No loss in two weeks...
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Actually, I'm going to refrain from saying what I wanted to say because I am definitely not wasting my second strike on this. Or you.
Get real, get serious, get results. That's what works.0 -
I know healthy food can be delicious. For lunch today, because the cafeteria closed before I could hit up the salad bar, I'm having celery and carrots with fat free dip and some beef jerky because it was lower calorie and lower sodium than the premade sandwiches. Cooking on the other hand is boring. Eating the same thing every day is boring. And when I only ever get to see any of my RL friends when my parents invite their parents out to dinner and they just HAPPEN to be home that weekend, and if I'm not going out to dinner with them... that's boring too.
Food is fuel for your body, it's not always supposed to be fun!
Spending 3-4 hours prepping my meals for the week isn't #1 on my list of fun things to do each week, but guess what, I get my @$$ in there on a weekly basis and JUST DO IT. You know why? Because the results of being healthy far outweigh having fun non-stop and being entertained. Being at work 8-5 Monday -Friday is also pretty boring, but guess what, bills don't pay themselves! I think you might have some growing up to do, my friend.0 -
You enjoy indulging. THat's fine. You currently indulge just about every day.
If you refuse to take action to change what is making you fat, than your results are going to be subpar.
How about you look through some diaries of those who have had success....some people eat the same thing every day cuz it's easy...then they live it up on Friday night, or the weekend..
I never eat anything bland, boring, or the same thing over and over.
You truly need to let go of the excuses. No one is yelling at you but since you don't want to take any kind of responsibility for your current situation, well enjoy spinning your wheels endlessing and getting nowhere.0 -
Maybe instead of playing video games after work, you cook a meal for you and your parents. A) you get your healthy things
you are also helping your parents. Video games can wait for later, your health is now
^^THIS0 -
Why do you want to give up completely?
No one said you had to eat boring, just a little healthier!
Which can be delicious
Because people are yelling at me and pointing out every mistake I have ever made. That is not encouraging at all. It makes me feel like I can't do this.
I am TRYING to eat healthier. Lifestyle changes don't happen overnight, but lots of people here are all "suck it up and do it NOW you fat pathetic whiner!"
I know healthy food can be delicious. For lunch today, because the cafeteria closed before I could hit up the salad bar, I'm having celery and carrots with fat free dip and some beef jerky because it was lower calorie and lower sodium than the premade sandwiches. Cooking on the other hand is boring. Eating the same thing every day is boring. And when I only ever get to see any of my RL friends when my parents invite their parents out to dinner and they just HAPPEN to be home that weekend, and if I'm not going out to dinner with them... that's boring too.
Nothing wrong with going out for dinner once a week!
But you seem to multiple times per week.
I personally think that would be something to work on!
What about healthy foods that don't require a bunch of cooking?
Do you like oatmeal, wraps, smoothies, or fruit?
Just some ideas!
If you truly want some help cleaning up your diary one step at a time, we can help ^-^
Doesn't have to be 100% clean or an immediate change0 -
Why do you want to give up completely?
No one said you had to eat boring, just a little healthier!
Which can be delicious
Because people are yelling at me and pointing out every mistake I have ever made. That is not encouraging at all. It makes me feel like I can't do this.
I am TRYING to eat healthier. Lifestyle changes don't happen overnight, but lots of people here are all "suck it up and do it NOW you fat pathetic whiner!"
I know healthy food can be delicious. For lunch today, because the cafeteria closed before I could hit up the salad bar, I'm having celery and carrots with fat free dip and some beef jerky because it was lower calorie and lower sodium than the premade sandwiches. Cooking on the other hand is boring. Eating the same thing every day is boring. And when I only ever get to see any of my RL friends when my parents invite their parents out to dinner and they just HAPPEN to be home that weekend, and if I'm not going out to dinner with them... that's boring too.
Grow up...that is my suggestion..........0 -
I disagree. In my >1 year on MFP, I don't believe I have ever seen *this* thread...at least not to this extent.0 -
I'm absolutely positive I have no further advice to give you on here and you've probably stopped reading anyway, but I'm a Mom, I'm old, giving advice is what I do. :P I am impressed by the heartfelt responses I have read here. People who have taken the time to dig in and really give an objective opinion with earnest good will. They see a different perspective than what you are seeing right now. You are a college grad with a full time job and that's awesome, but you are an adult child living at home which means you re-define yourself separate from lifestyle they choose. You want to fill your dreams, not duplicate their mistakes.
Also, our brains are tricky and I see that clearly in how you explain "slips". Brain chemistry is designed to maintain weight. You feel like you are really trying and putting in a lot of effort on this quest, I can see that. But your brain says OK, I was really good so I can slip a little and it calculates subconsciously exactly how many calories you need to cancel out the effort. I've been there done that a lot! Whenever you think "I can't do that, because..." remember your brain might just be trying to get you to maintain weight. Good luck, it's only the first month of the rest of your life.0 -
Why do you want to give up completely?
No one said you had to eat boring, just a little healthier!
Which can be delicious
I am TRYING to eat healthier. Lifestyle changes don't happen overnight, but lots of people here are all "suck it up and do it NOW you fat pathetic whiner!"
Only person who wrote anything like that ...is you.0 -
Why do you want to give up completely?
No one said you had to eat boring, just a little healthier!
Which can be delicious
Because people are yelling at me and pointing out every mistake I have ever made. That is not encouraging at all. It makes me feel like I can't do this.
I am TRYING to eat healthier. Lifestyle changes don't happen overnight, but lots of people here are all "suck it up and do it NOW you fat pathetic whiner!"
I know healthy food can be delicious. For lunch today, because the cafeteria closed before I could hit up the salad bar, I'm having celery and carrots with fat free dip and some beef jerky because it was lower calorie and lower sodium than the premade sandwiches. Cooking on the other hand is boring. Eating the same thing every day is boring. And when I only ever get to see any of my RL friends when my parents invite their parents out to dinner and they just HAPPEN to be home that weekend, and if I'm not going out to dinner with them... that's boring too.
No one called you fat once in this thread.
I wish you would just take the advice and stop making excuses.
We are the same age, but I feel like you are acting like you're 16, not 24.0 -
I did join a gym. I'm going today. Nobody talks to me there... no one even makes eye contact with me... I have no local friends and can't find anything social to do that would fit in between work, exercise, and personal free time.
You put your problem out there for comments. People on here want to help you because they thought you were asking for help. Take a minute and look at "personal free time." other than video games, what do you do for fun? Did you have any friends before you went away to school who are back home? Find an activity and go. Smile. Ask for help at the gym. Talk to people. Is there someone at work who might want to join you on a short walk at lunchtime?
Use Facebook and reconnect with friends. Plan to do things when they are home. You sound kind of shy.0 -
Here's my conclusion:
YOU AREN'T READY TO LOSE WEIGHT. That's fine, we've all been there....one day you'll be fed up enough, and hopefully it won't be too late.0 -
Honestly OP, two years ago I was you. I had an office job in a cubicle and lived at home with my parents and ate what they ate. And I lost 30 pounds. It CAN be done. I am living proof.
Your breakfasts, aside from the days you have donuts, look pretty good. Healthy carbs and protein.
Your lunches, on the days you have salads look pretty okay too.
Your dinners and snacks...obviously this doesn't need repeating but it needs work. I won't rehash everything because I think you get the point by now. You are doing some things right, but it is very clear why you haven't lost weight in 2 weeks.
You HAVE to start preparing your own meals. Your desire of losing weight has to override your dislike of cooking. Cooking healthy food is both easy and cheap and you can learn how to do it online. When you eat what your parents make ( I understand you gotta do this sometimes, I lived at home too ) control your portions and make room for it.
Dieting is not a life sentence of raw vegetables, but it also doesn't mean fast food all the time. Once a week is fine, once a day...really pushing it.
I'd cut the candy and fast food until the pounds start dropping. I'd also up your calorie goal to at least 1500 with healthier foods. When the weight starts coming back off, then *maybe* you can add some treats in slowly.
I hope this was helpful!0 -
Helpful hints for restaurants:
1) Nothing with creamy sauce.
2) Nothing fried.
3) Vegetables or salad as a side dish, not fries or mashed potatoes.
Even McDonald's has salads.
Going to mcdonalds for a salad is like going to a prostitute for a hug!
.. but everyone needs a hug sometimes.
HA. True...but i'm not gettin one from a prostitute. LOL0 -
What does socialization have to do with weight loss? I keep seeing that come up.
Ok seriously. People keep saying this. Do people really believe that if you aren't the "popular" type that hangs out with friends instead of playing video games that suddenly you'll start losing weight?
She said that she eats out with her parents because that's the only social time she has outside of working.0 -
You seem to eat out A LOT and not healthy choices...and a lot of your snacks are unhealthy. I'd definitely try cleaning up the diet and sticking to a consistent amount of calories for a little while. Your diary is definitely all over the place. What you eat definitely affects how the weight comes off, not just whether or not you stuck to your calorie count. 2 weeks with no loss is going to happen. I've gone a month with no loss, and for the most part I eat pretty well and get my exercise in. It's part of the journey. Have patience.0
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Yeah, about socializing... I don't socialize at the gym. Heeeeeeeell no. I'm all sweaty and red running or jumping trying to catch my breath. What kind of socializing is that?? Nah, not for me.
I have my iPod with music and I'm just exercising on the elliptical, listening o music, sweating my fat *kitten* off.
I used to feel bad about being a fatass at the gym while there are all those skinny chicks and huge lean body builders... But hey, I'll lose weight and noooooooo one will be prettier there
So far I just have to keep on working on it. I'm still the prettiest one, it's just my fat covers up most of my beauty.
Don't be shy going to gym. Nobody looks at you and talks about you. They have their own problems and insecurities.
Just keep working on yourself
Sorry my grammar mistakes, English is not my mother tongue.0 -
Hello You've gotten quite a few comments, most with really good information, and a lot with the tough love, which is good. I will try to point out reasons/answers for your question, without coming off as MEAN AND EVIL (rwar!). Know that nothing is intended to be taken as mean - I know it's crazy difficult to tell what tone is behind the words via text.
You are right that occasional treats are not bad. In fact, they're great! If you deny yourself any type of treat, you run the risk of a binge day, where you just snarf down all the cookies you can find. I am so guilty. However, people are right about the need to tone down the amount of treats - just because you have a bag of jolly ranchers doesn't mean you need to eat them all because it is one serving. Just because I have a pan of brownies doesn't mean I need to eat them all and lick the stirring spoon.
What works well for me is to take out the ones I want - say one brownie or 4 jolly ranchers, and then put the rest where I cannot see them. If it's straight up not allowed (willpower check here!), you won't do it.
I would suggest chaning your weight loss goals from 2lbs a week to 1lb a week. The calorie goals are REALLY low, and when we're just starting to make a lifestyle change, they can make it difficult to stick. Plus, that whole "starvation mode" nonsense we hear about is really true! I didn't believe it either, and set the 2lb goal, but lost nothing (or worse, would get frustrated and binge). With the 1lb goal, I'm actually staying on track and often losing *more* than the 1lb it says I will. Give the 1lb goal a try for a few weeks. Once you adjust and your stomach starts shrinking, then maybe look at the 1.5 or 2lb goal.
I hear you on the I-don't-want-to-cook thing. A solution I've found is to invest in frozen dinners/lunches for work. There are some good ones out there. I enjoy Kashi and Amy's, because they have flavor, but find the "smart one's" to be gross. Personal preference, of course, but this helps you limit your calorie intake without cooking as much. Another thing to consider is a crock-pot. I ADORE my crock-pot. Throw in 2 chicken breasts and some seasoning/soup/salsa/whatever I want, and walk away for 3-4 hours. Super easy, plus it results in my next 2-4 healthy meals.
Try Yogurt for breakfast. It's low in calories, plus it's good for your girlie-bits (not even kidding!) I have revolted against breakfast for my whole life, but I've decovered that, once again, "they" are right. A small breakfast gets your metabolism going.
Last thing would be to try and watch sodium intake, along with caolories. Some calories are good (my banana has quite a few, but it's a GOOD food), but having too much sodium causes us to maintian weight, rather than lose it. Plus the less sodium you have, the easier it is for your exersize to be effective.
I've rambled a whole ton, and I'm sorry, but I hope this helps!0 -
Because people are yelling at me and pointing out every mistake I have ever made. That is not encouraging at all. It makes me feel like I can't do this.
I am TRYING to eat healthier. Lifestyle changes don't happen overnight, but lots of people here are all "suck it up and do it NOW you fat pathetic whiner!"
I know healthy food can be delicious. For lunch today, because the cafeteria closed before I could hit up the salad bar, I'm having celery and carrots with fat free dip and some beef jerky because it was lower calorie and lower sodium than the premade sandwiches. Cooking on the other hand is boring. Eating the same thing every day is boring. And when I only ever get to see any of my RL friends when my parents invite their parents out to dinner and they just HAPPEN to be home that weekend, and if I'm not going out to dinner with them... that's boring too.
1. No one has yelled at you, really. I haven't seen an ALL CAPS post. We're here to help, and that includes some constructive criticism.
2. Trying is admirable. We all want you to keep at it, and make the healthier choices.
3. Stop relying on your parents to socialize. You can see your RL friends on your own, at a Panera Bread rather than Texas Roadhouse.
4. Cooking is not boring! It's a skill, and a pretty good one to have when attracting the opposite sex. (Lol!)
We are trying to get you to stop making excuses so that you CAN move forward. And, I think it's better to stop the fast food cold turkey (I did it; my diet was similar to yours prior to MFP).0 -
Why do you want to give up completely?
No one said you had to eat boring, just a little healthier!
Which can be delicious
I am TRYING to eat healthier. Lifestyle changes don't happen overnight, but lots of people here are all "suck it up and do it NOW you fat pathetic whiner!"
Only person who wrote anything like that ...is you.
Plenty of people said "suck it up." My mind, upon reading that, subconsciously adds the last part. I interpret that kind of attitude very badly...3. Stop relying on your parents to socialize. You can see your RL friends on your own, at a Panera Bread rather than Texas Roadhouse
No, I can't. My RL friends are still in college in Missouri, or after graduating got jobs in Missouri. I live in Texas. My brother's friends are all off at college themselves too. Being the oldest in our group SUCKS.0 -
I am not attacking you in anyway but as many of the people above had said that you are an adult and some have given you some amazing tips.. All you need to do is sit down, think about what you really want, whether you want to lose weight or not and take it from there..The choice is up to you and nobody else. If you want it bad enough it will happen.
With my job, I eat out every night. I am a designated driver here in Canada and I sit in a car all night.. Taking a meal from home and eating it a few hours later just doesn't cut it for me.. Sure I take my snacks, but the meals I eat out.. So fast food and restaurants it is.. But I choose healthy.. If I go to Wendy's I have a half salad and by the time I am done I am full.. Sometimes I will order a small fry and eat 5 or 6 fries and it stops my craving for them.. Hubby ends up eating the rest. I eat a lot of Pita's, also the pita place I go to makes Pita Pizza so there I can eat the whole thing as opposed to one slice of pizza and it's a lot more healthier for me too.. If I go to the restaurant I order a diet plate.. It's usually a burger no bun and a salad as well as a bowl of cottage cheese.
Another poster posted to have smoothies. I am not a breakfast kind of person so I make myself a shake in the morning with Almond Breeze.. Many people use skim milk.. Have that with protein power, fruit, just keep the smoothie at a certain amount of calories..
As I said the choice is up to you and you have to want to do this.. Nobody can do it for you.0 -
Why do you want to give up completely?
No one said you had to eat boring, just a little healthier!
Which can be delicious
Because people are yelling at me and pointing out every mistake I have ever made. That is not encouraging at all. It makes me feel like I can't do this.
I am TRYING to eat healthier. Lifestyle changes don't happen overnight, but lots of people here are all "suck it up and do it NOW you fat pathetic whiner!"
I know healthy food can be delicious. For lunch today, because the cafeteria closed before I could hit up the salad bar, I'm having celery and carrots with fat free dip and some beef jerky because it was lower calorie and lower sodium than the premade sandwiches. Cooking on the other hand is boring. Eating the same thing every day is boring. And when I only ever get to see any of my RL friends when my parents invite their parents out to dinner and they just HAPPEN to be home that weekend, and if I'm not going out to dinner with them... that's boring too.
Cooking isn't boring! You just aren't doing it right. :P
I never used to like cooking either, but it's not as hard or as difficult as people make it sound.
I dance while I prepare my meals. True story! I crank up the music and I boogie my little butt off while I'm chopping those carrots and mixing my ingredients.
Might I suggest learning how to prepare some easy, quick meals?
Last night I dined on baked chili! YUM! And it took only twenty minutes prep time (much of that prep time was spent with me dancing and/or watching TV while I prepared). The rest of the time the food was in the oven and I didn't have to do ANYTHING but wait for it to finish.
Not all cooking requires your full attention for thirty minutes. You can cook AND do the things you love. Cooking should take MAYBE ten-twenty minutes of your undivided time. That's the bulk of it. And isn't it worth it? If it means feeling healthier? Losing weight?
I know everyone seems really harsh right now but try and hear what they're saying beneath all the venom.
Everyone here is saying: If you want to do this, don't make excuses. No more excuses. It's time to change.
But don't be discouraged. If it feels like too much, then make small changes and work your way towards this new lifestyle. If you really feel you can't jump in then just start small and build up to the bigger changes.
And don't be discouraged if your weight loss is slow and/or seems to stall! Only get discouraged if you start to regain everything.![:\](https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/resources/emoji/confused.png ":\")
Anyway. Look at you! You've gained two and lost two. That's good! Better to gain and lose then to gain and not lose!!0 -
Listen dead honest.
In order for you to lose you are going to have to change your diet and your attiude.
All this "it's boring" whining is for the birds and it's why you won;t get where you want.0 -
I live with my parents also and it does make it more difficult, but I have learned that if i want to be successful i can only depend on myself. It is all about making the right choices. If they are eating pizza for dinner, you can have that pizza but only a small portion, and opt for veggies instead of meat. Skip the chicken wings and get a salad instead. I noticed a lot of sweets in your diary also. Remember that while it is important not to deprive yourself of those treats you have to limit your intake otherwise you will be unsuccessful. It involves a lot of self control passing up the sweets your parents have laying around in the kitchen or eating that salad while they eat a giant bowl of pasta (trust me i have been there), but it WILL be worth it and eventually you won't even be tempted. You made the decision to be healthy so you just have to stick to it! I hope that this helps. Good luck 0
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Ok, enough is enough. I can't sit here in silence.
You are making ridiculous excuses.
You aren't taking your diet seriously. You seem like a bright woman, so I know you know this deep down.
So how do you seriously expect to lose weight?0 -
I'm 21, live with my parents, and have an office job. It's *hard* to plan ahead and eat right, and a lot of the time I still don't because I forgot or was lazy. And then I pay for it later. I'm learning that instant gratification (i.e. I don't have time to cook because I want to go do ________) is not worth it in the end. But it's a process to get there.
Weight loss isn't always fun. Eating right is certainly not fun all the time. You're going to have bad days and good days but it's the attitude you need to change to see results.
I was a terrible cook two months ago. Now, I'm not fantastic, but my whole house eats what I make and it's healthier for all of us. As for social, all my friends are away at school. I have my bf, but it does get lonely. I go to the gym when I feel like that.
You have to really *want* it. If you find yourself making all these excuses, maybe it's not the right time for you to change your life.0 -
Why do you want to give up completely?
No one said you had to eat boring, just a little healthier!
Which can be delicious
I am TRYING to eat healthier. Lifestyle changes don't happen overnight, but lots of people here are all "suck it up and do it NOW you fat pathetic whiner!"
Only person who wrote anything like that ...is you.
Plenty of people said "suck it up." My mind, upon reading that, subconsciously adds the last part. I interpret that kind of attitude very badly...3. Stop relying on your parents to socialize. You can see your RL friends on your own, at a Panera Bread rather than Texas Roadhouse
No, I can't. My RL friends are still in college in Missouri, or after graduating got jobs in Missouri. I live in Texas. My brother's friends are all off at college themselves too. Being the oldest in our group SUCKS.
Well that's part of your problem....stop assuming others want to hurt you in any way with vague responses...we want to HELP you!0 -
Uh oh....are the meaners out today? Bottom line, you get out of the program exactly what you put in. However, T.O.M derails me for about 2 weeks every single month :ohwell:
Be patient. Be very diligent If you really want to see results. And, pay attention to the results you get based on what you eat and drink. For me, alcohol and sodium also make me hold on to weight longer than when I don't drink or eat out.
Welcome to MFP and hang in there!0 -
Nah, the last part's not really there. And while the admonishment to "suck it up" may sound harsh, it's unfortunately accurate. While it's true that lifestyle changes don't happen overnight, they do require focus and commitment.Why do you want to give up completely?
No one said you had to eat boring, just a little healthier!
Which can be delicious
I am TRYING to eat healthier. Lifestyle changes don't happen overnight, but lots of people here are all "suck it up and do it NOW you fat pathetic whiner!"
Only person who wrote anything like that ...is you.
Plenty of people said "suck it up." My mind, upon reading that, subconsciously adds the last part. I interpret that kind of attitude very badly...0 -
What does socialization have to do with weight loss? I keep seeing that come up.
Ok seriously. People keep saying this. Do people really believe that if you aren't the "popular" type that hangs out with friends instead of playing video games that suddenly you'll start losing weight?
It's because the OP said it was one of her reasons for not being able to eat healthier.
OP, focus on small things you can change. Maybe you want to decide to only eat out twice a week, or maybe you replace one serving of chocolate with a piece of fruit. Small changes add up. The biggest thing to me is be consistent. You can lose weight eating out all the time, but it's so much harder. All the sodium will make your water retention be all over the place. All your calories get spent in one place and then you don't get to have anything else that day.
It doesn't have to be "all junk" or "all healthy"-- I generally do about 75/25 and I'm trying to get to 80/20. I do have chocolate pretty much every day, but I also have grilled chicken, veggies, quinoa, etc. If you can just work on making most of your meals at home I think it'll help your progress. I also wonder if you might benefit from raising your calorie goal a little and then sticking to it consistently. Your exercise calories may also be off, so I'd suggest either using a HRM or only eating back half.
Finally go back and read over your entire diary with a critical eye. Find strengths you can be proud of, and then also find weaknesses. Sometimes I'm surprised when I go back and look at mine; either I thought I was being healthier than I was, or I felt like I had a terrible week and it turns out it wasn't so bad. But I think looking back after some time has passed can help figure out what is working and what isn't.0
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