What if your husband or wive wants to know...?
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I don't know...usually I go with honesty but some things are better left unsaid.0
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I still can't get over that people know what that number is. it kind of blows my mind.
It is probably easy to remember if the number is low.0 -
Interesting question. TBO...neither of us have asked the question and we've been married 25 years. Does it really matter? I mean.. the way I see it is I'm the lucky one that is with her and vice versa. I don't want to know how many or who was the first one and I'm sure my wife doesn't want to know either otherwise the question would have been asked a looooong time ago. It's not something I want rattling around in my head. Especially, when it's time for intimacy. The only thing that matters is... I'M NUMBER ONE NOW! We all have to grow up at some point!0
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My husband knew before we married. I did not mind telling him, he openly told me first. We been married 9yrs. It's never been brought up again.0
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Wait till you been married 15 years..... now I ask her to tell me in detail and embellish as much as possible......
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I believe people should be honest about their sexual history with sexual partners. If you are with someone who can't handle your number, there is probably some kind of a mismatch going on. I'm surprised that some think it's uptight to ask. There's so many reasons to want to know--health and safety, knowing your partner better, curiosity, conversation topic, intimacy.0 -
My husband and I started dating 12 years and 4 days ago. All that matters is our numbers for that period are both one. Anything before that is irrelevant. We both know that the other was with other people before that time. That's all either of us cares to know. It's not a secret but there's no way that knowledge could benefit our relationship in any way.
I don't get the point of wanting to know. It seems like something you ask if you're insecure and looking for a reason to be insecure. You ask and then get mad about the answer. I have no doubt that my husband loves me and has not and will not cheat. It does not matter if he slept with one person or one hundred people before he met me. He has had sex with one person in the entire time we've been together and that's all that matters to me.0 -
There is no reason to divulge an actual number. My husband and I have NEVER shared that information. Just that we had pasts that lead us to our future. That we were safe. That we had been tested prior to getting together. That we are the only ones for each other from the moment we decided to be a committed couple on out. Giving up a number is only going to cause a fight, and fuel insecurities.0
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Just pick a number that says "I have some experience" but not "I'm easy".0
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Yeah, there's no way I'd ever tell them that I've been with 84 1/2 people.0
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I asked my boyfriend, because I thought it was something you were supposed to ask. He was my first.
I was one of many. He seemed a little freaked out when I asked, but eventually gave me a number, along with EVERY SINGLE NAME. Which I did NOT want.
A number, fine, that's anonymous. The names really bothered me.
That being said.. He's been with me longer than any of them, he's with me now, not them, and I'm not threatened by the past.0 -
My husband and I have been married for 5 years, I was married previously as well but we've known eachother since our teens. We both know we've been with other people but have never asked how many. It's never come up and I've never even been curious. We are adults and have obviously been with other partners in our lives. I don't "need" to know and I guess he doesn't either. What matters is us, now. He is the last man I will ever be with and all that I need/want. Till death do us part.
Yikes. I need to stop being so mushy..I have a reputation to uphold!
Hookers and blow for everyone! :drinker:0 -
Does it even matter? If you were ashamed of the number you would probably lie anyway.0
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Besides that, my husband was 39 when we got married and had never been married. Do I really think he was celibate all of those years?0
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Ive only been with my wife so my number was easy. Don't see a reason to hide it. That said.....If you can't count yours on your fingers and toes I would try to avoid the question.0
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You should only worry if the number goes up whilst you're married.0
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My wife and I have been married for 20 years. Her second. My fourth.
There are no secrets between us. Jealousy is for the insecure.0 -
Ive only been with my wife so my number was easy. Don't see a reason to hide it. That said.....If you can't count yours on your fingers and toes I would try to avoid the question.
God I love you even more.0 -
I'm proud of my number. I have no idea how many people my boyfriend has slept with and I don't really want to know!0
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Bottom line, this question should have been asked (if it ever needs to be asked) BEFORE you put a ring on it :explode:
Does it matter who went before as long as your partner is the last and best one?
This needs only to come up if someone in the past turns up at the door with kids or HIV :sad:
If you marry someone that should be it (unless you BOTH want an open marriage:noway: )
I hope I am not speaking out of place, but if someone who I have married suddenly starts asking that type of question I'd be contacting Cheaters:grumble:
How many have I? For the record enough :yawn:0 -
NEVER answer that question no matter if the number is small or large. I learned that the hard way.0
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