's not you at all. Men don't change. If he is mean and nasty in a few years it means he has always been that way and you just seem to realize it now. I know it is hard to move on without someone but isn't your boyfriend the one that looked at dating sites to hook up with other women before the move and the one who leaves you with his parents to get drunk? I think you are better off without him and you deserve better.
yes :-( Also says we are engaged and he wants to marry me but never wants to set a date or talk about it :indifferent:0 -
one guy, okay it's probably him
two guys, okay it's probably him
three guys+, it's you, you're a button pusher.
Ever see As Good as it Gets? Jack Nicholson is a writer, a woman asks him how he writes women so well, he says, "I Think of a man, and then I subtract reasoning and accountability" No truer statement has ever been put to film :devil:
::swoon::
:laugh: Yeah, that's a charming sentiment, isn't it?
ya
The truth is often a cold cruel mistress0 -
You don't need a man, just get one of these
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8MzzLsJEzR8
I hope you're cutting off #3, because there's no reason to stay with someone if you're miserable.0 -
Because they get used to you, you need to spice it up a bit.
Sadly I kind of agree, the honeymoon phase just doesn't last forever.0 -
It's not you at all. Men don't change. If he is mean and nasty in a few years it means he has always been that way and you just seem to realize it now. I know it is hard to move on without someone but isn't your boyfriend the one that looked at dating sites to hook up with other women before the move and the one who leaves you with his parents to get drunk? I think you are better off without him and you deserve better.
HAHAHAHAHA FAIL0 -
It's never just about one half of a relationship. But if you always pick one kind of man, or always meet your men in the same type of place, (like a bar), then try looking elsewhere. Not all men are b*stards and not all women are either, so keep an open mind. I'm hurting too as I fear my relationship is coming to an end as she wants more than I can give, (we live on opposite sides of the Atlantic and can't move either way to be together), so although we love each other she can't cope with it just being online and on the phone. I can, so it hurts me like hell. I say this as I know how much pain can make you try so hard to grab onto something you'll never get back, or keep. Look elsewhere, and I'm sure you'll find your own Mr Right.0
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one guy, okay it's probably him
two guys, okay it's probably him
three guys+, it's you, you're a button pusher.
Ever see As Good as it Gets? Jack Nicholson is a writer, a woman asks him how he writes women so well, he says, "I Think of a man, and then I subtract reasoning and accountability" No truer statement has ever been put to film :devil:
::swoon::
:laugh: Yeah, that's a charming sentiment, isn't it?
ya
The truth is often a cold cruel mistress
Yeah, and stupidity is sometimes a man who thinks all women are the same.0 -
one guy, okay it's probably him
two guys, okay it's probably him
three guys+, it's you, you're a button pusher.
Ever see As Good as it Gets? Jack Nicholson is a writer, a woman asks him how he writes women so well, he says, "I Think of a man, and then I subtract reasoning and accountability" No truer statement has ever been put to film :devil:
::swoon::
:laugh: Yeah, that's a charming sentiment, isn't it?
ya
The truth is often a cold cruel mistress
Yeah, and stupidity is sometimes a man who thinks all women are the same.
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You don't need a man, just get one of thesehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8MzzLsJEzR8
I hope you're cutting off #3, because there's no reason to stay with someone if you're miserable.
LOL!!! I love him but I am not happy so what does one do with that/..0 -
"The only common denominator in all of your failed relationships is you." - My friend Jessica, to herself.0
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Because they get used to you, you need to spice it up a bit.
Sadly I kind of agree, the honeymoon phase just doesn't last forever.
Ya I don't know why it can't... I am still completely turned on by him and still want him so very much.0 -
There are two ways this can goI have been in three serious relationships that always seem to go the same way no matter how different or great the person seems at first they always turn out to be someone completely different. I fight and fight and fight to get that person back I fell in love with fighting til the very end . I feel like it is them being dishonest to me. Why would they be wonderful and everything I ever wanted in the beginning and a year or two down the road when I am completely in love with them they change into the meanest nastiest person..... What could I be doing wrong
A: The common denominator in all of your failed relationships is YOU!!
B: (A pep talk I gave to someone once). "You know, I have had probably 99 failed relationships in my life but, the one I am in now is sucessful, those other 99 failed ones were all worth it."0 -
You don't need a man, just get one of thesehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8MzzLsJEzR8
I hope you're cutting off #3, because there's no reason to stay with someone if you're miserable.
LOL!!! I love him but I am not happy so what does one do with that/..
Maybe you could try going to counseling together if you really love him. You also have to ask yourself "why" you love him.0 -
Date women, they are much easier to deal with than men :P
Having dated both, I can say in my experience, men are *far* easier to deal with.
^^
THIS
People change..as much better stated earlier by Yoovie..either learn to love who they become as YOU have changed, too (and maybe that's the issue)..or move on.0 -
There are two ways this can goI have been in three serious relationships that always seem to go the same way no matter how different or great the person seems at first they always turn out to be someone completely different. I fight and fight and fight to get that person back I fell in love with fighting til the very end . I feel like it is them being dishonest to me. Why would they be wonderful and everything I ever wanted in the beginning and a year or two down the road when I am completely in love with them they change into the meanest nastiest person..... What could I be doing wrong
A: The common denominator in all of your failed relationships is YOU!!
B: (A pep talk I gave to someone once). "You know, I have had probably 99 failed relationships in my life but, the one I am in now is sucessful, those other 99 failed ones were all worth it."
I love this person ad want to live happily together. He is just drifting away and I am powerless over it. Don't know what to do anymore0 -
You don't need a man, just get one of thesehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8MzzLsJEzR8
I hope you're cutting off #3, because there's no reason to stay with someone if you're miserable.
LOL!!! I love him but I am not happy so what does one do with that/..
If you love a douche who treats you like crap then you need more help than anyone here can give you...And if he's already drifting away get a dose of self-esteem and let him drift on.0 -
There are two ways this can goI have been in three serious relationships that always seem to go the same way no matter how different or great the person seems at first they always turn out to be someone completely different. I fight and fight and fight to get that person back I fell in love with fighting til the very end . I feel like it is them being dishonest to me. Why would they be wonderful and everything I ever wanted in the beginning and a year or two down the road when I am completely in love with them they change into the meanest nastiest person..... What could I be doing wrong
A: The common denominator in all of your failed relationships is YOU!!
B: (A pep talk I gave to someone once). "You know, I have had probably 99 failed relationships in my life but, the one I am in now is sucessful, those other 99 failed ones were all worth it."
I love this person ad want to live happily together. He is just drifting away and I am powerless over it. Don't know what to do anymore
Having been here before, the answer is walk away. It took me 5 years to figure that, and I wish I'd left sooner.0 -
You don't need a man, just get one of thesehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8MzzLsJEzR8
I hope you're cutting off #3, because there's no reason to stay with someone if you're miserable.
LOL!!! I love him but I am not happy so what does one do with that/..
If you love a douche who treats you like crap then you need more help than anyone here can give you
um nooooooooooo I love a douche who now treats me like crap who used to be great to me... Maybe I am just in shock over how downhill everything has been the last six months.0 -
There are two ways this can goI have been in three serious relationships that always seem to go the same way no matter how different or great the person seems at first they always turn out to be someone completely different. I fight and fight and fight to get that person back I fell in love with fighting til the very end . I feel like it is them being dishonest to me. Why would they be wonderful and everything I ever wanted in the beginning and a year or two down the road when I am completely in love with them they change into the meanest nastiest person..... What could I be doing wrong
A: The common denominator in all of your failed relationships is YOU!!
B: (A pep talk I gave to someone once). "You know, I have had probably 99 failed relationships in my life but, the one I am in now is sucessful, those other 99 failed ones were all worth it."
I love this person ad want to live happily together. He is just drifting away and I am powerless over it. Don't know what to do anymore
If you love him and he doesn't love you back, then you do indeed have a problem. If he doesn't want you, there really is nothing you can do about it.
And I am also thinking if he doesn't want to be with you, then he is not a good match and probably a jerk to boot.0 -
You don't need a man, just get one of thesehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8MzzLsJEzR8
I hope you're cutting off #3, because there's no reason to stay with someone if you're miserable.
LOL!!! I love him but I am not happy so what does one do with that/..
If you love a douche who treats you like crap then you need more help than anyone here can give you
um nooooooooooo I love a douche who now treats me like crap who used to be great to me... Maybe I am just in shock over how downhill everything has been the last six months.
Regardless of when it started, IF it started and continued then the true answer is he probably isn't into you anymore and the more desperate you get for him to love you the less he will find you attractive. It's run its course, move on!0 -
There are two ways this can goI have been in three serious relationships that always seem to go the same way no matter how different or great the person seems at first they always turn out to be someone completely different. I fight and fight and fight to get that person back I fell in love with fighting til the very end . I feel like it is them being dishonest to me. Why would they be wonderful and everything I ever wanted in the beginning and a year or two down the road when I am completely in love with them they change into the meanest nastiest person..... What could I be doing wrong
A: The common denominator in all of your failed relationships is YOU!!
B: (A pep talk I gave to someone once). "You know, I have had probably 99 failed relationships in my life but, the one I am in now is sucessful, those other 99 failed ones were all worth it."
I love this person ad want to live happily together. He is just drifting away and I am powerless over it. Don't know what to do anymore
If you love him and he doesn't love you back, then you do indeed have a problem. If he doesn't want you, there really is nothing you can do about it.
And I am also thinking if he doesn't want to be with you, then he is not a good match and probably a jerk to boot.
well that is part of it. He says he loves me and wants to marry me... But he treats me bad... I don't understand0 -
Fer serious? It is you. Just skip the relationships. Here, this may help you out
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Probably the person you fell in love with wasn't real. Lots of people meet someone and that someone has a handful of desirable qualities that they put on display right away. Then you figure that person (guy in this case) is your dream guy, so you start projecting all of the qualities of your dream guy on to that person. He would NEVER do this or that, of course he feels such and such a way about this issue or that issue. You turn him into a fantasy guy and that's what you fall in love with, not the real person. Then when he does things that are contrary to what you want him to do, you say "You're not the man I fell in love with!" That's true, because the man that you fell in love with doesn't really exist.I fight and fight and fight to get that person back I fell in love with fighting til the very end . I feel like it is them being dishonest to me.
That's been the experience that I've witnessed, any way.0 -
Leave. Leave. Leave. Run, do not walk, away.0
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There are two ways this can goI have been in three serious relationships that always seem to go the same way no matter how different or great the person seems at first they always turn out to be someone completely different. I fight and fight and fight to get that person back I fell in love with fighting til the very end . I feel like it is them being dishonest to me. Why would they be wonderful and everything I ever wanted in the beginning and a year or two down the road when I am completely in love with them they change into the meanest nastiest person..... What could I be doing wrong
A: The common denominator in all of your failed relationships is YOU!!
B: (A pep talk I gave to someone once). "You know, I have had probably 99 failed relationships in my life but, the one I am in now is sucessful, those other 99 failed ones were all worth it."
I love this person ad want to live happily together. He is just drifting away and I am powerless over it. Don't know what to do anymore
If you love him and he doesn't love you back, then you do indeed have a problem. If he doesn't want you, there really is nothing you can do about it.
And I am also thinking if he doesn't want to be with you, then he is not a good match and probably a jerk to boot.
well that is part of it. He says he loves me and wants to marry me... But he treats me bad... I don't understand
This is going to sound really harsh and I am sorry in advance.
He tells you he loves you and then treats you harsh?
He sounds like he might have an abusive personality. Now, I am not talkiing about the occasional bad day. Is he constantly like this?
If so, we will be seeing you on COPS in about five years.
"He beats me because he loves me".
Think about it girl.0
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