How many sexual partners are considered too many?

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  • lydia_the_tattooed_lady
    lydia_the_tattooed_lady Posts: 324 Member
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    My ex and I fought about this a lot. I was his second (he was engaged to his first) but he was my 6th. Seeing as I'm 24, that's really not bad at all. To him, that was a slutty amount. It made me feel like sh** to know that he saw me that way. It's not as though you can go back in time and magically erase it. Now, I feel that it's my body, my choice to make, and I'm not going to feel bad about that. Other people have no right to judge who I sleep with!!
  • misstoridanielle
    misstoridanielle Posts: 62 Member
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    There isn't a number because there can't be too many. Some people like sex more than others. Some like to be in love before. Doesn't matter. And it shouldn't have to matter.
  • sharleengc
    sharleengc Posts: 792 Member
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    I don't think that there is a set number that there are too many. Each person is able to have their own opinion and what is right for them. I would not date or be with someone just because of their sex partner number. Their past is their past. As long as when they're with me, they're only with me...I don't care what the number is

    However, that being said. If a future partner mentioned that their number was really high because they liked to pick up hookers or something like that, I might have a problem with that, at least health wise. But that's just because I'm a relationship type of person and don't really do strangers or one night stand.
  • seabee78
    seabee78 Posts: 126 Member
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    I think if the person you are with can live with their number, then it's all good. An extreme in either direction is not desirable.

    I think most people wouldn't want someone like, say, Wilt Chamberlain (who claims 20,000 partners lifetime) or Xaviera Hollander (The Happy Hooker)

    I'm old school but for today's lifestyles, say for example some one was single for the past 3 years. Only got their freak on once every 3 months. Even that works out to 12 partners in the 3 years. My lifetime # is lower than that, but I don't judge a woman who's had that or more.

    ETA: Don't forget the Factor of 3. A man's answer is usually 3 times the true number and a woman's answer is1/3 the true number! LOL J/K
  • laurenellenmarie
    laurenellenmarie Posts: 331 Member
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    So wait....what if you're a swinger?
    ...not that I am.
    Yet. Hahaha
  • BEERRUNNER
    BEERRUNNER Posts: 3,049 Member
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    My ex and I fought about this a lot. I was his second (he was engaged to his first) but he was my 6th. Seeing as I'm 24, that's really not bad at all. To him, that was a slutty amount. It made me feel like sh** to know that he saw me that way. It's not as though you can go back in time and magically erase it. Now, I feel that it's my body, my choice to make, and I'm not going to feel bad about that. Other people have no right to judge who I sleep with!!

    Good thing he is now your EX!!!!! No woman needs an insecure man like that!!!!!:bigsmile:
  • misskerouac
    misskerouac Posts: 2,242 Member
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    My husband's number was somewhere around 20 which didn't bother me, but my 5 really gets to him.
  • LadyQueefsalot
    LadyQueefsalot Posts: 150 Member
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    zero. Your only partner should be the love of our lord and savior jesus christ.
  • TreeHugger2013
    TreeHugger2013 Posts: 65 Member
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    What, there is a number that is considered too many??? :noway:

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • LadyQueefsalot
    LadyQueefsalot Posts: 150 Member
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    My ex and I fought about this a lot. I was his second (he was engaged to his first) but he was my 6th. Seeing as I'm 24, that's really not bad at all. To him, that was a slutty amount. It made me feel like sh** to know that he saw me that way. It's not as though you can go back in time and magically erase it. Now, I feel that it's my body, my choice to make, and I'm not going to feel bad about that. Other people have no right to judge who I sleep with!!

    Good thing he is now your EX!!!!! No woman needs an insecure man like that!!!!!:bigsmile:

    I never divulged my # to my old man! I don't hear him complaining about me humping 30-ish dudes when I'm getting busy down there, if catch my drift.
  • BalenciaLynn
    BalenciaLynn Posts: 411 Member
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    Why count every single time you sleep with someone? When your in a relationship your going to have sex. The more relationships you have the more partners you will have.
    Its not a big deal if its one person or fifty people you've slept with.
  • mramirez1981
    mramirez1981 Posts: 134
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    My ex and I fought about this a lot. I was his second (he was engaged to his first) but he was my 6th. Seeing as I'm 24, that's really not bad at all. To him, that was a slutty amount. It made me feel like sh** to know that he saw me that way. It's not as though you can go back in time and magically erase it. Now, I feel that it's my body, my choice to make, and I'm not going to feel bad about that. Other people have no right to judge who I sleep with!!

    Good for you that he's your ex. Sounds like a douche! No offense. :flowerforyou:
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
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    Idk, I treat my body as a temple... If you let everyone in all sense of value is virtually lost.

    My body is an amusement park. However, the standards you must meet to come in and play are astronomical. Like way worse than Disney prices.

    I have a Minnie Mouse costume... does that get me in automatically???:tongue:

    bring the bow or no deal.
  • LadyQueefsalot
    LadyQueefsalot Posts: 150 Member
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    but for the sake of argument...I'd say 1,000,000,000,000 might be too many. And that they may have the VD.
  • Dub_D
    Dub_D Posts: 1,760 Member
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    Any more than 123 is too much.
  • DaintyAngelDreams
    DaintyAngelDreams Posts: 55
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    Once you reach an age where you have (proper) sexual feelings (not the sort you have when your 13 and looking at your dads zoo mag) then sex is a basic need... just like bathing! If your in a long term relationship from the age 18, so by 24 have only been with that one person its easy to judge people who sleep with someone new every other week... but the fact is when in a relationship you get all the sex you need, but when your single that feeling doesn't just go away, you need to satisfy it, so if someone is single for a long time they are going to have a lot of partners, you can't just expect single people to not get any while those in relationships get it everynight. The problem is when people have an addiction to sex... and thats only a problem because it causes destruction to their life.... if nobody is getting hurt/used/cheated on its nobody else damn business.
  • mramirez1981
    mramirez1981 Posts: 134
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    Idk, I treat my body as a temple... If you let everyone in all sense of value is virtually lost.

    My body is an amusement park. However, the standards you must meet to come in and play are astronomical. Like way worse than Disney prices.

    I have a Minnie Mouse costume... does that get me in automatically???:tongue:

    bring the bow or no deal.

    LOL!
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
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    My husband's number was somewhere around 20 which didn't bother me, but my 5 really gets to him.

    The BF won't tell me his and has never asked mine. I'm nosey and I want to know, though. It wouldn't bother me, no matter what it is. I just want to know things! lol
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
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    My friend is over 500.. I think that's a little much. She is a grown woman though so I don't judge her.

    my first boyfriend hit 300 hundred at 25 and 400 when he was 28 and threw a party. He is now 37 and I cant imagine his number. Im the only girl he dated that he never slept with. He found me and wrote to me and told me Im the only girl on the planet that he wanted to bang before 40.

    So sweet. Not gonna happen. But sweet.
  • LadyQueefsalot
    LadyQueefsalot Posts: 150 Member
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    what if you only humped two dudes but made a mouth party on 400? Does that make you a slut? Or what if you humped 400 but only made a mouth party on two? Does that mean you're uptight?

    WHAT IF YOU HUMPED ONLY TREES!!!!???!?!?!?!??!?!? OMG!!! DENDROPHILIACS!!!! OH WOMAN OF LOOSE MORALS!
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