Why women don't date fat guys?
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I love chunky men. Depends on the woman. Also depends on you. Maybe you're ignoring the women who are attracted to you for some reason.0
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Uh, no..because the ones who dont go for overweight guys are shallow.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be physically attracted to the person that you're with. I'm sure you even have a 'type' that you find most attractive. Most relationships begin as physical attraction and most people do not find obesity very alluring.0 -
I personally dont have trouble with heavier/bulkier men. My husband is on the leaner side but it wouldnt bother me a bit if he gained weight0
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Don't look at me. I had a crush on Robbie Coltrane. Intelligence, confidence, charm.0
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I never *intentionally* went for a 'fat' guy, but I wound up with a guy who I call "big." He would fall into the obese category. The last weight I know for him was around 280 and he's only about 5'10". Prior to him, I'd dated & had relationships with men who were overweight, but never obese. We knew each other for 2+ years online and talking on the phone before we ever met in person. We were (and still are) great friends. When I met him, it wasn't to start a relationship, he was living in Louisiana & invited me & my best friend down for Mardi Gras. We were there for a few days before anything other than friendship came out of it. It was a slightly weird adjustment, but now I really don't think anything of it. I would like for him to lose and to get back into an exercise regime, mostly because I want him to stay healthy (he doesn't have any obesity-related issues at this time) and be around for years to come.
We've been together almost 2 years now. Being such great friends beforehand and knowing some of each others' shortcomings was great for our relationship. He makes me laugh. He makes me feel safe. He wants to take care of me. And he deals with my particular breed of crazy very well. :laugh: Hahaha These are all reasons why I love him and can't imagine my life without him, regardless of his size.
This is from February, before I had really lost any of my weight.
This is from July, when I was close to my goal.0 -
I'm guessing the problem isn't fat. Its confidence. Get going with something that gets that back up (and it doesn't need to be fitness but that does work) and you won't have a problem.0
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I think what you're really trying to ask is "Why don't HOT women date fat guys".
Well played..
*golf clap for Dani*0 -
By having a great personality and making me laugh!! My high school sweetheart was quite overweight and I was thin. After a year of eating his cooking, I was fat too!! Ahh, that was terrible. We broke up after 3 years, I lost 60 lbs in a month, and then he wanted me back. Good times! Anyway, getting back on track, the physical is important, yes. If I guy is extremely obese, it's not happening for me, because I like to go out and do things like walk, dance, etc. But if he is overweight and he makes me laugh, he's got a date. I'm married now, but that's what I always went by when I was dating. In 40 years, looks will start to fade and there better be some personality left over to keep the spark alive.0
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Really give me an answer an someway to change this? that don;t have to do with losing weight
Confidence
With weight loss, will come confidence.
Live it
Earn it0 -
I think what you're really trying to ask is "Why don't HOT women date fat guys".
lol, nice0 -
Really give me an answer an someway to change this? that don;t have to do with losing weight
Confidence...I was overweight and in my mid-late 30's and I dated a 20 year old soccer player. i was 5'9" and at least 250 while she was 5'4" at best and a size 2 with a very solid body....oh..and she pursued me....0 -
Lower your OWN standards and leave other people to their own?0
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I agree. There are some women that do date extremely overweight guys. My mom for example, is not fat, and was married to a morbidly obese guy. probably 500 plus pounds. She fell in love with his personality. Just because your "fat" doesn't mean your out. Some women.. yes, they are not attracted to bigger guys, some are. It all depends on your personality. Some people can always look past the physical. To a certain extent. I was married to a skinny bean pole.. but now my husband is the total opposite of that. It just depends.0
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Depends HOW fat.. OBESE no.. but I tend to care more about how a guy makes me feel than how he looks.. Of course there has to be that initial attraction, but funny, smart, kind guys do have some charm
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Approach is everything. You have to have confidence and please don't mistake that for arrogance. The best way to a good woman's heart is through laughter. Make her smile.
This is so true!0 -
Maybe it's just the area I live in but I'm much more likely to see a skinny woman with a fat man than a skinny man with a fat woman.
So why don't men date fat woman? :P0 -
girls DO date big guys. i feel like its more common to see a skinny girl with a fat guy than a fat girl with a skinny guy
This^^^ Guys aren't nearly as pressured to be at a healthy weight to be considered attractive. Personally, I've dated anywhere from 6'4 to 5'5 (I'm 5'4), skinny to big. I don't really like muscle-y guys though. It's just not attractive to me at all :P0 -
Lower your OWN standards and leave other people to their own?
I raised my standards and started dating a heavier guy recently.... it was all about his personality and confidence.0 -
Really give me an answer an someway to change this? that don;t have to do with losing weight
Ask 100 different women out on a date.
You'll get plenty of dates.0 -
:huh:
My first ever boyfriend was an overweight guy. He was a sweetheart and a gentleman though, so I liked him.
I've dated guys up and down the scales. Never mattered to me.
Coincidentally, my husband is not "fat" but he is not "skinny" either. I still love him and remain attracted to him. He is a gentleman, he never yells, always helps me, and is always there for me. It's about confidence, character, and genuineness. That's what makes a guy attractive.0 -
My boyfriend is 6'4" and weighs around 22 stone, 308lbs, but he kinda... holds it well. He used to play alot of physical sports, rugby cricket and hockey (mainly rugby), so he's got a muscular frame but he's let himself go. The thing is his height balances out his weight.0
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Same reason guys don't date fat/overweight chicks. The city I live in has the biggest double standard I have ever seen. Girls are expected to be a size 2 at the biggest but yet every guy can walk around with his beer belly and no muscles.
However, I personally have nothing against a guy who is overweight, I personally don't find myself attracted to guys who are bigger, in general, even too muscular is too much for me. However, I have plenty of friends who are thin who are with guys that would be considered big/fat. It ultimately comes down to personal preference. I think even if I started dating someone who was bigger I would probably end up getting fed up because of lifestyle differences if they are unhealthy and inactive. I like to eat healthy and workout and I would like to date someone who enjoys being active as well as eating healthy, they don't have to be ripped with 6-pack, but I want someone who enjoys similar things to me, and I enjoy beiing active.0 -
I beg to differ. I was married to one. I was attracted to his personality. Guess I am just not shallow..0
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Really give me an answer an someway to change this? that don;t have to do with losing weight
Honestly I dont like being on top, I have big boobs so it just does not work.
Edit* I mean 400+ guys0 -
the same can be easily said about males not dating "fat girls". If they aren't attracted to it then why would they date them? People have different attractions, may it be a persons physical appearance or their personality. Some are shallow and go for looks, others look passed that and see the person for who they are.0
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lmfao... Ummm... You being on top is NOT the only way to do it just because he's big. FYI...Really give me an answer an someway to change this? that don;t have to do with losing weight
Honestly I dont like being on top, I have big boobs so it just does not work.0 -
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My boyfriend is a big guy. While I find him adorable, my reason for loving him has nothing to do with his appearance. He is extremely charismatic. When you talk to him, you are the only person in the room, you have his full attention (he does this to everyone, not just me!). He's playful when appropriate, and serious when needed. He listens to me without trying to fix anything unless I ask. He texts me in the middle of the day to tell me he's thinking of me. He doesn't let me put myself down. He loves my smile, so tries to make me do it often. And he doesn't care how much I weigh, as long as I'm happy. And if I'm not happy, he supports me in my efforts to be healthier.
Of course, I try to do the same for him. And we've been together for over 20 years.0 -
Maybe it's just the area I live in but I'm much more likely to see a skinny woman with a fat man than a skinny man with a fat woman.
So why don't men date fat woman? :P
because of social media / rappers / victoria secrets lol0 -
To most, being obese isn't attratcive. Let's not beat around the bush, eh.0
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