5 Questions About Your Divorce

JAllen32

1. Did you split amicably
2. Did you kill each other during the process
3. Was the divorce due to cheating
4. Do you regret your decision
5. Did you keep your married name?

1. Not really.
2. No, but it wasn't easy.
3. No.
4. Not a bit.
5. Nope, changed it as soon as I could.

jenbit

1 and 3... I found out he was cheating shortly after he told me he wasnt happy. However we had to very small children and I refused to use them as pawns. We were great friends before we got married and are good friends now. The kids spend 50/50 time one week at my house one week at his. We make all the decisions regarding the kids together and we enforce each others punishments. I never speak badly about him infront of my children. Dont get my wrong there are the occasional hiccups but for the most part everything works well. I never took his last name so I didn't have to worry about changing it back

jennaworksout

1. Did you split amicably - Yes
2. Did you kill each other during the process - No
3. Was the divorce due to cheating - No
4. Do you regret your decision - No
5. Did you keep your married name? - No

best decision I ever made

lisag2007

1. Did you split amicably - Not at the time...now we are friends.
2. Did you kill each other during the process - I wanted to sometimes.
3. Was the divorce due to cheating - Yes...he cheated on my with someone I thought was a friend.
4. Do you regret your decision - No, I have found a wonderful man to be my husband and we have a great son together.
5. Did you keep your married name? - Yes, I did. Too much hassle to change it.

lobster888

1. Did you split amicably - No
2. Did you kill each other during the process - No, but there were time that I truely wished one of us was dead - Just being honest
3. Was the divorce due to cheating - No, but he said I did, then was dating a woman whose brother he hunted with out of state for the last 15 years within a month of us being seperated - lots of questions there - but they are married now!!!
4. Do you regret your decision - No No No
5. Did you keep your married name? - Yes because I have a son and he was in school and I wanted us to have the same last name.

Divorce is hard, but in my case it was the best thing I ever did for myself. I wish that had not been the case, but it was a very abusive relationship. I spent my time after my divorce on rasing my son and healing myself.
I remarried 10 years later to the most wonderful man ever - he is a true blessing in my life.

chelledawg14

1. Did you split amicably - yes; we are still good friends
2. Did you kill each other during the process - not at all; did our divorce through the mail; we cried, hugged at each step
3. Was the divorce due to cheating - I met someone else, but we were already in a bad place & just waiting for it to happen; love each other to this day, but our personalities are so different it wasn't going to work in the long run
4. Do you regret your decision - yes; he is a great man - we were together 19 yrs, married for 16 yrs 11 mos. i got remarried pretty quick & he did a year ago; our daughter has always been even between us - he is a fantastic dad; we were too young when engaged and married (at 21 and 23) and I just broke up with my first boyfriend when we met. love my ex like I will love no other. I know he will still be there for me in the end, probably more so than current husband of six years. I am very happy that he has found happiness with new wife (and I really like her, too).
5. Did you keep your married name? I would have if I hadn't gotten remarried so soon after.

NOTE: My lesson was I should have tried marriage counseling when he wanted; I was too embarrassed to try it. THAT is my biggest regret. Ended up marrying an addict (unknown at the time) and ended up getting counseling, going to Alanon, and still have struggles. I have grown up a lot since my divorce!

Kristhin

1. Did you split amicably...no.
2. Did you kill each other...I threatened to once but no, there wasn't any violence but there was some screaming.
3. Was the divorce due to cheating...partially
4. Do you regret your decision...no. Now I have a husband that I'm really happy with and I'm not lonely.
5. Did you keep your married name...no.

MyM0wM0w

1. Did you split amicably

- sort of...in a passive aggressive way

2. Did you kill each other during the process

- No, but it's been tempting plenty of times.

3. Was the divorce due to cheating

- Yes

4. Do you regret your decision

- NEVER

5. Did you keep your married name?

- NEver took his name so still have the same name I grew up with.
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PlaysLikeAGirl

1. Did you split amicably
- Yes and no. He was very, very bitter for about a year and a half. Once he got a new girlfriend, he calmed down.
2. Did you kill each other during the process
- He became a monster. He was a very sweet, quiet guy with no backbone, and then he turned into the Hulk and did everything he could to hurt me or make me uncomfortable.
3. Was the divorce due to cheating
- No, I was no longer in love with him.
4. Do you regret your decision
- Not once. I wish that I would have gone about it in a better, more polite way, but I don't regret the actual decision.
5. Did you keep your married name?
- Nope, took back my maiden name as soon as it was finalized, it felt like returning home.

I hope everything is going ok with you, and if you need any support, we are always here to talk things through!

GeekGirl23

1. Did you split amicably: NOOOOO
2. Did you kill each other during the process: No he was too lazy and let me do all the paper work... needless to say I got all the furniture and he got half the bills
3. Was the divorce due to cheating: Yes, when I caught him he didn't admit it and the next day said he was done with me and left. I found out months later he was fooling around with my co-workers at our work. And he had the nerve to stalk me after our divorce which ended up getting him shiz canned.
4. Do you regret your decision: To divorce... no... for marrying him just so I could move out of my dad's house... YES
5. Did you keep your married name? I ditched that the second I could.

UsedToBeHusky

1. That's a tough question. We were both glad to have it over. But we don't talk anymore.
2. He hates my guts now. He tried his damndest to screw me... but I didn't let him... which is why I think he hates my guts.
3. Cheating was involved (on both sides), but it was only a symptom of a much greater more compounded problem.
4. I regret that it had to end... but it had to.
5. Yes. We have children together and it just makes it easier if we have the same last name.

digitalbill

1. Did you split amicably - I suppose the initial split was peaceful enough. She left while I was in Somolia. I came home (Germany) to an empty apartment.

2. Did you kill each other during the process - IIt was the only time in my life that I ever gave serious thought to murdering someone. I had the entire thing planned except how to explain my absence in Germany. A friend finally talked me out of it.

3. Was the divorce due to cheating - Absolutly it was. On her part. She became the local party favor.

4. Do you regret your decision - The only regret I have is not divorcing her the first time I caught her. My second regret is not divorcing her the SECOND time I caught her.

5. Did you keep your married name? - She kept mine until she got remarried.

BR3ANDA

1. Did you split amicably-no
2. Did you kill each other during the process-no, but my Dad wanted to kill him, literally, my dad was chief of police at the time and had a whole station full of police officers to help him out.
3. Was the divorce due to cheating-no, he was an abusive a**hole
4. Do you regret your decision - no way, now how.
5. Did you keep your married name? - not even, thats where I got the most satisfaction, taking my maiden name back, because it hurt him the most, after the physical pain he caused it was the least I could do.

gmn728

1. Did you split amicably ? Not really i hated him
2. Did you kill each other during the process ? No he moved out of state and I didn't hear from him
3. Was the divorce due to cheating ? Cheating lying stealing... all on his part
4. Do you regret your decision ? No it was the best decision I ever made
5. Did you keep your married name? I did for a while because my 2 year old had that name... but after not hearing from or seeing my ex... for over a year.. I decided to change back to my maiden name and I changed my 2 year old's name too....

violet456

1. Did you split amicably: We tried it, but in the end no, a restraining order was almost required.
2. Did you kill each other during the process: Almost - The heart break killed him two years later.
3. Was the divorce due to cheating - Nope
4. Do you regret your decision - I had a moment of sentiment as packing up his stuff. Then I found cocain supplies. That solidified the decision.
5. Did you keep your married name? Nope - barely had one I had hyphenated. I took back my maiden very quickly.

Was married 8 years.

Spicydeene

1. Did you split amicably - Yes.
2. Did you kill each other during the process. Nope - went really smooth.
3. Was the divorce due to cheating - Yes, and a long time addiction issue came back into play and didn't want to remain sober.
4. Do you regret your decision - Nope!! I found the RIGHT one soon after!
5. Did you keep your married name? Yes, for professional reasons.

Shelbert79

1. Did you split amicably?
No, he wanted me to stay, I realized I didn't love him anymore, no matter how much he changed, went to drug rehab or went to anger management. (although I did encourage him to seek treatment for himself)

2. Did you kill each other during the process?
I moved out (with our daughter) 2 days after I told him I wanted a divorce, it took over a year and a half to get the divorce finalized because he was being difficult. So, yeah, we were ready to kill eachother

3. Was the divorce due to cheating?
No, I did have a one night fling that he's still unaware of but it wasn't the cause of the divorce. It was an eye opener and made me rethink things

4. Do you regret your decision?
HELL NO! The only thing I regret is getting married to him in the first place. I thought getting married and having a baby would make him grow up, it didn't.

5. Did you keep your married name?
Yes, but only because I was getting remarried w/in 10 months of the divorce being finalized. (And NOT with the person I had the fling with)

mariposa224

1. Did you split amicably
2. Did you kill each other during the process
3. Was the divorce due to cheating
4. Do you regret your decision
5. Did you keep your married name?

1. No, but we can deal with each other mostly now. We even attempted another time through, unsuccessfully.
2. I'm still alive, or I wouldn't be typing... And if I had killed him, methinks I'd be in prison... (ETA: Our divorce took a year and a half & all we were fighting over was custody of our infant son. It was very bad & costly. And I think he would've liked to have killed me, repeatedly if he could have.)
3. No.
4. Not after the second time through, no way. But I didn't want the divorce, he did.
5. Yes, because we share a son.

carlav02

1. Did you split amicably
2. Did you kill each other during the process
3. Was the divorce due to cheating
4. Do you regret your decision
5. Did you keep your married name?

1. He walked out and I didn't chase him so yeah I guess that's amicable.
2. Still going through the process but as of yet, neither one of us is dead.
3. Not on my part.
4. HE decided it.
5. As of right now, I do not have any intention of changing my name back.

Celestialfairie

1. Did you split amicably - Not really. I didn't want to but I did, and he didn't want to at all.
2. Did you kill each other during the process - No. He just can't ever speak with me directly about anything, not even in email. It all goes through a third party so he doesn't have to deal with me.
3. Was the divorce due to cheating - No, although that doesn't stop him from saying that it was.
4. Do you regret your decision - Never. It wasn't healthy for either of us and I feel that we're both better off now.
5. Did you keep your married name? - Nope. I wasn't really planning to, but I had to change it right away. He kept sending all of my papers certified to my maiden name knowing I wouldn't be home to sign for them. Having a different last name on my ID meant the post office wouldn't release the documents to me.