Why women don't date fat guys?

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  • ashumeow
    ashumeow Posts: 151 Member
    Really give me an answer an someway to change this? that don;t have to do with losing weight

    I don't mind. Heart (character) is important, not size. If i want to shape his body, i will help and support him...and continue dating. Because size is temporary which can be changed BUT character is permanent. =)
  • Goal_Line
    Goal_Line Posts: 474 Member
    It's an evolutionary instinct for females to prefer mates who appear stronger/ healthier to take care of their offsprings.

    This
  • allifantastical
    allifantastical Posts: 946 Member
    I prefer dating heavier set guys. A big cuddly teddy bear is what I'm looking for. Not saying that this is true with EVERYONE, but my experience has been, when a guy is severely overweight some of them do not take care of themselves. I like my guy to care a little bit about his appearance. Dress nice (more or less I mean match....lol or dress for the occasion, no basketball shorts at a 5 star restaurant), shave, shower etc.

    And I agree it's a confidence thing. Women like to be approached. I don't like doing all the work.
  • EmilyOfTheSun
    EmilyOfTheSun Posts: 1,548 Member
    My boyfriend is fat(ish).
  • FauxNinja
    FauxNinja Posts: 77
    When you have a valuable tool, you build a shed over it.
  • eatathome
    eatathome Posts: 81 Member
    They don't?
  • eatathome
    eatathome Posts: 81 Member
    My take on it is at 307 i felt and was monsterously huge and had no self esteem.

    Honestly, this has been the biggest turn-off I've had with bigger dudes I've dated. I had no problem with their bodies. THEY did.
  • CoffeeNBooze
    CoffeeNBooze Posts: 966 Member
    I'd personally rather have a slightly bigger guy than a scrawny one. It's all a matter of preference! Some girls will date fat guys, and vice versa. Though I don't know many people who like obese, just because that is seriously unhealthy and people are attracted to mates that are healthier naturally. For women, it's more about personality. If you can woo us with that, and take care of yourself (like you know, put some effort into your appearance when going out, clean your apt, etc) that's usually what we're looking for. And a great smile!
  • KatrinaWilke
    KatrinaWilke Posts: 372 Member
    Fat is unattractive and unhealthy, that's why we're all here isn't it?

    ^^^This!
  • EEpling89
    EEpling89 Posts: 152
    I like fat guys lol. I mean, guys who have the "funny fat guy" personality. They're so much fun! :)
  • chubbygirl253
    chubbygirl253 Posts: 1,309 Member
    girls DO date big guys. i feel like its more common to see a skinny girl with a fat guy than a fat girl with a skinny guy

    Yeah, its all just generalizing but I find this to be true more often in younger people. In older couples I see the women being chubbier. Probably because as women age weight control is harder than for men, and possibly because younger men are more shallow than older men.
  • crimsoncat
    crimsoncat Posts: 457 Member
    I don't like this question

    I second this. It's like asking "why do men only like big boobs and women who make sandwiches?". Um... they don't.
  • BeingAwesome247
    BeingAwesome247 Posts: 1,171 Member
    It's all relative - some women don't like fat guys; some men don't like fat women - on the flip side, some do
  • hofdog
    hofdog Posts: 269 Member
    I second this. It's like asking "why do men only like big boobs and women who make sandwiches?". Um... they don't.

    Boobs and a sammich...yum haha

    I am out in the dating world again and I haven't had trouble meeting anyone. Just be yourself smile and treat women right, they will see more in you then the dude in his one size too small Affliction shirt.
  • AliciaStinger
    AliciaStinger Posts: 402 Member
    Honest answer? It's not attractive. Most women want to be with someone they're attracted to and most women find fat guys to be unattractive. Sorry, but it's true. Not all women feel this way, but a good amount do.

    I'm female, and I disagree with this statement. Like one of the other ladies on here, I want someone who can keep up with me. In most cases, someone who is really, really obese cannot keep up with me. The other thing is self-esteem/confidence; I don't want to hear "how can you possibly like/love me when I'm this big?" Again, this is case-by-case basis - I had a friend who was only about five feet tall and probably more than 300 pounds, and didn't have any negative thoughts about herself for being overweight. Not a dating situation, but she respected herself, which was something I really looked up to her for at the time. Overweight doesn't mean repulsive -- in fact, I think some people are cuter when they're a little chunky. It's about how you approach it. My suggestion is that, instead of making assumptions, you go strike up a conversation with this chick!
  • Christy175
    Christy175 Posts: 60 Member
    Really big guys and good sex usually don't mix. Irondame was right about peen size being smaller surrounded by fat. Nothing ruins the mood like having to stop and take a break because you're out of breath or tired. There is only so much weight a woman can bear.

    That is the bad stuff. Good stuff: If you want to get chicks if youre a chubby guy. 1. make them laugh-but not at you. 2. make them feel good about themselves. 3. smell good. 4. be openminded about the type of chick youre after 5. get good at sex-or at least have a specialty. :wink:
  • sophayz
    sophayz Posts: 592 Member
    i actually like man man with a bit more meat like not 300+ fat but yea
  • Slack2ShortGo
    Slack2ShortGo Posts: 74 Member
    As a heavy set guy, I would agree with this statement. I started dating my wife in high school at 185lbs. We have been together 12 years (married for 4 years) and about 6 months ago I weighed 284lbs. In that time I noticed we had grown apart in some ways. She did not feel the attraction she did when I was "ripped". I have lost weight and I am down to 244lbs. now. There has definitely been a renewal of our attraction for each other. I think guys are probably just as guilty as women when it comes to the same question.
    Because some women aren't attracted to them? I dated a "fat" guy briefly, mostly cause he was always there for me. In the end, there was just no attraction. I can't help what I'm attracted to and in most cases it's not "fat" guys. & I think that attraction is a critical component in a relationship. The whole "looks don't matter, it's the inside that counts" is bogus. If you're with someone, it's because one SOME level you find yourself ATTRACTED to them.

    ETA: Not saying that what's on the inside DOESN'T matter, just that it's not the ONLY thing that matters.
  • BalenciaLynn
    BalenciaLynn Posts: 411 Member
    I like my men a little squishy :)
    Its nice to have them as soft as a teddy bear when your snuggling and not a hard rock :blushing:
  • sunnyside1213
    sunnyside1213 Posts: 1,205 Member
    It's an evolutionary instinct for females to prefer mates who appear stronger/ healthier to take care of their offsprings.

    This.
  • kayduro
    kayduro Posts: 249 Member
    confidence and charm. You'd be surprised how gullible women can be. You'd also be surprised what you can do if you have a silver tongue.

    ^a great example of what turns me off! A slick slimeball. Everyone has their own type!
  • Faericn_Rising
    Faericn_Rising Posts: 235
    Same reason men dont generally go for fat chicks. Inherent desire to reproduce with someone with good genes, and super shallow socially conditioned ridiculousness. So either change the world paradigm or get on your sneakers. Your choice.
  • noahbenny
    noahbenny Posts: 1
    TRUUUE.
  • giggitygoo
    giggitygoo Posts: 1,978 Member
    I suspect a man who wasn't physically active would find me incredibly annoying. It's a lifestyle thing for me, and it's more about my partner being able to keep up with my energy level than anything else.
  • dakotababy
    dakotababy Posts: 2,407 Member
    Alright I will explain a bit of what is called "Social Psychology re - love and attraction" into the mix.

    1st off...we all have priorities and somethings are more important in a relationship than others. You can figure it out using a scale from 1 - 10. Ex - The importance for attractiveness in a partner to me is a 5 while personality is a 9. Thus I will find a partner that matches my personality expectations before judging their appearance. Though appearance is still on the scale - it is not as important. Visa versa.

    2nd - We are naturally more attracted to those who are "similar" in nature. This includes -finances, education, art, and appearance. Ever notice how a lot of the time the really hot guy gets the really hot girl? The larger guy is usually seen dating the larger girl? This is the case MOST OF THE TIME (not all the time). You are most likely to date someone you socialize with - we socialize with people we feel COMFORTABLE around...which weight/appearance is included into this. I may not feel comfortable talking with a bunch of buff guys (as i wouldn't know their language, interests, etc) Though the medium sized male may be more to my comfort level. It really does come down to how we view ourselves and others.

    Bottom line - we all judge based on appearance subconsciously. Whether you want to admit that or not - it is basic human nature when picking a mate.
  • KarenJean91
    KarenJean91 Posts: 283 Member
    I'd rather date a guy with some extra pounds than a skinny scrawny guy.
  • lenniebus
    lenniebus Posts: 321 Member
    Date women who care about something more than looks.

    This seems like the key to me. You have to be willing to put yourself out there to find out though...
  • joywo
    joywo Posts: 39 Member
    Great answer!
  • eve7166
    eve7166 Posts: 218 Member
    confidence and charm. You'd be surprised how gullible women can be. You'd also be surprised what you can do if you have a silver tongue.


    Its true a guy with confidence (atleast pretend lol) can get any girl. I have seen good looking guys who walk around all hunched over and no confidence and they can never seem to get a girl. Just act like you're the man!
  • ifyouknew
    ifyouknew Posts: 68 Member
    Lots of people here have stated the truth- many women have no problem dating fat guys. In fact, if I look around at couples on the street, there are a lot more women with fat men, than men with fat women. I personally am slim and have had serious relationships with two fat guys and two slim guys. It makes me wonder why you assume it's your weight that's the problem. Maybe you just don't have enough to offer? Thinking about the type of men I'm attracted to, I wonder:

    Do you have lots of diverse interests that make it fun to talk to you? Are you always working toward becoming a better person (seeking educational opportunities, trying to be healthier, etc)? Are you kind and generous (here's a test- how much volunteer work do you do)? Are you financially stable? (You definitely don't have to be rich- none of the guys I've dated have been- but you have to be able to pay your own bills and your expenditures should < your income, or life with you will just be way too stressful.) Are you trustworthy? Do you like to try new things, so that you have a fun life that a woman would want to be part of?

    If so, I don't think you'll have any trouble.

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