MFP Friending 101
Replies
-
good point! i try to include common threads.0
-
I accept all friend requests but I delete really quickly...
In the past, I've accepted a blank friend request from a person with a private profile, only to read their profile and then delete them because I was sure that we wouldn't get along.
It's one more click... not much work and I don't mind.0 -
Such passion over a friend request!
Internet forums have a tendency to turn even the most mundane things into subjects of fervorous debate. 0 -
some people take this **** way too seriously
Thank you!! Out of my list of friends may 6 have replied to my stuff? Shoud I unfriend everyone who hasn't?
If people friend me, does that make me a "friend collector?"?
How do you know whe friended who?
How often do you want someone to post on your stuff? Every time you finish logging your food/exercise?
Do you want people to just pat you on the back or encourage you to do better next time when ate 1 serving of veggies?
Once a week enough? How do you keep track?
This sounds snarky, but honestly, how much do you expect out of your mfp friends?0 -
Such passion over a friend request!
Internet forums have a tendency to turn even the most mundane things into subjects of fervorous debate.
^^ this0 -
I'm not a big fan of getting a friend request without a note with it. It says so right in my profile, so obviously you didn't read that before you sent one!0
-
yeah!!! and also...getting a blank friend request and NO communication AT ALL after that. Makes me wonder what they wanted?:noway:0
-
Just an FYI, I friended someone who I couldn't even SEE their profile. So if you put "leave a message in friend requests" and expect people to see that, but have your profile hidden, maybe now you know why people keep sending the bank requests. Granted I'm sure some folks would send them regardless, I'm just pointing out that if you make your profile only viewable by friends, non-friends can't see anything other than your profile photo.0
-
I don't understand why . Who cares ? What magical message am I gonna send you that makes you click accept ? If I find you it's obviously from a group or forum .0
-
What's your requirement in a friend request?
Ah. No wonder we're not friends. :laugh:
I totally agree with you OP. :drinker:
I get that some don't care who they accept but I prefer to be selective so my FL doesn't get huge. I have awesome friends and I like to be able to interact with them. Too many people on a FL can be distracting.
Plus I don't want to waste all this fabulousness on someone that won't appreciate it.0 -
agree!
What's your requirement in a friend request?
Ah. No wonder we're not friends. :laugh:
I totally agree with you OP. :drinker:
I get that some don't care who they accept but I prefer to be selective so my FL doesn't get huge. I have awesome friends and I like to be able to interact with them. Too many people on a FL can be distracting.
Plus I don't want to waste all this fabulousness on someone that won't appreciate it.0 -
Just an FYI, I friended someone who I couldn't even SEE their profile. So if you put "leave a message in friend requests" and expect people to see that, but have your profile hidden, maybe now you know why people keep sending the bank requests. Granted I'm sure some folks would send them regardless, I'm just pointing out that if you make your profile only viewable by friends, non-friends can't see anything other than your profile photo.
This ^^ most rational thing anyone's said so far. I get that some people interact a lot and value the friendships found in mutual support and motivation, but you can still motivate and inspire without being that involved. I'm not a friend collector but I know I'm not as active on here as some people on my friend list, I still have the same aim as most people on here - get healthy!0 -
It doesn't matter if you send a message or not. To me, it's obvious why you sent the FR - this is a fitness site. We obviously share a common goal : ). Now Facebook, where I have more personal information and family and friends' pix...yeah if we don't have at least one mutual friend (and even then I send a msg asking how do I know you), I need to know why you sent the FR.
I do send messages with my MFP FR though...i realize some think it's polite (which it is but I don't think it's impolite if you don't). No biggie to me : )0 -
I so
you Sarah 
I need to make a trip to Tulsa one of these weekends soon lol 0 -
This sounds snarky, but honestly, how much do you expect out of your mfp friends?
A lot more than some might expect. We like to play games on my wall, and I want to know that not only will you participate once in a while, but also that you won't get your panties in a twist or butthurt because someone said a dirty word or voiced an opinion you disagree with.
Yes, MFP is my Facebook. It's crucial to my weight loss success that I WANT to come back here every day and log my food an exercise. If I were here JUST for those things, guess what?
"SarahQT2012 has not logged in for 2 weeks!"0 -
Such passion over a friend request!
Internet forums have a tendency to turn even the most mundane things into subjects of fervorous debate.
I know, what's up with that? I hope i don't get unfriended too much in December. I will try and remember to post i'll be super busy with 3 birthdays in our house , 2 major Christmas parties (one out of state) and then Christmas.0 -
You are hilarious!!!sum form literassy ? *kitten*. ....I'm out0 -
what is the point of having "friends" here if you have no intention of supporting, getting to know, laughing, crying with, etc. what is the point? this is not myspace, it's not a place to just collect people.
If I had loads of friends in real life with the same mentality, goals and disciplines, I wouldn't be here, it's simple. So why not just send a message, say hey, say why you think it would be nice to hang out here and then follow through?
it's not that difficult.
to answer the question, I expect a little interaction and support. I know that question probably wasn't for me, but there you go.0 -
Folks, we all know it's just good common sense to include a message with your friend request. So, please, stop sending me and my friends blank requests. There WILL be a test on this later. Class dismissed.
What's your requirement in a friend request? Do they have to mention something you stated in your profile? Share a favorite exercise or similar diet? I know at least one person that requires answers to 3 random questions. I'm considering implementing a personality test.
Personally, I just want to know you are literate and have some sense of humor. Bonus if you're a sarcastic *kitten*. I don't think I ask for much.
I'm like the fat, geeky kid in high school. I'm not going to turn down what I don't see a lot of, so most friend requests are accepted.0 -
This sounds snarky, but honestly, how much do you expect out of your mfp friends?
A lot more than some might expect. We like to play games on my wall, and I want to know that not only will you participate once in a while, but also that you won't get your panties in a twist or butthurt because someone said a dirty word or voiced an opinion you disagree with.
Yes, MFP is my Facebook. It's crucial to my weight loss success that I WANT to come back here every day and log my food an exercise. If I were here JUST for those things, guess what?
"SarahQT2012 has not logged in for 2 weeks!"
You have over 160 mfp friends. How do you keep track of posting and genuinely encouraging each one of them? That's easily 90 mins just to do that!0 -
I have around 100 friends and while i don't get to all of them, I try at least once a month to go and literally post on everyone's wall. you may think I have nothing better to do with my time but if it makes a difference for one person then I've done the right thing.0
-
LOVE this...
I just want to know:
1) how you found me
or
2) why you thought it would be a good idea for us to be friends.
That's it. I'm not friend collecting, and I REALLY mean it when I say I want to be supportive to my friends, and that I want my friends to be supportive of me, too.
Ditto to all the above :drinker:0 -
I don't require a message, or anything else.
I want variety in my friends list. Different people provide different perspectives.
It's just as easy to remove someone from your list as it is to accept them. You know, if they turn out to be crazy or annoying. Or dangerous or simply make you feel uncomfortable.
Of course I do not believe in putting my identity on the internet. There are a lot of nutjobs out there. So I guard it carefully. So getting on my friend list really won't give you any more information about the guy behind the screen name.0 -
I send blank requests. Depending on my picture i'm usually added anyway. I'm awesome.0
-
I send blank requests. Depending on my picture i'm usually added anyway. I'm awesome.
i send this gif in FR's to hot women. i don't think i've ever been denied.
0 -
I have around 100 friends and while i don't get to all of them, I try at least once a month to go and literally post on everyone's wall. you may think I have nothing better to do with my time but if it makes a difference for one person then I've done the right thing.
Seems once or twice a month isn't enough for some people here.
Really, this isn't me be snarky. Just trying to get an idea of different people's expectations. How do you keep track of who hasn't posted on your wall less than once a month?0 -
I like when I get a personal message with a friend request, usually that means I have something in common (other than just being on MFP) with the person...but I don't require it.
I have over 180 friends, I originally didn't plan on having such a big "list" but it just sorta happened over the last 1 1/2 years I've been on MFP...so I don't try to keep up with everyone regularly. I do try to post on about 10-12 different profiles every day and I have a handful of people I talk to often and have met in person, or keep in touch with via Facebook or personal email or even "snail mail." (thank you smiles4support for bringing that back to my life!)
I think the cool thing about MyFitnessPal is that everyone can use the site in the way that best fits their needs. And noone needs to get defensive or offended about how anyone else uses the site! :drinker:0 -
Why concern yourself over such menial things? I am just glad I am able to inspire others and be inspired, I don't need a message or a justification for a friendship.
exactly!
This! It's never that deep.0 -
I send blank requests. Depending on my picture i'm usually added anyway. I'm awesome.
i send this gif in FR's to hot women. i don't think i've ever been denied.
That's because everything's better with a "Stewie humping the ground" gif
0 -
I send blank requests. Depending on my picture i'm usually added anyway. I'm awesome.
Having a healthy self esteem probably helps with getting those friends 0
Categories
- All Categories
- 1.4M Health, Wellness and Goals
- 393.6K Introduce Yourself
- 43.8K Getting Started
- 260.3K Health and Weight Loss
- 175.9K Food and Nutrition
- 47.5K Recipes
- 232.5K Fitness and Exercise
- 431 Sleep, Mindfulness and Overall Wellness
- 6.5K Goal: Maintaining Weight
- 8.6K Goal: Gaining Weight and Body Building
- 153K Motivation and Support
- 8K Challenges
- 1.3K Debate Club
- 96.3K Chit-Chat
- 2.5K Fun and Games
- 3.8K MyFitnessPal Information
- 24 News and Announcements
- 1.1K Feature Suggestions and Ideas
- 2.6K MyFitnessPal Tech Support Questions