Deleting Friends...

Fr33zefram3

Just curious, as I've seen my friends list shrinking little by little.

But, why would you unfriend someone? Because they're annoying or, because they don't talk enough. They go on about how they are too skinny/fat. Maybe they haven't logged on in long enough?

Wondering what the reasons are for some people.

Scottish_charlene_84

I deleted people if they havent logged on for 14 days or more and people i think r idiots lol

mgnmsn

i only deactivate when they haven't logged in for two weeks. i hate getting those "so and so hasn't logged in for ___" messages.


other than that i really do not delete. unless somebody starts religious or political talk. i do not want to see that my my feed.


i am pretty easy going.

anjoneill

There needs to be support both ways. If that is not happening then there seems to be little point in continuing the friendship.

gadenni34

selling things...otherwise I am pretty easy going.

AZKristi

selling things is the only reason I've ever deleted someone.

dalehall64

I, personally, don't unfriend anyone (here or facebook) unless they give me a real reason. But, I've seen people here do it if they don't think the person is helping them or motivating them like they hoped they would. To each their own I guess..

sma83

Just as in real life, some people are just going to rub you the wrong way. I am on here for support. If I feel someone is bringing me down (whatever the reason) then I get rid of them. I will not, however, delete someone just because they haven't logged in for a while. My support may be just what they need when they come back.

ShaSimone

I haven't personally deleted anyone,
I was deleted by one person that I noticed after not seeing her on my news feed for about a week. I think I commented on something she posted or maybe on her diary that she didn't like or she found my posts annoying.
Everyone has thier reasons, I don't know what mine are yet!

big_drake

I only had one friend that hadn't logged on for like a month so it wasn't hard. I'm not here to make friends. I guess I wouldn't get all but hurt if someone dropped me. It's not like I've ever met anyone on here in real life. it's just the internets.

TrailRunner61

If it's not a relative, I'd only delete someone if they were inactive for a month or so. I try to send them a message first though, saying that if they come back, I'm still willing to support them.

I did delete a few who had added me after I had stated that I had recovered from anorexia/bulimia. They were still that way and it was too hard for me to keep them as friends. Before deleting them, I did suggest they get professional help though.

I guess I'm lucky. None of my friends are annoying or whiney. That's probably me. Thank God they still support me!

Tonnina

People who don't support me (not logging in for weeks at a time) Never comment on my stuff even though I'm commenting on theirs. People who criticize my food choices (not everyone can afford whole grains and fresh fruit...) People who whine about working out. People who annoy me with bad grammar or spelling.

Friends I keep encourage me, answer my questions, laugh with me, understand me, and (I hope) genuinely like me!

corn63

I delete people because:

- They are inactive for an extended period of time. I don't care that you went on vacation and didn't log in, I care that you didn't take me with you.

- I look at your posts and go "Why did I add this person again?"

- Your posts seem sane but your posts on the boards reek of insanity.

All grounds for dismissal. And just overall, I get annoyed and delete people.

alanabeehave

I like to be friends with people who are on the same page as me.. those who eat a healthy amount, exercise and have developed a lifestyle out of it. I find myself deleting people mostly because they under eat then whine because they can't stay on track or don't care about fitness, eat a lot of processed foods or complain a lot. I just deleted someone because of his play by play -10 posts a day for several days straight- of his detailed illness including his diarrhea.

DebbieLyn63

If someone is constantly talking about how they ate so much junk and went over their calories, but they don't care cuz they had a bad day and deserved ice cream or donuts or beer, etc. After a while I can't handle seeing it and will usually hide them at least from my news feed. If it continues and they constantly whine about not losing weight, but won't do anything to change it, then they are gone. Don't need to see it. Fortunately I don't have anyone who does that on my list.

If they haven't logged in for a month, I generally go ahead and delete them cuz it makes me sad to see it.

Louisianababy93

i've only deleted one person..
she was on the verge of a eating disorder, i tried to talk her out of the "Skinnygirl" unhealthy diet.
and she wouldnt listen..but, basically she ate 300 calories everyday and i was worried about her.

Sepa

I delete if people haven't logged in for 20days (unless that have said they are going away for a while) also people with eating disorders, people who talk about killing themselves or who contantly eat really low cal diets

rml_16

Different people have different reasons.

I've unfriended people who I never had any contact with and can't remember how we became friends, especially if they haven't been on in forever (like months and months and months).

The only reason I make a point to unfriend, though, is if someone says something I find very offensive. I'm not easily offended, so it would have to be pretty bad.

holly1283

There needs to be support both ways. If that is not happening then there seems to be little point in continuing the friendship.

This

HollywoodDJ

I have deleted very good friends and even family members on here....If they are unsupportive then I delete them. I do not have time for people who will not support me....especially here on MFP. I need support and encouragement....this train is moving forward so either STEP ON....or STEP OFF! Sorry, but that is how I have to live my life and some people are not only unsupportive and un-encouraging...but jealous. Jealousy is a plague that will kill any relationship and I will weed you out if I even suspect a hint of these qualities.

Learning to fill my life with positive people and influences is the best thing I have ever done! It isn't easy and it doesn't happen overnight but if you want it you will make the changes!


Ok...off my soapbox now.

hehehehe


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kenazfehu

I only deleted one person for selling things. Other than that, I'd delete if I catch somebody being mean.

d_Mode

I haven't deleted anyone yet, but I'm about to...I've tried interacting with them and nothing...what's the point. My life isn't here for your viewing pleasure.

MadeOfMagic

I like to comment and support my friends and that is why I expect back, so if a friend doesn't return a favor in over a month than I toss them, or if they haven't logged in for more than 2 weeks and ocassionally I will delete them if they are obnoxious or offensive.

Erienneb

I've deleted a few people for a few different reasons.

People that annoy the bejesus out of me. sorry, I don't want to listen to you fishing for attention
People that I've never talked to who added me right in the beginning
And yeah. Basically just if I'm annoyed. If you really want support I'll give it, but if every status is every ten minutes about how you hate how you look or omg a candy bar then I'm leaving.

Fr33zefram3

I got a couple people that are going on 2 weeks not being active, but feel like I should give them 3.

I haven't had anyone try to sell me anything yet. In general have a pretty solid friends list.

Though I'm definitely going to delete salespeople or 3 weeks inactive. Seems like both very legitimate reasons

Sojaided34

I've noticed this too. I had like 10 friends and now I have 4. I wasn't annoyingly posting every minute. I'd post I logged food and exercise and weight loss. One person deleted me because my diary is private. So what? It's my diary.

I deleted a couple of people. One person because he was eating junk food (bean burritos and mr noodles for breakfast) but his posts every 2 days was saying he lost five pounds. Ya, whatever. and I delete people who post things like this "Oh I went out to eat and ate about 3000 calories but it's okay I'll hit the treadmill/elliptical/whatever harder". No self control? Curious as to why I've been deleted though.

xxMyWeighxx

I don't delete anyone unless they're selling something. So far nobody on my friends list has done that, and it has to be an everyday occurrence for me to care. I try my best to be encouraging and congratulate everyone on my friends list but sometimes you just don't see everyone's statuses so I don't mind if some people are less encouraging than others and I hope that some of my friends give me the same leniency if I fail to comment on several of their statuses.
For those that say they delete people with eating disorders or who are on the verge of one - no offense - but why?? Why not be encouraging but let them do what they're going to do? I'm probably about to start a battle here (not intentionally) but people are people and I'm sure you want to do with your body what you want to do with your body without others shoving their opinions down your throat, so why not just encourage those people to be healthier, but not delete them because they aren't doing what YOU would do?

MyOwnSunshine

I delete people if they don't log in for a long time.

I have deleted a few people who constantly complained every day and were always negative and feeling sorry for themselves. I understand that no one is positive and upbeat all the time, but I really hate people who always make excuses.

I have deleted a few people who were annoying, irritating or who triggered my insecurities or an unhealthy sense of competition in some way. I felt a little guilty about this, but I realized that while we're here to support each other, if they were not contributing to my process in a positive way (even if it wasn't intentional -- I totally own my insecurities and issues), there's no reason to keep interacting with strangers over the internet if I'm not getting anything out of it or if it is making me feel bad or bringing up old habits/feelings that I've worked hard to conquer.

I immediately delete anyone who acts like a "mean girl" or makes fun of other people.

I have deleted a few ultra-popular people who I had requested -- there are some people here with huge followings and there really wasn't much one-to-one interaction or individual attention, which is what I enjoy in a friend. I'm sure they didn't miss me one bit.

It sounds like I delete a lot of people, but it doesn't happen very often. I like having friends who are fun, positive and supportive and there's no such thing as having too many friends in my book.

LesleeBeAlive

I delete when people don't interact with me. Or if I'm in a bad mood. HA!

ldrosophila

I'm not sure why they delete but I havent lost any sleep over losing "friends." To each their own. I"m on here for me.

IrishHarpy1

I've never deleted anyone... haven't found anyone annoying enough, and just because someone hasn't logged in a while doesn't mean that they aren't going through something major in their lives. Like someone said previously, that might be the person who needs the support the most if/when they come back.

Friends here are for support - they're not things to be collected like Pokemon. I've had one or two delete me (and who, for the record, sent the initial request to ME), and although they never gave a reason I don't take it personally. It's their loss not mine, 'cause I'm actually kinda cool and stuff. :glasses: