Guys, be honest,....

servilia

I can't speak for guys but from my experience - I always got a lot more attention at the lower end of the scale.

myofibril

I don't think it matters how skinny or fat someone is....as long they are good in bed. Bwaha ha ha.

If they're not physically attracted to you it's unlikely you'll find yourself in bed with them though...

Angie_1991

I think this has been the most exciting board yet.....shew!

I prefer meat on my man's bones....

TravisBurns

I have said that about bigger girls plenty of times. I have a very big range of what I find attractive. And I honestly like about nearly every body type there is. I find it easy to find the beauty in people.

delaney056

I think it all depends on preference. Looks get you there, personality keeps you there.
There does have to be an attraction, though. I personally prefer tall, husky guys, but I wouldn't pass up dating a thinner person if they had a great personality, and I was still attracted to them. Attraction is based on more than looks.

PetulantOne

For instance my husband thinks elizabeth hurley and elisa dushku are hot. But not ever once have i ever seen him say the same thing about an overweight woman. ever. ive never even heard a man period say an overweight woman is hot.

My Uncle is only attracted to larger women. I know this because I saw a porno mag he left out at his house one day when I was a kid. :grumble:

rml_16

Aw. Someone has a crush.

I would have laughed if he had used your current profile picture.

Me, too. It would have actually been funny then. Although it's funny, anyway. I really do think there's a little crush going on there. But I am no Mrs. Robinson.

PlunderBunneh

Beauty and hotness come in all shapes and sizes. I've been incredibly attracted to women that were probably in the overweight or even obese category, and also to smaller women too.

willwillywilson

I can't speak for guys but from my experience - I always got a lot more attention at the lower end of the scale.

Pretty much. Women flat out don't talk to you if you're over 200.

Patovader

I find lots of overweight women attractive, I don’t like women too skinny buts that’s a personal preference and everybody’s different

Sarah1023

well yeah its a beauty is in the eye of the beholder kind of thing

id have to see that to believe it

you're asking the wrong question... we can see a pretty face and think that's attractive (i.e. that she's pretty) even if we're not physically attracted to her body because of her size.

for example, this woman is very pretty, but she's nearly too big to be voluptuous anymore. don't get me wrong, lots of guys would find her body physically appealing at this weight, but if you add another 50 pounds, that number would go down quite a bit. she'd still be very pretty however.



of course, if she's smart, funny, and alot of fun to be around, it really would add quite alot to her appeal even with another 50 lbs.

This woman is beautiful!!!! Period. She is curvy and seems confident.

AngryDiet

I like what I like.

Sarah1023

I can't speak for guys but from my experience - I always got a lot more attention at the lower end of the scale.

Pretty much. Women flat out don't talk to you if you're over 200.

My husband is VERY attractive and weighs 205. Solid muscle, but still I disagree on the 200 pound rule

corn63

I can't speak for guys but from my experience - I always got a lot more attention at the lower end of the scale.

Pretty much. Women flat out don't talk to you if you're over 200.

hahah, my boyfriend is 250. We have no problems talking

lizzybethclaire

I'm not a guy, but I can tell you how my husband has been perceived from women. He lost over a 150 pounds (gastric bypass) and is now at 350. As he slimmed down, he got more and more attention from women. His weight loss has stalled due to his having to have back surgery, but he still gets women flirting with him even though he is obese. I think women are more willing to forgive body flaws than men are, but that there are many exceptions to the rule. I was attracted to my husband when he was over 400 pounds and part of the reason he loves me so much is because I loved him when he was bigger. He used to get pissed when he first lost weight that women who never looked at him before would flirt, but he is better about it now.

rml_16

I can't speak for guys but from my experience - I always got a lot more attention at the lower end of the scale.

Pretty much. Women flat out don't talk to you if you're over 200.

The vast majority of my boyfriends were more than 200 pounds and that was when I was teeny tiny. The current man is quite thin, but his personality is what got me, not his body. And he has a nice face.

I was even engaged for six months to a guy who weighed 240 and it wasn't muscle.

zachatta

Again, this is a very simple subject.

The majority of men like their women to be slender. Yes again there are groups of men who prefer bigger
ladies, they happen to be the minority.

If you are wanting to increase the pool of men who are interested in you, losing weight will do that for you.

Men are visual, men appreciate physical traits much more than personality or "confidence".

Again, there are always outliers, so just because you know a "guy who loves big women with big personality" doesn't mean he represents the norm.

Also, once again to clarify, I have read like 5 posts of women saying "well once I lost weight, i received much more attention, but I think that has to do with my confidence..."


nonononononononononononnoonnonononononononononono no.

no.

I don't care that you "want" to believe it had anything to do with your confidence, because it didn't.
Female confidence means jack for a man. We don't care if you are "confident" or if you are "shy
and reserved". We again value physical traits.

Again, outliers, etc.

This is the honest truth, you can choose to take the one or two examples you know, and try and claim it is not. Deep down ladies however you know this is true.

If you want to increase the pool of men attracted to you, losing weight and not being "fat or obese" will be a big step in that direction.

BrunetteRunner87

The general rule I think is that men don't think obese women are hot, but I know one or two exceptions. A couple guys I know ONLY like obese or orverweight women.

And, after I lost 30 lbs, I ran into one of them, and he asked me if I was planning on gaining any back. What the heck?

sho3girl

also think when you lose weight you gain confidence... and confidence is incredibly attractive

oregonzoo

I can't speak for guys but from my experience - I always got a lot more attention at the lower end of the scale.

Pretty much. Women flat out don't talk to you if you're over 200.

The vast majority of my boyfriends were more than 200 pounds and that was when I was teeny tiny. The current man is quite thin, but his personality is what got me, not his body. And he has a nice face.

I was even engaged for six months to a guy who weighed 240 and it wasn't muscle.

My fiance weighs atleast 100 more than me, it's not muscle... people like what they like.

megalin9

Out to attack the thinner women? I AM a thinner woman. lol
For 5'3 or 5'4 yes 120 is fine. For 5'8 not as much.
What I was saying regarding men having no idea, is just a man will look at a woman and always get it wrong. I still get told I look 120 and hover from 10-15 lbs heavier than that right now.

Really?

And yes, I have every idea. I coach women and men for comps as well as myself. I know exactly what I'm talking about. Heck, lets all generalise and demean others, way to go!

I'm not sure who I generalized or demeaned.

Except perhaps some young fool who did the same for every woman in the world over 120lbs.

Exactly.

Every time I get weighed at the doctor's office by nurses who weigh people every day, the assume I'm 20 pounds lighter than I am. Not that I'm complaining. It just proves that you cannot tell by looking.

Same here. I've had so many people guess my weight at 190lbs, when in reality, I've been closer to 230lbs.

running_shoe

I am attracted to healthy people - emotionally, socially, physically. I do not find obese people attractive.

megalin9

IRONY OF PEACE BAHAHAHAHA Goal weight 115, says 120lb is underweight

WOMEN LOGIC, it blows my mind

Please show me one place where I said 120 is underweight.

I'll wait.

You dont deserve my reply,

Goal weight 115lb
says 120 is underweight



sorry but that made me laugh so hard

for certain heights, yes...what don't you understand about that?

metacognition

I'm a girl, and I know good looking people of all sizes. To be honest I have seen heavier women who are overweight on the scale and quite attractive. Look at Adele and Christina Hendricks. These are usually the women with flawless skin, shiny hair and an hourglass body fat distribution. I have seen underweight women who are dressed stylishly but not attractive if they are too narrow up and down. It seems to me that it is very nice to have a nipped in waist, and curvy hips as well as bust - so neither extreme is necessarily appealing. If a guy passes over a girl who is genetically blessed because of some extra body fat, then it is his loss!

rml_16

IRONY OF PEACE BAHAHAHAHA Goal weight 115, says 120lb is underweight

WOMEN LOGIC, it blows my mind

Please show me one place where I said 120 is underweight.

I'll wait.

You dont deserve my reply,

Goal weight 115lb
says 120 is underweight



sorry but that made me laugh so hard

for certain heights, yes...what don't you understand about that?

Sweetie, not even worth it. I never said it in the first place. lol

OBXbound4me

well yeah its a beauty is in the eye of the beholder kind of thing

id have to see that to believe it

you're asking the wrong question... we can see a pretty face and think that's attractive (i.e. that she's pretty) even if we're not physically attracted to her body because of her size.

for example, this woman is very pretty, but she's nearly too big to be voluptuous anymore. don't get me wrong, lots of guys would find her body physically appealing at this weight, but if you add another 50 pounds, that number would go down quite a bit. she'd still be very pretty however.



of course, if she's smart, funny, and alot of fun to be around, it really would add quite alot to her appeal even with another 50 lbs.

This woman is beautiful!!!! Period. She is curvy and seems confident.

^^^^^^ This.

I have dated what I would consider a normal amount before getting married almost 9 years ago (2nd marriage), and I only really dated 2 women that I would consider a normal size or size that "society" would not consider overweight. They were 5'2 / 130 and 5'7 / 140. The firat one also got up to close to 200 while we dated and were married (1st wife). All the others were between 170 and 260 and were all hot at the time we dated to me. I will admit, I am first drawn to a pretty face and nice chest, but there has to be a good personality right after we meet too. I guess my most hot can be anywhere from a size 8 - 20 depending on how carried and I can certainly like bigger. It is a total package thing, looks, body, personality and confidence along with how they also treat me. I am 6'2 and 320 right now. Hope this helps. We are out there...

hendinerik

Honestly I have been attracted to and dated many different shapes and sizes --

and regardless, I guess the real question is why the question?

What do you do with the answer.

Love yourself and the process - the rest will follow - just my opinion...

All of us are constantly (myself included) looking to others for how we should judge ourselves - we are each unique and bring something to the table - you deserve happiness and that's more than a weight or shape or any one thing.

Have a great day!

Love_flowers

Whenever I see or hear questions like these I always think: Please don't ask questions you don't want the answers to. :bigsmile: :flowerforyou:

megalin9

I can't speak for guys but from my experience - I always got a lot more attention at the lower end of the scale.

Pretty much. Women flat out don't talk to you if you're over 200.

Aww. Not true. My husband was at least 240/250 when we first met, and not "built". Definitely more on the squishy side. I was literally in awe of him, mainly for just how down-to-earth, approachable, and kind he was. It helped that he was/is a freakin' awesome softball player. I was attracted to his height, masculinity, strength, personality, and his legendary softball status.

laura_lynn66

I think it all depends on preference. Looks get you there, personality keeps you there.
There does have to be an attraction, though. I personally prefer tall, husky guys, but I wouldn't pass up dating a thinner person if they had a great personality, and I was still attracted to them. Attraction is based on more than looks.

Totally, what she said...I prefer tall and bigger guys even thought I'm short...can't help it! However, after the initial interaction, personality goes a long way...I agree, also, with one of the posters that we look for a lot more substanence as we age, versus just initial physical attraction..someone you have a lot in common with and have a lot to talk about and share life experiences.