Is it considered cheating?

bragaswag

My girlfriend went out last night with her friend and went to a hookah bar with her friend and her firends sister. He friends sister bought them alcohol and they got drunk. They made out with each other and i found out by going through her phone and finding pictures of them kissing and her friend saying "your the best kisser ive ever had". At first with the idea, i wouldnt have minded. But after i saw my girlfriend on another person, it kinda tore me apart. I dont care if it was same sex or not, it still hurt. I recently broke up with her and shes so pissed at me and thinks its perfectly okay because it was just her friend and it was the same sex. Is it still considering cheating? Sorry to get all personal on here but i dont know who to really talk to.

HelloSweetie4

If you feel hurt and uncomfortable, then it's cheating.

MariaMariaM

I think it is cheating. Cheating can happen with opposite or same sex.
Even if it was just for fun.

darleyschroeder

Absolutely. It doesn't matter if it's a girl or a guy she messed around with. It doesn't matter that she was drinking.
You can be drunk and still have thoughts going on in your head.

Nikki31104

If you feel hurt and uncomfortable, then it's cheating.

I completely agree. Anything that makes you uncomfortable or hurts would be considered cheating. How would she feel if you did the same thing? Same sex, opposite sex, friend or not, she still kissed someone else. If you are in a committed relationship you shouldn't even think about kissing someone else.

joannier16

How would she feel if you were kissing another guy?

Brianna72994

YES it is cheating

MikeDaMotivator

Cheating. It sucks but its cheating.

christine24t

If you feel hurt and uncomfortable, then it's cheating.

Yeah.

jedikrissy

It is cheating and it sucks, sorry someone would do that to you I know how it feels. Same sex or not it does not matter, cheating is cheating! Would you be asking the same question if it was with a guy instead of a girl? What matters is how you feel about it! Do what you think is right, but I agree with everyone else who said if you are hurt it is cheating!

oregonzoo

If it hurt you and upset you, it's cheating.

Some women find a gray area there. You might have spoken to her about how it made you feel...


To be totally honest there are a lot of men who have no issue with this.

Owsla135

I punch you in the face with my left hand, but I'm actually right handed, did I really punch you in the face?

_JR_

If it hurt you and upset you, it's cheating.

Some women find a gray area there. You might have spoken to her about how it made you feel...


To be totally honest there are a lot of men who have no issue with this.

I'd call it cheating. Giving affections to someone else, regardless of gender, is still a betrayal.

wbgolden

i found out by going through her phone

yuckidah

How is it cheating if you've already broken up?

Bakkasan

Yes and tell her to enjoy her new girlfriend. Had it been in front of you I'd probably just say "jackpot" and stfu.

Oh unless you were already broken up then it just sucks but oh well.

Lrdoflamancha

Ok I am confused. In your last sentence you say you recently broke up with her. Then you say you looked through her phone. If you are broken up, then what difference does it make who she is kissing? Next how is it ok that you invaded her privacy to check up on her? If you are broken up then it is not cheating, and you need to MYOB.

Dave198lbs

no. it's not cheating.

we are all sluts.

every last one of us.

booze lets the animal loose.

CaptChad75

Have you tried making out with your buddy to see if it makes her feel uncomfortable?

_JR_

I punch you in the face with my left hand, but I'm actually right handed, did I really punch you in the face?

Damn.... why do girls always gotta get violent? :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

mikeyboy

Catch them in the act...jump on the pile. Problem solved.

Brianna72994

But wait.. why were you going through her phone??

YoungDoc2B

Guess I'm in the minority here, but I don't necessarily see it as cheating. I believe she made a poor decision after a night of drinking. Everyone makes mistakes. She didn't do it maliciously.

bikinibeliever

Have you tried making out with your buddy to see if it makes her feel uncomfortable?

:laugh:

Toya2xcel

Yes that is cheating....if she didn't think it was a big deal she would have told you. Obviously, she knew it was something she shouldn't have done and that's why she kept it a secret.

Yieya

I think it's cheating...sex does not matter

comogirl

I agree that if you werent ok with it then it shouldnt have happened, but if you two hadnt discussed it then how was she to know you felt that way. Just saying she may not have realized it would bother you and if she had known she might not have done it.

oregonzoo

Guess I'm in the minority here, but I don't necessarily see it as cheating. I believe she made a poor decision after a night of drinking. Everyone makes mistakes. She didn't do it maliciously.

I think it's a slippery slope.

So he's there with her and her friend and he thinks "man that's nice" and if it makes him uncomfortable, talks to her about it later.

Where she messed up is hiding it, doing it away from him, and making the weirdo find it on her phone.
WHO SEARCHES PHONES?

angelique_redhead

If you're not in an open relationship and she was with another person of either gender then yes, it's cheating!

WeekndOVOXO

3 some is the only way to fix this.

FitBeto

Yeah I dont go through girls phones anymore, if i am looking for it, i find it haha.

But then again thats a good thing.

Or not...