Guys, be honest,....

magj0y

people are hard wired to be attracted to people with a healthy weight, it's just how it is.

So explain people who are physically turned on to only extremely obese people, and love them for all time?

People are hard wired for a number of things, not just in finding a suitable mate. As we all know, wires can go wrong.
Sometimes it's nature, sometimes it's nurture, even self-inflicted nurture.
Some guys have low self-esteem and feel these women won't leave them. Most "self-professed" "chubby chasers" I have met are also over weight, out of shape, crappy self-esteem and go after women who they think they have more of a chance with and won't feel the pressure of getting into better shape, and again won't leave. It can also be categorized in the fetish zone which is just an odd placement of a wire. I knew one guy who was pretty trim and an over all great guy who had one helluva b!tchy & controlling wife who was quite over weight. The reason he stayed? Low self esteem and didn't think he could do better.
On some occasions, there is the factor that charm beats weight out of the ballpark or she can suck chrome off a bumper.

agamy4

I have read somewhere that it depends on the waist to hip ratio. Men are innately attracted to women with small waists compared to their hips because it shows a good sign of fertility. They may not realize it, but their attraction is because of their subconscious mind. The curvy female in the picture showed an overweight female, but she was still curvy, with her waist still smaller than her hips. Some women look good with meat on their bones because of their fat distribution meanwhile others do not.

elprincipito

You never look at an overweight or obese girl and say "damn she's hot. do you?? I've even caught my husband saying how thin women are hot, but never any that are overweight or obese.

I have. Like 2 months ago! She was on the uni bus and was asian or spanish looking and had extra on some areas ^_^ so what? she still was hot

TylerJ76

Attractive? Yes.
Hot? No.

That's why I started this journey, I want to be in the weight range and I supposed to be, and I want a smoking hot girl.

BeSophisticate

Interesting topic. As an extremely introverted person, I feel awkward talking to men that I don't know really, really well. In fact, I feel awkward even being in the same room. My point is, I'm living proof that confidence DOES matter (contrary to an earlier comment). I was hardly ever noticed even when I was thin and fit. The fact is, extremely quiet people are invisible, and nobody can find you attractive if they don't SEE you.

Anyway, that's not really what I wanted to say. I wanted to say that I did notice a very slight increase in male attention when I was thin and fit, but it was extremely slight. While I'm heavy, I might have 10 men flirt with me over the course of a year. When I was thin, it might have been 11.

However, there is a very different quality to the flirting, depending on my relative weight/fitness. When I'm heavy, more of the men who flirt are quality men. When I was thin, nearly all of the men who flirted were scuzz bags looking for a one-night-stand.

That's not to say that I want to remain heavy, but the attention when I was thin was most definitely of the unwanted variety.

jojo52610

IRONY OF PEACE BAHAHAHAHA Goal weight 115, says 120lb is underweight

WOMEN LOGIC, it blows my mind

Please show me one place where I said 120 is underweight.

I'll wait.

You dont deserve my reply,

Goal weight 115lb
says 120 is underweight



sorry but that made me laugh so hard

for certain heights, yes...what don't you understand about that?

Not not really my Daughter is 5'9" a was a cheerleader with solid muscle - she weighs somewhere around 115 - depends on the person and their body type

zachatta

Anyway, that's not really what I wanted to say. I wanted to say that I did notice a very slight increase in male attention when I was thin and fit, but it was extremely slight. While I'm heavy, I might have 10 men flirt with me over the course of a year. When I was thin, it might have been 11.

SO you claim that when you were "thin and fit" that more men still approached you?

Yet you cling so dearly to this "mystical" confidence that did it for you.

I am sorry, reality check, men like thinner women, deal with it.

nonstopper

Truth- We all look at women. A fact of males is that we always look at a woman's face before we do her breast or butt. IS all is good then we continue looking her up and down. So if your over weight and attractive we will check the rest of you out if all is well haha.

Iron_Maiden

Honestly I have been attracted to and dated many different shapes and sizes --

and regardless, I guess the real question is why the question?

What do you do with the answer.

Love yourself and the process - the rest will follow - just my opinion...

All of us are constantly (myself included) looking to others for how we should judge ourselves - we are each unique and bring something to the table - you deserve happiness and that's more than a weight or shape or any one thing.

Have a great day!

^^^ LOVE this!!! I work my curves! I love my curves! ...and I know for damn certain others have as well. As I lose weight and become healthier & more fit, I love that too (because I want it for ME) and yes, my confidence grows which I feel makes me more attractive! So - BOO-YAH!

Lize11e

Shamelessly tooting my own horn here, I am obese. The guys at work, more than one, think I'm hot as hell and would date me in a heartbeat if I weren't married. BUT if I weren't funny and friendly and congenial with them, I feel that it would be completely different. Same way these same guys probably wouldn't go out with the skinny b!tch in the other office if they had the chance. Personality has a ton to do with it. For someone just seeing me out on the street, I get compliments sometimes but mostly from black guys. They love big women for some reason. Fine with me, makes me feel good no matter who notices!

Iron_Maiden

Truth- We all look at women. A fact of males is that we always look at a woman's face before we do her breast or butt. IS all is good then we continue looking her up and down. So if your over weight and attractive we will check the rest of you out if all is well haha.

WORD!

lionpriestess

At my heaviest i was 360 pounds and my husband is so fit he fluctuates between just flat abs and a bonafide 6 pack.
When we first met, he later said his initial attraction to me was i " looked like a rapper's girlfriend".
This was a compliment of course. It was posture, the way i set my shoulders, not afraid to look him in
the eye, and an ample chest didnt hurt. I've lost 85 ponds and he doesn't chase me any more or less
than he used to. They are out there and they are more terrified of you than you are of not finding them.
Enjoy the search.

monty619

You never look at an overweight or obese girl and say "damn she's hot. do you?? I've even caught my husband saying how thin women are hot, but never any that are overweight or obese.

thick, yea... fat, no.

megalin9

IRONY OF PEACE BAHAHAHAHA Goal weight 115, says 120lb is underweight

WOMEN LOGIC, it blows my mind

Please show me one place where I said 120 is underweight.

I'll wait.

You dont deserve my reply,

Goal weight 115lb
says 120 is underweight



sorry but that made me laugh so hard

for certain heights, yes...what don't you understand about that?

Not not really my Daughter is 5'9" a was a cheerleader with solid muscle - she weighs somewhere around 115 - depends on the person and their body type

Personally, I do think that is on the verge of underweight. I work for an insurance company, and the minimum insurable weight for someone 5'9" is 115lbs. However, I'm not saying she's unhealthy.

NoahandPresleysMom

I am slightly curious as to why you are wonder. I mean, are you thinking about being hot in the eyes of other men? Does your husband make fun of you?

no. he would never do that. I'm asking because I see it all around me. I have some co workers and other people I know who are heavier and guys want nothing to do with them. They are nice, sweet great personality, but guys would rather have the twig working checkstand 2 with not an ounce of fat and no personality. It just really pisses me off.

NoahandPresleysMom

Tbh I much prefer a girl who has curves than one who is stick thin. I want a woman who looks like a woman, not one who basically looks like a boy in a bra.

If that means she has a few extra pounds thats fine with me

Obese can mean quite a wide range. For example many girls with curves and a little bit of extra flesh and look great are technically classified as obese.

^^this!!!

NoahandPresleysMom

Wow, this got all kinds of nasty. OP simply asked if men are attracted to bigger women. The answer, in general, is not especially. It should not come as a shock to anyone that men tend to prefer more svelt looking women, on the whole. Of course, as in anything, there are exceptions, and "outliers" that will skew things a bit, but if you were to ask 100 men to be totally honest, with the guarantee of anonymity, the majority would say, if given the exact same woman, but a thinner version and a bigger version, they'd choose the thinner.

Why is this question asked a million times, and why do women get all upset by the answers (however douchey) men give?!

yup just simply asked a question

elprincipito

I am slightly curious as to why you are wonder. I mean, are you thinking about being hot in the eyes of other men? Does your husband make fun of you?

no. he would never do that. I'm asking because I see it all around me. I have some co workers and other people I know who are heavier and guys want nothing to do with them. They are nice, sweet great personality, but guys would rather have the twig working checkstand 2 with not an ounce of fat and no personality. It just really pisses me off.

how do you know the twig girl has no personality?

zachatta

I am slightly curious as to why you are wonder. I mean, are you thinking about being hot in the eyes of other men? Does your husband make fun of you?

no. he would never do that. I'm asking because I see it all around me. I have some co workers and other people I know who are heavier and guys want nothing to do with them. They are nice, sweet great personality, but guys would rather have the twig working checkstand 2 with not an ounce of fat and no personality. It just really pisses me off.

how do you know the twig girl has no personality?

Hahahah, good question.

NoahandPresleysMom

I am slightly curious as to why you are wonder. I mean, are you thinking about being hot in the eyes of other men? Does your husband make fun of you?

no. he would never do that. I'm asking because I see it all around me. I have some co workers and other people I know who are heavier and guys want nothing to do with them. They are nice, sweet great personality, but guys would rather have the twig working checkstand 2 with not an ounce of fat and no personality. It just really pisses me off.

how do you know the twig girl has no personality?

uh i have worked with her for 6 yeaars and made the mistake of hanging out with her LOL

athenaheim

I could go either way. I however can not stand the guys that are skin and bones.

XXXMinnieXXX

I'm now 215lbs and on a night out I get a ridiculous amount of attention. It doesn't make me comfortable and I'm not used to it.. But there's no denying it... I still got a lot of attention at 225 even 230...But anything above that much, much less. Gotta tell you though a lot of women were looking at me like they wanted to do me harm lol. I don't go out often and I don't think they'll liked it there was a new girl on the scene getting a lot of attention. 215 is slim by no means, have a long way to go... But it seems a lot of men like me at this weight. Do I think that will be the case even more as I lose more? Probably... But I could have had my pick of a lot of nice looking guys if that's what I would have wanted... Don't get down about your weight... There's a man for everyone. X

servilia

Life isn't always fair. But in general men prefer a thinner woman over an overweight or obese one, and they are entitled to their preferences no matter how much it pisses people off.
I feel bad for your overweight friends who are passed over for the twig with no personality, but it'd probably be easier for them to lose the weight than for the girl to grow a personality.

kenazfehu

My husband has commented "too skinny" about someone that I thought looked very attractive. He's always telling me he likes my rear view, and I always think "what's wrong with him?!"

NoahandPresleysMom

Life isn't always fair. But in general men prefer a thinner woman over an overweight or obese one, and they are entitled to their preferences no matter how much it pisses people off.
I feel bad for your overweight friends who are passed over for the twig with no personality, but it'd probably be easier for them to lose the weight than for the girl to grow a personality.

but my point is men seem to be more and more shallow with looks. My husband put it a good way. He said do you really want a !@#$buddy who looks good but thats it>??? Or a woman with personality who you can make love to and actually feel good about being with. Good point

Iron_Maiden

Life isn't always fair. But in general men prefer a thinner woman over an overweight or obese one, and they are entitled to their preferences no matter how much it pisses people off.
I feel bad for your overweight friends who are passed over for the twig with no personality, but it'd probably be easier for them to lose the weight than for the girl to grow a personality.

but my point is men seem to be more and more shallow with looks. My husband put it a good way. He said do you really want a !@#$buddy who looks good but thats it>??? Or a woman with personality who you can make love to and actually feel good about being with. Good point

I personally agree with your husband BUT you assume men in general WANT to "make love". This is not always the case.

NoahandPresleysMom

Life isn't always fair. But in general men prefer a thinner woman over an overweight or obese one, and they are entitled to their preferences no matter how much it pisses people off.
I feel bad for your overweight friends who are passed over for the twig with no personality, but it'd probably be easier for them to lose the weight than for the girl to grow a personality.

but my point is men seem to be more and more shallow with looks. My husband put it a good way. He said do you really want a !@#$buddy who looks good but thats it>??? Or a woman with personality who you can make love to and actually feel good about being with. Good point

I personally agree with your husband BUT you assume men in general WANT to "make love". This is not always the case.

which is sad.

Iron_Maiden

Life isn't always fair. But in general men prefer a thinner woman over an overweight or obese one, and they are entitled to their preferences no matter how much it pisses people off.
I feel bad for your overweight friends who are passed over for the twig with no personality, but it'd probably be easier for them to lose the weight than for the girl to grow a personality.

but my point is men seem to be more and more shallow with looks. My husband put it a good way. He said do you really want a !@#$buddy who looks good but thats it>??? Or a woman with personality who you can make love to and actually feel good about being with. Good point

I personally agree with your husband BUT you assume men in general WANT to "make love". This is not always the case.

which is sad.

I know. Hey! I'm single & have to deal with it!! :grumble:

servilia

Life isn't always fair. But in general men prefer a thinner woman over an overweight or obese one, and they are entitled to their preferences no matter how much it pisses people off.
I feel bad for your overweight friends who are passed over for the twig with no personality, but it'd probably be easier for them to lose the weight than for the girl to grow a personality.

but my point is men seem to be more and more shallow with looks. My husband put it a good way. He said do you really want a !@#$buddy who looks good but thats it>??? Or a woman with personality who you can make love to and actually feel good about being with. Good point

There are men who both prefer a thin woman AND care about personality. And yes, such women do exist. Thin, fit, educated women with personalities are out there. Thing is, the men who prefer thin women and personality are going to look for their match within the pool of thin women. Because that's still their preference.

zachatta

Life isn't always fair. But in general men prefer a thinner woman over an overweight or obese one, and they are entitled to their preferences no matter how much it pisses people off.
I feel bad for your overweight friends who are passed over for the twig with no personality, but it'd probably be easier for them to lose the weight than for the girl to grow a personality.

but my point is men seem to be more and more shallow with looks. My husband put it a good way. He said do you really want a !@#$buddy who looks good but thats it>??? Or a woman with personality who you can make love to and actually feel good about being with. Good point

The term shallow is subjective.

I find that women who deem certain personality traits as "unacceptable" more shallow than physical appearance.

(as far as weight is concerned). Changing your weight is much easier than changing a personality is it not?

So why should women judge a man on his personality?

Oh yeah that is right because women will women and men will men.

That is life.