Please tell me my mom is wrong!
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Your mom is wrong.0
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I'm 28 and in a size 6 - so it can absolutely be done! I started at a size 18W! And as for your mom - if she can't support what you want to do, learn to ignore her! I know that's hard. My mom and I went through the weight loss journey together and we were each others best support system and I'm sorry you don't have that with your mom. Between the two of us we lost about 160 pounds (a whole other person!) Don't be discouraged! You CAN do this!0
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OH! That is so wrong!!! I am a mom to a 24 yr old woman (soon to be 25!) and I think she looks terrific~and I tell her that, too!! I am very proud of my daughter!
And as for the jeans! Hang on to those! You will wear them again!!!
I am now (at 50) smaller than I was in High School and College. It can be done! Never give up~Never surrender!!!0 -
It is a mom thing! I don't know why - but there must be some complex psychological theory to explain it - but mothers/daughters tend to exhibit a slight variation of jealousy towards each other. It's partially out of love - because you don't want the other person to suffer by dieting too hard - but its also partially a situation where moms/daughters feel like they should be identical so when one gets healthier than the other the other one feels like she should correct it so they are the same again because otherwise she has to admit that maybe she should get healthy too which is much harder.
I used to have it bad with my mom. She got better with time though, because she saw how sad gaining weight made me feel, and how much happier I was when I got back down to my maintenance weight. Just the other day she even supported me. It was a big step! Try confronting her about it. Don't let the little things ruin your relationship with your mother, because you only have one mom!0 -
She's probably just mad that she isn't her college weight.
I'm 25 now, I slowly gained 25 lbs. throughout college and during the time I worked in retail after college. I started law school and I've lost 30 lbs so I'm smaller than I was in high school. So obvi she is wrong.
I agree. She weighed 98 lbs and was 5'7" when she graduated from high school. She went on to enjoy success as a model. She's since had six kids and looks good all things considered. She weighs almost twice as much now as she did on graduation day, but in reality, no 5'7" adult woman should weigh under 100 lbs.0 -
I'm sorry that your mom said that to you. That's not the best thing for anybody to ever say to anybody, especially their own flesh and blood. However, i'd just like to say that she's wrong. IF you have the will and the desire to get smaller/fitter/healthier then you can achieve it. There's no special age when, especially a woman, you magically gain weight and will never go back down. That's hogwash!
For example, i'm the fittest i've been since freshman year of high school i bet (meanwhile, i graduated high school in '03). I'm actually 5 lbs less then i ever was in High school....Not to say that i was big in high school, i was at the normal weight for my age; but due to unhealthy practices.
I've got 2 Kids, a 6 1/2 year old and an almost 4 year old and i'm the smalles i've been since 1999! Yes, 1999! It's totally achievable you just have to put your mind to it and work on it.
Perhaps your mom is just stuck in the old mind frame about how once you hit your 20's that's the smallest you'll ever be again and once you start to gain say 'bye bye' to ever being that size again. It's a sad reality to some i think.
Keep your head up, you'll reach your goal in time and then you can tell everybody that doubted you that you did it, and on your own terms.0 -
I'm in veterinary medical school. I weighed 127 going into school two years ago. I went up to 135 from lack or exercise and many cookies before I caught myself. I'm now at 123ish.
Your mother is wrong.0 -
It most definitely can be done. I'll be 43 in two weeks and I'm currently wearing a smaller size than I was at 25. I will say this though, my body shape is somewhat different, my hips are wider and chest is smaller (big bummer). Our bodies do change, but that doesn't mean you can never get back to a particular size or weight, that is just crazy talk.
I agree with others, use it for motivation. Nothing motivates me more than someone telling me I can't do something. :laugh:0 -
I'm 32 with two kids and I'm in better shape and healthier than I have ever been in my adult life. I'm two pant sizes smaller and a shirt size smaller and weigh less and am more muscular than I was in college. If I hadn't of started caring and continued to over eat, I wouldn't be where I am now, I'd be worse off than when I was in college. I used to swear my hips would never allow me to get smaller than a size 10 pants, that it was my actual hip bones and not fat that would never allow me to get into smaller pants. Not true, since starting MFP and being healthy 4 months ago, I'm now in a size 6 and could easily see myself in a 4 eventually. Good luck, that's just silly you can't be the size you were in college, of course not if you don't work for it though.0
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((Hugs to you))
Yes your Mom is wrong.. you can achieve whatever weight loss goals you would like to achieve. Maybe prove her wrong as long as its a goal that you yourself want. The key here is embarking on something FOR YOU not her.
Mothers are a funny species at times... My mom after she had children has been a size 18 - 24. She has never been a small woman. I have NEVER I mean NEVER said a word to her about her weight or asked her about her eating/exercise program - her progress... not ANYTHING... I didn't want her to feel bad. Yet she ALWAYS asked me how I was doing on my weight loss.
Her making comments and consistently checking in about it - made me feel bad for any efforts I was making. I finally broke down and just flat out told her that any comments about my weight were hurtful and to please stop. She no longer says a word about it... just the way I like it! Good luck!0 -
She is wrong. I am 34yrs old, have a 2yo child and am 130lbs. In my early 20's I was around 180lbs. When I was 18yo I was around 130lbs. She's just saying to justify he rown weight gain.0
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I'm 39 and I'm now wearing the size I wore when I was in college. I ballooned up and with the help of my friends on MFP I'm working my way back down.
Not only did I go back to my college size but within the next 6 months I'll be in my HIGH SCHOOL size.0 -
Your mom is wrong. I'm in my mid thirties. I have two kids. I am the same size I was in college.
I think sometimes our moms think they are trying to help us, when really they are just "hurt people" themselves and putting their issues onto us. The sooner we can break free from that and stand on our own two feet and learn for ourselves the better. We can have a better relationship with our moms sometimes, when we don't look to them for support or advice (but all moms are different, and I hope my children will feel supported by me).0 -
I was fairly fit and not overweight in college, but I am definitely more fit now and just as small or smaller. And I am 42. So, yes, your mother is wrong!!!!! I weigh a little more now, but have more muscle.0
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Yep. Even though I was a fat teenager I'm smaller than I was in my final year of highschool. It may only be by 2kg but I'm still lighter and steadily getting smaller.
She may be confused with the way your body reacts to food and exercise or the general shape and skin elasticity.
But as a general 'you can't be thin like you were' is wrong.0 -
She's a test. Let her bring you down and you've failed the test. She's telling you what she tells herself to make it ok for her to be the way she is. This coming from a girl who at 20 pounds from goal after having weighed 290, is two sizes SMALLER than I was at 19. Yes, my belly is scarred from childbirth, but I am told I look like I'm 23 now when I walk around in jeggings, so she can suck it my sexy lady!0
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Ok,t I am 5'8" and most of my life I have been between sizes 9-11. After I turned 40, yes 40 way older than you, I started MFP and I lost down to a 7/8 and can even fit some 5/6 and I have never been this small in my life!! So she is wrong, now you prove her wrong!!! Good luck!!0
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Well..... I was over 300lbs in college and I am not anymore so....your mom is wrong.0
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She is wrong. The only thing that stops you reaching ANY goal is you.
...Oh yeah, menopause can throw in a few monkey wrenches. Makes things HARDER but NOT impossible. Your body does change with age and experience, but it can be for the better.
...An experienced, older, fighting her *kitten* of against Mother Nature, mom.0 -
I was a size 8-10 while in college.. Im a size 5 now... Im sorry but your mom is wrong.0
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You just need to ignore comments like that. I am 52 and have been overweight for a number of years. I was under 130 until I had my daughter 20 years ago, but my goal weight is 140 and I am closing in to 160 right now. And I am fitting in size 12 jeans, so I really don't think your mom's comments are 100% accurate. No, I don't look like a super model (I obviously have fat deposits in areas I wish I did not) but they are not so ugly I feel I need to cover up any more.... And if I can get in this size, you most certainly should be able to!
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I think she is wrong, I think you can do it. I am 47 and my friends are saying, oh your body changes when you're older, you've had 3 kids, your body will never be the same etc etc. I know they are just trying to be nice because it's hard to lose weight but I am determined to lose it and looking through the success stories on here I know now that I can! There are people on here that are older and have had more kids than me, I have injuries that restrict my exercise but other people on my have worse problems and they can do it. I know I can and you can too. Don't throw those jeans away, you'll get back into them! 0
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Totally disagree. I am 24 and WILL get back to the size I was when I was 17. I have seen friends who have done it, it can be done. Just look at what has changed (booze? having money to buy crappy food? etc). I obviously didn't drink (much) at 17, but started piling the weight on when I binged throughout being 18+. So I've cut down to a glass or two a week...0
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I'm sorry for the negative mom talk
But she's not correct. I weigh less than I did in law school, and all the clothes I saved from that time period are too big. I'm about your height, and I'm an 8/10. 10 years ago I was a 10/12, sometimes 14.
My body certainly isn't what it was then - it's better 0 -
She is absolutely wrong! I was a size 16/18 in my early high school years, a size 14 by the time I was out of college, and now (after three kids mind you) I am a size 6/8...I was over 200 lbs at one point in college---now I am around 140, and proud of it! 0
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Your mom was right AND wrong.
Your body shape can, in fact, change as you get older (hips fill out, for example, especially if you have a child).
That being said, she was wrong in saying that you would never be the size you were in high school or college.
I'm a tall girl - 5'10" - and all through high school was a relatively healthy 165-180 lbs. I wore a 12 or 14.
I had a child, gained a ton of weight, and then shed a ton of weight. At my lightest - 155(ish) pounds - I was wearing a comfortable Size 6 pants (fitting into an awesome pair of Size 6 Calvin Kleins was a wonderful experience for me). Even now, after I've gained some weight back (just under 175 pounds right now, working my way back - slowly - to around 160-165), I am comfortable in a Size 8 in most pants.
The difference?
I exercise. I do strength training. I have a lower BF% than I did when I was this weight in high school and, with that, smaller measurements that allow me to fit into smaller clothes.
So -- don't give up hope. You *can* fit into your goal size again. You may weigh more (or less) than you did the last time you fit into that size - it has more to do with body composition than just a number on the scale.0 -
I'm so thankful for everyone's kindness and support. So many of you have such amazing successes to share and I'm now more motivated than ever. I'll come back to this next time I hit a bump in the road with Mom. 0
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That is terrible to say to you and wrong. Prove it to her. 0
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Mums can and do say the most hurtful things, mine does but I try not to let it get to me as I don't think she realizes how nasty it sounds, maybe your Mum actually thinks she is helping? If you lower your expectations, you won't be dissappointed kind of thing maybe?
Either way if you need a cheer squad there are plenty of us on a similar journey :drinker: CHEERS to you for making the choice to get healthy and looking forward to seeing some great success posts in the future!!0 -
I am smaller now than I was in high school. Your mom is wrong and probably jealous of your motivation. Women love to naysay other women who are trying to lose weight/be fit and healthy in general.0
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